#better yourself
aszmxm · 2 months ago
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But there is no one - In reality - who can improve your life except you.
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pleasingart · 3 months ago
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somewhatsomelikepoetry · 8 months ago
Trying to break out of old toxic habits
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daphne-dauphinoise · 5 months ago
If you have time, can you make a post about which kinds of groups you think a person should join?
Three things: Find groups for interests you have. Do your research. Take the first step
If you live in a patriotic country, your first hobbies should be your national sport, playing your national instrument and whatever other things that are national. People eat that right up. A lot of the people who have been rich for a very long time really value traditions, so you want to be able to have that advantage. I do believe that even if you are not patriotic it is still important to know the ins and outs of your culture. Learn about your history, the arts and the land of where you live. Find out if your museums and galleries have memberships or clubs that you have be part of. This is one of the ways to get invited to the galas and dinner, galleries host. If you have extra money, becoming a patron of your theatres is also a really great way to meet people. Art of all forms is highly respected in the upper society. I would really think about picking up something artistic.
Joining a sports club is a great way of keeping healthy and making those connections. If you are in uni or college (especially a Russel Group one), join a sports club.  The sports I recommend for people in the UK is hockey, tennis, golf, cricket, lacrosse, and rowing. It doesn’t exclusively have to be this, do your own research into what is happening is popular among the rich of your city and sign up.  You have to do your own research. This is so important. Google your city, search what kind of money crowd you have, create your own city guide. I am in the process of making a guide for my home city and I wish I had done it sooner.
However, it is important to stay true to your own likes and dislikes. It is so boring when you force yourself to do something you don’t want to do or try to fit in that way. People are very good at sussing out whether you are a fraud or not and once they do, they are not fond of second chances. You want to make sure that you are having fun in your journey and life in general. One of my tips is whatever you do, do it in the nicer part of the city. The chances of you meeting the ‘correct’ people is dependent on whether if you are in the right place. Let’s be honest, are your trust fund babies going to be hanging out for longer than to make their tiktoks in the shady part of town? No. You have to be prepared to travel and put effort in if you want to get what you want. That pottery class filled with potential benefactors, future bridesmaids and future in laws will an extra 3-6 miles away, do it.  The thing I have noticed about rich people is that they value the word of mouth. Once you start mingling and integrating with their people , word gets around and suddenly your now invited to things you didn’t even happened.
I feel like a lot of people who will read this won’t even take the first step. You need to get out and make yourself known. Like I said once you start appearing more in society, you will find it much easier to be noticed. I have horrible anxiety and I look like a pirate walking the plank in a cartoon whenever I am around new people but you just have to do it. Arm yourself with your coping mechnisms and starting expanding your comfort zone. 
Much love,
Daphne xox
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etherealclit · a year ago
why is it that when a person is genuinely interested in doing better for themselves, people feel the need to make a joke about it? doing that is so discouraging, especially to people who have gone through a long period where they never had the energy to do anything.
do better and encourage them instead.
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jordanpetersonquotes · 12 months ago
We are astonished by what we want to imitate… The sun is the hero that fights the darkness at night and rises anew in the morning. The sun is associated with consciousness and we have to imitate the hero. And we see what we have to imitate everywhere and it reduces us to a state of awe and awe is an invitation to imitate. Imagine: so, you see what you’re not yet, but what you could be. And you need to see that because you need to turn to what you could be, because what you are is not sufficient to redeem you.
Jordan Peterson, An Atheist in the Realm of Myth | Stephen Fry - Jordan B Peterson Podcast - S4 E22
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thatgirl-journey · 4 months ago
Self-limiting beliefs
One one the keys to achieving our true potential is to stop giving credit to self-limiting beliefs. For my whole life I've dreamed about being good at some things, but I've always thought I was just intrinsically unable to learn them because I didn't have the right aptitude, that I was so hopelessly untalented at them that it was impossible for me to learn. Consequently, I didn't even try. Hence, I never learnt to do the thing. Confirming my initial belief. Self-limiting beliefs were like a self-fulfilling prophecy for me.
Until I decided to break away from it. How can I be sure that I'm not actually good at something, until I try? So I decided to throw away any preconceived notion about myself and start trying new things. The things that I always wanted to try. Turns out I'm not so bad at them!
Here are some personal instances in order to exemplify what I'm talking about.
Self-limiting belief: I couldn't draw to save my life, the best thing I can draw is a stickman! Actuality: when I finally decided to pick up drawing and I bought a book about realistic drawing of the human face I was able to learn extremely quickly and drew a realistic self-portrait after just 2 months of practice.
Self-limiting belief: I was born completely tone-deaf, I wouldn't be able to sing to save my life! Actuality: My voice is pretty low for a female, since I knew nothing about voice registers I always tried to sing the part of sopranos and as a result I sounded tone-deaf, but that's just because those songs weren't in my range. I have more luck if I sing songs by women who sing in a deeper range, or that were originally sung by men. If I do, I'm decent at it, I have a lot of fun and sometimes I can also produce something very nice!
Self-limiting belief: I can't learn new languages. I am just not good at learning languages. I will never be able to learn anything else except for my native language and English. Actuality: since middle-school, I started to engage in content (songs, videogames, YouTube videos, ... ) that were in English, and I automatically started to pick it up. As a result, I was always one step ahead of the level of English they were teaching in school. I learnt English on my own since I was 12 and now I have my First Certificate B2 (that would have probably been an Advanced C1 if I didn't employ unsuccessful tactics during the writing and weren't ill during the speaking). The only reason why I didn't learn Spanish in school is that the way Italian schools try to teach foreign languages is nonsensical and is bound to fail. It doesn't mean that I won't be able to learn another language if I set my mind to it and work hard. I want to learn Dutch, and I can.
Self-limiting belief: the skin of my face is greasy and oily, I will never get rid of my pimples nor of the scars on my face from previous pimples. Actuality: My skin was extremely oily because I kept washing it with soap, taking away the natural oil that should be on my face, so my skin started to produce more and more! When I stopped using soap, my skin regained its natural balance. Since my life is less stressful my skin also improved as well. Now I get a lot fewer pimples than before, because I have found the right skincare routine for me! These changes were enough to significantly reduce new pimples AND previous damage that I thought was permanent but was not at all. And I'm confident the situation will get even better. I just needed to be smarter with my skincare.
Self-limiting belief: I am not flexible. I was never and will never be able to do the split. I can't even touch my toes most days! Actuality: I understood nothing of the science behind flexible bodies and learning it was a game-changer. I started stretching in the right way and I have already made significant progress. I am sure that with time, patience and consistency I will get my splits!
So, these are five examples, five things I genuinely thought were impossible for me, because I was just "born unlucky", "born untalented" at them. While in reality, when I approached things with a different mindset, actually did some research first, and started to put work in, I was able to make significant progress! "Talent" doesn't exist, "Talent" is just an illusion created by passion + hard work.
What are some self-limiting beliefs that you still hold? What are some self-limiting beliefs that you were able to overcome? What are some self-limiting beliefs that are holding you back from doing something that you dream of doing and that you want to start challenging?
You can do it. You can do all the things you want to do. You can achieve what you want to achieve.
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yourgirl1999 · 18 days ago
Stop putting your time and effort into things that don't seem to reach anywhere.
Start living your life for yourself, I am begging you, and I'm writing this as two months ago I've got abandoned by my situationship of two years. Two whole years, which I've spent worrying about someone who did not care about me in the slightest, begging for the bare minimum.
You deserve better, you really do. I do too. And I hope us girls would stop falling into such awful traps, created by narcissistic men. They want you to be obsessed with them forever, while they leave you and, then, watch you suffer, which brings them joy. Too bad for him, as I've moved on way faster than he expected and he still doesn't want to admit that I got over him. I shocked myself too, I thought it was going to be the most heartbreaking experience ever, however it turned out to be peaceful. He was the problem.
So, I want you to remember the cliché saying If he wanted to, he would. And if he doesn't, fuck him, you deserve someone better.
Take care <3
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Compliment someone who has something you’d like.
Here’s a prompt to promote gratitude. You can compliment them just in your head or out loud to yourself or to someone else. Or compliment them in your journal or in a post. Or compliment them directly. Make sure it’s genuine and kind!
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boredkaitriel · 12 months ago
5 16 pm, 29.6.21
a big part of self discipline involves actually enjoying and liking the activity you want to push yourself to do. people's willpower can only last so long. when you start liking studying ( or any other activity you wanna pick up ) and think that procrastinating (insert any other bad habit you wanna drop) feels bad now, you wont want to do it anymore. i found out abt this from here -
you can make studying enjoyable by using tips online - cater to your senses, make them feel good while you learn. theres no harm or wrong done in taking these "shortcuts" to get yourself to study. everyone is wired differently and requires different motivations.
happy studying ! <3
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no-more-tears-left-to-cry · 11 months ago
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diazpoems · a month ago
I hate people that are like “but did you ever think that people hate illegal immigrants because they’re BREAKING THE LAW” and then they wait for everybody to gasp in terror but. Buddy, the legislative and justice systems in this country are fucked and I don’t take much stock in the law anymore. If your only talking point is that they’re breaking the law, what the fuck do you think I’m gonna do? Clutch my fucking pearls? As if the laws of a bastard government trump my critical thinking skills and ability for compassion? Because if that’s what the law does to you, I think that just means you aren’t a very intelligent or kind person.
“They’re breaking the law” oooh scary que miedo. I am soooooo scandalized. The fuck you want me to do? Fall onto my knees and weep? Are you dumb or are you fucking stupid?
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pleasingart · 5 months ago
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it’s time
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mamamcgee · 11 months ago
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yourfantasydiary · a month ago
Better days
The beginning
Is near
My dear
So stop wasting your time
On these fucking lies
Instead try your best
To access
The road of success
“Believe in yourself”
You said to someone else
Or walking in reverse
By the mirror, it’s a curse
By the mirror, it’s a curse
But now that you’re alone
Will you go home
To your comfort zone?
Or will you go back
And try to find the answers
In yourself?
{ Sing it in your head, as I tried to make a song :) }
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personalcoachingcenter · 9 months ago
What You Should Know If You Want To Better Yourself
New Post has been published on https://personalcoachingcenter.com/what-you-should-know-if-you-want-to-better-yourself/
What You Should Know If You Want To Better Yourself
Proof That BETTERING YOURSELF Really Works
Working on your personal development presents challenges, but they are not insurmountable. Striving to live a healthy lifestyle that benefits others consists of many changes. Personal developments that make a difference run the gamut from improving your manners to improving your sleeping, eating and/or exercise habits. The changes you might want to make in yourself can be endless. When you begin your personal development program, you will be surprised by how quickly others take notice and begin to respond to you differently.
Learning more about personal development can steer you away from pitfalls and dead-ends on your own path to success. The copious amounts of books and other materials available on the subject are valuable resources. If they provide nothing else, they will illustrate negative examples: Dangerous practices that the committed personal development enthusiast can learn to avoid.
We all know how easy it is to say you’re going to change something about yourself, and it never happens. It is important that you find some niche that will let you surpass the phase of just saying you want to change. There has to be something that can convince you, something that will click in your mind, that will let you help yourself!
When working toward a large personal development goal, it’s best to break up the goal into smaller goals that are easier to reach. For instance, if you want to get organized, you may find it helpful to focus on one area at a time. Start with your desk and when that space is clear, set another goal. It’s easy to get overwhelmed. So, make your goals moderate and stay motivated.
Try working in blocks of 10 minutes to get more work done. It’s true that 10 minutes is not an eternity or a great deal of time to accomplish everything, but when used correctly, you can get so much done in that short period of time. After that time is up, take a break and start again.
Your personal gauge should always be set to “optimize.” In other words, imagine your whole self — body, soul and mind as a singular, efficient machine. You’ll be more likely to hit your target on the mark if you know the direction you’re taking to get there is efficient and streamlines.
Ask for feedback sincerely and frequently when it comes to personal development. In the office, develop a support structure of people you know and respect to give you periodic feedback on how you are doing with your development plan. At home, ask your family sincerely to help you achieve your goals. Be sure to accept any feedback as a gift, even if it is difficult to hear.
Determine why you engage in negative activities. Do you smoke because you feel the need to do something with your hands when in an uncomfortable situation, or because you need the nicotine high? Do you eat too much because you are bored or lonely? Determine the reason for these behaviors, and you are more likely to successfully address them.
One of the best ways to improve yourself is to discover the underlying reasons for disliking certain people. Often, people find that if they make a list of the specific people who irritate them, they cannot actually come up with a reasonable cause for their feelings. Putting these reasons on paper forces you to step back and view them objectively.
Whether you are spiritual, religious, or atheist, look for a higher force that can offer you guidance as you think about yourself, your identity, and your goals for whom you want to be. Your higher power need not be a specific deity; the collective writing and stories of mankind can serve as a good example of something that is larger than yourself. You may find that exploring scriptures, literature, or proverbs can help you create yourself.
This may sound cliché, but it’s the truth.
You must employ positive thinking. Everyone worries and practices negative thinking. However, you must learn to notice when this is going on and practice turning those thoughts and feelings into something positive and practical. Positive thinking in any situation is a very powerful tool.
Making a difference in someone else’s life is a great way to start a new chapter in your life. If you see that there is someone who is not capable of helping themselves, take a minute to find out what you can do for them and do it. You will feel great about taking the time to help others less fortunate.
A great self-help tip that everyone should follow is to be true to yourself. It is human nature to be concerned about your reputation in social settings. If you start first with building good character, you will not have to worry anything about your reputation. Do not worry about what others think, worry about what you really are.
A wide range of resources are available to help you make a plan for personal development now. Of course, the more personal improvement you engage in, the more you will want to improve. Remember, you are never too old to develop positive personal habits.
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channel17 · 8 months ago
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yunhofingers · a year ago
thinking about dropping tumblr.
this app is full of nothing but toxic people who only want the attention they will never ever get. i bias who tf i want to and stan who i want. if this doesn’t stop..i’m leaving.
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missafricanbutter · a year ago
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and repeat. 💚
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fangirlingintellectual · a year ago
Do families gaslight each other? Yes.
Does it inevitably make you feel like shit and constantly make you question, where tf did I go wrong? Yes.
Is it your fault, really? No.
They have their own issues, they are projecting on you.
Realize that and you'll be one step closer to OK.
Understand that it is very possible that you too, could have picked up on their toxic behaviors.
Realize that you cab change that and you're a lot more steps ahead towards being your own version of YOU, not the You THEY created.
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