#bpd support

[survivingwithborderline]

borderline personality disorder is known for making it hard for people to manage their emotional reactions. most of us with bpd were punished or shamed as a child for being emotional. our feelings & thoughts were never valid & we never learned how to control our emotions. since we never know what emotions or reactions are correct, we just end up with too much all at once & boil over. we were never able to understand if our feelings were correct in certain situations, which makes things much, MUCH harder.

#mental illness #actually borderline #mentally fucked #bpd #actually bpd #coping #bpd problems #bpd mood #bpd vent #bpd stuff #bpd life #bpd support

[bpdcrybaby213]

We don't need someone to save us. We don't need someone to give us advice. We need someone to sit with us through our pain and not judge us. We need someone to be there for the ugly parts, not just the good parts.

#borderline personality disorder #bpd thoughts #bpd life #actually bpd #bpd stuff #bpd things #bpd struggles #bpd coping #bpd community #bpd support #bpd blog #bpd symptoms #bpd stigma

[nemosopenletters-blog]

I feel so poisonous. Sometimes I swear I can feel the poison snaking through my veins, polluting the air, tainting the water, absorbing into the food... everything I touch feels dirty. Disgusting. Repulsive.

Like me.

#black and white #borderline blog #borderline personality disorder #bpd shit #living with borderline #actually bpd #being borderline #borderline personality traits #borderline things #bpd life #su1cide #su1c1dal #su1c1d3 #bpd support #bpd awareness #bpd stuff #bpd problems #bpd thoughts #bpd blog #bpd feels #bpd things #bpd vent #bpd tag #bpd splitting #bpd rage #bpd mood #bpd #born to die #borderline thoughts #actually borderline

[hellbrainspeaks]

I cannot fucking believe I forgot I own this book (I mean I can but yknow)

I highly recommend it if you can afford the purchase, but I will 10000% end up posting this entire book on my blog overtime. It’s a bit short but gets right to the point. Here’s the contents (apologies for the weird lighting I’m outside)

#treatment mall #mental health positivity #mental health awareness #mental health recovery #mental health support #mental health resources #borderline personality disorder #borderline pd #bpd #bpd traits #living with bpd #living with borderline #actually borderline #actually bpd #bpd support #bpd resources #personality disorders #bpd help #bpd life #being borderline #dbt #dbt therapy #dbt skills

[howlovelyhana]

The borderlined life excerpt nine from my poetry book:

I think of death often. The thought greets me every morning as my eyelids flutter open and kisses me goodnight before I sleep, death meets me where no one else has, in the total abyss of my mind. It tells me to surrender to the peace only it can provide me, and I dance with the idea. What would it feel like to be freed from my mind forever? There is a comfort I know I will never find anywhere else, an alluring sense of serenity I have searched for my whole life. I became death, the way it became me.

#bpd #bpd poetry #tw sui ideation #tw sui implied #bpd diary #bpd help #bpd thoughts #bpd support #bpd awareness #bpd triggers #bpd traits #tw sucidal ideation #tw bpd #tw bpd vent #tw sui talk #tw sui vent #tw self loathing #i hate my brain #bpd stuff

[toadallybpd]

We don’t talk anymore but I’m really glad that you’re doing way better than you used to be❤️I’m glad everything ended up working out for you

this is probably SO old but thank u ily 💖 i'm doing better than i ever have in my entire life tbh. recovery is very possible

#bpd #bpd support #borderline personality disorder #recovery

[typo-aesthetic]

I think these emotions are going to kill me. Not like I'm gonna comit. More like they are so strong that they make me feel like I am dying.

#bpd support #bpd #bpd problems

[mysticmoon02]

Splitting in borderline personality disorder

What is splitting?

To simply put it, splitting is a psychological defense mechanism for a person with BPD.

“Splitting” means seeing a person either as all good (“they are the best partner/friend ever!”) or all bad (“do they even like me/know me at all?! I am so upset I feel like ending this”). The switch from idealization to devaluation.

Splitting allows a person with BPD to tolerate extremely difficult feelings (e.g. rejection, perceived abandonment).

What causes splitting?

Splitting occurs when something happens that triggers a person with BPD. This trigger can seem small or harmless to the average person but usually refers back to previous trauma where the person felt extremely lonely, rejected or abandoned.

People with BPD tend to respond in emotional extremes, any small or negative thing (change in tone of voice,body language or even just taking long to respond to a text/not responding) causes feelings of insecurity and discomfort which can lead to Splitting as a way to emotionally protect themselves from re- experiencing trauma.

Examples of splitting

*you are either “perfect” or “evil”

*something “always” or “never “goes right

*you are “always” or “never” here for me

As people with BPD may even split on themselves and either think they are the worst person ever characterized by extreme self hatred, or they feel they are the most amazing/ intelligent person characterized by the BPD “god complex.”

Symptoms of splitting

Note: a person with BPD often experiences emotional dysregulation, which means they are not able to manage their emotions like someone without BPD. Therefore, when a person with BPD splits they usually act in a way that falls outside of a “normal” response. Please be understanding.

*feelings of disappointment or betrayal

*feeling unloved, insecure, rejected, or abandoned

* becoming angry or withdrawn/isolating themselves by not responding to messages, answering very shortly or uncharacteristically or being argumentative

*they may even become very angry at themselves

*engaging in impulsive/ dangerous activities to manage extreme feelings of anger or sadness

How to help a loved one who is splitting

*don’t become angry, defensive, or ignore them. This will cause the person to split even more. The best thing to do is to recognize when they are splitting and to stay calm.

*setting boundaries are important BUT so is validating and reassuring the person with BPD that you are not abandoning them or rejecting them and letting them know that you still care about them.

*once you reassured them, it is a good idea to suggest that they take some time to calm down before discussing what might upset them.

*through clear and constant communication, you can really help the person with BPD regulate their emotions.

Please note this about splitting!

Splitting is in no way a choice! We do not split to Manipulate or seek attention.

People with BPD experience intense and overwhelming emotions and struggle to intergrate good and bad feeling because they are so big to us.

Splitting is a subconscious mechanism that allows people with BPD to deal with emotions that are contradictory.

#recovery #mental health #quiet bpd #bpd support #bpd facts #bpd recovery #bpd awareness #bpd #actually bpd #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #quiet borderline

[dickssociation]

ok but having bpd (esp quiet bpd which limits the externalization of our stupidly intense emotions) & having a playlist of songs that u can scream along to is one of the most powerful feelings is2g

throw ur hair around & feel all the chills & find solidarity w every mofo who has ever put their angst into music. music reduces cortisol & promotes dopamine production so having ur own lil dance party & moving ur bod while putting away laundry is literally j pumping urself w catharsis juice. being dramatic is fun & cool & good in the music world so u should let urself indulge in that sometimes :*)

#bpd #borderline #quiet bpd #quiet borderline #borderline personality disorder #implosive bpd #actually bpd #actually borderline #bpd support #bpd info #bpd help

[soft-fuzzy-communist]

You just found out your loved one has BPD...what now?

Picture this. You find out someone close to you has BPD, but you’re neurotypical. What should you do? Understand that this person is neurodivergent. It is NOT THEIR FAULT that they have this disorder, and it is not a bad thing, either. They are not an abuser, they are not selfish. (some pwBPD can be, but most are not.) Understand that this person’s thinking process is much different from your own. Set personal boundaries with them. They may need different things. Every person with BPD is different.  I’ve found the closer the pwBPD is to a person, the more likely they are to split on you. Splitting is an episode of black and white thinking, where the pwBPD’s thoughts suddenly shift. They may seem like they love you one minute, to suddenly seeming like they hate your guts. And I promise you, they don’t hate you, but the pattern may be exhausting. BPD is a disorder based off trauma and abandonment. Set a boundary. Tell this person how you feel about it if they explode with rage on you, or if they do something to harm you while splitting. Take breaks. Breathe. Communicate. Let them tell you their triggers and try your best to avoid the triggers. If the pwBPD tells you that you’re their favorite person, set boundaries. These bonds can become codependent very quickly if not handled the right way. A lot of us feel that we cannot live without the other person, but that is not necessarily true. Like everyone else, we grow, adapt, and change.  I cannot stress this enough! Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. Never look up on google or god forbid quora about these kind of things. A lot of people demonize BPD and make it seem like we’re all abusers. We aren’t We need reassurance and validation a lot of the time. We don’t always think in a neurotypical way. BPD is one of the most painful mental conditions there is to deal with. Let your loved one know you love them and care about them, and that you’re there to support them, but watch and make sure that you don’t drain yourself. That goes for any bond, BPD or not. as a pwBPD, i have to say this. Every person is different and has a different need. If you need to leave a situation with someone with BPD, do it. It may hurt for you and the other person, but in the end, if you’re hurting, voice it, communicate it, if worst comes to worst, leave. 

#mental health #support #bpd #bpd support

[liminalbeam]

I have come back to tumblr after a long hiatus. The last time I was consistently blogging was like 2014 and there was many self harm and pro ana blogs that contributed GREATLY to the development of my sickness.

At 19 I was diagnosed with BPD (something this app and the internet likes to say is incurable but it IS NOT. I struggle with anorexia to this day.

I have reached a point- through therapy and restructuring of my life and thought processes- where I NO LONGER meet the criteria of Borderline Personality Disorder ( after many relapses and one in patient stay)

It is not a badge of honor to become so sick that you need hospital intervention. It is not a sign that you have "won" this game of self destuction.

To any young blogger being influenced by pro ana or self harm promotion, I have a message for you:

It once felt noble to scar my body before someone else had the chance. It once felt exquisite to channel my own intentional pain instead of waiting for it to come on its own.

It once gave me pride to see the number on the scale drop and to feel my body failing.

No more.

I am 25, my frontal lobe is formed, and self mutilation is extremely scary and a slippery slope. Please do not let it be romanticized by this app.

#actually bpd #bpd vent #bpd support #tumblr 2014 #old tumblr #coquette #girlblogging

[bpdcrybaby213]

#cluster b #severe mental illness #borderline personality disorder #personality disorder #bpd symptoms #actually mentally ill #mental illness things #mental illness #bpd triggers #bpd support #bpd relatable #bpd blog

[nemosopenletters-blog]

I miss when you were my best friend and I was your equal.

#actually bpd #borderline personality disorder #being borderline #borderline blog #black and white #bpd shit #living with borderline #borderline personality traits #bpd life #borderline things #bpd awareness #bpd stuff #bpd #bpd blog #bpd favorite person #bpd feels #bpd fp #bpd mood #bpd problems #bpd rage #bpd splitting #bpd tag #bpd thoughts #bpd vent #bpd support #bpd meme #borderline thoughts #borderline pd #actually borderline #borderline problems

[hellbrainspeaks]

Sometimes I don't notice how high risk I am for an episode until I'm literally in the middle of it. It occurred to me while I was writing a fake letter with muscle memory because I couldn't see through my tears that:

I was unable to take my meds last night because my stomach pain was too severe for me to swallow my pills

I am on the first day of my cycle

I did not have therapy this week (Tuesdays) because my therapist is on vacation

It was 3am

When we're at high risk and are trying to use skills to keep ourselves out of an extreme emotional response, it is best to go with familiar ones, or ones that have worked in the past, before trying something new, simply because we don't know what to expect, yet.

I made the mistake of diving headfirst into a skill I haven't tried in a long time (letter writing) because I've been stressing about a conversation, and it culminated into an episode. I got through it safely by riding the wave and acting opposite to urge (for me this means freezing in place and not moving, because my urge is to lash out at myself and self-injure).

The journey isn't always pretty, progress isn't always a straight line, and you're gonna mess up sometimes. Take caution with new exercises, because you might overwhelm yourself, which could make you believe that the skills don't work or will make things worse. The safest time to try a new skill is when you're not in need of it, just to see how you like it as an activity. I enjoy writing, and am an experienced stream of consciousness journaler. However, there's a big difference between talking to yourself and talking to someone else, even if you never intend to share the letter, and it overwhelmed me in a way I did not expect.

The next time I try letter writing, I will consult my Wise Mind and make sure I'm in a secure enough state physically to confront emotions as intense as the ones I was feeling.

#hellbrain dump #dbt #dbt therapy #dbt exercise #dbt skills #bpd #bpd support #bpd recovery #mental health support #mental health resources #borderline personality disorder #borderline pd #living with bpd #living with borderline #actually bpd #actually borderline #bpd problems #bpd life #bpd shit #quiet bpd

[howlovelyhana]

BPD

is the twisted tale of loving someone so much that it kills them

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[jxdesvoid]

Being suicidal while also having a massive fear of death is wild man. Like yes I would like to yeet but also it’s like oh shit too, that is death. 😮‍💨

#bpd feels #actually bpd #bpd mood #bpd problems #bpd shit #bpd splitting #bpd stuff #bpd things #bpd thoughts #bpd support #uh ohhhh #fear #confused #yeets self #ya yeet #yeet #bpd be like #bpd brain #bpd vent #mental health #mentally tired #mentally ill #lmao oops #bpd #borderline personality disorder #borderline things #living with depression #living with bpd