#blaming others

[you-need-not-apply]

TW sh

Daily reminder that if someone cuts “because of you” unless you told them to cut/harm or in otherwise SH themselves or belittle/insult them to a point where they broke down… it’s not your fault

#tw cut #tw self harm #tw #tw sh #sh #cut #self harm #vent #rant #blaming others

[gravehop187]

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#blaming others #Vent #mental health

[wordsofwisdomandsoul]

#thich nhat hanh #blaming others #no arguments #no blame #understanding #quotes #words #life lessons #wisdom #inspirational words #philosophy of life #life quotes #growth #healing #self knowledge #better world

[call-it-living]

why does self-pity and victimizing myself feel so good? Like, I’m fucking mad at everyone who treated me like shit. Pissed, actually. Like, fuck them all. But realistically I know we are all human and I’ve made plenty of similar mistakes and done shitty things to people, too. Yet my brain feeds on this blame. It loves when I recognize that I’m a victim of my life, of others’ actions. I feel disgusting for it. But I don’t want to. I just want to let myself blame others for once. Because seriously, I had some fucked up relationships in my life and I let these people get away with a lot of shitty things for different reasons.

#text: tp #text: feelings #text: ramble #victimization #self pity #blaming others #anger #grief #recovery #trauma

[storm-called]

the pain of having the Soo-Won down to 1% health in the DE meta and the timer runs out as soon as the killing blow lands

#rook rambles #cause it seems like the timer actually runs a little fast #as in it is farther ahead than it actually reads #but the absolute pain that this has happened to me twice #not to stir an old pot but what the fuck #and the worst part was people started raging in map chat #blaming others #which always gets me more heated than actually losing the fight

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

Of the 19 hijackers who carried out the Sept 11 attacks:

15 were from Saudi Arabia (a powerful/oil-rich country the U.S. works hard to maintain diplomatic relations with)

2 were from the United Arab Emirates (also a powerful/oil-rich country the U.S. works hard to maintain diplomatic relations with)

1 was from Egypt, 1 from Lebanon.

None of the hijackers were from Iraq.

None of the Sept 11 hijackers were Iraqi.

None of the 9/11 hijackers were from Iraq.

#9/11 #serious post #not a shitpost #this should be one of the first things kids learn when they learn about the 9/11 attacks #politics #this is just...it's such an essential and brazen fact and i rarely see basic outrage over it #i want outrage. i want fury. i want disgust over the way fundamental facts are disguised and discarded and downplayed #because there are things we should KNOW. basic fact we should ALL KNOW. and they are tucked away in the footnotes. #and no this is NOT to put the blame on other middle eastern countries #we know this was carried out by a specific terrorist organization not a national government #but King George the Second decided (and was encouraged by his cabinet!) to invade a nation! #a nation that was not at all related or responsible!!! #a dictatorship to be sure--but a dictatorship that King George the First had been happy to support #so what changed? why did we go in guns blazing to DEMOLISH a country *we had NO PLANS OF REPAIRING*??? #well. because they wanted a villain didn't they. a nice clean war. clarity of purpose. us the heroes against them the villains #and when you're in that mindframe--truth is irrelevant. you can pick your villain (your victim) by rolling a roulette wheel #truth is irrelevant #worse: to the people in charge #truth is a HINDRANCE #'Alternative facts' existed long before it became a catchphrase #facts don't matter. truth doesn't matter. the impulses of a handful of volatile & rich & power-high people--that's History. congratulations

[gideonisms]

I LOVE being alive so I can be mediocre at SO many different hobbies

#this isn't sarcasm at all i love to try different tasks i get mediocre at a new thing every year #i love to learn about other people's hobbies!! #i am having a great time #there are so many things to do who can blame me for getting distracted from life tasks that are boring when there are all these fun ones

[uncanny-tranny]

Fat people deserve mobility aids, too. No matter if it's connected to their fatness or not, because having a mobility issue that is connected to one's fatness won't change that they're still fat and still have the issue at hand. Fat people don't deserve to "tough it out" because fatness should be this divine punishment doled out to those who "deserve" it. Fat disabled people deserve to have the peace of mind that they can exist in whatever way is most comfortable and accessible to them

#disability #ableism #ableism tw #fatphobia #fatphobia tw #also if it's an issue solved by weight loss why would you want them to suffer until the weight loss helps wouldn't that DISCOURAGE them? #because if i were suffering the entire time i sure as fuck wouldn't want to keep going for the ~idea~ of it's gonna pay off!!! #also even if they 'made themself disabled' by being fat or anything else that doesn't matter. they're still disabled. #there is no 'good' disabled and 'bad' disabled and you cannot sort people into those categories #for every 'bad' fat disabled person there are multiple 'good' fat disabled people but you can't tell them apart often actually! #because you would have to know the intimate details of their medical history and familial lineage and tbh if you're... #...being a piece of shit to a disabled person because you assume they're guilty until proven innocent i don't blame others for being... #...weary of you and not wanting to be around you. because you've already proven you can't handle the IDEA of complex disabled experience

[alifeofyes]

#self-improvement #blaming others #you can

[s100031]

Other-blaming occurs when you blame others or hold other people responsible for things done to you that they may have little or no control over.

A person who other-blames may view certain negative situations as entirely the fault of others and overlook ways in which they may have contributed to the problem.

This type of cognitive distortion can also co-occur with a "should" statement. Instead of self-directed should statements, these would be statements that encompass how you believe others should be behaving.

It is common for other-blaming to trigger feelings of anger, resentment, and conflict in relationships.

Perhaps your knee-jerk reaction is to place all the blame on someone else and view yourself as a victim.

Remember that no scenario is truly black and white, especially when there are multiple parties involved.

Other-blaming is one side of a double-edged distortion.

Examples; It was all his fault. He should have never done that. If she hadn't said that then this would have never happened. He should have known better. It is her fault for not being more careful. This only happened because of what they did.

Tip: Try pretending that the person you're blaming is a close friend (or your mom) and try to be more empathetic.

Break It Down

Situation: Someone knocked over a glass bottle.

Automatic Thought: She should have been more careful and she wouldn't have knocked over that bottle.

Challenge It: Everyone is clumsy sometimes. I have knocked things over before.

Reframe: She did not knock it over on purpose. It was an accident that anyone could have made.

September 21 ‘23

22:54 p.m.

#s131960.tumblr.com #27 #blaming others #highlight queen

[moncuries]

clearly my idea of these two just revolves around longing and diplomacy

#as u can see every time i draw them niasdkj #see if u can find all the easter eggs in this one #im watching a lot of palace cdramas rn so u can blame that for the bg #zuko #sokka #zukka #atla #fanart #my art #questionable bowl of red and blue substances #i think u can tell on some parts i was like ah yes... i give up #most of zukos outfit for instance #sokkas one sleeve on the other hand ir lly.. anyway

[thebibliosphere]

I feel like I've complained about Tim's email situation in Gotham Knights before (edit: I have), but the truth of it is just so funny.

He's signed up for so many podcasts, video game streamers, and random news alerts; it's just a constant barrage of data going straight into his constantly whirring brain. Hell, he even floats the idea of the Batfamily having their own podcast as a way to correct misinformation about them (which Jason shoots down instantly), and it's made me realize something.

Timothy Drake would be a YouTuber.

In this universe specifically, Timothy Jackson Drake, the heir to Drake Industries and the foster son of the late Bruce Wayne would be a YouTuber.

Think about it. It'd be the perfect cover. Who would ever suspect that some 16-year-old nepo baby with a YouTube channel could ever be Red Robin? You'd have to be mad. I mean, look at him.

Red Robin just dropped out of literal thin air and garotted someone four times his size, and you expect anyone to believe that's the same kid who does 24-hour Minecraft charity streams and occasionally drops 6-hour video essays (his last one was on Lex Luthor's illegal bit mining operation on the moon)?

That kid?

You think that kid is Red Robin?

Ch'yah, okay, sure. And the Joker is funny 🤡.

#gotham knights game #I'm now incorporating this into all my Tim headcanons across the multiverse #twice a week as part of maintaining his Normal Teenager Identity #he streams random shit on YouTube/Twitch #he's got the full gamer set up in the background #LED lights around the ceiling and walls #rainbow keyboard/headset #mini fridge filled with Monster Energy Drinks #(other streamers have 'take a shot' prompts in chat. his audience has 'drink water before you die') #whenever he hosts a charity stream Bruce makes an appearance in chat via the official Wayne Enterprises account #and promises to match whatever they raise #and then hangs about for a bit to cheer Tim on #he's the epitome of 'are ya winning son?' meme #meanwhile off screen #Tim's keeping an eye on a seperate monitor #and helping Babs run remote ops #if his stream suddenly dies (which is does fairly often) he blames it on the Manor having shitty wifi #and that tracks #it's an old house #it's probably FILLED with lead and dead signal spots #in reality Tim killed the stream because Red Robin is needed #and no one will ever know

[lisablack000]

A strong woman knows who she is. She is sensitive, not fragile. She doesn't project blame onto others, she doesn't need a scapegoat and she definitely doesn't play the victim. A strong woman will teach you how to treat her - not be reactive and manipulative. She understands that she is 100% responsibile for how she thinks, feels & acts. Always a warrior, never a victim.

#Warrior #Warrior Woman #Love #Strength #Courage #Honesty #Integrity #Victim Mentality #Scapegoating #Blaming Others #Weak Woman Are Reactive #Strong Women Respond #Know Thyself

[camembri]

you wanted zoro to be on whole cake island to fulfil your weird desire to see zoro punish sanji. I wanted zoro on whole cake island because I think he's stupid enough to right place wrong time the plan and accidentally marry Sanji in full view of the whole wedding party in what becomes the most elaborately constructed comedy of errors ever written. we are NOT the same.

#need a fic where zoro genuinely does marry sanji on wci without planning it #type of thing to happen to goofy pre ts zoro #zoro in the same mindset in which he created the usopp sword: well i didn't mean to but i guess this solves the immediate problem #and ofc he just rolls with it #they look at each other after the dust settles like. hey wtf was that. and immediately blame each other #pre relationship AND feelings realisation on both sides #dont get me wrong i love fake relationship that becomes real but hear me out #legal accidental relationship thats extremely convenient and also funny until you pavlov yourself into being in love #vinsmoke sanji #black leg sanji #roronoa zoro #zosan #one piece #sanzo #zoro

[kindnessisstillhere]

Conspiracy

Funny how many I hear of,

How many times it's not her fault;

It's the references given,

The plans of someone from years back,

The rules being there to prevent help.

So many freaking conspiracies,

So many ways she's hard done to.

Yet never a flaw in herself.

I don't doubt she's trying,

Can usually see her lying,

But I recognise the biases;

Know how often I've had to help.

What a conspiracy to keep her jobless,

What a plot to destroy her progress.

Only so many times I can hear it

Before I wonder what the otherside is,

What the full story she doesn't share is.

#conspiracy #blaming others #poem #poetry

[cemeterything]

the older and weirder i get the more i'm beginning to realize that i was actually a very cool kid who had no shame or fear until i was taught that i'd be punished for it and everything since then has been a slow uphill battle to get that part of myself back

#🐉 #like man i was so unbullyable until i let myself be bullyable #not blaming myself because i was a kid but fuck i shouldve listened to the girl who told me i needed to stop caring #about what other people thought about me and being so desperate for their attention #she meant it in a horrible way because her point was that i was inherently unlikable and should accept that #but she was technically right she just had the wrong intentions