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The amount of growth within 7-8 months has me very proud of myself. My healing journey will be one that I will some day share with the world. Perhaps this will help someone, because I know that dealing with any type of trauma is a hellish pain to live with for years.
Remember that this times a lifetime and to celebrate every little accomplishment made towards you reclaiming your happiness that was stolen from you. 💗
“So you just let kids do whatever they want? Isn’t that permissive parenting?” One of the most asked questions…. We respond to behaviours that need to be corrected for safety or respect of others, while being mindful not to try and correct behaviours that don’t need correcting. At the same time, “correcting” a behaviour is never done through punishment, shame or manipulation. The “correction” is done through love and empathy. A lot of people feel like if you don’t punish children to correct behaviours, they’ll just keep doing them but this assumption is not true for a child with secure attachment. They feel like their parent is helping them to stay safe and healthy. When we “correct” behaviour with love, and not unnecessarily, children see us as someone who supports their needs. They often don’t realize this until middle childhood, since toddlers think everyone sees the world as they do. I will tell you as the parent of an 8 yo who has never really been punished for their behaviour, that it really does build a foundation of trust. My first, our 8 yo, is extremely trustworthy and honest. We have not been the perfect parents with our first. Parenting was a challenge, for me especially. My child has been yelled at and made to feel shame about things. I regret that I let my triggers hurt them. But overall, I have been a safe place for them. I tell you this part to let you know, it’s not about perfection, it’s about connection. Coercive Parenting vs. Responsive Parenting CP uses fear as a motivator. RP uses connection and empathy as a motivator. Get the Toddler Workshop Series to start this process early… usually the first time we are tempted to use coercion. Link in bio @responsive_parenting #ResponsiveParenting #JMilburn #Toddlers #PeacefulParenting #HoldingSpace #EmpathyMatters #BreakingGenerationalCurses #BreakingToxicCycles #ToddlerLife #ToddlerWorkshop #ChildLedLearning #ChildLed #Parenthood #Compassion #Motherhood #Parents #ParentLife #DadLife #Children #MumLife #Kid #Fatherhood #BeTheChange #Kindness #KidLife #Childhood #Kids #RealTalk #Childrens https://www.instagram.com/p/Cg1gmjQALKt/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
I was 6 years old the first time I remembered watching my family pass pipes back and forth, and I remember it like it was yesterday. My grandmother had this circle solid wood kitchen table in her bedroom. You know what one I’m talking about, everyone had it in the 90s. I was sitting up with my back towards the bed playing dominos, and it was freezing! A whole 62° is what the ac read. It was a little cheap unit, one of the window ones that probably got stolen by a near by neighbor. A lot of the parts had been missing and it was connected to the window with LOTS of duct tape and bungee cords. Before I knew it this strong smell came over me, my little brain automatically knew “that’s meth” only to look up and watch my grandmother hit the pipe. Blue Octobers “She’s My Ride Home” playing in the back. I’m 24 years old now and I can recall every detail of that day.
I also have a 6 year old myself today, my oldest baby out of 3. I’m proud to say none of my children have been surrounded by that, and they are still so innocent to the evil around.
Oh how I wish I had loving supportive parents but I didn’t and grew up shy, with low self esteem and high anxiety. Instead I use that as my motivation to be a better parent to my own kids. So by the time they are 21, I know I did the best that I can. #breakinggenerationalcurses #breakinggenerationaltrauma https://www.instagram.com/p/CfFfhC3OnxzzKU9Ssj4ZEMeRLofcZXNujYO5qI0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
Lil bro time is the best time ❤️ So proud that I get to take over the music industry with my right hand man, to the bops we make and barriers we break 🍻 Swipe all the way to see baby siblings 🤪🙌🏽 #family #lilbro #twopeasandtheirpod #siblinglove #brother #breakinggenerationalcurses #glowup #musicmakers #indieartists — view on Instagram https://ift.tt/UbWoVh2