Chatting over the DMs and the subject of one sided love came up. I’ve never specifically blogged this pairing. I like pining, so I like this slightly better than a full on enemies-to-lovers narrative.
Top 10 One Sided Crushes in BL
In order of my personal preferences and the seme’s level of obsession. (I prefer it when the seme is the one with the crush for power dynamic reasons.) I only listed BLs where one sided love drives the story, and that crush is the main motivation for the relationship (hence MoD didn’t make the cut).
We Best Love (Taiwan)
Cherry Magic (Japan)
Lovely Writer (Thailand)
Addicted Heroin (China)
Color Rush (Korea)
HIStory 2: Crossing the Line (Taiwan - no real seme/uke dynamic)
Restart after Come Back Home (Japan)
Fish Upon the Sky (Thailand)
I had to have Fish on this list and by rights it should be closer to the top, but it’s in 10th place for reasons of my own moral quandaries around Mork’s behavior. H3: Make Our Days Count should be right up there too (both couples are seme’s with major crushes), but I will never forgive it for hurting me so badly, so I don’t put it on lists.
Enemies-to-lovers does often evolve into one sided crush for a short while as the (usually) seme figures out his feelings have changed - see PeteKao in the Kiss series. But I chose only couples that started out one sided.
Taiwan LOVES one sided love and pining. Almost all of their BLs involve some aspect of this. Vietnam likes it too: Stupid Boys Stupid Love, My Lascivious Boss, and You Are Ma Boy feature seme crushes. Japan and China use it more in dark BL when seme obsession drives the narrative into kidnapping, rape, and the murder gay. It is also pretty common in early live action yaoi like Takumi-kun.
Uke One Sided Crushes
Wish You (although seme/uke isn’t really there in this one)
TharnType 2 (ChampDoc)
My Gear and Your Gown (turns out to be mutual but isn’t filmed that way)
2 Moons & 2 Moons 2
Second Chance (weak seme/uke)
Theory of Love
The piner is *usually* the seme character, and the story will be materially different if the one pining is the uke (because narratively a uke has a different set of actions he can take and must coax rather than pursue). I prefer to see the character with the power (seme) suffer. Partly because if the uke is pining and the seme can’t see that or take care of him, the seme comes off as an idiot or a jerk. That said, ChampDoc is one of my favorite side dishes, and I ADORE Wish You so there are always exceptions.
Mutual Crushing & Pining
There is also the beloved moot pining, where both parties are in deep crush but are separated by circumstances, miscommunication, or stupidity. TulHin and LeoFiat in LBC2 come to mind, also HIStory Obsessed, Be Loved In House: I Do, Where Your Eyes Linger, To My Star, Most Peaceful Place, 1000 Stars, and RamKing in My Engineer.
And finally there’s a baby sub category of censored BL from China featuring *bromance* pining, which is some of the best but very repressed. Since it’s not really depicted we are often not entirely sure who is crushing on whom and when and if that’s motivating their actions or not. Nash. I would include Untamed, Word of Honor, Guardian, Advanced Bravely, Love O2O side dishes, and quite a few others in this category.
Actor Gong Jun is the only one I know who has portrayed both uke and seme with crushes. Very impressive since style and motivation is completely different for the different archetypes.*
* Tay has also done both uke and seme roles, but neither Shin nor Pete are primarily motivated by one sided love.
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