a. gay couples have at least one bisexual in them 90% of the time
b. we basically never see bi people depicted in straight relationships
i’m all for good bi representation, but this is just not true to life. in reality like 90% of bi people in relationships have a partner of the opposite sex (and that number is even higher in homophobic places, path of least resistence and all that). obviously there are bi people in same sex relationships too, and stories like that deserve to be told, but it feels like every single gay love story told has at least one partner who is attracted to the opposite sex. meanwhile straight relationships are almost always about two hets. i actually think that this contributes to the insane trend of “let bi women love men!”. nobody is stopping or discouraging them from doing that, but it’s true that most bi people in media end up in gay relationships.
i think this is mostly straight (and some bi) writers being unable to write a gay relationship without the characters having attraction to the opposite sex and having had a straight relationships in the past, while complete heterosexuality is seen as the default in all other instances. i would just like to see more bi people appear in fiction without there having to be a “reason” for it, and i would like to see more exclusively gay characters, because it is a unique experience that deserves to be represented.
Someone asked me the other day, which positions I liked. It was a black guy that I am going to fuck soon, and I liked him showing that he was bothered to discover my pleasure preferences. Then yesterday a woman that I may or may not fuck in the future (we are still figuring it out as it is not really her thing, she is just curious, and I tend to avoid bi-curious women as I prefer bi-keen women) asked me the same thing. So I thought I had better have a slightly more reasoned think about it.
I like all 4s because I can see my husband and suck him off easily. In the past I enjoyed a good pounding because it felt good and was good to photograph and video. But it can become monotonous. So it is probably my favourite position to be unfaithful in, as it is so obviously wantonly invitational, but it is facially disconnected and could be just anyone pounding away back there, so I need a variety of other positions to support it and prevent every fuck feeling the same.
I like lying on my side whilst sucking off a lover because my husband can enter me from behind and get a great view of me sucking another man ( he loves that). We tend to do it slowly and gently do as not to interfere with my sucking rhythm and to let him have a protracted view of how much I love giving pleasure to other men through sucking them off. I reeeeally love sucking cock and to do it in front of my husband is so exciting.
I like riding because he loves to see me work hard. It is probably not a personal favourite of mine but I do it solely because I am good at it and he likes to see me work hard to push men over the edge like that. And because if makes me cum repeatedly very rapidly!
Unknown Source / Samson, Regina Spektor / Percy Jackson and The Sea of Monsters (2006), Rick Riordan / Open House (1998) / Heartstopper by Alice Oseman / Boy Bi, Mad Tsai / Chanel, Frank Ocean / Heartstopper by Alice Oseman/ Little Dark Age, MGMT
I dont really care if you use the term bisexual or pansexual, but what i DO care about is that you understand that bisexuality at NO stage in history was EVER trans-exclusionary. Bisexuality has always included trans folks, and non-binary folks, and the entire spectrum of gender between male and female, as well as Definitively Gender and agender. It has ALWAYS meant "attraction to more than one gender." It has NEVER meant "attraction to cis men and women only."
So, pan, bi, use whichever label you will. But do NOT buy into the recent-years innacurate concept that bisexuality is attraction to cis men and women only, because thats literally never been the case.
‘I’m a woman-leaning bisexual and you know what pisses me off? The fact that I’m dating a skinny white man and I love him and I’m happy, like what the fuck.’
And I just have to say. What pisses me off as a bisexual woman is that TikTok.
This is the Woke version of ‘my wife is the ol’ ball and chain, doesn’t it suck to be married,’ jokes. It’s not funny. Your queerness is not negated or tarnished by opposite-gender attraction, dating men isn’t inherently worse than dating women.
Friendly reminder that tomorrow is the first day of pride month and if I see any biphobia, I will throw hands
This includes, but is not limited to:
saying that bisexuality excludes trans/nonbinary people (it doesn't)
saying that bisexuality is too binary (it isn't)
saying that bisexuality is outdated (again, it isn't)
saying/implying that bisexuals only care about gender rather than personality (which is gross and untrue)
derailing conversations on biphobia and its effects
excluding bisexuals from mlm and wlw spaces/discussions
speaking over bisexuals in conversations on the issues we face
refusing to listen to bisexuals if we say something is biphobic
ignoring bisexual history and activism
ignoring the present contributions of bisexuals to LGBTQ culture
making demeaning jokes about bisexuals or jokes that rely on negative stereotypes
stereotyping bisexuals in general
viewing bisexuals as 'half-straight'/'lesser' members of the LGBTQ community
and finally, speaking over bisexuals about the very definition of bisexuality
yes this includes saying things like 'that sounds more like [other sexuality]' or 'if you define your attraction that way you're [other sexuality] instead' in response to a bisexual person describing how they define their orientation for themself