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purrmoon · 1 year
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🌙 lore: noises & mannerisms
these lists are non-exhaustive, and i may reblog or edit with additions~
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Pack Calls. Meant to attract the attention of pack immediately—whether to alert danger, expression of loneliness or helplessness, or simply to alert to a cycle beginning. (A pup call is the same thing, though younger sounding and harder to ignore.)
Purrs. Usually an expression of happiness or contentment, but they can also be use to self-soothe or comfort. Purring promotes healing. The sound can be made unconsciously or on purpose. An alpha’s purrs tend to be low and rumbling; sometimes almost inaudible, and easier to feel than hear. Bets and omegas have more mid-toned purrs. Pups have loud, rumbly, often uneven purrs.
Growls. In betas and omegas, a growl is a warning. Alphas will growl as a threat, in play, during sex / arousal, and sometimes even when they yawn—and as such, tend to make the noise the most. Pups may also growl in play. Alphas have the deepest growls, followed by omegas. Betas have fairly mid-toned growls. Pups have tiny, high-pitched growls.
Snarls. Much like a growl, but deeper and more threatening. This isn’t just a threat or warning, but often the precursor of a fight. Snarls may also be heard during a fight.
Chuffs. A low huffing noise used as a signal to ‘come here.’ Often used on pups or younger siblings. They’re difficult to ignore from packmates—especially older packmates or parents. Alphas are especially good at chuffing.
Croons. Low, musical sounds meant to comfort and reassure. They’re often used to help lull pups to sleep.
Trills. A high, musical sound that express happiness, joy, excitement. Adult alphas have a harder time making them, and rarely do so, but happy betas, omegas, and pups make them frequently.
Whines. A high pitched expression of sadness or discomfort. These tend to sound uniform among adults, and a little higher in pups. Pup whines, especially before speech, usually indicate hunger, lack of attention, or a need for changing.
Keens. High pitched calls of want or need, though they can also be used to express more acute pain—like grief.
mannerisms
Scruffing. Refers to grabbing the back of the neck, fingers touching the scent glands, and squeezing gently. This triggers a flood of submission hormones, forcibly relaxing the muscles. It can induce drowsiness. This can be comforting when done by a trusted packmate, but terrifying and unpleasant when done by a stranger. The effect lasts longer in pups, or those in their cycle.
Submission bite. Refers to biting the back or side of the neck. Like a scruff, this triggers a flood of submission hormone, though it’s much stronger. A hard enough bite can cause a mild paralysis, the limbs becoming too heavy to move. The bitee is more susceptible to orders given by the biter. In both the case of a scruff and a submission bite, the hormone can be fought, but it’s difficult. Submission bites are typically denote the end of a challenge fight. Submission bites given outside of that are considered a form of assault or abuse, as scruffing is considered a more appropriate way of dealing with any unruly or rebellious behavior. It’s considered unconscionable for an adult to give a submission bite to a pup.
Nipping. A light bite, and a common way to express affection both platonically and romantically. Romantic partners may nip at each other’s necks, ears, jaws, & lips. Platonic packmates may nip pack members shoulders, arms, fingers, or noses.
Scenting. An important part of pack bonding, and a way of expressing, "I'm here, I care about you, I want people to know we're connected even when we're apart." Covered in more detail here.
Claiming bites. Referring to the bite claiming someone as pack or mate. Pack bites are more like nips, and accompanied by licking, while mating bites will draw blood, and leave a scar. Pack and mate bonds are covered in more detail here.
Nuzzling. Rubbing noses is a common way of greeting close pack members. Cheeks may also be nuzzled. Romantic partners will nuzzle shoulders, backs, thighs, the back of the knee, etc. Alphas find it very comforting to have their neck/throat nuzzled.
Forehead touch. Another common greeting between close pack members, though slightly more common in romantic partners.
Head-butting. A playful variation of the forehead touch.
Wrist-brushing. Pressing the wrists together. A gesture of comfort or intimacy. It’s also common to stroke the gland with the thumb—something omegas find especially comforting.
Scent-guarding. Raising the shoulders and/or lowering the chin to block the scent glands, often paired with wrapping the arms around the stomach. An expression of fear, meant to try and block or suppress one’s scent.
Throat-baring. Lifting the chin and showing off the throat is a sign of submission. It may be done out of respect, trust, or fear, or as a way to show that one isn’t a threat. This is considered the best way to approach someone in a feral state.
Teeth-baring. Sometimes this is a warning. Other times it’s a challenge, especially when compared with snapping their teeth or snarling.
Posturing. Making one’s self look bigger—raising the shoulders, standing up as straight as possible, maybe even bouncing up on the balls of the feet. Often combined with circling. This is often the precursor to a challenge fight. Posturing may also refer to trying to impress a potential mate, usually by making one's self look bigger / more impressive than a rival.
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burgers-and-crowns17 · 2 months
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Some of my Sand Wraith headcanons
• They’re unable to go to high altitudes
• One of their natural predators are Singetails
• They eat almost exclusive costal fish; their favorites being Flatfish and Garfish
• They’re difficult to train
• They pair for life
• Mated pairs stop at nothing to protect their nests
• Their nests are made out of hardened sand
• Broad Wings can go without air for one hour and Titan Wings can go three hours without air
• Their heads and bodies are flat so they can bury themself under sand
• They nest on beaches or sandy plateaus
• They’re incredibly loyal
• They tend to be loners, spending time only with children or mates
• They’re similar enough to Night Furies that one can imprint on another easily
• They’re always slightly moist, leading to them being more vulnerable to the cold than most dragons
• Their nostrils on on top of their heads so they can breathe while buried
• They spread their wings completely flat while buried
• They spend, on average, half their lives buried
• They’re very elusive
• They can go a week without food
• They can eat up to 20 pounds of fish in one sitting
• They can flatten their spines against their head despite them being made of bone
• They have very short legs that seem to be able to flatten against their bodies
• They have low center of gravities
If you can’t tell, Sand Wraiths are my favorite
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So many great infographics online to help pinpoint issues that some of us may have faced at one point or another. They’re only part of the process in healing though. The rest is on us to fully complete.
Source: Nedra Tawwab
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azura-tsukikage · 6 months
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Understanding the distinctions between intentions, principles, values, and beliefs can be quite enlightening, not just in the context of witchcraft but in personal development and decision-making in general. Here's a brief overview to get you started, and then we can dive deeper:
Intentions: These are specific goals or objectives you set for yourself. Intentions are about what you want to achieve in the future, often guided by your principles, values, and beliefs. In witchcraft and in life, it's not enough to simply set an intention and hope for the best; you need to put your energy into practical steps that move you closer to your desired outcome.
Set Clear Goals: Begin by defining your goals with precision. What exactly do you want to achieve? The more specific your goals, the better you can create a plan to reach them.
Plan and Organize: Develop a clear plan of action. Break down your goals into smaller, manageable tasks. This makes them less overwhelming and helps you track your progress.
Consistent Effort: Consistency is crucial. Regularly engage in the activities that align with your goals. Consistent effort over time can lead to significant progress.
Adapt and Learn: Be open to adapting your approach if something isn't working. Learning from your experiences, whether in witchcraft or any other pursuit, is an essential part of growth.
Practice Patience: Achieving your goals may take time. Be patient with yourself and the process. Keep your focus on the end result while appreciating the small steps you make along the way.
Stay Mindful: Mindfulness can help you stay connected to your goals. Regular meditation or reflection can help you maintain your focus and energy.
Seek Support: Don't be afraid to seek support or guidance from others who have experience in your area of interest. Their insights can be valuable.
Remember, whether in witchcraft or any other aspect of life, you have the power to shape your future through your actions and intentions. By aligning your energy with practical steps, you can turn your dreams into reality.
Principles: Principles are fundamental truths or rules that guide your behavior and decision-making. They serve as a foundation for your actions and are often closely aligned with your values and beliefs. In witchcraft, principles might include the Wiccan Rede or the Law of Threefold Return.
Values: Values are your core beliefs about what is most important and meaningful in life. They shape your character and influence your actions and choices. In witchcraft, values might include a reverence for nature, a commitment to ethical practice, or a focus on personal growth.
Beliefs: Beliefs are the convictions or acceptance that something is true or exists. They are often influenced by cultural, religious, or personal factors. In witchcraft, beliefs can encompass a wide range of spiritual or metaphysical ideas, from the existence of deities to the power of magic. Now, we can delve deeper into each of these elements and explore how they intersect and interact, both in witchcraft and in daily life.
1. Intentions and Principles:
Intersection: Intentions are often guided by principles. For example, if one of your principles in witchcraft is to harm none (a common Wiccan principle), your intentions for spellwork will align with this principle by focusing on positive, constructive outcomes.
Interaction: Your principles provide a moral and ethical framework for your intentions. They help you determine what is acceptable and aligned with your values when setting intentions. Your intentions, in turn, become the practical expressions of your principles.
2. Intentions and Values:
Intersection: Intentions can reflect your core values. If personal growth is a value, your intentions may revolve around self-improvement and introspection. In witchcraft, values like a deep connection to nature can inspire intentions focused on environmental protection.
Interaction: Your values inform the content of your intentions. The things you want to achieve or manifest are often connected to what you value most. Your values provide motivation for your intentions.
3. Principles and Values:
Intersection: Principles and values often overlap. If you value honesty and authenticity, a corresponding principle could be to always be true to yourself and others. In witchcraft, a value of reverence for nature aligns with a principle of respecting and protecting the environment.
Interaction: Your principles are a way to uphold your values. They provide guidance on how to live in alignment with what you hold dear. In witchcraft, your principles ensure that your values are translated into ethical and spiritual practice.
4. Beliefs and Intentions:
Intersection: Your beliefs can influence the nature of your intentions. If you believe in the power of deities, you might set intentions that invoke their assistance or guidance. Beliefs in the effectiveness of magic can shape your intentions for spellwork.
Interaction: Your beliefs provide the foundation for your intentions. They shape what you think is possible and what methods you choose to achieve your goals. Your intentions are, in part, a manifestation of your beliefs.
5. Beliefs and Principles:
Intersection: Your beliefs can align with or challenge your principles. For example, if a belief in divine justice is central to your spiritual practice, it may align with principles of karma or the Threefold Law. However, beliefs can also lead to the adaptation or modification of principles.
Interaction: Your principles help you navigate and interpret your beliefs. They offer a structured way to incorporate your beliefs into your daily life or spiritual practice. They guide your actions based on your beliefs.
6. Beliefs and Values:
Intersection: Your beliefs often reflect what you value spiritually. If you value harmony and interconnectedness, you might hold beliefs in a web of existence or a collective consciousness. Your beliefs shape your spiritual values.
Interaction: Your values influence which beliefs resonate with you. They guide your selection of beliefs that align with your innermost convictions. Your values provide a filter for accepting or rejecting certain beliefs.
Understanding these intersections and interactions is crucial for crafting a meaningful and ethical path in life as well as witchcraft. It allows you to set intentions that resonate with your values, align with your principles, and are rooted in beliefs that feel authentic to you. This alignment enhances the potency and integrity of your mind and actions as well as your magical and spiritual work.
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she-is-ovarit · 1 year
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"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” - Victor Frankl
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claryteatoetwo · 11 months
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Humans generally make decisions based on feelings and intuition, which are generated from past experience. Only afterwards do we then retroactively reason our decisions and attempt to confirm their validity. Much of the time, our retroactive reasoning doesn't align with the original concepts that drove thought to produce that decision in the first place, because we are a new person with new information looking back at a lesser, more ignorant self.
Thoughts think without us, then we think about why thought thought that way. Most of the time we do not control thought, thoughts control us and we rationalize that control... for admitting that we are not in control is one of the scariest facts to face, so we continue to deny and remain in the safety of our facade of free-will.
That is not to say that free-will does not exist. It exists in the fact that we experience it. The experience of thought controlling itself is a very real thing. It just comes with the caveat that we are not our thoughts, just as much as we are.
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b0bthebuilder35 · 2 months
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Reason to Live #8629
 Modeling your behaviors after the positive traits my role models have.  – Guest Submission
(Please don't add negative comments to these posts.) 
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happy2bmyownboss · 1 month
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Do or Do Not, There is no try
I think I need to make a plaque or something with this inscription because it really does seem to fit this season we are in around here. This can be applied to so many areas of our lives and to our parenting journeys… trust me I know about parenting challenges. I hear these things so many times from my kids… I tried but I couldn’t do it. I did make changes in my attitude but no one…
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balluprojects · 10 months
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Tricky Triangles, 2023
recreating geometric figures with eyes and mirrors.
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purrmoon · 1 year
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🌙 lore: courting
While the rules of courting aren’t as structured and rigid as they used to be, many still go through the old traditions. (Though, even then, the steps are often flexible and will bleed together.)
Traditionally, an alpha will court a beta or omega, while a male beta will court a female beta, and either beta sex will court an omega. In modern times, these are more flexible, and also include alpha/alpha and omega/omega pairings.
Step 1: Gifting. Gifts have always been a good way to show how well you can take care of and/or provide for a potential mate—something which soothes a mate’s instincts. Gifts are also a good way to show how well you know a potential mate. Offering a starting gift is the best way to open a courtship, though gifts are given throughout the courtship. Example gift ideas:
Food. This is an especially good “first” gift. Homemade food and purchased food are both good. Homemade proves skill in the kitchen and the ability to “care for” your mate. Purchased food proves wealth, and satisfies a “gathering” instinct. A meal satisfies provider instinct. Desserts or candy prove wealth.
Scent-marked clothing or fabric. Another good “early” gift. This can be a good way to get courting intentions across clearly, as giving food can be more nebulous.
Flowers. Flowers can be hit or miss, especially if the giftee has a sensitive nose. However, they’re a wonderful way of showing your partner is on your mind.
Jewelry. Not everyone appreciates jewelry, but they make wonderful expressions of wealth and ability to provide. Things like keychains and cufflinks are considered more “practical,” while earrings, bracelets, rings, and necklaces are more “frivolous.” Some might offer jewelry with the gifter’s name, preferred color, or symbol as a show of possession. Some enjoy this, others don’t.
Nesting materials, such as soft blankets, nest padding, stuffed toys, or comfortable clothing. Nesting materials should usually be reserved for a bit further into courting as its seen as more intimate. A scent-marked pillowcase or blanket is considered especially intimate, and as a declaration of “getting serious.”
Step 2: Scenting. Deliberately scenting one another, not just sharing scented articles of clothing or accidentally co-mingling scents by spending a lot of time together, is a very big step.
Step 3: Meeting the pack. Assuming the mating isn’t arranged, or they aren’t following rigid tradition (where the Alpha or Beta would ask permission to court the Beta or Omega), once the two are comfortable with one another, it’s time to meet the family. This can be done all at once, or in pieces—though, if the latter, it’s wisest to start with the Pack Omega.
Step 4: Collaring. Some couples skip this step, or substitute collars with something else—like matching wrist cuffs. (A wrist cuff could also match the collar, and is a popular practice as well.) Collaring is a simple way of declaring the seriousness of a relationship, and staking a claim in a way that satisfies more primal instincts.
Step 5: Sharing a nest. Letting someone in your nest is a show of trust and intimacy, as doing so means getting their scent in a place you sleep / spend a lot of time. Packmates are known to share nests often enough, and letting a new packmate in your nest is a show of acceptance. Its the same for courting.
Step 6: Sharing a cycle, if applicable. Spending a heat / rut with your partner is usually the next big step. It’s an expression of vulnerability and trust, whether the cycle is fertile or not.
Step 7: Building a nest together. This is the penultimate step, and declares intent to matebond. Old nests are taken apart and combined for the couple to share from then onward.
Step 8: Bonding. A matebond is formed by biting the scent gland hard enough to draw blood. The mark will always scar. Generally this is done during a fertile cycle (preferably while synced), as this lessons the pain. However, modern medicine has brought with it a spray that can lightly numb the area, if the couple prefers. A matebond is deeper than the usual packbond, allowing the couple to sense each other’s emotions across a larger distance.
Bonding is often accompanied by a ceremony, either before or after. Some couples also choose to sign a marriage license—and others eschew bonding entirely, choosing only to marry.
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ditzydisaster13 · 2 months
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Voltron (VLD) Lion theories.
The Blue lion is adapable and friendly. Supportive as the right leg of voltron. Putting others before it. Her element is water. Guardian of the water. She swims well, and shoots ice. She was the best for lance while he gained some self confidence. But its also why she took in allura and kept her.
The yellow lion is similar. Heavy and kind, courageous and simple. Slow moving, but mighty. He is the guardian of the land. Of stone and rock and things reliable. Left leg of voltron, serves as a crutch, leverage, balance. Which is why hunk stayed
The green lion is of intelligence and energy. Energy in tech. And in life. Quick to make changes and adjust. Also one of the faster lions. Because energy. Pidge is the youngest, still growing into her body and her smarts. She’s learning and becoming better. Temper smoothing out like removing thorns. Piece by piece her puzzle becomes whole again.
The black lion. Guardian of the sky. Constant and yet ever changing. Always something new. Ready to make adjustments and go with whatever. Strong and powerful. It’s why she has wings. Sky. Stars, and planets blinking. She is as large as the universe is vast. Reaching out just as far. Which is why the astral plane works. As for Shiro, keith, and clone shiro? Well, Zarkon. Zarkon corrupted. Which is probably why Black felt that clone shiro was shiro. He was following a similar path. But one was more gradual than the other. Easier to trick her. (Imma assume she didn’t already know..) then for keith? Galra blood is apart of him. Hes getting stronger and better at learning with the changes. Leading himself and others.
-> -> -> as for red? The red lion? King alfor, and Keith? Eventually Lance? Well that started this whole thing!!
King Alfor was kind, and friendly. A little spontaneous. But generous and good natured. With a fun loving side that mixes all of these ideals. He knew how to rule, and how to be a family man. How to be a friend.
Keith, started out very stubborn and hot headed. Lover of family like Alfor, but untrusting of others like the former king was. He had his moments and his grace. His responsibility and respectablities too. Hes growing. Which is why he eventually became the black paladin. Not just shiro. But his worthyness. Hes a fighter. A survivor. A mess. But hes strong.
Lance has qualities of both. Flirty and charming. Generous and a family lover. Fun loving, but knows when to be serious. Hes strong and witted. Intelligent beyond what others think of him. Responsible inna way that shows hes growing. Young, and afraid. Afraid and fearful of it all. But willing to do what is best for the team.
The red lion is tempermental and seeks out paladins that he feels will be able to trust. It take ssome time because he himself has some self doubt, which is something he can bond over and work on with Lance. The two bonded quickly. After what happened with Alfor. He fet he was doing things wrong and wants his paladins to trust him. Thsi means reaching out for a better bond, and faster.
The red lion is guardian of the fire. Fire its hot and dangerous and scary. But it also brings light and warmth, helps make food, and it gives signs of life (fire needs oxygen, so do humans, and then also the fact that fires are used as signals to show that there are people there in like getting lost situations and whatnot) and is important in not only humanities past, but very lonely to be symbolic in many different cultures of many different species.
Oh and this is also why the Red Lion is so fast!! Heat particles move the fastest! Its just a science thing lol.
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phoenixsavant · 4 months
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TopSkills Thursday: Part 4
This week, in the executive dysfunction series, we’ll look more closely at an important area, managing finances. As always, these are ideas, and they may not work for you. Hopefully, they’ll spark some thoughts of your own. Whichever is the case, I hope you’ll at least be inspired to continue your search for solutions. Financial management is a hard topic to write about. Lest anyone think I…
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When I worked with children who had behavioral issues what really got me was how fucking angry they all were. And they had so much to be angry about! And like okay, I was only in there for a day and I came in at a point where the everyday routine was already established. The kids already had their little habits and the adults already had their regular predictable reactions.
All I really did was listen to the kids talk. I wasn't really needed and no one gave me any tasks to do or engaged me in much conversation. The kids barely seemed to notice my presence. Only one even asked me who I was.
The two things that stood out to me the most was one kid telling the story about how his dad didn't let him go to a party because he was sent to swim camp. The thing he found truly an injustice is that the reason he wouldn't swim is because his father traumatized him by throwing him into the ocean when he was younger and he almost drowned.
The other thing was that his friend had a coin collection and all he wanted to really do was talk about coins. A smarter teaching assistant tried to engage him in math by using coins as the subject. He asked all the teachers, including me, if any of us had a specific coin (we did not).
I couldn't do anything for the first kid except wince in sympathy and fervently agree when a teacher said that sounded horrible. I wondered if his behavioral issues were because his dad was an abusive assfuck. I wondered if all the teachers were aware but couldn't do much about it because the job they were tasked with was to educate him and help him control his behaviors, not tell him that his behaviors are completely understandable and that he doesn't deserve to be treated like that.
The other kid, I brought him coins two days later. I had a Canadian penny and a ten arugot lying on my dresser that I'd never known what to do with. I tried to give it to one of the teaching assistants to give to him before classes started and she asked if she could wait until he got there so that she could take him on a trip down the hall to the classroom I was working in that day and I could give them to him myself. When I held them out to him he was fucking overjoyed. He asked if I was sure and I said of course. I don't collect coins, but you do. He asked if he could hug me and of course I said yes. I was struck by how this kid, known for yelling and anger and misbehaving asked me if it was okay before he touched me. I almost cried at how happy and grateful he was, when it was nothing to me at all.
Thankfully it happened to be a really good classroom. The teachers were pretty effective and good at diffusing tense situations. I watched the lead teacher communicate with a kid who'd gone nonverbal with rage with a dry erase board and marker until he felt better. And of course, they knew how fucking kind these kids could be and let me see it too.
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carrotzcake · 6 months
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two weeks ago, I sat in therapy after a fulfilling, positive weekend. I felt hopeful, positive, settled, comfortable. last week, a complete 180 after a shitty weekend and going into the current weekend not feeling too motivated or hopeful. I am filled with such regret, shame and disgust for myself over the last two weeks. what happened? everything was going well. the fact that I legitimately don't know why i fell off the wagon, just let urges become behaviors and all of a sudden I'm back to square negative three thousand.
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zenwords · 2 years
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I’ve consumed most self-healing books, but my body and heart is still in pain. Why? Healing is about feeling, not about thinking. Reading uses your ability to understand things at the intellectual level, but most healing happens at the level of experience. It is important to realize that the way you have reacted to what you have felt in the past gets imprinted into your subconscious, these imprints get hardened into habit patterns that impact your thoughts and behaviors. What you find in the long-term is that you end up reacting in similar ways that you have in the past. Undoing these reactions and learning how to live in a new way is truly a long journey that starts when you enhance your ability to feel and let go. Reading can help illuminate what is happening within you but healing requires presence between you and yourself. Bringing your attention inward and letting yourself feel your reality is the basis of a lot of healing modalities. Reading should be a source of information and inspiration, but it should move you into bringing a healing practice into your daily life. What made a drastic difference for me was serious meditation – going to retreats and then bringing meditation into my daily life. Meditating helped me break old habit patterns and helped me build new habits that are more aligned with presence and peace. There are a lot of different techniques that can help you heal, you have to find what works for you. — Yung Pueblo #healing #thinking #habbits #patterns #thoughts #behaviors #lettingGo #yungPueblo https://www.instagram.com/p/ChxEDKmOrVU/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
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