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bearerofmen · 5 years
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The Intricacies of Vows
How difficult is it to be with a person whose will is iron clad?
Opinions that roll off of their tongue with total disregard as to whether or not you are happy or sad
Mad or Glad
Rain or shine
How hard is it to be with an individual with a spine?
We made promises to be together for better or worse
At times we’ve realized that we should have asked that they go into detail before we repeated that verse
Is it hard to love an ever evolving human who strives for perfection?
When she can’t stick the landing instantly she is eclipsed by depression?
For richer or poorer rolled off our tongues unconscious as to what that really meant
Had we known, would the money we paid for our marriage certificate had been spent?
Daily reminders that love isn’t JUST a four letter word
It’s an incredulous action verb
Monotonous routines that often lack luster
Performed with human inconsistency that will leave a person flustered
How happily ever after is your forever??
We traded our I’s for Us
Left the concepts of other lovers in the dust
As we embarked on this journey of love, friendship, and family
Merging homes, finances all in an attempt to create our own dynasty
Is it what you thought?
Sickness, health, and death don’t show up
I’m not ready to depart!
This dream is not deferred
Our eyes aren’t wide shut
I never ran from a challenge in my life!
Savagely we swing at all the odds
Trickery, life, she blind sides us
Leaving bruises
I offer no excuses
Tag teaming strategically until her will can’t help but bend
I am a warrior sworn to defend
I ask you my King
How hard is it to be with a person who never gives in?
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bearerofmen · 5 years
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THE VIBE TRIBE
It was at least 100 degrees outside. I was hit with the temperature upon exiting the car instantly. My eyes cringed with disbelief of the temperature. As I glanced around, I could have sworn there was a magnifying glass in the sky with a bully behind it laughing cruelly. Louisiana summers are harsh at their inception. Vigorously, I search for my shades because there was no shade and between the light bouncing off the sidewalk, asphalt, and vibrant decorations on the buildings I couldn’t see shit. Just as I adjusted to the shades, I saw someone who is Accounted 4. I was meeting up with The Vibe Tribe at the Bearcat Café. It is a boutique-styled café with hipster sophistication that caters to crowds that enjoy artisanal food with health-conscious vegan options.
I won an entry to partake in a brunch with a few dynamic women from the City of New Orleans. It was a big deal for me. Branching out, stepping out on faith, leaving my comfort zone, and mingle with new people. It is one of my goals for the year. Despite being a pretty social soul, since we have moved to the crescent city I found myself developing into a hermit crab. Before I knew what happened, most weekends were spent relaxing in a ‘moomoo’ with flap jacks hanging loose and free. Rocking the dopest free form hair styles that come from nights of wild sleeping. I felt the wince of a judgey reader. For those of you thinking it, you are correct. Hubby is the real MVP.  All humor aside I have been living in New Orleans for three years now. I am ready to get out and explore the allure of the city. What would it be with out it’s natives? I am not sure because I have always said that its atmosphere comes from the people and their heritage.
No matter the temperature outside, I was met with smiles, warmth personalities, and positive energy. Topics of conversations didn’t disappoint. I was intrigued to hear their outlook on higher education, elitism, and personal wellness. The diverse group of women offered ideas on time management and accountability partnership between girlfriends in terms of goal setting. There was a since of purpose to each woman, which was an interesting friendship quartette.  Purely powerful and posh with positivity and purpose, the four women are self-aware and active motivators to those around them and each other. We discussed current events, things they’re reading and what helped them join a journey of positivity. Most of all, my takeaway was the question they asked. How can we help? I saw the eagerness to be of service to other women. That was nostalgic for me for so many reasons. I have always admired the strength and wisdom of other women. My favorite friends and/or associates are women who lovingly shared their wisdom with me. It has always been women like that in my life who caught me when I needed it. Unbeknownst to me, they have spoken affirmations over my life.  Strong women who gave me encouragement no matter how dramatic ones may get, is not only relatable, but a stage for you to evolve in both attitude and outlook. Gems right.
 There seems to be an art or delicate balance to caring for family, pursing careers and finding a way to aid your community in a meaningful way that only other women can offer support with at times.  I actively surround myself with organizations of women who uplift one another and desire to spread the type of energy necessary to change lives. Flower arrangements come to mind when I think of how women should be united on many things. Bouquets associated with positivity can make a lasting impact on our life. Individually we bloom beautifully. Women well organized and supporting one another is nothing short of breath taking. I am here for The Accounted Four women because motivation can only elevate us all. A group of NOLA darlings to keep your eyes on. I only anticipate great things to continue for them all.
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