#bibliotherapy

[justabunchofquotesfromallover]

"In addition to the process of mourning and self-forgiveness, another aspect of self-compassion I emphasize is in the energy that's behind whatever action we take. When I advise, "Don't do anything that isn't play!" some take me to be radical, even insane. I earnestly believe, however, that an important form of self-compassion is to make choices motivated purely by our desire to contribute to life rather than out of fear, guilt, shame, duty, or obligation. When we are conscious of the life-enriching purpose behind an action we take, when the sole energy that motivates us is simply to make life wonderful for others and ourselves, then even hard work has an element of play in it. Correspondingly, an otherwise joyful activity performed out of obligation, duty, fear, guilt, or shame will lose its joy and eventually engender resistance."

--Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD, "Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life"

#nonviolent communication #communication #quotes #bibliotherapy #psychology #self-compassion #healing #recovery #mental health

[arcane-trail]

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#academia #dark academia #dark academic aesthetic #bibliotherapy #bibliophile #bibliomancy #books #library #academic #victorian #gothic #goth aesthetic #gothic aesthetic #witchy #book of shadows

[hob-badaf]

bibliophilia (n.) the love of books

#bibliomania #bibliotherapy #bibliolifestyle #bibliophile #books & libraries #book aesthetic #book academia #booklr #librarylife

[dilcetto]

rejection is so hard to bear.

you think it’s fine, not a big deal.

but you kept coming to that thought, to that memory, to that feeling that makes you feel disgusted towards yourself, with no particular reason too!

You say “they don’t like me, it’s fine”.

No it’s not fine. Your feelings, your pride, your confidence gets hurt and the worst thing is you keep coming back to that pain. Again and again.

It’s always there. In the back of your mind.

The crumbs of self-love are crushed into more pieces.

The love that you’ve been protecting, slowly growing, was again broken.

rejection is hard to bear, and recovery is slow too.

But you will recover. You will get the affection that you deserve. You will get someone who will protect your self-love as if it was the most valuable asset in the whole universe.

#dark academia #chaotic academia #romantic academia #writing #light academia #reading #bibliotherapy #quotes #love writing

[jan-dyntera]

Advantage come to the studio.

Jan Dyntera: Lost in post covidion

#bibliotherapy #bookcase #advantage #jan dyntera #studio #dynternet #prague #photography #artists on tumblr #contemporary #exhibition #screenferno #lost connection #covidmemes #contemporaryart #artist #screen #art #artnerd #graphic art #glitch #books & libraries #library #librimania #libra #lightandshadow

[katyvs]

reading books isn’t enough, i need to get a papercut on my brain

#reading #books #booklr #bibliotherapy #ya books #fantasy books #romance books #bookwitch #🔖

[scenetherapy]

#library #dark academia aesthetic #dark academism #dark academia #academia aesthetic #bookish #literature #bibliotherapy #reading room #biblophile

[avpdrecovery]

bibliotheraphy part 1.

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker

Ostracism, Exclusion, and Rejection by Kipling D. Williams and Steve A. Nida

Treating Adult Survivors of Childhood Emotional Abuse and Neglect by Elizabeth K. Hopper et al

Trauma And Recovery by Judith L. Herman

No Bad Parts by Richard C. Schwartz

The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk

#media i shared #bibliotherapy #books

[joomju]

Bibliotherapy

I have a job, with like, benefits and stuff. These are the two books I’m currently working through in therapy. Maybe they’ll help you. Maybe you don’t need them, because you’re in a better place :)

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/23129659-adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay C Gibson, PsyD

“Natalie, fifty, an award-winning business consultant, was an emotionally neglected child who created a rewarding adult life for herself both personally and professionally... In her family life, Natalie still takes care of her elderly mother, who lives with Natalie and her husband and kids. But no matter how much Natalie does, her mother still complains that Natalie has never loved her or helped her enough. Since childhood, Natalie has felt the responsibility of her mother’s emotional state.” 

I was reading the intro to this book and I thought “this isn’t really for me” until I got to that bit about Natalie. 

I like this book because it describes behaviours. It doesn’t say “your mother was dealing with anxiety” which, while it may be true, doesn’t really help me know what I can do about the situation. This book clearly describes “your parent may have been reactive, attacking, and demeaning” and how that impacts a child growing up in that environment. It’s helped me make sense of a lot of my past, and present, and set more realistic expectations of the future. It’s helping me learn how to take care of myself in ways my parents never could. 

https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/45894143

Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection, Deb Dana

This book is written for therapists, not for patients. It’s filled with practical exercises designed to help therapy patients identify what their central nervous system is doing, so they can adjust accordingly. Before this book, I would sometimes recognize when I felt psychologically safe. Now, with this book, I am cultivating my own psychological safety, and I no longer need an external parent-type figure in my life to provide it for me. (Of course connecting with others is nice! But I’m building my own resources internally now.) These exercises are helping me build a lifestyle that is fueled by joy-energy instead of stress-energy. 

The language is very technical. Part of the therapist’s job when working through these with a client is to help the client put these dry terms into words and phrases that have personal meaning to the them. I’m writing lots of notes in my own words. No one is going to be testing me on these :) 

Whatever you’re up to, I hope it’s going well for you. 

#therapy #bibliotherapy #the reading list

[sinisterexaggerator]

I learned about something new....

Bibliotherapy

The use of books selected on the basis of content in a planned reading program designed to facilitate the recovery of patients suffering from mental illness or emotional disturbance. Ideally, the process occurs in three phases: personal identification of the reader with a particular character in the recommended work, resulting in psychological catharsis, which leads to rational insight concerning the relevance of the solution suggested in the text to the reader's own experience. Assistance of a trained psychotherapist is advised." --bibliotherapy in ODLIS, Online Dictionary for Library and Information Science.

In 1966, the Association of Hospital and Institution Libraries, then a division of the American Library Association, issued a statement on nomenclature accepting the following definition:

Bibliotherapy: The use of selected reading materials as therapeutic adjuvants in medicine and psychiatry; also guidance in the solution of personal problems through directed reading. (AHIL Quarterly, Summer 1966, p. 18.)

That is ... so ... cool.

#personal #library science #librarians #ala #bibliotherapy

[theimpalatales]

Books have always been a place of safety for me, and I think many of us here on Tumblr have retreated into the safety of stories at one point or another in our lives.

You may have noticed that stories and mental health are among my personal interests. A few years ago, I got in touch with the founder of charity stem4 to find out more about the link between them. As the founder of a charity supporting teenagers and their families with issues around mental health, Dr Nihara Krause's insight was invaluable.

Read the full article to find out more, but something I took away from the interview was the importance of giving ourselves space to process and deal with the issues we are faced with. If you're reading a book with a character you relate to, this can be a great way of giving yourself the necessary time and space to begin to process your emotions and situation. Equally, if you're writing a book that tackles such topics, not only are you providing respite for your future readers, but you are also giving yourself a creative outlet for your emotions. Being able to express yourself creatively is a fantastic tool. As Dr Nihara Krause says: use the gifts you have.

#bibliotherapy #world suicide prevention day #mental health #bookblr #reading #writing #writerblr #stem4 #writing advice #writers on tumblr #blogger #blog post #resource #resources #tbe

[justabunchofquotesfromallover]

"The additional expectations of young autistic women in terms of social ability, self-care, education and independence may lead to more visible mental health difficulties during this time. Peer rejection and loneliness lead more autistic females to be referred for professional support than autistic male counterparts (Tierney et al., 2016). They may develop obvious signs of anxiety, self-harm or eating disorders, which may not be linked with autism by professionals as this may not have been diagnosed yet. Some of these behaviours can be incorrectly attributed simply to puberty and treated in a way that does not address the underlying stress involved in living as an autistic person in a non-autistic social world."

--Sarah Hendrickx, PhD, "Women and Girls on the Autism Spectrum: Understanding Life Experiences from Early Childhood to Old Age", Second Edition

#tw: self-harm mention #tw: eating disorder mention #autism #autistic women #psychology #late diagnosis #late diagnosed autistic #actually autistic #Sarah Hendrickx #Women and Girls on the Autism Spectrum #quotes #bibliotherapy

[arcane-trail]

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[re--laaaaaxer]

A moment of calm before the storm.

#currently reading #personal #books #bibliophile #bibliotherapy

[dilcetto]

I won’t say “I love you” first. Never. I won’t allow myself to do that.

I said those words before, and I said them first.

I remember what joy I felt, slowly pronouncing those sweet words. The happy relief and excitement I experienced the moment the sound of my own voice hit my ears.

I was sincere. I was vulnerable.

However instant regret fell on me, when I realised that … they didn’t feel the same way as I did.

Not even close. Not even a little bit.

They said those words back to me as a social obligation. As if they sneezed and I said “bless you”, so they’d have to say thank you.

To be polite.

They didn’t hold the same value of those sacred words as I did.

Or unless they did, but those words from their lips weren’t meant for me.

The did love my love to them. They loved my “good morning” and “good night” texts that I sent every single day like I’d die if I didn’t send them. They loved how my face was lifting every time I saw them. They loved how I cared for them. Listened to them. Worried about them, so sometimes they’d play a victim just to get my attention and sympathy.

They loved how they made me feel. How my mood was dependent on their mood. How a simple act of affection from them would send me to the moon.

I got tired of that. I got tired of being stuck in this unfair transaction.

I deserve to be loved. Genuinely. Passionately. As if they can’t imagine their life without me.

Because I know that I can give the same.

Yes, I won’t say “I love you” first.

I will wait until the right person wins me over. I will wait until I am secure to say those words. Until I am sure that they deserve to be loved by me.

When the right person comes, I will finally say those words. And I promise will keep saying them as long as they say them to me. Forever.

#dark academia #chaotic academia #romantic academia #writing #light academia #reading #bibliotherapy #quotes #love writing #i love you #writers on tumblr #love prose

[jan-dyntera]

Advantage come to the studio again.

Jan Dyntera: Gabriel’s first christmas

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