#bi erasure vs bisexuality

[yther]

welp. confirmed: family members visibly distraught with casual segway into talking health care options and gender affirming care in general sense

ayo fam stalking this tumblr maybe? because I never in my life have worn the type of pink floral clothes I am suddenly gifted along with dropping comments that Women do this while Men go fishing on vacation etc.

#I rly don't understand why my mum is okay with Gay or Lesbian but bisexuality is not a thing and transness is not “a thing” unless it's like #welp Ellen DeGeneres flavored understanding where women can be born Weird and you can tell from a kid photo that it's a Pants woman #who marries a Dress Woman #gender roles still staunch just being aberrant where one woman is The Man in wlw couple and one guy is Woman-ish in mlm relations #and it's always this dichotomy of hyper feminine or masculine and “you can just tell” if a person has ?? medical condition of Body Swapped #like a baby or kid is supposed to be loudly Gay and/or other gender because ofccccc shy or anxious children don't try to conform all their #life and still don't match on the inside but hide it #family can only conceive of flaming and confident Gays (tm) which is an acceptable affliction? wtf wtf wtf wtf #they used to be better about this I thought #though they struggled with the queer “scene” when sib's band put out a CD with a cover that was glitter lipstick on the scruffy dude - #but ig since they can say my sib is “just” a lesbian tough woman she's okay - but the band and lipstick guy were Ew and rrrrdddffjkhfg #you get it #I hate people sometimes I really just #I can't touch discourse with a 10ft pole because it's a minefield but tldr bi-erasure plays into the whole a “Good Gay” vs “weirdo pervert” #and fuck thisssssss #overly personal on my shadow banned bloggo

[sribbles-drabbles]

"""""""""""pan"""""""""" means pretentious bisexual

Wow a person being an jerk anonymously on the internet? Who would’ve thought!!! 💅

Regardless, I honestly find this funny lmao and think it can be a learning opportunity.

Personally, I identify as Pansexual as someone who doesn’t see gender or sex when picking partners. But honestly it’s just a label, and if you categorize my sexuality into something like “bisexual” as an umbrella term than that’s fine with me.

But that’s NOT to promote Pan erasure, invalidation, or hate. Just because I don’t care, doesn’t mean others don’t.

If you don’t like it, don’t interact. I’m not here to create a negative space, but I refuse to let others create it too.

#real talk #pansexual #pan #pansexual erasure #pan vs bi #bisexual #i’m so tired #just trying my best

[plazmafields]

Some thoughts about Kerry:

Spoilers ahead, needless to say.

1)

I saw a video comparing the two versions if Chippin' In (Kerry's vs. Johnny's) where someone in the comments suggested the reason Kerry leaned more mainstream rock is because he only wanted to make music for money. I completely disagree with this and here's why:

User Friendly was the last song Kerry put out before deciding he wasn't going to perform live/tour anymore and went into a deep depression. Looking up the lyrics, you can see he was becoming very distressed with the lack of control he had over his career, and the things he says in the song sound like a cry for help that wasn't received by listeners the way he had hoped. We never hear his version of the song, and I believe that is intentional. Vapid, loud, chaotic, almost over-stimulating laser-pop is such a huge juxtaposition to the lyrics, and yet it's the only version we get to hear. Clearly User Friendly meant a lot to him or I don't think he would have reacted the way he did; combined with the cover being done by a pop group groomed by the music industry to sell as many albums as possible, it all went against Kerry's original intent with the song. Then there's the story of how he wrote Bleed the Beat: he was working his ass off for people he couldn't stand and that song was his outlet during that time. He'd play until his fingers bled just to get his frustrations out. Music is his medium for release, just like it was for Johnny.

In Johnny's version of Chippin' In, the phrase "chipping in" has two meanings: getting your first implants, and, the same as our universe, helping out. Johnny's song uses both meanings interchangeably during the choruses, the verse before it dictating which definition is being used. Johnny's arm is (from what I can tell looking at the design) military issue. The song is both about the corpo military forcing him to get an implant, and also about believing he was doing the right thing when he joined by "helping out" the armed forces. Since, in this universe, militaries are owned and/or sponsored by corporations, Johnny views corporate jobs and military service to be the same level of morally wrong (The Ballad of Buck Ravers attests to this).

In terms of how the two songs compare, obviously Kerry's version of Chippin' In is meant to have more wide appeal. Not only are the lyrics more tame, mostly just talking about the implants themselves and only having one verse that even mentions anything "political", but I believe Kerry understood that the best way to get his music to the most listeners was to go for a more mainstream sound and universally relatable lyrics, so he toned it down. Everyone hates corpos, sure, but not everyone wants to bomb Araska HQ. This is probably a stretch, but we can see from the flashbacks that Kerry didn't have any implants during his time in Samurai, so maybe Johnny was like super opposed to implants after having one forced upon him, and Kerry's version of the song is kind of saying "hey if you want implants get implants, they make you look cool don't feel bad about it."

2)

I do support the idea that Kerry should have been bisexual like in the source material. I absolutely get that bi erasure is a big problem, ESPECIALLY with male characters. However, I respect that in the game you can only romance him with a masc V; I'm not going to mod him to he bi, I'm not gonna ship him with women. I see it the same way I see Cullen from DAI: he is canonically bisexual, just not attracted to my male Inquisitor (in Kerry's case, fem V). Maybe Kerry had such a traumatic divorce from his ex-wife that women just kinda scare him right now. We can see high heels and bras and blush littering his house, so we can assume that at the very least women are still getting naked for some reason or another at his parties. Maybe he prefers men romantically, or maybe he's just not ready to date women again, and we as players should respect that just like we would a real person.

3)

Kerry was 100% going to kill himself when you show up to his house. There are shards advertising robotic security systems in numerous places around his house (meaning he fired his human body guards), shards with negative reviews of his last album, there is only one camera and it is by the front gate (none inside the house), he gave his cleaner and cook "the day off" that very day, you see in emails that his ex-wife is giving him the option of all or nothing with custody (you take the kids or you don't get to see them), and he isn't enjoying making music anymore, his one passion in life. He had a gun with him in the bathroom, and I believe by the way his speech slurs and he makes the impulsive decision to get Samurai back together, that he is drunk for that entire scene and has a drinking problem. It is my opinion that the reason he doesn't reveal any of that to V is because he knows Johnny will hear it and judge him, call him weak, or make insensitive jokes like he does to V when he gives you the quest. The only time we see Kerry be somewhat vulnerable is 1. Over text when talking about the crazed fan, since he probably thinks Johnny can't see those (I believe he can) and 2. In the epilogue when Johnny has been removed from V's head (Kerry says he doesn't want to lose V, and during the credits he tells V he just wants their lives to be less hectic so they can spend more time together).

4)

It took me a couple playthroughs to warm up to Kerry, Panam is probably still my favorite romance, but I think Kerry might be the best romance option for a Skreetkid V. He perfectly embodies the plights of Night City at every income bracket: no matter where you are on the food chain, if you're not at the top, you're getting fucked over. He clearly likes living in comfort while still embracing his rebellious side from his youth. But now, he has the cushion of money and status to save him if things go tits up (when you get a wanted level in Westbrook district, close to North Oak, the officer on the police scanner says "I swear, if its Eurodyne again" suggesting that he is very reckless but hardly ever faces real consequences). Maybe he stays in his gilded cage because he fears facing real hardship on his own, without friends, without a support group, without Johnny. He has a strong sense of pride, though, and would never admit to needing Johnny, even if they were best friends. The way Kerry wants to show Johnny a riff he's been working on after the concert, only to be disappointed when V takes over again, I think it really shows that as much as they disagreed, their friendship held the band together.

5)

I don't remember if Johnny hints at it or I saw someone suggest this on here, but the idea that Kerry only "dates" V because Johnny is in his head is ridiculous to me. The first time he called you to deal with the Us Cracks tour gear, he wanted Johnny. Every time after that, he wanted V. He definitely realizes which of the two is helping him; he can tell them apart. The Johnny that Kerry remembers wouldn't have done a selfless thing in his life, lest risking his pride and reputation as Night City's biggest fuckboy. Whether you really schmooze him up or tell him he's going overboard, Kerry appreciates that you helped him. And I think after the concert, when he hands V his gun, Kerry's body language suggests that he wasn't planning to give the gun to Johnny, he thought about it because V was back in control. V helped get the band back together, V helped decide if Denny or Henry should play the gig, V was the one who brought Johnny to Kerry's house. Johnny won't take over to do it himself despite probably being able to. I only wish you didn't meet him so late in the main story, so that his story could have more time and space to breathe.

#cyberpunk #cyberpunk 2077 #cbp 2077 #kerry eurodyne #cyberpunk kerry #cbp2077 #ramble #my thoughts #my theories #the gays must be tragic #otherwise what's the point #tw sui ideation

[mileven11forever]

"I'm telling you, if Mileven was gay and Byler was straight, people would be yelling 'lgbtq erasure' left and right."

Also, wanted to unpack this more. The idea of Mileven being gay and Byler being straight is a meaningless concept because...

A) the whole story is set in an 80s context. It relies on Mike's internalized homophobia and his pressure to conform in that context. If Mileven was gay, it wouldn't have developed in the way it developed. They would have been friends (even if Mike had feelings for Male El), and I guarantee most Milevens wouldn't ship it. And the themes of the show would be very different in that case.

B) Technically though, that hypothetical situation would pretty comfortably make Mike bi, so if he dated female Will in that situation, it wouldn't be lgbtq erasure. It would just be bisexuality.

C) The entire dynamic of Mileven vs. Byler also relies on Will being Mike's childhood friend. The whole childhood friends to lovers trope. They have that shared history, shared chemistry that Mileven simply don't and can't (no offense to them- it's literally impossible, even if you believe in romantic Mileven, since El hasn't been Mike's friend since Kindergarten. Mileven fits more of the "love at first sight" trope which the writers explictly rejected). It's not just a surface level queer vs. straight thing. So pushing aside all that, I'd ship Mileven in this case since it would simply be the deeper, truer dynamic.

True, that all makes sense.

#mileven #byler #mike wheeler #will byers #eleven hopper #el hopper byers #eleven stranger things #jane hopper #elmike #el hopper #stranger things #straight mike #gay mike wheeler #bi mike wheeler

[mymelody-sapphic]

Hey boo 💚

As a black, stone femme lesbian, I can’t speak to the experience of being a butch but I can say that I don’t think your actions or references are quite as dangerous or damaging as the anon made them out to be.

It’s true that many lesbians, bisexuals, pansexual etc don’t quite know how to treat butches at times and have been very cruel to them in the past, but I do think that the anon came less from a place of correction than a place of unaddressed pain and fear.

I also think that there truly is a distinction between the us American idea of feminine masculinity vs a nonamerican version. That is neither good nor bad, it simply is. Different cultures associate different traits with femininity. To refuse to acknowledge the differences is to ignore a fascinating and vast array of gender expressions that are unique to various cultures all around the world.

With that in mind, I don’t think it wise to gatekeep the idea of femme vs masc to just being within a lesbian space since bisexuality and pansexuality have plenty of space for non-normative gender expression within them. A more butch-presenting female-identifying person could very well have attraction to both mascs and femmes, but that doesn’t make them less Bi. This gatekeeping also keeps up the tradition of Bi-erasure and unblurs the non-binary line in all of this.

I think this anon has been hurt very badly by a lot of people and deserves all the kindness and understanding in the world, but I don’t think that your words were particularly damaging in and of themselves.

Then again, I am not a butch, so please take my views with a MASSIVE grain of salt.

hi! thank you for your time really 🩷 i really appreciate it and i do agree with what you say. i actually wanted to hear the opinion of femme lesbians since the main discussion is about the term and leaving femmes out of this conversation would be so wrong.

and yes even though the concepts of feminity/masculinity withing the queer community do have similarities mainly bc colonization we have to acknowledge that terms, concepts and perceptions can also be really different in some aspects when it comes to non white/western cultures and i hope i explained myself well in that sense

still i hope none else feels that offended/hurt by my words because i just want to find a community and make everyone feel as safe and welcome as i’ve felt thanks to others.

#𐙚 𝆬 lia answers #again tysm!! 🩷

[jakowskis]

@buffetpallascat doing a good ol' days reply because i had enough thoughts on this to warrant some meta, in my typical rambling fashion. hope you don't regret engaging by the time im done dfhkdsf

for starters, you're very welcome, i'm glad you enjoy the post :D

as for your question - i meant moreso that it was typical of the fandom, although it was also very much influenced by societal trends of the time, too. fandom's always had a rocky history with women, especially women who supposedly 'get in the way of "slash" couples', but the way fandom misogyny is performed has changed; i see more willful erasure of female characters these days than flat out blatant misogyny. in tw fan content from the 00s, i've seen gwen hatefully AND casually called some pretty horrible things that i rarely see fictional or real women called nowadays, simply because standards have changed. hell, one of the comms i linked, the twgenre finders one, there was several entries requesting fic where gwen experiences, like, bodily harm? not in a whump-y way, they actually wanted to recreationally read fic about her getting physically injured and suffering, out of some bizarre sense of malice towards her. simply because she 'gets in the way of janto'. and i can't even fathom that existing nowadays. pretty much everyone outside of weird little 12 year olds knows that's not acceptable. not to mention it's just weird.

interestingly i've also noticed a lottttt of change in how the fandom... reacted to and treated janto as a couple back in the day, versus now. people in 2006 were not normal about gay people. we know fandom's history with fetishizing gay men, and it was even worse in 2006 with an exceptionally rare canon gay couple being received by a jarringly hetero-but-'slash'-obsessed fanbase.

i mean, i don't wanna generalize. i saw a poll recently about how fandom is not mainly composed of straight women, contrary to popular belief, at least anymore, and i guess the question is, was it ever? i have seen a lot of the people involved in fandom in the 00s identify themselves as straight, but was that partially because of the culture of that era? have any of those people since come out as some type of queer? maybe, for some of them, that was them exploring their queerness in a safe environment, when the culture around being gay in real life was a lot different.... the same way modern fandom culture continues to be for those of us who aren't in accepting homes. if they were 20smth year olds in the 2010s/2020s, rather than the 2000s, would they still identify as straight?

not sure. but i've made a habit of going on the profiles of old lj accounts, and i'll sometimes wind up going through the journals and the personal posts of authors i respect, etc etc. a significant amount of mid 00s fic writers were straight women in their 30s - 40s, many married, some with kids. very different demographic to modern fandom. very different climate they lived in vs the one we're in.

(although, bonus note, i also once found a thread of bisexuals in 2006 praising torchwood's depiction of bisexuality, and that made me exceptionally happy. but also maybe a little sad, because torchwood's my personal fav bi rep, too, in 2023, and the fact that we've had nothing better in seventeen years is a bit of a bummer. but i digress.)

anyway, this is all to say, i've seen some insanely fetishy shit about jack and ianto that rubbed me exceptionally wrong. that gross dehumanizing, severely homophobic place where it's like... ahh, ok, so you don't see them as people, you see them as sexy dolls you can mash together. but, ofc, that's how i view it as a bisexual person in 2023 who's been on tumblr far too long. they didn't see any problem with it. they might've even seen it as progressive. how can you be homophobic when you're obsessed with the little gay people on ur screen? but it's the opposite end of the 'homophobes reducing gay ppl down to what they do in their beds' trope, and it comes across as dated and icky now.

i mean, i consume a lot of older media, i know how to turn off my 21st century sensibilities and remind myself things used to be different, but it's honestly an impressive difference. there's some fantastic fics from that era of the fandom, in fact most of my favorite fics are from that era, but i often get quite a bit of culture shock reading things. particularly, i'm always impressed by people in the 2000s, an extremely biphobic era, applying their impressive period-typical 'bisexuals aren't real' beliefs to The Bisexual Show. torchwood's rep's not perfect (again, a product of its era), but i've seen a fantastic amount of gay!ianto and straight!owen, because bisexual men don't exist, obviously, and jack's not bisexual, he's the amazing slutty space man, except he's mostly gay because all that matters is janto. and i don't even really see explorations of gwen or tosh's bisexuality at all, because, again, women who?

i found a comm a while back, i didn't include it on my list because it wasn't torchwood-exclusive and didn't have much content in the tw tag, but it was a lgbtfest, and contained fics about the team and their relationships with their bisexuality, and it was really intriguing to me to see queerness as understood by regular people in 2007/2008, y'know, not by gay writers or activists or films. i have no way of knowing if any of them were speaking from any personal place, but it was just interesting, because none of the fics i read in that comm had that same brand of tone-deaf sex-focused homophobia to them, they were progressive for the time, but it was still apparent to me that they were written by people with a mid to late 00s understanding of being gay, and i do think it's interesting, that substantial difference.

got a bit off topic, but now that i mentioned the initial fandom being overwhelmingly composed of women, i can also add that i think internalized misogyny factored hugely into the fandom's disdain for gwen. the 'strong female' trope doesn't just annoy straight men, it also annoys a lot of women (though not consciously) - not because they're opposed to well-written women, but because society tells us certain things that'd be admirable and complex and sympathetic out of a male hero are unacceptable out of a female one. it's the double standard. jack does some awful shit, but i rarely see him criticized. i've straight up seen fans go "jack's kind of a bastard, but it's ok because he's hot", which is fine in jest, i've joked about shit like that with characters, but it's not so cute when those same people turn around and condemn gwen for her actions. hell, or owen. i've literally seen someone say they'd like owen more if he was more conventionally attractive. like, ok, you're clearly just here for the janto eye candy. you haven't brought any substantial critical thinking skills. pls take ur shallow ass and leave. but back to gwen - she was held to a standard none of the other characters are held to. they picked on her for the stupidest shit. and her worse sin, the infidelity, it's bad, sure, but i've seen countless male characters who cheat on their partners who are beloved by their fandoms. it's just fucking gross. i fucking hate hypocrites.

dude, yknow what?? i've even seen fucking tosh bashing. WHO THE FUCK HATES TOSH????

ok im done. sorry for my babbling. but yeah, i think it's a fascinating thing. i love how humans change and develop with the times and how we can map the changes and how they affect media, and it's fun to observe in fandom because it's there, too, but no one's looking so i get to feel like a little scientist fdskjfds. ok i will cease with the excessive babbling now

#mine #txt #torchwood posting #i love writing essays where i say nothing at all

[antitheticaldreamgirl-13]

Also can we talk about the bisexual erasure in the gaylor community?? I agree that some of Taylor’s “boyfriends” could’ve been beards, but isn’t it a lot more likely that she’s bi than that every public relationship has been totally fake? There has been some lesbian flagging with her clothes and such but also bisexual color schemes as well….

I also think that it’s not always as simple as people make it out to be. It’s not just “pr relationship vs. real relationship.” Maybe a relationship is largely for pr but parts of it are real, or maybe it’s less intense and important as the public thinks it is but it’s still a real relationship, etc. etc.

So, I don’t think we have to invalidate every relationship she has supposedly had with a man. She can date a man and be queer. She can date a woman and be queer. She can be single and be queer.

Okay. Rant over.

TLDR; Bi erasure is bad. Don’t assume all of taylor’s supposed relationships with men are fake.

#gaylor #taylor swift #bisexual #queer

[tyrannuspitch]

okay i've used the word homophobia to talk about a specifically bisexual character too many times recently, so let's talk about potential manifestations of specific *biphobia* in asgard.

please note that i have done no extra research on this (yet?), i'm just extrapolating from what i know about historical ergi stigma (and what i've already extrapolated from not very detailed info on that!), so this is firmly historically *inspired* fantasy territory.

i'm going to leave aside the matter of gender-conforming stone top msm for the moment, because while they are a group who Exist, they're pretty distinctly queer by modern western standards and straight by asgardian standards, which is kind of messy and not the central point here. (also, top/bottom/vers is not a question applicable to all possible sex acts, so the exact requirements of your stone top no-homo-ing are unclear; and the question of identity based in action vs identity based in desire is also possibly complicated, imo a lot more complicated than people tend to give it credit for... it's just super messy okay.)

instead, as the closest equivalent to "bisexual men", let us consider men who a) are definitely queer by asgardian standards (feminine and/or interacting with men as a vers or bottom) and b) are interacting romantically/sexually with women.

a number of possibilities for an asgardian opinion on them:

1: modern-style bi erasure. pffft, this relationship is clearly fake. a queer man could never be a REAL partner to a woman, so either she's covering for him out of pity or he's fooled her.

on one hand, i feel like this is slightly less likely than in the modern day, because it does seem to centre attraction as definitive of queerness, and hence the idea that you can only engage with one gender. on the other hand, the idea that queer and straight men are deeply, fundamentally different with no overlap is very affirming to straight men. so perhaps this could still be one manifestation.

1b. bi erasure specifically through inadequacy. it's not that we don't think queer men WANT women, it's just that they'll never be good enough for them. maybe he's got her fooled for now, but she'll realise soon enough.

these two options mostly invite ridicule, but could escalate into violence towards either partner to try and "prove" what a "real man" is.

2. a sense of threat / unfairness. women are only meant to like masculine men, but this feminine man DOES have a female partner. how? why is this feminine man reaping the rewards of masculinity?

2a. in which the fem man is a usurper and a sinister, dishonourable threat who is stealing/corrupting the woman. the woman is assumed to be victim but probably also victim-blamed, like an antieffeminate spin on the "woman hate nice guys" trope.

2b. in which we do Gender Arithmetic and decide that a fem man could only possibly be partnered with a masc woman. now the woman is the sinister usurper of masc/male power, and the man is the weak/foolish traitor allowing it. in theory, this relationship would be comedic, but actual examples of it would be extremely threatening.

this also raises the most interesting possibility to me - an attitude parallel to modern mononormativity, but instead of claiming that you can only truly be attracted to one gender, it claims that you can only truly play one gendered sexual role. a queer man must ALWAYS be a fem sub bottom, whether his partner is a man or a woman - so a man being queer proves a male partner of his straight, but makes a female partner appear queer too. which from a modern perspective is pretty wild!

anyway. these two options frame the relationship as a more direct threat, and as such, are more likely to result in violence (or to result in it sooner, or worse.) this is especially true if both partners are being interpreted as queer here.

lacking any historical info as pointers, i feel like all of these options are fairly plausible. and all, independently, pretty fucked up.

i'm not sure how to wrap up this post, but in general, when considering ergi stigma, i think it's important to account for the fact that (perceived) gender expression is central, not attraction, so being in an m/f relationship is not necessarily going to do much to protect you. which is also true of modern real-world biphobia to an extent - people can and frequently do experience biphobia in m/f relationships, and i'd be willing to bet there's at least one modern real-world example of every single specific attitude i described here, even if they're not all common. but the irrelevance of relationship status does bear repeating, especially when the central definition of ergi is often euphemised as "passive homosexual". like, yes, but no. it's not just about that act. it's about the gendered implications of that act, which, once acquired, can set you apart forever.

#space viking tag #meta #s: myth + history #(tangentially) #th: worldbuilding #(bc i am just making shit up now) #th: ergi #th: gender + sexuality #ch: loki #(not directly. but he is the fem bi man who prompted these thoughts)

[punkitt-is-here]

I'm not trying to be mean but I just saw the other anon and I really dont understand what you guys are talking about? I genuinely don't understand how being a bisexual lesbian isn't just bisexual like how is that different from the pansexual vs bisexual labels debate? Like isn't that another example of bi-erasure/ not wanting to identify with bi ppl? I'm genuinely lost. Again not trying to sound mean or disrespectful in any way. Thanks.

*dracula voice* i vvill redirect you here my vvriend

[therawrliveson]

I’ve not touched this blog in ages, I’m mostly hoping this will end up being seen because of the tags. But I have some 9-1-1 feelings I need to get off my chest and this is the best place for it.

Bi Buck??? Amazing and fantastic. A storyline that is at the end of the day about Buck realising this big part of himself and coming to accept it and being comfortable with it. It’s not about Eddie, and it’s not about Tommy. We have bisexual representation which is so rare for big tv shows still with everyone being gay or a lesbian if that representation even exists on that show. This is important. This is bigger than a silly ship war.

But while I’m here! Buddie vs Kinkley (my preferred ship name for them lol). Who cares? Buck and Eddie have this wonderful love story and it would be amazing if they went canon. Buck is going on a date with Tommy amidst this new discovery and that’s also incredible? We get to see him actually on screen on a date. How fun!

It’s super frustrating to see people on twitter (and here but mostly twitter) getting annoyed that people ship Buck and Tommy and they have fanfiction written about them (literally saw someone mad about them taking over the buddie tag on ao3 which is untrue and also just exclude their tag if it’s that big of a deal? That’s an amazing function you can use). But people can ship what they want, they can enjoy whatever they want. As someone else has pointed out this fandom is one of the very fandoms that is so weird about people only being shipped with one other person. Most fandoms be out here multishipping on the regular.

Some people also have never shipped buck and Eddie. And those people are enjoying buck and Tommy and we’re all allowed to. I want to be able to enjoy this ship without being accused of being “disgusting” for shipping something that has actual onscreen romantic time?? So yeah I’m on tumblr and tiktok where people aren’t making every single thing about buddie.

People are getting cruel about it too, picking on both Eddie and Tommy’s characters over the stupidest stuff that the characters themselves are clearly over. They’re all friends, they’re all connected. Chimney wouldn’t have rang Tommy (even in season 2!) if they weren’t friends, Hen wouldn’t of come when Tommy contacted her if they weren’t friends. Eddie and Buck wouldn’t be close the way they are if Buck was still upset about a comment made in the heat of the moment over something they ended up having a conversation about! Like be nicer.

“Oh I can’t wait until Buck realises he’s in love with Eddie next episode” “oh who cares about buddie buck Tommy is where it’s at” can Buck just be bisexual without his sexuality being reliant on a ship becoming canon?

And to the people saying “you don’t care about Eddie” because we’re celebrating Buck being bi and not pushing a “Eddie is definitely gay” narrative at the same time that is actually insane. Yall are playing leap frog and you shouldn’t want an Eddie coming out story either just to make a ship canon. You should want it because it’ll make a fantastic narrative and it’ll fit a lot of what we’ve seen. And some of you do what it for that reason, but half the time those same people are complaining that Buck had this storyline first. Get over yourselves. Let people celebrate Buck. Let people celebrate bisexuality without making it about something else. Because shockingly enough that’s historically a massive problem and bi-erasure is gross af.

#911 abc #911 spoilers #doidaretagtheshipnames #Ihavetoomanyfeelingsaboutthisandineededtogetthemout #anywaywritemorebucktommyfanficpleaseineedit #alsobuckwasclearlyintotommyatthestartbutsomeofyouwanttoignorethat

[aveline-amelia]

Jim Moriarty and bi erasure in The Sherlock Fandom

So I saw someone making fun of Moriarty/Eurus by claiming Moriarty is the gayest character in the show and that Jim even asked Mycroft how he wanted him in TFP, all, of course, in obligatory OUTRAGE CAPS LOCK.

Which is why I feel the need to make the distinction between saying "he's gay" in a "he's so into men" vs "he's so not into women" way. That requires acknowledging both asexual and bisexual erasure. No matter how flamboyant Moriarty is and how many sex references to men he makes, none of that is proof of homosexuality until:

Moriarty makes a definitive statement on his sexuality we are supposed to believe. (I'm gay)

Someone else makes a definitive statement on Moriarty's sexuality that we are supposed to take at face value and believe. (He's gay)

The Powers That Be make a definitive statement on Moriarty's sexuality and the way he was written and portrayed (Moriarty is gay and was written and portrayed as such).

Not all statements on sexuality are clear and definitive, such as Irene saying she's gay but admitting to attraction to a man in the exact same statement and having bisexual coding (both parties separately, male and female clients).

Or John saying that he's not gay but then never clarifying he's straight or not attracted to men.

And we all bring our assumptions when observing potential clues or statements regarding someone's sexual identity.

For example, Harry Watson could be bi but we assume she is a lesbian and we are mostly likely meant to assume that and at that she is probably a butch lesbian or somewhat GNC due to a usage of a masculine version of a name (Harriet -> Harry).

This could be wrong. She could be a feminine bisexual woman who prefers to be called Harry and just happened to fall for and marry a woman.

We don't know the sexuality of the innkeepers in THoB but we assume they are gay men. We assume Raul and Kenny Prince are gay men.

Moriarty refers to his role as Jim from IT as "playing gay" yet he gets flirty with Sherlock in the next sentence. This could all be part of an act, but I do believe reading Moriarty as a straight guy who just likes to mess with people is inherently heteronormative.

Some see Moriarty as a queercoded villain, and some see him as a genuine example of LGBT representation. Maybe not necessarily good representation, but that is subjective. But I do wish people would consider all options before they claim such regressive and potentially harmful opinions as fact.

Headcanons are fine! Claiming something is canon when it is not is different. I am still not over the "confirmed heterosexuality" comments regarding Mycroft and the whole bunch of "straight/het Mycroft" jokes.

And that is coming from someone who believes the Lady Smallwood scene was indeed heteronormative, albeit for different reasons than most people, I believe. But that's a topic for another day. No, seriously, I'll get there.

It's one thing to claim you do not believe a character is bisexual if you don't. It's another to deny bisexuality as an option when it is oftentimes the only option that takes all the evidence into account and does not require stretching the truth or ignoring tells.

Also Moriarty could have had Mycroft on that desk right there until he begged for mercy twice and that still wouldn't have been proof of either of them being homosexual men.

#i apologize for that last reference #i needed to inject some me into this serious post #sexuality in sherlock #sexuality headcanons #headcanons #jim moriarty #mycroft holmes #eurus holmes #euriarty #i guess... #heteronormativity #tw biphobia #tw bisexual erasure #tw homophobia #bisexual #bisexuality #bbc sherlock fandom #bbc sherlock fandom critical

[vole-mon-amour]

Kerry is only available as a romance option for male-presenting V in Cyberpunk 2077 and is portrayed as a gay man. However, he is bisexual in the original tabletop game created by Mike Pondsmith. <…> “Honestly, we still consider Kerry to be bisexual,” replied R. Talsorian Games. Additionally, they provided the context that, “with male-presenting V vs female-presenting V we suspect Kerry’s attraction is deeply rooted into unresolved issues involving Johnny. Male-presenting V fits that particular mold better, to his subconscious.” This context, while potentially intriguing, isn’t particularly explored in the game, and has only led to more confusion about Kerry’s romance. Kerry associating a male-presenting V more closely with Johnny, and being more attracted to him as a result, shouldn’t change his sexuality as a bisexual man. As one reply to R. Talsorian Games says, “I am not straight when dating a man and I am not a lesbian when dating a woman. I am bisexual. To try to call me otherwise is bi erasure and plays into a lot of biphobic stereotypes.” In a role-playing sense, it’s also left those who have romanced Kerry feeling uncomfortable with the idea that Kerry is less into V on his own terms, and more into Johnny. <...> It’s clear throughout Cyberpunk 2077 that the grounds for Kerry and V’s relationship are found in each other and not Johnny. Kerry as a character is prevented from being an authentically bisexual man. It makes celebrating him as a gay man in Cyberpunk 2077 extremely complicated, for doing so requires the acknowledgment that this character’s sexuality differs across the material. And sexuality can certainly change. Kerry could have been bisexual at one point in his life and then later discovered that he’s gay. This would’ve been an easier explanation — and one that doesn’t undermine his relationship with V by making it about someone else. However, Kerry isn’t a real person; he’s a fictional character. And the universe in which he exists doesn’t acknowledge or address this possibility, so this credit can’t be given.

#cyberpunk 2077 #my main tags for this fandom: #cb2077 #kerry eurodyne #my opinion: #this issue exactly #the fact that it's not given in in game lore is VERY bad #they made me believe kerry was gay all along #when in reality he was bisexual in the original thing #so what am i supposed to believe? #would he date my mtf v in the original canon after all? #this entire things makes me very uncomfortable #cause while i do ship johnny and kerry and i don't mind #but it IS (as it should be) about V and Kerry together #and me making a male V to specifically romance Kerry in the long run bc I can't romance him from my mtf V? #doesn't feel right anymore #bc as i said when i believed he was gay can work #although it's bad that the game NEVER states before that moment that he's gay and lets you try to kiss him #couldn't u raise awareness before that so i know where he stands & that i should respect that and maybe apologize for trying to hit on him? #but when i know that originally he is canonically bisexual and the creator still considers him one while the game makes him explicitly gay? #now THAT is not good #when you make it about silverdyne make it about THEM & not V fitting that specific mold bc male V is male while looking nothing like Johnny #just... yeah #i love this game and this story and its characters but i'm also very on the fense about it #long tags

[cattytheartcat]

💜welcome💜

Been here since 2015, so I feel I should make an actual bio thingy. For those who has known me since 2015, I'm so so sorry for who I was then. I was 12 years old when I began Tumblr, and was immediately groomed and thought I was mature enough since my 13th birthday was the next day or so at the time. I'm 20 now, and learned from my mistakes and absolutely got therapy. Anyway uhh--

This will get rlly long so I'm adding a "read more" thingy so you dont gotta scroll through my post, but if you're new to my blog I advise checking this post out.

💜BASIC BIO💜

♡Catty

♡she/her [cis woman]

♡bisexual • polyamorous • spectrosexual

♡assistant Public Relations and assistant Music Department Head for PoniesOnline

♡artist, sometimes writer, shitposter, reblogger

♡Creator of The Matrix 5; Reformations AU, Ashesverse AU, Running Like Hell ARG, Slendyverse (MLP x Slenderverse) AU, Grand Eden Hospital, Nightmares In Paradise (fan spn) AU

♡creator of the blogs; Ask Psychosishy, Ask the Ashesverse, Ask the Hugoverse (multiverse of Hugo Weaving), Ask All MLP OCs

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♡past creator of the blogs; Ask Slenderverse (deleted), Ask Zalgoverse (deleted), Ask all the mlp OCs (deleted for a long ass time lmao), RaveV blog (deleted), Smynth blog (deleted)

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💙DNI💙

《If you disregard any of this "just to spite me" you are getting blocked immediately》

☆proship/profiction (any content that fetishizes, sexualizes, glorifies and/or romanticizes pedophilia, zoophila, necrophilia, incest, abuse, etc)

☆loli/shota content

☆feral NSFW (feral x human, feral x feral, feral x anthro, etc)

☆LGBT-phobia (exclusions included. I.E ace/aro erasure, pan vs bi discourse, neopronoun discourse [not including obvious trolls that put a bad rep], etc)

☆racism, sexism, ableism

☆(irl person, ethnicity, etc) fetishizers (i.e, asian fetish, fat fetish, etc)

☆controversial content/persons (until clear evidence is provided during drama, I wish to NOT partake or be involved)

☆(irl people) shippers

⚠️BLACKLISTED USERS⚠️

☆TC/Simon/ChurchGrimmed [personal issues]

☆Dandelionmoths [personal issues]

☆Freakwolffreakish/Caresse/GoreyBloodyTeethsArts [groomer, erp as a minor character x an adult character, drama queen]

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💜frequent tags💜

♡important -> something I think is important to know. PSAs, warnings, etc

♡very important -> similar to the above tag, however much more urgent

♡wishlist -> things I might buy for myself

♡[name] aesthetic -> aesthetic posts that remind me of my OCs or favorite characters/people

♡[ship name] -> aesthetic posts that remind me of my ships

♡my art -> art I've made

♡old art -> art I've made from 2015-2020

♡amazing -> Tumblr classics baybee (funny or really bizarre things really)

♡other art -> artwork made by others

♡fanart -> artwork made by others for me

♡witchy tips -> tips and stuff regarding witchcraft

♡towards toxicity -> vague posting towards toxic people who fucked up my heart big time

♡art tips -> helpful artwork tips!!

♡me fr -> stuff that I feel represents me!

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That's all really lmao. Yeah I may have been in some shitty situations and been a dumb fuck of a kid but uh. I'm better now weehee

Also even though my account says "NSFW", it's moreso because I post/reblog (cartoon/drawn) gore and blood and violence. Yknow, creepy Grimmdark Creepypasta shit. I also post/reblog suggestive content, maybe even sexual humor, but I never post flat out porn (at least, not anymore). Do NOT follow me if you're expecting trans fetish bullshit or cheap PornHub shit. I don't do that shit.

Another thing I wanna add is that even though I'm anti-proship, I DONT CONDONE HARASSMENT AND DEATH THREATS. That's just as low as the proshippers themselves, you are no better. Most proshippers are a hive mind (teehee The Matrix reference go brr), yknow, saying the same shit; "antis should kay why ess!!", "Minors DNI unless you're an anti", "being anti [pedo, rape, incest, etc] = evangelical puritanism even though they mean actually bad shit not kink and sex in general!!", etc. They are hypocritical bastards that push and push until they can milk out "receipts" to publicly shame you.

If you're an anti but go out of your way to "prove them right about antis being horrible", you are not welcome here. You are the reason why people prefer proship rather than. You are the reason why we are seen as the "bad".

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Know me from petty immature drama? Here's some clarification!!

My stance with minors interacting with my accounts

My stance with Palestine [I also have a post about trying to support Palestine and Lahaina]

My response to the Pyro situation

My stance and response to Rashad

If you want more info or evidence for any of these DM me and we can talk it out like actual mature adults 👍

[moodr1ng]

the whole “butch/femme discourse” aka biphobia and the erasure of bi history has been so illuminating bc you can really tell by now who actually cares about bi women and supports bi women vs who is rbing the bland “omg i love bisexuals <3″ positivity posts but quietly will still hold the same views about bi women being outsiders who are ‘stealing’ from lesbians, just without having the spine to say it now that it doesnt go without any social consequence anymore

#occasionally you do also get the same thing abt bi men 'stealing' from gay men #but its a lot rarer ime #97

[hellomynameisbisexual]

WHAT DOES SEMIBISEXUAL MEAN?

Semibisexuality is a sexual orientation that describes someone who is attracted to only one gender (typically the opposite) but still identifies as bisexual.

In other definitions, someone who is semibisexual can feel sexual attraction towards two genders but feel romantically linked only to one. In this case, semibisexuality might fall under the split attraction model, which states that romantic and sexual attraction are completely different experiences.

According to Urban Dictionary, semibisexual people “like 75% the other gender and 25% their own”. The term “semibisexual” originated on social media in 2018 and first made its way onto Reddit in 2019.

IS THERE A SEMIBISEXUAL FLAG?

The semibisexual flag is red, purple, and white. It mimics the bisexual flag but replaces the blue stripe with white. The creator of the semibisexual flag is unknown, and there is no published explanation behind the chosen colors.

THE SEMIBISEXUAL MEME, EXPLAINED

Because of its confusing and contradictory definition, many people have turned semibisexuality into a meme on social media. Many consider the term a joke, meme-ifying it to mean “lol, I’m straight, but I wanna be special.”

CONTROVERSY OVER SEMIBISEXUALITY

The concept of being semibisexual has sparked a lot of controversies. Those who use it have been pegged as “attention seekers”, co-opting queerness while remaining straight (or straight-passing).

Some people from the bisexual community consider the term to be demoralizing and bigoted. Semibisexuality may contribute to bi-erasure because it assumes that bisexuals experience equal attraction towards two or more genders. In reality, bisexuals may experience attraction in different degrees – it’s not always 50/50.

That said, it is perfectly valid to be primarily heterosexual while occasionally being attracted to someone of the same gender – this is called “heteroflexibility”.

HETEROFLEXIBLE VS BISEXUAL

Some describe the experience of being semibisexual as similar to that of being heteroflexible. Roughly 15% of Americans identify as heteroflexible, though each person’s experience might vary.

Heteroflexibility sometimes fits into the definition of bisexuality, but this isn’t the case for everyone. For example, someone might prefer to call themselves heteroflexible instead of bisexual because:

They feel more heterosexual than homosexual.

They don’t feel confident using the term bisexual.

They are still unsure about their sexual preferences.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE HETEROFLEXIBLE OR BISEXUAL

If you somewhat relate to the term “semibisexual,” you might wonder whether you are heteroflexible or bisexual. Here are a few ways to find out what term suits you best.

ASK YOURSELF QUESTIONS

Being honest and asking yourself the following questions can help you determine whether you are bisexual or heteroflexible:

Who am I most attracted to?

Do I feel romantically attracted only to the opposite gender but don’t mind exploring the same gender sexually?

Do I feel like I’m missing out on romantic or sexual experiences with the same gender?

Am I more comfortable using the term “heteroflexible” or “bisexual”?

USE THE KINSEY SCALE

While there is no test to tell you if you are heteroflexible or bisexual, using the Kinsey Scale can put things into perspective. The Kinsey Scale, otherwise known as the Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale, describes a person’s sexual orientation at any given time.

The Kinsey Scale ranges from 0 to 6, with 0 being exclusively heterosexual and 6 being exclusively homosexual. Many bisexual people score a 3, which describes “equally heterosexual and homosexual behavior or attraction”.

On the other hand, someone who is heteroflexible might score a 1 (predominantly heterosexual but with a slight inclination toward the opposite gender) or 2 (mostly heterosexual but with a moderate inclination toward the opposite gender).

When using the Kinsey Scale, it’s important to remember that this mechanism has its limitations – it doesn’t account for all sexualities (including pansexual) and works on binary principles. Still, it works as a very basic gauge for your sexual orientation.

HOW TO USE LGBTQ TERMS RESPONSIBLY

You can use many new terms to describe your gender identity and sexuality. That said, you should know when these terms are appropriate and how to use them properly. Here are a few tips to keep in mind:

DO YOUR RESEARCH

If you don’t know what a specific term means, you can refer to an LGBTQ glossary online. A few helpful glossaries include:

Glossary of Terms by the Human Rights Campaign

LGBTQ Glossary by John Hopkins University

LGBTQIA Resource Center Glossary by UC Davis

LGBTQ Terms and Definitions by the University of Florida

ASK SOMEONE WITHIN THE COMMUNITY

If you’re talking to someone and are unsure about how they identify, the best thing to do is ask them what terminology they use. Most of the time, they will feel valued and respected that you asked instead of assuming. You can also ask about their pronouns and specific experience of their gender identity or orientation.

Remember, you can never assume how a person identifies based on their appearance or speech. If you address someone the wrong way, own your mistakes by learning from them and being receptive to feedback.

UNDERSTAND THAT GENDER IDENTITY AND SEXUAL ORIENTATION CAN CHANGE

Gender identity and sexuality are fluid, so don’t be surprised if someone who was once bisexual suddenly identifies as straight or gay (or vice versa). It’s important to remember that, just because someone identified as one way in the past and now identifies another way, it does not mean their former identity was invalid. Confusion is normal, and so is change!

THE BOTTOM LINE

While the term “semibisexual” might accurately describe some people, it is often the subject of controversy and not widely accepted by the LGBTQ community. Ultimately, semibisexuality invalidates the bisexual experience by implying that bi people do not feel varying levels of attraction to different genders.

When using new LGBTQ-related terms, you should try to understand their context fully. Doing your research and talking to LGBTQ community members about specific terminology can prevent you from invalidating someone’s experience or misusing words. And if you’re unsure of how to address someone, the safest thing to do is ask!

#sembisexuality #bisexuality #bisexual community #lgbtq community #lgbtq #bi #support bisexuality #lgbtq pride #bisexuality is valid #pride #bi tumblr #bisexual #bi pride #bisexual nation #bisexual pride #bisexual education #bisexual youth #support bisexual people #bisexual men #respect bisexual people #bisexual rights #bisexual people #bisexual women #biphobic gay people #bi erasure #bisexual erasure #biphobic #biphobia

[bi-sapphics]

honestly smth that just makes me really angry (thinking abt that anon again) is the “you owe your thriving lifestyle to xyz group who is either more oppressed than you or is somehow more valuable and liked and worthy than you” bullshit. this goes for ANYONE.

and, yes, to some degree i think we owe different groups of people our gratitude and respect. like that’s just true, i’m not out here trying to say it’s all about me me me and i don’t owe anyone anything at all.

what upsets me is this derogatory “you’re helpless and weak and you wouldn’t have any rights if not for our kindness in allowing you to be a part of our community conditionally, so stop complaining that you had your own culture stolen and gatekept from you.” there’s a difference between getting rightfully angry at a minority with privilege via axis of oppression (i.e. white bisexuals, cis lesbians, black men, etc.) for being selfish & unruly (which is not whom i’m talking about) and bullying a minority group you personally see as lesser and/or more privileged than you (regardless of the truth) and gaslighting them into believing “the bad unjust thing we did to hurt you that you’re complaining so much about could have been worse, so you should be grateful that you aren’t being treated even worse nowadays” (i.e. lesbian separatism).

and this doesn’t even just go for angry and hurt bisexual women vs. selfish lesbian separatists, it also goes for gay men vs lesbians in a specific way as well. lesbians (and i’m assuming bi women who were considered lesbians at the time, but for the sake of convenience we’ll say lesbians) played a huge part in aiding gay & bi men during the time when the government was killing the LGBT community with its serophobia. gay men will always owe lesbians a great debt of gratitude, but that doesn’t mean lesbians get a pass in speaking over gay men and dismissing their issues. i myself am not gay nor a man so i will not be speaking over them, but what i do know is that many of them are tired of being silenced for the sake of it being “their duty” or whatever. gay men oppress lesbians on the basis of misogyny, sure, that can’t and shouldn’t be ignored, but both groups face homophobia and erasure within their own communities. this post explains it a lot better than i could and gets the point across much better without sounding silly, but be warned that there are lots of radfems arguing against op in the thread. that should tell you that it actually carries some weight if it makes radfems mad. misandry isn’t real but bigotry is not the same as oppression and it doesn’t give us the right to ignore mlm when they speak about being mlm.

i didn’t put as much effort into this post as i did with the original that i mentioned above so feel free to correct me on and/or inform me of anything. hopefully i came across the right way and the correct audience reading this post will actually understand what i’m trying to say and not purposefully twist the message to start an argument. don’t do that. please lmao. just read the post i linked above about the aids crisis before you do.

#chase.txt #axis of oppression #gaslighting minorities #serophobia #aids crisis #lesbians & gay men #homosexual #homophobia #lesbian separatism #radfem mention #anti radfem #lgbt history #lesbian history #gay history #bisexual history #oppression olympics #oppression vs bigotry #lgbt gatekeeping #idk what else i'm missing here but whatever idc rn