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#boundaries
thepeacefulgarden · 3 hours ago
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rhubarbdreams · 14 hours ago
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Yeah, I'm thinking that finding the line between "dumping your feelings on others and expecting them to do the labour" and "asking for support along the way to doing the work yourself" makes a world of difference. Like, some people won't react positively to the latter. But making your issues my problem is 250% not going to help anything. You know?!?
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yenshu · 6 months ago
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Don't allow others to consume you. If they don't call, go to sleep. If they don't message you, put away your phone & have a good day. If they are distant and refuse to tell you what's wrong, go home and do something fun. You live for yourself first. They are secondary.
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thotsfortherapy · 6 months ago
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everyone always talks about setting boundaries with other people, but we need to talk about setting boundaries with yourself. it can be things as simple as, "I'm not going to work past 8 because I need to unwind before bed" or "I'm going to go on a daily walk because it's good for my mental health." But it can also be things like, "I'm not going to talk to this person anymore because it's bad for me" or "I refuse to settle for this because I know my worth." when you learn what is healthy for you and what you want out of this life, embrace it. give yourself guidelines that will help you grow.
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focusedandfearless · 10 months ago
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ed-recovery-affirmations · 2 months ago
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Boundaries for ED recoverers can look like this:
"Please don't talk to me about your diet, diet culture is not good for me."
"If you continue to make comments about my body, I'm going to walk away."
"I know you're trying to be helpful, but hearing about your diet tips is not good for me. I am stating a boundary."
"I know you meant it as a compliment, but please don't focus on my body so much. It makes me feel self-conscious."
"Please don't make comments about what I eat. It makes me feel extremely self-conscious. If you continue to do this, I will not have meals with you in the future."
"You're not my therapist/doctor/nutritionist, so your advice is not relevant or helpful to me."
I might post more as they come to me. Feel free to use these freely and don't worry about offending others. Your health is your priority!
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marigoldwitch · 6 months ago
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Idk what parent needs to hear this but
Your kid’s room is their room. It’s not yours. It’s theirs. It their room. Knock before you enter. Don’t go through their stuff. Ask permission to use their things. I know you feel entitled to the space and the stuff because “it’s your house” or “you bought that bed” (or dresser, or clothes etc.) but you’re not entitled to it. Those are things you’re supposed to provide to your child. If someone gifts you a book it doesn’t mean they can come into your house and read it whenever they want, go through it or take it without asking.
Give your child some privacy please! I’m not saying to let them stay out late, let them lock their doors when they have guest over or, to just never check in on them. I’m saying to knock first. As permission. Let your child have boundaries. Because if you don’t they’ll grow up to be a “yes man.” They’ll grow up not knowing what healthy boundaries are and will be taken advantage of, walked on and abused. Don’t give your child an unnecessary rough start. Don’t be the source of their pain, stress, fear or anxiety.
You’re supposed to be their safe haven. And their room is supposed to be their safe haven. Being home, especially in their own room, shouldn’t be stressful. It should be comfortable. It should be safe.
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c-ptsdrecovery · 4 months ago
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It's okay to dislike being touched. It does not matter if they're your parents, siblings, friends, caretakers, family members, or anyone else. You are allowed to uphold your boundaries.
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bluest-fluff · 4 months ago
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To all the people pleasers, sometimes you can only save yourself and that's okay. You count.
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parasitichoney · a year ago
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Just came across this on Reddit and felt it was important enough to share here.
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thepeacefulgarden · 8 months ago
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lousydrawingsforgoodpeople · 5 months ago
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notabled-noodle · 20 days ago
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actually I do wish more people would just tell me when I do something wrong! it’s usually an accident that happens because I’ve misread the situation
I’ve had far too many friendships disintegrate because the other person never tells me when I do the wrong thing, and then they grow to resent me… despite them never being clear about what went wrong in the first place
the kindest thing you can do for your autistic friends is probably to be clear with them when they cross a line. to tell them kindly and politely what went wrong. to do them the service of communicating with them
because otherwise, how can I possibly know there’s a problem that I need to fix?
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desultory-suggestions · 26 days ago
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I am so proud of you for every time you have practiced asserting your boundaries and saying no. You deserve respect and you deserve compassion.
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positivelyadhd · a month ago
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this post is a reminder that you are allowed to take up space in this world just as much as everyone else is. it does not make you selfish or a bad person to consider your own needs and feelings in how you live your life.
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itsangles · 9 months ago
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If you are easily clouded or overwhelmed, try setting boundaries with yourself first. Be okay to sometimes say no to yourself: no I don’t need to watch this now, no I don’t need to stay up this late, no I don’t need to go to this place, no I don’t need to go out with these people. Say no for you. Saying no to something that doesn’t serve us is saying yes to what does. It allows for something even more amazing to come through for us.
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