#but he is a narcissist

[lyrajellycat]

will never get over the way william knew he was dying and so used his last breath to be as arrogant as possible one final time then proceeded to fursuit up so he could be even more annoying in the future. would expect nothing else

#fnaf movie spoilers #fnaf #fnaf movie #five nights at freddy's #matthew lillard #william afton #I love him he's such a narcissistic loser #but he's my narcissistic loser #springtrap

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[crazy-lazy-elder-sims]

To the people that say they hate Gale Dekarios of waterdeep Because he isn't over his ex and he keeps bringing her up, being hung up on his lines comparing you to her and saying ur superior, always mentioning her

Ex. "I love you, much more than myself, more even than mystra, "

Putting aside all the toxic relationship talk and the grooming debate, are you guys aware of what he is actually saying? when he says you put mystra to shame and you make him forget her? What does he actually mean? The magnitude of his words?

MYSTRA IS MORE THAN HIS EX SHE IS HIS GOD !

Yes He is literally telling you "when im with you i forget the god i worship" every time he talks about mystra its not just an ex to him its his god ....

Like are you guys aware of the magnitude of that?

The fact that if you do the weave magic sex insane wizard scene its literally in front of his god that has asked for complete devotion from him yet he is so fucking bold to do that "right in the palm of mystra" FULLY KNOWING THAT?

Man idk about yall but to me gale is the boldest craziest bitch of them all like its not even that hidden with his story line, his insane measures he took to try to prove himself , the multiple remarks and comments , him telling you in front of everyone that he wants to have sex with you right out of battle, not hesitating to threaten to incinerate Astarion with a smile on his face to protect you, him not hesitating to give his all with no fear in love and demanding the same type of love and devotion (this is all said in a positive light btw) but to top this all off he is also indirectly telling you he has abandoned his god for you .... The god that gave him his magic.... AND despite all that he is still the gentle loving kind wise strategic guy we know and love so ...

Come on now how can you call this guy half of the shit the haters say about him he is so complex and real full of contradictions and just written SO well

Sigh can you tell he is my fav blorbo lmao

Here have some pics with his romance quotes to remind you how devoted he is to you

#gale dekarios #bg3 #gale of waterdeep #baldur's gate #baldurs gate 3 #baldur's gate iii #baldur's gate 3 #yes this was written because yet another dumbass told me directly to my face (on tiktok) that he is a “mansplainy narcissist” girl....

[ironunderstands]

The way some of yall mischaracterize Ratio as being stoic in chill when in reality he is 24/7 resisting the urge to rip everyone around him a new one is crazy to me like. He cares so much, so much. It’s unhealthy, he loses the idgaf war every time because Ratio is the least nonchalant person ever like

He was this close to breaking character and throttling Sunday like you cannot tell me he wasn’t planning a murder in this scene. Ratio straight up calls Sunday a crazy bitch but everyone brushed it aside 😭

Honestly his entire conversation with Screwllum is just him tweaking, watch it on YouTube the VAs performance is amazing, you can here just how much He Cares

Genuinely, Aventurine is way better at concealing his true feelings that Ratio. Ratio may be acting for the sake of the plan but the way he truly feels about anything he’s doing always seeps through, it’s why he apologizes to Aventurine in 2.0 in their staged argument scene. It’s why he is as mean to Sunday as he can be. It’s why him pretending that he “hates” Aventurine makes him act so silly. Ratio can’t fully commit to the bit, he can’t force himself to not care or to be someone he isn’t, because fundamentally Ratio CARES and that is something he is incapable of hiding, alabaster bust or not.

The problem is that him expressing his care is often done in a rude and/or blunt manner which people tend to interpret as stoicism or apathy when it’s anything but. Ratio’s vial that he gives to Aventurine is short, sweet and gets straight to the point, because that’s the easiest way for Ratio to express his emotions, even if it’s often detrimental for him and anyone else around him. However Aventurine understands him quite well, and knows that although brief, Ratio telling him to “stay alive, survive this and keep on living” is how he truly feels towards Aventurine, and that’s enough to keep him going.

Underneath Ratios carefully crafted marble facade is a man who cares so much and is so bad at expressing it and I wish the community in general, especially Aventio shippers would acknowledge that more. Ratios true moments of sincerity are brief, but they are anything but stoic. Let the man be soft, it’s in character.

#This turned into a mini essay whoops #I hold Ratios party voiceline for Aven so close to my heart #Not the EN one idk what the translators were on but CN is UGHH it’s so good #Someone else can point out the potentially ableist undertones to how people view Ratio #I’m not gonna do that again because the last time was a disaster #“He’s selfish and cruel and narcissistic” *concerned glance* #Like I know some of it is just hoyo players having the media literacy of rocks #But like theres something wrong there just is it sits so wrong with me #Begging yall to write him correctly in fan content PLEASSEEE #dr ratio #aventurine #aventio #Not necessarily a ship post though

[why-does-this-happen-to-me]

I like the song Sugar in my coffee because coffee is something that I haven't tried, but I have the feeling that I wouldn't like it, but also because it feels like a story about asexuality in a way. Like, the guy doesn't like coffee, but meets a "coffee guy" that calls them a child because they says that they are more of a hot chocolate guy themselves. The coffee guy drives the other to his coffee warehouse because surely his coffee will make them change their taste. Before they drinks it the singer is like: Yes, this is it, I'll be able to relate to other people about this and talk about it. They hate it. I don't think I have to explain what my brain understood in this song. (I know that he goes by they/he, but in the song the other is referred only as he, so I only used they to make sure it was easy to undertand who I was talking about every time).

I thought about searching the song in google before posting this and this is the third thing that shows up:

So yes, I was right.

#aroace #ace #aro #Sugar in my coffee #The narcissist cookbook #Surprised that the tag Sugar in my coffee has zero mentions of this song #Also didn't know that The narcissist cookbook goes by they/he #Every new thing I learn about this singer (basically everything)(I just found the song on spotify by chance) makes this even better #Also this post was way shorter in my head

[jinuaei]

Adding more to that K9 officer! Reader and Puppy!Leon Kennedy

Warning: Kind of Yandere? Somewhat suggestive so MINORS DO NOT INTERACT

Him being a rookie would fit well as him being a new pup in the station where you are assigned as his handler and non hybrid partner. Leon liking patrols because he gets to sit in shotgun while the windows are down, wind hitting his face while you and him roam around the streets. He's one of the best K9 in the office but often times get distracted by you and your scent, that he forgets that he's supposed to check for bombs, and when you tug on his leash to make him focus a whine almost came out of him. BUT! He's on duty so he can't afford to be distracted.

And he's such a good boy too, so good at following your orders. When you finally come home from work he'd be whining at pawing at you to play with him or pet him for doing such a good job during work.

Chris would probably tease him a lot about having such an attractive handler, hell, maybe Chris will actually try to flirt with you regardless if Leon was there or not. Nonetheless, Leon is not happy, best case scenario he'd just tell Chris' handler to take him away from you, after that, Leon would scent you as soon as you come home, him clinging to you all night and begging for you to ignore Chris. Worst case scenario, there would be actual bites and mauling and you'd get in trouble for not keeping your pup in check.

#leon kennedy #leon s kennedy #puppy leon kennedy #leon x reader #re2 leon #puppy!leon kennedy #puppy!leon #i dont know if I should tag this as yandere bc its 'tame' imo #kind of wanna add Wesker as a kitty hybrid but I don't know his character well #other than he's hot and evil and a narcissist/god complex #Also need to expand more on Kitty! Leon tbh #I need to make more yandere stuff :(

[videogamelover99]

Bill Cipher angst at 2AM??? Also plz read Flat Dreams

#gravity falls #bill cipher #flat dreams #gravity falls art #my art #fan art #vee's art #liam cipher #pengychan #flat minds #bill in this fic is a narcissistic little shit but also he has so much internalized self-loathing #bill gets a tragic backstory but its like. good #he's still an absolutely terrible person #not to me though. he did nothing wrong #its been SEVEN YEARS and this triangle is STILL living in my head rent free #who's excited for the Book of Bill

[noecoded]

i like it better when u cant keep warm

#oughi love asmo so much idec if this looks nothinglike him. its asmo to ME........scemos emos win forever #written 2 be just kind of cute on socialmedia butsuchh a narcissistic asshole in person like every 2000s emo band member #i think he can be very charming and sweet for crowds though ofcourse so his likability is still rlly high… #theres more but i cant even say.i feel sick thinkingabotu him i hope u guys udnerstand the img #i didntdraw very much bc i was soo sleepy but now ill just game a little :3 #asmo #mine

[hazbin-hotel-aesthetics-quotes]

"I could fix him. I could fix him!"

No, babe.

I could make him whine, beg, cry and ask for more. I would terrorize him.

#do not read these tags if you value your mental health #try me he would NOT be my first narcissistic average guy #the way he trigger my instincts to chew him up and top him #nor my first guitarists that thinks he is hot shit #i would became feral if someome like him cross my path again #mama kat rambling #hazbin related but not too much #adam hazbin hotel

[shitswiftiessay]

this is fucking disgusting.

#anti taylor swift #anti travis kelce #her team 100% paid for the pics of taylor and travis to be there #so *joe could see it* #and taylor’s pr showmance is more important than t he schools crisis #fuck that narcissistic bitch and her trumper boyfriend

[bicheetopuff]

I think the people complaining about AFOs back story have forgotten what his character represents.

He’s a manipulative rich old man that wants to own and monopolize every major resource in the world so that he can be considered a god.

His entire being is a metaphor for major corporations and every politician and billionaire ceo ever… so him being a narcissistic and greedy kid isn’t at all surprising. He doesn’t have a traumatizing backstory because he’s a manipulative power hungry chump like he has been the entire series.

#he literally grooms children to his dirty work for him #he’s taken over orphanages and hospitals to create mindless monsters to do his labor for free #he’s manipulated people by giving them fractions of power so that they’ll bend to his will #he’s irredeemable and idk why people are surprised #also you mfs trying to compare him to Katsuki need to reread the series #there’s a difference between a spoiled kid dwelling in the praise he received from adults around him #and whatever the fuck afo is #Katsuki didnt fucking kill people #and he was never a narcissist #he wanted to be top hero because he was told his whole life that he could be #also Katsuki never viewed Deku as his property wtf are y’all on #bnha #bakudeku #bkdk #bnha spoilers #bnha 407

[menalez]

but i genuinely urge every woman on radblr to block @lostelvenqueen. it’s bad enough he’s a straight white man in his mid-late 30s pretending to be an indigenous canadian bisexual woman but it does not end there. he is openly making up lies about lesbians of colour, he openly harasses lesbians of colour, he openly says vile racist things, he has nothing of substance to say nor any intelligent arguments to make. his entire purpose on this platform is to harass women & lie while appropriating the experiences of women he oppresses & fetishises. mock him from ur blogs but don’t give that lifeless loser a chance to leech off of ur energy. he takes pleasure in being able to reblog from yall and harass u. take away his source of pleasure

#radblr #radfems please touch #idk the radfem tags but i want this to reach ppl #stop giving him what he wants. make him bored enough to leave #he’s a narcissist and he enjoys taking ur attention and upsetting u

[mealfreak]

sketchbook stuff

#lotf #lord of the flies #creations #lotf ralph #jack merridew #jalph #lotf simon #disclaimer I don't actually think Jack has npd i just found this funny #I do think he has a lot of narcissistic traits though and a lot of his motivations r pathologically narcissistic #last 2 are traced

[edjectedly]

How has Tumblr not found Bug Hunter yet, like he's checking all the boxes for Tumblr Musical Artist™. Like his song Pinecones? It's about hitting people with Pinecones and being stressed and how sometimes you just need a break. His song Safe Word? A clever work or art that honestly leaves me baffled every other time I listen to it cause I notice something new. His song Shocking Plot Twist? Well, I shan't say, just go listen to it. His song Two Beds Two Baths and a Ghost? A upbeat, haunting, song about death.

Just go check out @bughuntermusic, seriously. You'll be doing yourself a favor

#ace rambles #music recs #i saw him in Nashville a in july #and I'm still not over it #he's so kind #matt was there too #from Narcissist CookBook #working on a post for them #cause like also in love with them

[thelastharbinger]

something something something loki's love for sylvie more appropriately manifesting as platonic rather than romantic because his love for her is a lesson in healing--particularly the inner child that still holds resentment towards a lying, unaffectionate father. loki's heart breaks for sylvie because it breaks for him too. he sees her and views the version of himself that is still angry and deeply, deeply wounded. his affection stems from the empathy of understanding what it is to have had a narrative for their life controlled/manipulated for them. in their sameness, loki offers the compassion he wishes he would've gotten or would've been able to receive. and because to turn back on her would be to turn back on himself. loki allows himself to be something other than the trickster god he made himself out to be in a desperate plea at taking back control. it is mobius that tells him he can be other than what he was and offers him another mode of survival, all of it a lesson in love. sylvie teaches loki radical self-love, how to show up for himself and others, and mobius is the conduit through which loki practices this healthier way of loving.

#IS HOW THEY SHOULD WRITE IT BUT NEVER WILL GAHHHHHHHH #they shoulda let me be in the writers room cause I would've nullified the draft where they do selfcest #and for all the ppl in the back saying but isnt it the most loki thing to do? to fall for himself bc hes just that narcissistic #and i would argue that that is actually to the detriment of his character arc #to insinuate the only person he can ever devote himself to is him. they prob thought they were clever with sylki but it feels reductive #also. has somebody already said this? #like to me sylki is a metaphor for loki being able to love himself and others #whereas lokius should be the true ship bc loki permits himself to be challenged by mobius in a way that is not received as a threat to him #mobius is his first real friend and seeing them both evolve to care for one another is just ugh #but also i feel like tom's acting is providing all of the chemistry for the both of them in that ship where lokius feels more natural #but anywho #lokius #sylki #loki #loki laufeyson #mobius m mobius #mobius mcu #disney #mcu #mcu loki #tom hiddleston #owen wilson

[earlgodwin]

"It’s interesting that Juan’s attempt at relieving pain is through closeness and hugging and love. When he forgives Cesare at the end saying how they’re brothers and wants to be together, I think that’s genuine. That’s the first time you realize what he’s always wanted." (x)

#“I glimpse us cesare. two brothers in harmony. walking together.” #francois saying cesare refused to listen to juan because he *knows* he can change his mind about killing him still living in my mind #something about cesare humilating juan and making fun of him and even set him up to die at forli by not warning him about ludovico's army #and yet juan still loves him anyway because his jealousy of cesare is unserious unlike cesare's jealousy of juan which is a deadly hatred #ngl juan is so funny because he'd rather die than being sappy. he's too narcissistic and prideful to reach out for cesare or his family #but he only reached out to him in his final moment when he was vulnerable and going through it. it was too late rip #confessing to cesare that he's a fuck-up and he's always been in pain etc i missed you we should love each other wah wah type of speech #juan borgia #cesare borgia #the borgias #juan and cesare #david oakes #francois arnaud #theborgiasedit #periodedits #perioddramaedit #tvedit #cinemapix #tvarchive #by jen