#bias talk

[oraclekleo]

Why dk you like Changbin? I like him too but didn't expect you to like him, thought you'd like Felix or Hyunjin 💟

I can't really say I bias Changbin as such. Honestly, I struggle to bias anyone in Stray Kids (my subconscious self has issues with the "Kids" in the group title because I really dislike children). Changbin is the one I usually notice first. I remembered him first. So I say he's my bias despite the fact he's not really a member of my mental harem. Recently I have noticed I.N but again, not a regular bias still.

I can understand why people would expect me to bias Felix and Hyunjin. In general, I present myself as a caring dom so Felix and Hyunjin being the subs they are would make sense. But than again, I like challenge. And while I do naturally slip into the role of caregiver, I absolutely hate the idea of a person being dependant on me. 😊 What can I say. I'm really difficult and it's much better for me to forever live with dogs instead of trying to share my life with human beings. 😁

#oracle kleo #bias talk

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[mimefish]

So you're telling me that Scar naturally got the permit for sand, giving him the coveted monopoly, and didn't even want it anymore, whereas Grian has wound up with the permit for red sand and does actually want to use it. Red sand. Red. Meanwhile the end of third life involved Grian killing Scar and staining the sand with his blood following a conflict fuelled by a hopeless monopoly. And it's still following them years after the actual murder. And I'm supposed to be normal about this how exactly

#i love you coincidence i love you random parallels i love you confirmation bias #trafficblr #life series #life series smp #elfy talks #grian #mcyt #goodtimeswithscar #third life #3rd life #desert duo #hermitcraft #hermitcraft season 10

[hijinks-n-lowjinks]

fic recs masterlist

since I was thinking about rereading some of my fav fics, here's a massive list of my favorites include haikyuu, jjk, bsd, etc

Haikyuu!

frankenstein's monster by starbeyy: sakuatsu fic where they both are diagnosed with OCD. this is the fic that is my instant rec, it's my roman empire. "you were the first beautiful thing i couldn't stop thinking about"?????????? this is a MASTERPIECE

the courtship ritual of the hercules beetle by kittebasu: THE iwaoi fic of all time, permanently altered my brain chemistry, my friend made me a gift of an embroidered hercules beetle and a quote from this fic and it's one of my most prized possessions

The Chosen One by moonyfest: one of my all time favorites, it's just so good and I love how their relationship develops, it's one of the fics that I reread every few months, nsfw in later chapters

Miya Atsumu, Adored By All (loved by some) by honest_pebble: the sakuatsu fic of all time, my inner atsumu kinnie came out while reading this and I cried multiple times while reading it but holy FUCK was it amazing, I reread this every few months as well, I have it downloaded on my phone lol

i wanna ruin our friendship by roseknight: highschool iwaoi fic, one of the first hq fics i ever read and it's very close to my heart because of it, make sure to look at tags for trigger warnings

i'm a house with no windows, you're the flowers on the front porch by miracleboysatori: a phenomenal childhood friends to lovers ushiten fic that has not been given the love it deserves, one of my favorite hq fics of all time, nsfw in later chapters

butterfly in the subway by bigspoonnoya: You've Got Mail au daisuga fic, a ton of background ships that are all super cute, I reread it all the time it's one of my favs!!!!!

the spirit of the resolution by starbeyy: this is my fav sunaosa fic of all time, osamu's complicated relationship with his self esteem really hit me especially when they're getting late night take out, i adore this fic and it's one of my favorites

can i be close to you by radian: kuroken fic where they don't know each other at first but slowly become friends and it's all lowercase but it's so good i promise, super fluffy

Vienna Waits For You by Pouler (poulerslashes): asanoya timeskip fic that's sooooo good in talking about what it's like to grow up and feel the pressure of the world on your shoulders and living up to your potential and expectations, nsfw in later chapters

Black and Blue by MTrash: daisuga au fic, i was obsessed with this fic when i first read it, it's really sad but really good, make sure to look at the tags for trigger warnings, nsfw in later chapters

you're the brake lines failing (as my car swerves off the freeway) by ghostpot: kuroken fic where kenma realizes he's in love with kuroo and spends the entire fic freaking out about it

campfire in your chest by deanpendragon: tsukkiyama fic where tsukishima realizes he's in love with tadashi before kagehina realize they're in love with each other and it's super cute, all of this author's tsukkiyama fics are so good

Liebesträume (Dream of Love) by emivance: sakuatsu rivals to lovers musican au, their dynamic this entire fic is so funny and they're obviously intro each other but are in deep denial about it, nsfw in later chapters

surfacing by meeks00: bokuaka au where they find out their bfs have been cheating on them with each other, one of my fav bkak fics they're so precious, nsfw in chapters 2 and 3

daisy rings and frivolous things (i am deliriously in love with you) by gabstar: bokuaka one shot that I am OBSESSED with, the way their relationship speed runs is my favorite aspect of this fic because its exactly what i imagine their relationship doing

Similar Creatures by h_lovely: iwaoi Pretty Woman au that's soooooo good, i really liked how their relationship developed and grew throughout the fic, nsfw all over this fic

Kiss Me (Like You Wanna Be Loved) by kazzydolyn: bokuaka friends w benefits fic where they fall in love with each other at the same time but akaashi doesn't know what to do about it, nsfw

Guiding Stars by daedalust: hiruhoshi fic that y'all will devour once we get more of hoshiumi and hirugami in the anime, they have one of my fav friendships in the series, hirugami is enamored with hoshiumi who asks for dating advice

Behind Bricks by DeathBelle: bokuaka au where akaashi is a sex worker and they become friends but bokuto falls in love with him instantly, a lot of nsfw obviously

Hard Times by mooifyourecows: daisuga au where olympian daichi pays con artist suga to be his fake fiance during a cruise, my FAVORITE daisuga fic ever, i was chomping at the bit for each update, nsfw in later chapters

Valor with Honor, Fealty with Love by radiantradish: daisuga medieval knight au, they slowly fall in love as rivals and it's suuuper cute yet angsty, mild nsfw in later chapters

In the Armpits of Spring by Paintbrushyy_Ducky98: iwaoi au where they meet in high school and oikawa confesses to iwaizumi before they ever really meet, iwaizumi's growing curiosity about oikawa is soooooo cute their relationship is developed really well

The Space Between Stars by leuralo_l: bokuaka fic where everyone but bokuto knows that akaashi is in love with him, I was so impressed with this fic especially since the author said it was their first fic pls give it a read!!!!!!

wait (I'm on my way) by viverella: sunaosa fic where they're both oblivious to each other's affections and are quietly pining, their relationship is super cute and adorable

Close to the Chest by darkmagicalgirl: kyouhaba fic where they bicker but slowly fall for each other during high school along with background iwaoi, i loved this fic it was so good, some mentioned and blatant homophobia

beautiful monsters by gravitates: ushiten fic with slight angst but damn did it make me feel emotional, ushijima is so soft and tender and loving to tendou, another one of my favs

Cool, detached, casual by fluorophoring: kuroken fic where they try to have casual sex but it doesn't really work and they both spiral lol, nsfw

Breakers by ftld: sunaosa 90s au, god I LOVED this fic and how obvious of a simp osamu is, it's sooooo good, some mentioned/blatant homophobia

Special Relativity and Years by buttonstuck: mega angsty iwaoi fics with the second being an alternate ending of the first fic that has a sad, bittersweet ending that made me cry harder than I have in YEARS, some mild nsfw in the first fic

your whole life on your play by emleewrites: kagehina proposal fic that goes exactly how i picture it would go in canon

make up your mind by sketchedsmiles: sunaosa fake dating au where osamu asks suna to be his fake bf in order to one up atsumu who's dating sakusa, i absolutely loved this fic lol

Jujutsu Kaisen

Caesura by cielelyse: suuuuuuch a good rivals to friends to lovers satosugu fic about their first year in jujutsu high together and the mission that made them friends, probably my fav jjk fic ever

And every day, it's changed since then. by BotanicalBites: inuokka college au where yuuta is an artist trying to escape from his growing fame in the country and meets farmer inumaki

What Instinct Can't Teach by kiyokosturtle: chosoyuki and it's sooooo good how to author develops their relationship before the smut lol, nsfw in the last chapter

The Long Con by lyrebirdswrites: an itafushi no curses au that isn't finished yet but is soooooo good, this fic is currently being plagiarized by another author so it's on hiatus for now but I'm hoping the original author gets everything worked out!!!!

Bungo Stray Dogs

where your loyalties lie by writingfromtheshadows: soukoku yakuza au, this is by far the best bsd fic i've read so far, their relationship is just so believable and their characters are wonderful, nsfw

the art of burning bridges by sanguinekitten: soukoku fic from chuuya's perspective about different times in their lives together, it's so good

i think he knows by sanguinekitten: soukoku 5+1 fic where dazai knows that chuuya loves him but the latter refuses to admit it

Threats Made in a Hotel Room by moonrice (moonyeyes): soukoku fic where dazai pisses of chuuya so much they start making out

A Lesson in Thorns by arkastadt: soukoku beast au fic where they're in an arranged marriage and slowly fall in love, similar premise to where your loyalties lie but an entirely different plot, I still have ten chapters left but I'm really enjoying it so far, nsfw

Miscellaneous

i'll be your biggest kept secret and your biggest mistake by sascake: mha tododeku fic that I instantly fell in love with, the way the author writes both of them is so well done, not finished yet, mild nsfw mention

sore must be the storm by Pouler (poulerslashes): mha tododeku fic where they're trapped in a collapsing building and they have a deep talk about their lives

Until my Feet Bleed and My Heart Aches by Reiya: yoi viktuuri au fic that I binged like crazy, yuuri and viktor's first interaction goes differently and yuuri is determined to hate viktor, nsfw in later chapters

seraph's nest by phile: csm akiangel fic where they slowly become friends and fall in love with each other over the course of the manga's plot

#can you tell i have a bias for hq #haikyuu!! #jjk #bsd #fic recs #jinx talks #jinx reads #iwaoi #bokuaka #satosugu #sakuatsu #daisuga #asanoya #kyouhaba #akiangel #viktuuri #tododeku #soukoku #itafushi #chosoyuki #sunaosa #kagehina #ushiten #hiruhoshi #kuroken #tsukkiyama

[hyakunana]

Daily Hotel Krat: Lying in the cold hard ground

#Lies of P #lop #pinocchio #gemini lop #neowiz #fanart #comics #i think i deserve being beaten by all the bosses some dozen times after that title #but real talk all the disc songs in this game are a++++ #my fav one is quixotic tho but i may be bias bc i like fox #and those are all daily hotel krat ideas i had so far jhgfds #still have some couple lop ideas to work on but i'll tune back to d2 #worked on those during my trip while i still had some free time before getting work to do #now we prob back to our normal schedule

[usereddie]

also i know people are assuming tommy is the same age as lou (39) but that would mean he was 18 in chimney begins which seems silly and impossible.

also sorry for spamming you ik we don’t know each other i’m just super high thinking about him

he COULD be lou’s actual age (39) if we assume he was 20 in 2005 during chimney begins. he would’ve probably gone straight into the academy after high school and finished his probationary year by 19 which means by the time chim joined he would’ve been relatively new to the station but already part of the crew.

which, honestly, is a headcanon i can get behind. tommy was a bystander and ignored a lot of the shit that was going on in the firehouse under captain gerrard. knowing now that he’s gay, if he was 20 and just barely out of his probie year, it makes his behavior way more understandable and also makes the shift in it after gerrard leaves and bobby comes in a lot more honest and just a little heartbreaking. (especially now that we know tommy is jealous of how the 118 is a family. he was a kid looking to belong, too.)

tommy being 39/40 now would make him barely an adult when we first saw him. and the layers to that are incredible. the tommy we knew before s7 was kind of a douchebag and we had basically nothing on him at all. knowing that tommy must’ve been a 20 year old gay kid who joined the academy fresh out of high school just trying to fit in and not get harassed by his boss and his coworkers?

like, it doesn’t excuse the behavior, but it explains a lot.

so personally i’m a fan of the idea that tommy is lou’s age………..buuuuut i’m also never opposed to an age gap ;)

#also dw about spamming me lol!!!! sometimes i don’t answer cuz i don’t feel like talking/am overwhelimg but it never bothers me :) #bia gets mail #911 abc #tommy kinard #safeashousepdf

[crystallizsch]

pov you approach the cool kids table

#they are cool in my heart #don't worry they're nice #they're not talking shit #at least kalim isn't #[— #twisted wonderland #twst #twst art #scarabia #jamil viper #kalim al asim #twst yuu #★'-my-art #☆'-comic #(💜) yuusha #(💜) scarabiyuu #—] #i have a bias for scarabia is it that obvious yet

[oraclekleo]

Also my bias is Sana! The S on LS stands for Sana 💛 since I'm not using tumblr app unfortunately i couldn't send pics :( tell us about your multiple biases and what attracted you to them <3 -LS

Are you sure, you want to know my biases? 😂

There are many of them.

You can find them all neatly sorted in a chart.

Kleo's Biases

Apart from being kpop fan and tea addict and tarot reader, Kleo is obsessed with structure and loves Excel or Google Sheets. 😍

Kleo 🦄

#oracle kleo #bias talk

[aropride]

*neurotypical meaning "typical neurological development or functioning". i.e. not neurodivergent, i.e. someone who doesn't have autism/ocd/schizophrenia/an intellectual disability/tourettes/a personality disorder/social anxiety/dyslexia/bipolar etc etc you get the picture i'm just listing off disorders atp. yes self dx'd or questioning/researching is fine i love you 👍

#text #yeah sample bias blah blah blah #polls #if anyone comes in my notes lke 'actually [whatever] isnt neurodivergent' i will throw rocks at u the whole point of neurodivergent #is its an umbrella that covers a lot of different stuff #neurodivergent #i feel like i need a tag for more neurotypical people to see this but i dont thinkn they browse hashtag neurotypical uhhh #sudden loud noises #awkward small talk #uncomfortable clothing #<- they love those things right ?

[saunterdownwards]

hsr as more text posts I have saved on my phone—

#*looks at all the blade ones* haha bias?? idk what you’re talking about #you can put Jingliu and Dan Heng in a boat together but Jingliu will kill Blade and Blade will kill Dan Heng #choose wisely #bladeposting #text posts #Honkai #Honkai Star Rail #HSR #blade #welt yang #caelus #Stelle #Argenti #jing yuan #my post

[linktoo-doodles]

limited life doodles

#limited life #grian #goodtimeswithscar #desertduo #life series #my art #Linktoo art #sorry for the bias... I knkow they dont even really talk in this series

[mortispoxi]

Seeing Twitter users recommending the People Make Games documentary as a good way to get insight on the issue is so….

I know, I’m always extremely disappointed whenever I come across someone who thinks it’s the end all be all explanations regarding the Studio ZA/UM situation.

Recommending that video always comes with a heavy caveat from me that the person needs to stop around the 40 minute mark since the interviewer shows a very clear bias that’s unbecoming of a journalist.

Regardless, now that more people are finding out about these layoffs, which might take out members of the studio that have been there since the beginning, it could finally help smack some sense into those Twitter users that actually thought, FOR SOME REASON, Rostov, Kurvitz, and Hindpere were lying for shits and giggles rather than seeing what's ACTUALLY going on which is that the investors have a very obvious agenda against the real wronged party. Hopefully this'll also open their eyes to how the People Make Games video fed into this twisted narrative that Kurvitz was somehow at fault/responsible for the theft of his own IP, but that might be asking too much from their concrete brains. Here's hoping though!

#disco elysium #studio za/um #za/um #people make games #and I’m not even getting into Bratt’s response to the criticism he got #this man deleted so many YouTube comments that pointed out the inconsistencies and bias #it’s such a reddit conspiracy theory but at the time I briefly thought Kompus paid him off to push the narrative in his favor #now I’ve talked about this before in a post from almost a year ago #but i truly believe Bratt’s heart was initially in the right place but let his anger cloud his judgement #after kurvitz rightfully denied him a way to wrap up his video in a neat little bow cause he knew the studio would use his words against hi #something in Bratt must've snapped cause all the blame got pushed on Kurvitz for no reason other than he felt slighted by his response #it's kinda tainted PMG's work for me b/c moving forward I'll have doubt if the story truly is being accurately reported #my response #mp

[tishawish]

sketch page i did a couple months ago to practice drawing prompto

#prompto argentum #ffxv #final fantasy xv #noctis lucis caelum #ignis scientia #gladiolus amicitia #tish arts #fanart: ffxv #i don't have a bias idk what you're talking about #someone tell me what the chocobros ship name is!!! is it just chocobros? #chocobrot4??

[simplepotatofarmer]

if there was merch for different server members on the dsmp, c!dream absolutely owns c!techno merch.

#this isn't even my bias talking we all know it's true #loyal talks about stuff and things #dreblr #rivalsblr #technoblade #dreamwastaken #c!dream #c!techno #dsmp shitpost

[strayklds]

HAN ✼ [INTRO] GO生

#han jisung #bystay #forhanji #stray kids #createskz #kpopedit #adriblr #meltracks #usersa #userlau #kirberries #skyehi #intro:han #mygifs #i love when he talks w his hands <3 #<- im down bad #jisung #bias