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gotenandtrunkz · 2 years

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Consummate post of Truten scenarios

Bc honestly sometimes it just eats me up inside

- they're hanging out as guy friends and bros but then what they thought they could do as a normal encounter ends up registering a bit differently, e.g. they watch porn together and it gets weird rather than they being confident theough to the end, they kiss for fun and for the sensory input but it ends up feeling like a bit more than that, they take a sensual bath and the line between metairony and genuinity gets crossed, they make out, Goten sticks his tongue in Trunks's ear and Trunks actually likes it, etc etc

- they dont see each other for a while (incidentally, they have a falling out, trunks goes into space in GT, etc) and when they reconnect they are very happy to see each other and the consummate (sorry to use that word twice in the same post) affection has no reason to limit itself to the accepted conventions of platonic intimacy. But this is a Truten post so they fall in love as well

- maybe not romantic maybe not sexual but they develop a sensual relationship. I can see that . That's pretty much what I've been saying. Sensual attraction. Goten does love to bite ppl that's true

- The idea that one of them is Not Straight and has some sort of attraction for the other and it probably goes unrecognized for years. Breaks my heart. Then they fall in love ❤

- "just a little bit" by Kids of 88 but with less sex appeal . Trunks is stressed out from work and Goten in his sensory-seeking ways gets him to take a bath with him and there are bubbles and scents and hes rubbing his shoulders and Trunks doesnt know how he got here in life but also hes not surprised bc Goten has always been this way. Domt know where I was going w this one. Well I can see it feeling a bit like, like Goten's lust for strange encounters is insatiable. Like Trunks has no choice and has never had a choice in the matter. But this is a lifetime truth so hes not feeling indignant or defensive, hes just resigned to this weird back rub with no thoughts or feelings in his head. And it feels almost selfish and scary in that sense, like bonding with someone who needs you rather than who loves you; like Goten just needs to have this sensory bathtub adventure and it has nothing to do with Trunks, and this is going to go on until they die and no satisfaction will be reached for either party. But if Trunks were to express any of this in words then Goten would be like "Trunks what the fuck are you talking about." And honestly yeah that was some weird shit to say tbh. Trunks isnt a sensory seeker in the same way but he does have a certain relationship with the senses (his sense of smell is very particular and sensitive I think for example) (it's the family autism) (Tarble is the same way btw) and having been reared alongside Goten has only made that more true. But Goten doesn't think of it like that and he honestly finds fulfillment in sensory adventures. He loves to be able to do this. And he loves being helpful tbh. Hes glad that Trunks is willing to try to relax and let him do this. Like honestly "dont worry abt nothing" type of relaxation. Align-your-chakras-and-come-back-to-yourself relaxation. The one thing tho is that Goten has put on some "mood music" that is Rob Zombie playing on low. But then they fall in love anyway

- smth abt the back of Goten's neck in GT. His clean hairline. Something abt Trunks coming back from space a changed man and he and Goten catch up and end up at the skatepark after dark like old times and they share a hug. Something abt the gentle scent of Goten's neck, the exposed skin and clean hairline. Smth abt comfort and familiarity and titillation all the same. Something about "Dude did you just sniff my hair." Anyway

- idk smth the pain and frustration of falling in love w someone you're already sick of but having a knot in your chest to contend w anyway really gets to me. It strikes fear in my heart I think

- FROOT OLIVER NELSON MIX. Young love and all that. The majesty of what predates language. The ardent mystery of love and sex and the winds that you cant see but drive you nonetheless. Thoroughly distressing yet inexorable. Your very necessary mind is meant to just accept that it cant understand what it cant put into words. Really gets to me sometimes

- Oh yeah and of course the idea that Trunks is the president of capsule corp and he lets that slag Goten waltz up into his office and sit on all of his furniture

- Goten is NOT a slag but a very caring soul <3

- Trunks is honestly a very chill dude. And Goten doesnt really give a shit about anything. Therefore the objectively correct way to portray Truten is that theres no drama or feeling but they just like start dating or whagever. But this post is for the things that really get to me sometimes so we're not gonna include that stuff

- Goten Shows Off His Gay4Pay Skillz and slonks silly-sloppy on his shit WITH the scallywag swag. And then they fall in love

- the idea that there are some real constrained emotions present. Teen angst and "I hate you so much" by Anarbor. Whatever

- Oh I forgot about the one wjere Trunks has to wear braces for his janked up city-boy teeth and Goten finds it disturbing and irresistible that he has metal in his mouth ("it's not natural....") and he keeps trying to lick his braces and he keeps trying to get Trunks to eat gummy things so that he can clean his braces with his tongue like a fun scavanger hunt. And literally Goten is the one who keeps putting his mouth on his but he keeps reeling back and with genuine fear saying "DUDE STOP TRYING TO KISS ME! IM JUST TRYING TO LICK YOUR BRACES.." and Trunks is literally not doing anything hes just trying to keep his eyes on his video game and hes angry about this. And Goten keeps kissing him anyway. I'm sorry this was suppsoed to be a serious post let me try again. Ok how about Goten is self-assured in this and keeps trying to tempt him with gummy worms and the such and he knows on some level that hes being funny but honestly he doesnt know what this is doing to his buddy Trunks. Like this is the most action thag Trunks has ever had and idk hes saving face but sometimes he plants bags of gummy worms where Goten will see them just to put the idea in his head. And he does this with shameful and desperate fervor. And he plays it so cool and is like "Goten that is SICK I'm not gonna let you do that again.." and he means it and the disgust is real. But on some level he craves the intimacy of having someone lick his braces. It's fucked up

I think that's pretty much it thanks for listening lol... Post originally drafted on 8.31.22

#op text #Truten Tuesday

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vancilocs · 1 year

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Fuck it, tell me all you want how hot joe, miro and carmina are

two ppl i think are hot and then miro

🥵 : Is your OC perceived as physically attractive to others? Is it at first glance or is it something that takes more time to reach fruition?

Joe is tall and muscular and tattooed he gets a lot of people looking at him like oh damn

Some people maybe, he's pretty short and a bit chubby so people tend to glance over him but he's not ugly by any means

She's pretty, tall and slender with pretty big boobs so she gets some looks

💦 : Is your OC’s attractiveness based on looks or a more intangible aura?

It's a combo of him being hot and also acting confident and outgoing, he's approachable

I suppose most people who are attracted to him get to know him first and find out he's a fun guy and are then willing to overlook his appearance

Combo of looks and her weird but appealing aura. Who r u goth babygirl

💪 : What is your OC’s most physically attractive attribute?

Boobs, arms, tattoos

Hair, piercings, tattoos

Boobs

🧠 : What is your OC’s most mentally attractive attribute?

How easy he's talk to, general friendliness

Calmness, goofiness

How attentive she is towards people she's talking to, gentle demeanor

👀 : Does your OC believe they are attractive? Do they use that to their advantage?

He doesn't work out that hard to not feel sexy. Definitely mooched drinks off Mirad before they broke up

Meh, he's alright. Working with hot and tall people like Gabe and Raven kinda left him thinking that he's below average but so what.

She doesn't think of her own attractiveness and when people call her hot or beautiful she's surprised

👃 : Does your OC smell good? Do they have a signature scent?

After he lays off that Axe bodyspray and switches to something less harsh yeah

Just deodorant and cigarettes so no he doesn't smell good

She's easily irritated by scents so she wears very neutral deodorants and just showers plenty often

👂 : Does your OC have an attractive voice?

If you're into Aussie accents, sure

Low, raspy, sensual, quiet, yes

🚲 : Does your OC enjoy playing the field? Or are they more monogamy-minded?

He's never had a one-night-stand and doesn't want to, he's not the kind to sleep around

Not the type to sleep around, though if someone mega hot offered he'd be like ah what the hell

Very monogamous

😍 : What does your OC find irresistible in others?

Sassiness, ass n titties, preferably in lingerie

Confidence

Level-headedness and smarts, strong physique

💘 : Is your OC a very good flirt? Are they charming?

He's annoyingly good at flirting, ask Mirad or Mae

He's good in the sense that he's just kinda straightforward and genuine abt it so it has its charm

She's also straightforward but very serious so it can feel threatening when she's just trying to flirt

💋 : Is your OC a good kisser? How do they do it?

The man can smooch (if you don't mind the beard)

He's alright

No complaints

🦴 : Does your OC have much sexual experience? What are they like?

He's pretty experienced with men and women both

He's had a few girlfriends he's gone all the way with

A couple of long-term relationships, not inexperienced

💞 : Do they treat sex casually or do they view it as something with a lot of emotional weight?

Not into casual hookups and tends to wait in relationships too

Leans on the serious side but like. Not a huge deal

Needs a lot of trust to jump into bed

🔥 : What’s a surefire way to make your OC get flustered?

Lingerie

Pick him up or pin him to a wall

Gentle, slow touch

🧸 : Into public displays of affection or are they more reserved?

Moderate, kisses, holding hands, arm around waist or shoulders, hand in back pocket

Also kinda moderate, reserved abt kisses though

Will link arms or maybe hold hands, that's about it

💌 : How would they plan a romantic evening for a significant other?

Get wine, get snacks, get a movie, maybe get a candle or two, get clean nice sheets for the bed, nice clothes and underwear and remember to brush your teeth, wash hands, cut and clean nails, trim wherever needed,

Clean, get some snacks, some wine bc that's fancy probably, get some music or a movie or something, wash hair and teeth, maybe swap piercings to something that won't get snagged on things

Make dinner, light a candle, set the table nicely, wear cute clothes and underwear (that isn't sensory hell), make the bed nice, shoo the cats out of the way

💐 : What is their courting style? How would they woo someone?

Ask them for a drink first, try and make a good impression with manners and clothes and all, remember important dates with gifts or dates, bring flowers, be attentive

Go out and have fun often, give small, inexpensive gifts or bring flowers maybe, remember small things

Go on dates and get to know each other, give handmade gifts, show pictures of cats, give compliments

👙 : What kind of underwear do they use? Is it pretty or functional?

Local man has 17 pairs of black boxers

Bunch of boxers but make some fun and patterned

Mostly functional and comfortable panties and bras (that give enough support though) but a couple of sets of matching cute lacy ones for racier needs

#two tall hotties and then. this guy #tbh people think carmina is attractive and then realize how withdrawn she is and are like oh ok nevermind then #long oc thing

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diabeticgirl4 · 1 year

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4 for the aro asks

:o fsdlkfj I never get asks for those things, thank you!!

4) What moments make you think, “Well, I’m definitely aro”

basically any time I encounter relationship talk, whether it's shipping in fandom space or irl ppl talking about their romantic life. and like. the concept of being romantically dedicated to one person (if you're monogamous) and the feeling of "belonging together" and ??? I do NOT understand relationships lmao.

I've read fics where they detailed how a certain character ~feels~ about another character and just... man I've never related to that in my life lmao. I used to think that was just a fiction/fantasy type thing until I listened to friends and family gush about how much better they feel around their partner and how they want to spend all of their time w them, and how it's ~such a special feeling~ that they desperately miss it when they're single. it's just such an alien concept to me tbh.

I'll occasionally see romantic posts about ppl thinking about their crushes or how they miss their SO/ex/idk someone, and idk man. I'm definitely aro lmao.

ALSO? ALSO?? I once saw a post asking when your first kiss was, and the age of some ppl?? blew my mind. yall getting crushes and kissing in like elementary school?? voluntarily?????? I mean. I knew ppl were regularly dating in middle/high school, but I always thought they were the weird ones sjdlkfjdsf. for the record I'm well into adulthood (nearing 30 aahh) and I've never once wanted to kiss or date someone. that's a thing ppl do?? want to kiss someone??? why??? allos are wild. one time a guy friend asked me out in middle school and I told him I'd have to ask my parents, and next day told him no without having asked them lmao. my understanding of "dating" in middle school was literally just going out to dinners and movies, and who has time and money for that at 14yo with a busy school schedule?? it took me a very long time to realize wanting to date someone was based on attraction(??)+genuinely wanting to spend special time w them moreso than you would w a normal friend.

anyways. yeah. relationships are an alien concept and shipping/fluff in fiction means absolutely nothing to me lmao.

[for the record I'm also ace and autistic, so things like attraction, ~feelings~, finding the line between romantic/sexual/sensual/platonic etc is Very muddled to me and I do not understand any of it :'D I'm Very aro tho!!!]

#aro stuff #ty for the ask!!#if I'm ever questioning my aro-ness all I need to do is read a fluffy fic lmao #eroshiyda #ask

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mercurytrinemoon · 2 months

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I’m Pisces sun(7H),

Leo moon(12H)

Aquarius mercury and Venus(7H)

Libra mars(2H), pluto(4H), Saturn aries(8H),Chiron Scorpio (3H)

Leo rising with a stellium in 6th and 7th House

I still don’t get why ppl are comfortable sharing those personal infos with me so easily

I was guessing a Pisces moon but here we have the sun, can do as well.

Idk how long you've been following me but I use whole sign houses. You have Moon in the 1st, that says a lot, it is a welcoming energy so people feel they can be direct towards you; they may feel overly comfortable with you. That Moon is opposite Venus by sign, which usually means there's a clash between tact and showing/expressing sexuality or just generally, there's some discomfort surrounding emotions, sex, affection and how you process and view it. Harsh Moon-Venus aspects always bring some inner turmoil around femininity, pleasure; sometimes it pulls in two directions at once, sometimes it brings out negative feelings like envy etc. So this could as well bleed into people acting a certain way towards you, which then makes you feel uncomfortable, especially since both Venus and mercury are in the 7th house. And I believe you have Jupiter and Uranus there as well. That's a LOADED 7th house, you're gonna attract a mixed bag of people. Both Jupiter and Uranus are very open planets, Mercury as well, Venus is just sensual - so this is how people are acting towards you.

Ok so you have the Mars-Saturn opposition. I suppose Mars opposing your 7th house ruler can act as an unwanted attention or smth along those lines. Plus, it's gonna be rx so its energy is not directed properly.

I'd suggest just a bit more assertiveness, just block people if you have to, own your personal space. You have both benefics in the 7th, you should be fine in the long run.

Also, has it always been like this? Or is it recent? Maybe one of the transits is triggering it?

#ask

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idkmanfuckthisall · 9 months

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man i feel so bad for girls on social media oh my god.

i mean i have been through that situation (not to that extent but still) so i get where they're coming from and i do not blame them one bit. but it is just so disheartening and disgusting.

social media is SUCH a double edged sword in each and every aspect. i mean i get it onlyfans and other stuff that revolves around it gives you more control over your content, pricing yada yada, more people are reacting negatively to slut shaming which is for the better too, but it is just making teens and heck preteens think that they should act more 'adult' in the guise of empowerment.

it is skin crawling to think ab where exactly is feminism headed because on one hand more people are encouraging equality, but on the other, children on social media (getting exponentially younger) are exposed to this botched idea of feminism and sexuality and stuff. and if they're exposed to this shit at such a young age, obviously their perception of everything is going to be fucked too, you cant honestly blame them.

you can convince yourself wearing revealing clothing and posing in 'sensual' poses is 'liberating' to yourself, but yk that subconsciously you're trying to appear attractive and sought after. (talking about straight young girls.)

wait till you're 18 atleast oh god (although really, that too is not old enough imo but sure)

the only time i really dont give a fuck even if someone is walking in scraps is when you're financially independent, atleast for most of the part. accn to me that is when you're mature enough.

other than that all i feel is disgust (not at them but everything that moulded their mentality incl; obv media and most importantly, their parents).

a lot of them are children of ppl with generational wealth, so it makes it easier to pass around snarky comments. but they are just kids!! they are so so young and they're sexualising themselves and it is just worse because it clearly represents how negligent their parents are being.

i am not saying people from lower economic backgrounds dont go through this (possibly way worse even) but it is a fairly discussed topic. and it is easy to alienate the richer sects (and also this rant was elicited seeing the profiles of financially well off kids)

alright so apart from myself i personally know 2 other girls who were ruthlessly sexualised when we were fucking 11.

that was the point i had just started getting attention that went beyond platonic, and it was 99.9% degradingly sexual. and i just remember accepting and even feeding into it which is so utterly disgusting in hindsight.

i am sure they're more girls who were sucked into this but ik the other two girls because they were popular around school as they were more attractive than me and i was in the 'nerdier' group. and moreover they had public social media accounts with large followings so whatever i went through, it would have been a hundred times worse for them.

and i think it was same for them too- when you're young you notice that others sexualise you and you're 'expected' to be that way, so you start feeding into it yourself (at least thats what happened to me and i think it's common?)

also i should mention that i have had absolutely phenomenal female role models growing up that were in direct relation to me, so before all this my self identity was entirely based on intelligence and academics, i wasnt exposed to a lot of attention on social media, (always found that uncomfortable) and even when this stuff was going on, people who i was close to and i myself expected academic excellence from me (healthy amt of pressure) so a large part if my identity was still based on that.

what i mean to say is that although i dont know their upbringing (honestly idk shit ab them) i do realise it is extremely possible that they (and other girls) didn't have the same support system as me. and despite all the positives, i was irreversibly affected (a lot of issues, i still am working on resolving years later), i have no clue what the others went through.

ik one of them had negligent parents, because why the fuck would you agree to buy your 11 year old revealing clothes omg. and she still sexualises herself on social media, so i know it has affected her. (again, i dont blame her one bit.)

and though the way my parents handled this was way off than how they should've, but at least they cared enough to give a shit.

i just see legit children on social media being subjected to what i am sure is far worse scrutiny. and it is impossible for their parents to not be aware but they blatantly dont give a flying fuck.

i am not super active on ig but occasionally i come across profiles of 14-19 year olds and oh my god. they're headed down the same pathway i was at 11-14. sure they are older, but thats not even close to being old enough!!! and i think i came across as 'so above all that' and condescending even. but what i mean to say is ki i just feel so fucking disgusted seeing more and more girls feeling like they have to be 'sexy' in order to breathe.

also another thing that tipped the bucket for me was that i just came to the realisation that ALL of my male friends (trust me, a lot.) have sexualised me (and other women) moreover a grp of guys allegedly repeatedly joked ab g-raping me and my best friend, which i think, prevented me from completely being sucked into the rabbit hole of self fetishization and totally flipped off the romantic feelings switch for me. so i can see the others from more of a 'past experience' lense (?)

why are all 'empower yourselves' posts and stuff about being sexually liberated. i mean sure you should be comfortable sexually and more convos ab sex makes it a less hush hush, and safer topic. but let us focus on other shit too, yeah? looking pretty isnt the only thing that is going to empower you.

i am just so done oh my god.

#autopsy.#i have no clue what to think ab children being exposed to social media because on one hand social media is definitely making people more #accepting of other identities and i think it allows children of parents with a 'cult-ish' mindset to be more exposed to the reality of thin #but on the other hand there is SO much wrong with social media.

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baddiedaddy7 · 3 years

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5th house✨🌻

the 5th house is not what you attract, it’s how you are in the dating world/casual dating, what dates you may like, how you are in the beginning stages of a relationship and flirting. it’s also about your passion, and what you may like to do in your spare time. then lastly, children. feminine signs-more likely to have a female or child with feminine energy. masculine signs-more likely to have a male or child with masculine energy. do not plagiarize🙃.

Aries/Mars🔥

likes the chase(being chased or vice versa). gets bored fast, so needs somebody that keeps them guessing. bold/upfront, will probably tell you if they like you, or how they feel in general. may do things too fast(say “i love you” early, get over excited easily, etc). daring in the dating scene/at the beginning of a relationship. flirting style may be physical(confident/not rlly awkward, and makes flirting obvious), or playful(play fight, tickles lmao, laughs more, etc). might prefer dates full of thrills(amusement park, hiking, skydiving, rock climbing, sports, party, etc). hobbies may be sports, karate, working out, violent or sporty video games, etc. indicates a liking for vigorous/explicit music lmao. children may also be into sports, karate, exercising, etc. most likely one of your children will have mars/aries in their chart, probably the oldest. children may be rude, full of energy, bratty/spoiled, passionate, bossy, etc, since these are traits of aries. a LOT of ppl with these placements get a c-section, atleast once, and most likely w/the first child. unexpected pregnancy is also seen here. oldest is most likely going to be a boy. since aries is fast, your kids may try to be born early, or are born earlier than due date.

Taurus/Venus🌸

“slow and steady wins the race” types. sensual. conventional. very romantic. stable. likes to touch/skin to skin. not complicated, some may find you “boring”. warm in the dating world/at the beginning of a relationship. flirting style is most likely polite(not perverted, well mannered, may come off as reserved even though they’re interested, etc). dates shall be lavish or romantic lol. candles, dinners, beautiful park, etc. hobbies may be baking/cooking, napping, binge watching tv, beauty(makeup, hair), shopping, tending to a garden, etc. you may like love songs, pop, rnb, jazz, slowed + reverb, etc. most likely makes sure their kids are dressed up/styled😎. kids are most likely beautiful, and in great condition. kids may like to watch you cook/bake, or do it with you. most likely one of your children will have taurus/venus in their chart, probably the oldest. children will most likely be patient, stubborn, well mannered, cold, practical, lazy, etc, since these are traits of taurus. pregnancy is usually smooth. oldest is most likely going to be a girl. i’ve known quite a few ppl w/this that actually like being pregnant. it makes so much sense that kylie jenner has this, literally all this applies😭.

Gemini/Mercury🌼

another placement that gets bored quickly, so keep them guessing. probably has a new crush every week or multiple at once. intelligent, and talkative. daydreams/thinks abt crush a lot. most likely tells their friends abt their crush too. happy-go-lucky in the dating world/at the beginning of a relationship. flirting style is most likely playful(calling eachother names, play fighting, etc). dates may be at a fair, library, etc. hobbies usually are social media, reading, trivia, writing, socializing, etc. honestly most likely likes all genres of music, but esp hyper music(edm, rap, pop, etc). most likely one of your children will have gemini/mercury in their chart, probably the oldest. children may be sneaky, curious, smart mouthed, witty, moody, etc, since these are the traits of gemini. adoption is indicated here. twins, or many kids in one pregnancy are also indicated here, and if that’s the cause then they’re most likely going to be male(s). pregnancy may seem quick.

Cancer/Moon🦀

loving, and affectionate. try to avoid being obsessive, and easily jealous. you may get attached too early in a relationship. they might be shy at first, gotta get them out their shell. tender in the dating scene/at the beginning of a relationship. flirting style may be traditional(man asks first/initiate, gazing/eye contact, etc) or sincere(blushing/makes it obvious, laughing a lot, etc). may prefer dates at home, museum, or park. hobbies may be mainly at home(cooking/baking, knitting, listening to music, watching tv, sleeping, watching little kids/younger relatives, etc). listens to certain music genres based off of mood, likes music that’s relatable, and in depth. most likely one of your children will have cancer/moon in their chart, probably the oldest. children may be caring, moody, emotional, clingy, kind, jealous, etc, since these are the traits of cancer. usually very fertile, and may have many kids. oldest is most likely gonna be a girl. try not to be obsessive w/your kids or too protective. i recommend using more than one source of protection😂.

Leo/Sun☀️

confident, and friendly. usually social butterflies. selfish with their partners lol, wants all their attention. jolly in the dating world/at the beginning of the relationship. flirting style is physical(confident) or playful(joking around/calling eachother names playfully, etc). shows their partner off. for dates, they seem like they’re down for anything. hobbies may be acting, singing, socializing, partying, painting, taking selfies, social media, etc. probably one of those assholes that play music so loudly/on speakers lmaoo. their music taste is in ✨good taste✨. most likely one of your children will have leo/sun in their chart, probably the oldest. confident, overdramatic, energetic, bossy, friendly, etc, since these are the traits of leo. you will shove your kids good traits in other parents faces💀, or just show them off in general. oldest is most likely going to be a boy. kids will most likely have great health.

Virgo/Mercury🐛

(im gonna say “we”, since this is my placement lol)

if we really like you, you can do no wrong in our eyes. we should try not to put our interest on a high pedestal, as we get disappointed easily sometimes😭. we have to learn that nobody is perfect, and make sacrifices. intelligent and chatty also. selfless in love/server love. another placement that most likely daydreams/thinks abt crush a lot. also talks abt crush a lot to friends. cautious in the dating scene/at the beginning of a relationship. flirting style is traditional(smiley, if a women/someone attracted to men expects the man to initiate lol or atleast wants him to, shy) or polite(pleasant, good manners, non sexual, etc). i admit, some of us send mixed signals😭. likes dates where you can talk/get to know eachother, so a library, coffee shop, etc. hobbies may be social media, hanging out, cleaning, shopping, making plans, debating, etc. another placement that likes all/most music genres. most likely one of your children will have virgo/mercury in their chart, probably the oldest. children may be clever, critical, fast learners, complainer, pragmatic, etc since these are the traits of virgo. we will worry/stress out abt our kids a lot. may also adopt or foster. twins/multiple births at once is indicated, and they’re most likely gonna be female(s). another placement that makes pregnancy seem like it goes quick.

Libra/Venus🌷

loves compliments. probably shallow tbh. easy going with partners. charming in the dating scene/beginning of a relationship. flirting style is sincere(makes eye contact, plays w/hair, etc). likes “beautiful” dates(beach, park, garden, etc) or dinners, it just needs to be romantic lol. hobbies are socializing, social media, taking pics, beauty(makeup, hair, skincare, etc), shopping, etc. may like love songs, rnb, jazz, pop, or multiple genres in general. most likely one of yours children will have libra/venus in their chart, probably the oldest. oldest is most likely going to be a girl. children may be social/popular, shallow, easygoing, etc since these are the traits of libra. makes sure their kids dress nicely.

Scorpio/Pluto🥀

likes to keep details of relationships private, but that doesn’t mean they’re gonna keep YOU private/hidden as a whole. probably falls hard. tries to hide vulnerability in love. don’t be neurotic in love lol. intense in the dating scene/beginning of a relationship. flirting style is sincere(mysterious, good eye contact, genuine interest, etc). might like “dark” dates (abandoned places, cemeteries, horror movies, etc.) hobbies are astrology, conspiracy theories, anything taboo, witch craft, watching videos abt crime, being alone, etc. likes “dark” music, maybe even like satanic shit. music abt scorpio themes(death, sex, etc). explicit songs. rap, rock, things like that. most likely one of your children will have scorpio/pluto in their chart, probably the oldest. children may be secretive, clever, possessive, intense, emotional, etc since these are the traits of scorpio. try not to be over controlling or possessive of children, and be open to change. usually fertile.

Sagittarius/Jupiter🍀

generous in relationships, gives, and gives. might not take things seriously when they should. spirited, and optimistic in the dating scene/the beginning of a relationship. flirting style is playful (inside jokes, more giggly around “them”, etc). carnivals, short traveling, anything wild(skydiving, bungee jumping, etc), are ideal dates for these ppl. hobbies consist of hanging out, learning(esp of other cultures, and religions), sports, reading, etc. probably likes religious music lmao, or music in languages they don’t even understand, if not then pop or rap. most likely one of your children will have sagittarius/jupiter in their chart, probably the oldest. children may be loud, rude, honest, selfish, curious, etc since these are the traits of sagittarius. ppl with this placement have/want a whole gang(like a lot of kids lmao), “the more the merrier”. probably gets pregnant without trying/the first try lmao.

Capricorn/Saturn🪐

doesn’t have time for games. a reliable, and loyal partner. serious in the dating scene/at the beginning of a relationship. flirting style is traditional(man speaks up first, clever, etc). dinner, museums, wine tasting, etc are good date ideas for you. hobbies may range from reading, working, shopping, learning abt history, collecting, etc. might like classical music, chill music/slowed + reverb, music from back in the day, etc. most likely one of your children will have capricorn/saturn in their chart, probably the oldest. children may be responsible, “boring”, caring, standoffish, reliable, etc since these are the traits of capricorn. you’re might not even want kids, or might have them in your 30s or even 40s, and if you do have kids it’s likely not that many(1 or 2 lol).

Aquarius/Uranus👾

some will be turned off by your distantness, some won’t mind. open minded in the dating scene/in a beginning of a relationship. flirting style is polite(aloof, might be awkward, honest, etc). painting, video games, go donating blood together, etc are probably ideal dates for you lol(also anything eccentric). hobbies are technology, social media, helping others, astrology, unusual sports, theories, etc. music taste may not be mainstream. might like unusual music genres like vapor wave, nintendocore, etc lmao. may also like alt, edm, etc. most likely one of your children will have aquarius/uranus in their chart, probably the oldest. children may be unique, cold, thinks outside the box, arrogant, etc since these are the traits of aquarius. you might adopt, or get unexpectedly pregnant. if you want kids of your own, you’re gonna need to know when you’re ovulating, since your fertility is likely all over the place.

Pisces/Neptune🍄

selfless, and dreamy partner. another placement that may ignore red flags, when feelings are involved. wholesome in the dating scene/beginning of a relationship. flirting style is sincere(blushes easily, stares, more smiley, makes it obvious, etc). painting, cuddling, listening to music with each other, etc are ideal dates for these ppl, but honestly i feel like they’d be down for anything. hobbies may be painting, singing, listening to music, sleeping, having friends over, drugs, and alcohol, etc. probably has many playlists, and listens to everything. “stoner” music lmao. most likely one of your children will have pisces/neptune in their chart, probably the oldest. children may be bashful, over sensitive, imaginative, lazy, sweet, etc since these are the traits of pisces. children’s birth may have hidden details(ancestry, hereditary, etc).

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what's one thing about pat and pran you wanted to rant about but still didn't?

oh dear anon you have well and truly opened a can of worms here. i think there are like a million tiny things about patpran that i havent ranted about yet, like little aspects to their dynamics or specific headcannons i have for them. but seen as im being give the opportunity, youre putting down the soapbox for me, i felt like i had to think carefully. tumblr is telling me its been 8 hours since i got this ask and believe me, i have non stop been going through the filing cabinet in my head of patpran rants looking for a good one. then i remembered that i wanted to talk about something, so here we go.

ive seen people talk before about how much they love the fact that, when pat has his realization, he doesnt go into any kind of gay crisis. his mind is going through a lot, but i dont think any of those thoughts are 'oh god i like a boy wtf am i gay what is this its weird gross ew'. im not saying his revelation has no affect on how he views his sexuality, i think its just that its not that shocking to him bc hes just so fine with it yknow. like if someone came out to him he wouldnt even do a double take, and so he doesnt for himself. hes more like oh cool moving on, very much so concerned with acting on his feelings. like i dont think it even crosses his mind to have an identity crisis, he just needs to tell pran, like, now.

anyway this is all to say that i love how this attitude manifested in ep 7 in a more physical way. bc throughout the series we've seen that pat is fine with physical contact and closeness, but it wasnt inherently sexual or romantic at that point. but now it is, you can just tell, whenever theyre near there are sparks just because of their proximity. and the thing is, not only is pat ok with that, but he more so than pran initiates and encourages physical intimacy with that implicit meaning. he takes his shirt of twice, openly invites pran to look at him in a sexual way, encourages pran to touch him, and even outside those moments in the curry scene at the start and the face cleaning scene, pat is the one to touch pran's face. and i just think it fits pat's character so well that there is no hesitance in the exploration of his sexuality, not emotionally or physically. its just so plain and simple and i think thats really something ppl should see and deserve to see. that this man is like 'oh ok i like this boy, i want to touch this boy, i want this boy to touch me too... cool'. pat is a creature that follows his instincts, lives moment to moment and i just love that liking pran for him was like finally putting in the last piece of a puzzle, bc now that its complete, its not like hes wondering 'hmm i wonder if that was the right piece, does it fit right', bc the picture is clear and it makes perfect sense and theres no need to fret over or overthink or analyse any of it. and it screams so loudly this whole meant to be, destined to be together vibe they have, like the universe itself was created so they could be with each other.

anyway, im rambling and getting off topic, but as i was talking about ep 7, i wanna end it with this. in all of pran's flirtations and advances, very contrary to the finger licking incident at the end of ep 7, all of his flirting, seduction, insinuation is verbal. he is the absolute king of dropping lines so laced with romantic and sensual meaning that absolutely ruin pat. but think about all the flirting we see in ep 7, in none of them does pran touch pat without pat starting it. even in the library when pran is very much getting up in pat's personal space, he leverages himself on his arm, traps pat in and dangles himself in front of pat without touching. this says a lot to me about both of them. firstly, that i think pran knows that pat is attracted to him, plain and simple. bc its so easy with these two to talk about their star crossed, written in the stars, decided by fate love. but i love that in these moments you can see there's plain and simple attraction, like pat's face sometimes screams 'i find you so hot and attractive' and like yes looks arent everything but i love that in their relationship that can be so deep and complex, sometimes its as simple as were both really attracted to each other, bc that is a part of any good relationship too. and the fact pran uses it as leverage in his flirting is excellent. secondly, it shows how pran is the more reserved one, the one more reluctant to end this bet, bc hes so comfortable with talking the talk, but walking the walk is a whole other thing, and he's only comfortable with that when invited into it by pat, when in his mind he can be certain that this is a game, and he is free in the game, and this physical intimacy doesnt have to mean anything. i talked before about how pran can truly express himself when his mind switches off and he allows himself to act in the moment, and this applies here too. there's too many mental barriers stopping him from instigating a physical interaction, but when caught up in the moment, swept up on the fun of the game and being with pat, he doesnt have to overanalyse his actions and therefore he can be physically intimate.

and i love how this whole physical vs non-physical battle plays out. i love that, while he wont touch pat, he'll touch wai and make a show of it bc he knows thats something he's keeping from pat at the moment. he is well and truly keeping that card close to his chest, dangling it right in front of pats nose that he'll put his arm around him at the rugby practice and wipe his mouth at the noodle place. its more than just jealousy that pran is touching wai, its an absolute power move. pran is literally like i wont instigate any physical intimacy with you, but look at me drape myself all over wai, and let it stir up all that jealousy, let it make you angry, let it be the thing that breaks you bc you do desperately want me to touch you, and for that touch to be of my own accord. and then he does, right at the end, the first initiation of physical touch by pran is him wiping pats mouth, right after he made his confession by feeding him. it shows that he's now allowing himself to initiate bc he is comfortable with it, he doesnt need there to be any excuses of a game and neither does he have to withhold that from pat for the sake of winning. there are no winners and losers anymore, just a boyfriend that he can touch whenever he wants and who will touch him in return. and i cant wait to see this whole thing blossom into the most beautiful and adorable displays of casual intimacy so i can throw up over how in love they are.

#wow turns out i really did have things to rant about #im telling you if you give me the opportunity i will always deliver #and once i start typing about one thing my mind just goes and goes #spirals and spirals down rabbit hole after rabbit hole #i dont want to read this back bc i have no clue how coherent it is #this is legit just stream of conscious rambling about patpran i hope u delivered dear anon #bad buddy #patpran #made by jemmo

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ravenbloodshot · 2 months

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Hello! How are you doing today?

Are u open for reading requests? Jun Shison have been my fav actor and I just saw your readings for other Japanese celebrities and I liked your readings for them. So would you mind do the same reading for him? Like his personality and his ideal type if u don’t mind? Thank you for your time and energy! 💗

Personality it is....

He has a love for sunbathing or just likes feeling the sun on his skin (may got to the beach often, it's funny bc the picture above is him at beach)

He has a flirtatious and coolness about him that can attract ppl to him easily. Like a person that everybody finds themselves in love with even when he doesn't do much (most ppl thinks hes very aesthetically pleasing)

He's the type to support causes or organizations for publicity (to look good), not really the kind of guy to do things selflessly or do proper research before accepting sponsorships (He should be careful not promote scams or shady companies). For an example, if he had a skincare sponsorship, he could promoted the product saying how good it is for the skin and yadayada but never even put a drop of it on his own skin (he could get into trouble if his promoted products are faulty, but the thing is he does know how to weasel his way out of trouble and I doubt he'll ever incriminate himself by specifically saying "I used this product and it did this.....". So bad press or not, no one will be able to truly point the finger at him)

He has backstabbing tendencies and is very self-centered as well. He does things for his own advancement even if he has to step on a few ppl to get there. The one oddly good thing I will say about all of this is...he's not exactly a "fraud", like if he backstabbed someone the person wouldn't exactly be in a position of surprise of "wow, I didn't think he could ever do this to me".

No. ..

He's like this and he's open about it, so if you get close to him, you really can't be surprised when he behaves exactly the way he's always behaved. Basically, he's an honest backstabber

He loves nature, animals, and just being outside. (When I initially started the reading I saw an image of him sitting at a bar, looking pretty, chatting up ppl as they walked by him) so he could be quite a social butterfly. Whatever the opposite of a homebody is, that's him. He may have pets that he loves dearly, sees these pets as family

This guy seems very tough, like someone who had to get it out the mud. It's like he's seen and done it all. He's been a scared boy at one point in his life. As time went along, his experiences hardened and matured him (for better and for worse)

He may be pretty good at singing

Very prideful man. Knows he's good-looking. Knows how to attract ppl to him

He's quite dominant and assertive, which can intimidate others and view him as pompous (he may have excellent posture)

He's judgemental and argumentative. Type of person to think if he hates something everybody else should too and argue them down if they say they like the things he doesn't like

Very sensual and sexual

Has a sweet and caring side that few get to see

Hard For by Kevin Gates is a song that fits this readings energy

#japanese actor #jun shison #jun shison tarot

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realcube · 3 years

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haikyuu!! boys dating you for a bet then falling hcs 💘

characters: oikawa, kuroo & osamu

tw// angst to fluff, swearing, sexual references - minor dni!

OIKAWA’S AND KUROO’S ARE AGED UP !

thank you anon for this request 😚

Tōru Oikawa

everyone on the team was teasing him for getting broken up with bc he was ‘too obsessed with volleyball’

he had finally had enough and made a bet with iwaizumi, matsukawa and hanamaki that he could get a s/o quicker than any of them

they accepted ofc but that’s when oikawa learned that hanamaki was already talking to a girl he liked which meant that it was a race against time for oikawa to find someone to date

in reality, he had no interest in dating atm but he had to do this for the sake of his pride

he settled on asking you out bc you were his lab partner for chemistry and even before the bet, he was making playful flirtatious banter with you but it’s not like he had any real feelings for you which meant that breaking up with you afterwards would be simple..right?

also, asking you out would be an easy win

and it was 🤠

oikawa won the bet and regained some confidence which meant he was now free to break up with you

buuuut y’all had only just started dating so he didn’t want to break up with you before the first date so he postponed the break up until after y’all went to the movies together

then the night came - he had just came back home for your first date at the movies, he took you to see an alien invasion movie and you said you loved it

he stared at his phone which was open on IMessage, on your contact; his fingers hovered over the keypad but the words didn’t come to him the way he expected

the more he thought about, he realised that you guys hadn’t even had your first kiss yet and he wanted to give you a sweet memory to leave you with before he inevitably dumped you so he decided to postpone the break-up again, until you guys had your first kiss

and since his messenger was open, he invited you on a second date to the park where you had your first kiss over a shared cone of vanilla ice-cream

honestly, he had such a great time on the date that in the moment, he completely forgot about the fact he had to break-up with you so here he was again, sitting on his bed and looking down at his phone glumly as he searched his brain for the right words to say

but when he allows his mind to wonder for too long, it always comes back to one thing

so figured that he’d hold off breaking-up with you until your first time and from there — depending on how good you are — he’ll decide whether he wants to dump you or keep you around just as a side fling

the day eventually came three months later, not that he was complaining though as he’s developed a lot more patience since he’s started dating you

you had just came back from a date at the bowling alley and something about seeing Oikawa in bowling shoes and a partially unbuttoned shirt was enough to make you go feral so as soon as you arrived at his house, y’all went for it

in all honesty, sex with you just hit different for oikawa

it was nothing like he’s ever experienced before

like it was kind, sensual and filled with mutual praise and he truthfully never wanted it to end but once it did and he was sprawled out on the bed next you, breathing heavily with your fingers intertwined, he realised that he didn’t want to break up with anymore

the last 4 months that you guys have been dating, truthfully was the best time of his life, like he feels so happy and genuine when he’s around you, there’s no way he’d leave you now

‘I love you, (y/n).’ he hummed, turning his head to the side to look at your peaceful figure laying next him - god, you’re beautiful

‘I love you too, Tōru.’

Tetsurō Kuroo

him and bokuto had a bet to see who could fuck more ppl in a month

the third year gym squad gc was confused but not too confused i mean this is kuroo and bokuto we’re talking about

akaashi, kenma and tsukishima were all disapproving of this idea for their own reasons

akaashi thought it was immoral while kenma and tsukishima thought it was just a ‘who can get an std first competition’

as for hinata and lev, shōyō had his bet on bokuto while lev was rooting for kuroo

kuroo was going to start his hunt for sex partners at the club tonight but he had already agreed that he’d do the business assignment with you tonight and since it was a partnered thing, he’d feel guilty if he opted out last minute

he sat on his bed while you took a seat at his desk, working away at the project while kuroo ‘supervised’

kuroo was bummed that bokuto was probably getting laid rn while he was stuck in his room doing an assignment- WAIT

you were here with him ( •̀ ω •́ )✧ and he was like..90% sure you had the thing for him soooo

he immediately sprung up from his bed and shuffled towards you, grabbing your hips to momentarily lift you up so he could pull you away from the project and onto his lap as he sat on his bed, tracing your jaw with his finger

‘time for a break~’ he cooed in your ear, massaging your thigh with spare hand, ‘only if want though, doll.’

xdfghj OFC YOU DID

consent = given ✨

kuroo = hard

your sex = destroyed

ass = red

you = overstimulated as hell 💅

if you started during the day, expect the sun to have gone down by the time y’all were finished

he offered to take you on a date so you both could do this again sometime and you said yes

but he reassured himself that you were only a hook up- definitely nothing serious- no feelings whatsoever

so a week later, he took you on a sweet, wholesome date to a carnival and you got railed afterwards 🥰

your next few dates went in a similar way until one fateful day where you were just..tired

neither of you really wanted to smash tbh, you were just happy laying in each other’s arms

and as time went on, you guys went on more dates where there was absolutely no sexual activities, just sweet intimacy

and he...... liked it

why did he like it???

you were nothing more than a sexual relief to him, right??

so why did he enjoy cuddling with you so much? shouldn’t he be fuckin you rn? but he didn’t want to...like he was lowkey vibin with you in his arm while watching modern family

then he looked down at you in his arms, the light of the screen highlighting your features beautifully

‘i think i might actually want to marry you one day.’ he blurted out, lightly tracing the bridge of your nose with his finger

this caught you off-guard so you looked up at him, an adorable pink blush dusting your cheeks, ‘really?’ was all you could think to reply

‘yeah.’

Osamu Miya

ofc it was a bet with atsumu ofc it was a bet with atsumu

‘who could get the hotter s/o competition?’ and suna would decide who wins

the twins had a month to get a s/o who was hot asf

so osamu asked you out in maths bc you were the most attractive person he kinda already talks too

you said yes as you sorta kinda maybe had a lil’ thing for him

however, he didn’t even ask you out on a date

in fact, he barely even talked to you after he asked you out until the day came where suna judged which miya twin won the bet

osamu did ofc

then he kinda forgot y’all were dating until one day you snapped him with the caption ‘???’

he was like ‘hey’

sorry i firmly believe he is the driest texter

anyway he felt bad for neglecting you for over a month so he said he’d make it up to you by taking you out to dinner

but he promised himself that dinner was only an apology and right afterwards, he’d cut you off

he was scrolling through his phone, looking for places to take you and although he wanted to just get take-out, even he knew that fast-food probably wasn’t a very romantic date idea

wait- he didn’t care about it being romantic- did he??

eventually he settled on an expensive restaurant bc getting you a take-away probably wasn’t a very good apology

so anyway he took you out and he actually had a pretty good time ^^

i mean, when you coincidentally ordered the same thing off the menu as him- he kinda caught feelings

osamu would definitely realise that he fell for you faster than oikawa and kuroo

just the way his hand just feels a pull towards yours when you’re walking side-by-side is a dead giveaway

so once the date is over and he dropped you off at your house, instead of breaking up with you as he planned, he simply placed a tender kiss on your forehead and smiled, ‘we should do this again soon.’

when he saw the way your face lit up and you squealed slightly, he knew he made the right decision

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potatopossums · 2 years

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So, It's Aromantic Awareness Week

I'm so happy about the deserved rep and recognition for me and my fellow aros.

I'm also feeling displaced.

I know a lot of pride events have these fun little prompts for people to share their experiences. I did one for Nonbinary Awareness Week a couple years ago. If anyone has found a good list of prompts for Aro Week, I'd be so happy to check them out and possibly do them, but I haven't seen any so far.

But whew. Sometimes i feel very isolated in my experience as an aro person. And in my experience as a person in general.

It's hard to feel a lot of relation to labels and symbols. I don't really line up too well with people's experiences even though my idea of what the label means fits me. But i don't seem to really match other people's experiences. I know that's canonically okay. But it feels weird. It makes me question.

Where the hell do i belong, and do i belong anywhere?

I have a weird aro experience. I feel like i 100% know what romance feels like and i think it's just eh. Romantic friendships can be nice but they also have a tendency to suck. I feel like my lack of enjoyment eventually becomes aromanticism in my process. I experience attraction to people but don't really categorize it as romantic. It's just attraction. It usually comes through as aesthetic, platonic, sensual, sexual... stuff like that. I'm used to recognizing that as romantic, but since learning about aromanticism, I've realized there's a distinction, no matter how small. I've learned that i don't want to have a romantic relationship just to check off some box on my List of Things to Do to Lead a Successful Life. I want to be around people i care about for real, people who vibe with me. And i really don't find that I can choose those people all too well. I'm actually really horrible at picking partners of any sort. It always ends up going awfully. I'm a terrible judge of character. Or, perhaps I'm a very aware judge of character, I'm too patient with people to whom i shouldn't so readily lend my patience. Who knows. I just operate kind of mechanically, as if life is a math problem i can solve formulaically. And then I'm disappointed when the equation doesn't really work out.

That definitely isn't an accurate definition of aromanticism, but it's an accurate depiction of my life. And it's really weird. I enjoy people and struggle to let them into my life. The people I'm attracted to I'm afraid to talk to or be honest with, for fear of scaring them away. The people i don't really care for end up being good company, but i don't feel much "spark" of excitement or joy or attraction around them. I feel like I'm chasing the high of attraction in all my relationships. (Hello, ADHD? It's me, R. I'm chasing dopamine again. Please advise.)

Maybe that's aro, maybe it's not. Who knows, and i like to adopt the mantra of "who cares" as well. But it definitely sucks sometimes to feel like you don't quite fit anywhere.

So on that note, here's to the ppl who kind of identify with aromanticism but also don't totally feel like they fit and don't feel like they fully belong under any label, but still relate to the term for some weird, possibly unexplainable reason. Maybe we are just where we are. Maybe it doesn't feel that comfortable and maybe that's okay. Maybe it sucks and feels terrible. Maybe it feels alright. However that is for you, I'm glad you're here anyway.

#aromantic #queer #alterous #lgbtq #aromantic awareness week #labels

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crystalsenergy · 3 years

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exposing house cusps series - part 7

pic not mine

remembering that this can vary and not all natal charts will have this same "pattern". for example, i know a person who has a Taurus Rising, but who has Taurus on the cusp of another house. so, it's quite possible that it will be different for many people. if it's your case, send me an ask to talk! i'll reply as soon as possible.

Ascendant in Libra / Libra rising - you are a person with an affectionate and also charming self-image. people who look at you see an aura of someone adaptable and kind. ppl see you as charming and harmonious.

Scorpio in 2nd house - you can function in a deeper way with regard to your material goods and your values about life. you tend to go through transformations in the way you deal with money.

Sagittarius in 3rd house - your way of dealing with knowledge is in a profound way and not as fickle as expected. you tend to get to the bottom of an issue when studying something, and you tend to express all your knowledge.

Capricorn in 4th house - you tend to have a family with authority figures. your family is more restricted and you had a difficult childhood, where you learned to "don't express" your feelings.

Aquarius in 5th house - the power of your individuality is in your desire for freedom. your creative strength is to stand out from the others with your originality.

Pisces in 6th house - your way of dealing with routine is more patient, spiritual. you tend to function in your daily life according to your vibe and will. you may have a lack of energy, but you are extremely creative.

Aries in 7th house - you tend to be someone who attracts relationships with people who impose themselves, you end up admiring personality characteristics of being courageous, energetic, competitive and honest.

Taurus in 8th house - you have a certain inflexibility to change, you can deal with your sexuality and primitive instincts in a more stable and sensual way. you are very persistent.

Gemini in 9th house - you end up dealing with more complex and profound teachings, like higher education (college), in a more fragmented way. you may need to learn little by little, not being able to get to the bottom of a single subject for a long time with ease. you learn profound things by taking "pieces" of knowledge here and there.

Cancer in 10th house / MC in Cancer - your career needs to be in line with what your heart says, with what you always wanted to do and what makes you happy. it is important that, regardless of your career, you can feel good emotionally speaking.

Leo in 11th house - you tend to be very proud of your friendships. you want your friends around. you may have a tremendous problem with admitting you are wrong, you may have difficulty apologizing.

Virgo in 12th house - you may have a habit of bringing rationality to your psychological and emotional issues. this habit of hiding your inner feelings and issues can make you keep your stress to yourself, which can make you anxious or impact your physical health.

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How would you describe a romantic crush on someone, cause I've been toying with either the greyromantic or the demiromantic label for myself but I don't even know what a crush is supposed to feel like, so I don't even know where to start. Like for example, for demiromantic, you said in a recent post that demi people don't really form crushes on strangers.

I hope you understand my question, as my English sucks, and thank you for any of your help!

A romantic crush is harder to define than, say, sexual attraction, because it is dictated by external and internal ideas of romance, rather than a specific action or goal.

Broadly speaking, having a crush on someone is wanting to do "romantic things" with them. These are generally a mix of what you personally consider romance-coded, and what your culture/society deems romance-coded. Basically it's feeling a pull* to be in what you consider a romantic relationship. But that's kind of hard for arospecs to define, for obvious reasons.

Some commonly (but not exclusively) romance-coded things in my culture include

Holding hands

Kissing (/on the mouth)

Going on dates

Referring to each other as boyfriend/girlfriend/partner/etc

Being emotionally intimate

Intending to build a life together

Cuddling

Saying "I love you" but it feels different to when it's familial or platonic

Because a lot of these can be grouped with other forms of attraction (e.g. cuddling for sensual attraction) I tend to look at all of them together.

As for how it actually feels, it's been a few years for me but I'll try to remember lol

A lot of people feel sort of happy-nervous around their crush, although for me it was more like a pull than any sort of nervousness (I tend to get more nervous around ppl I'm platonically/alterously attracted to)

Being very aware of where they are in a room

Being drawn towards them/trying to subtly end up next to/near them in group settings

Being quite conscious of your actions in case they are watching you

I also still got that achy chest/butterfly feeling but more in a yearning way than a nervous way

Depending on your personality, maybe wanting to talk to/about them all the time, or being really shy around/about them

But yeah romantic attraction is notoriously difficult to define and describe so you're not alone if you still don't really get it. Some labels like quoiromantic take the confusion around romantic attraction as a defining feature; it could be worth looking into that. And things like aro, arospec, and greyromantic can be used as umbrella terms too.

Feel free to reach out if you have any follow-up questions :)

*note that I didn't say "wanting to be in a relationship" because you can feel attraction and not want to be in a relationship with them, and you can want to be in a relationship but not feel attraction

#also your english is really very good #much better than any of my second languages lol #demiromantic #greyromantic #arospec #aspec #aro #romantic attraction #crushes #ask #star-astro

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ateezaligned · 3 years

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How OnlyOneOf portrayed queer relationships and dynamics in libidO, w a hint of good ol’ yearning

(disclaimer: this strictly about the mv and in no way I’m implying these dynamics are translated to real life and their friendships if u suggest that ill kick you, don’t ship real ppl romantically pls)

The storyline of Instinct pt. 1 tell us this album is focused on self-discovery and how young people repress their “urges”, but the way all three subplots play with this concept is super fascinating!

The KB/Yoojung situation (which is my favorite subplot!!): From my point of view, Yoojung and KB show a relationship that is just blossoming. The song starts with tying up Yoojung’s hands, he is being contained, and his lyrics are literally “I’m attracted for no reason”, now I looked up other translations besides the original and it also has to do with being ‘pulled’, like Yoojung is being pulled into this relationship for ‘no reason’, he thinks he needs one to fall in love with another man. Rationalizing your feelings is a way to separate yourself from them. Therefore, Yoojung plays the more hesitant part, he overthinks, his super ego policing strongly what he feels.

On the other hand, KB is seen initiating most of the physical contact between them, and he does it in a way that makes it easy for Yoojung to pull back if he doesn’t want it. KB is also always at least an arm away, inside a comfortable space for Yoojung to reach for him if he wants to. In their first scene of close contact, Yoojung is the one laying his head on KB’s shoulder, and he keeps control of their closeness throughout the whole video, despite KB breaking it with the soft touches we see, such as fixing Yoojung’s hair or putting his hand on his shoulder in the beach scene. And all this gentle-ness contrasts so well, bc we also see KB’s character initiating contact with others! He pulls Junji for a hug when both of them are shirtless and he does it so nonchalantly! It’s obvious he is okay with /more/, but he respects Yoojung’s boundaries and never pushes.

The scooter scene is great, bc we can see Yoojung hugging and pressing their thighs and putting his hands in the air, he feels more carefree, he was able to get past his own inhibitions and it’s so great to see.

So Yoojung and KB's is like a first relationship: you are stepping on eggshells, you don’t know what you’re doing or looking for. A lot of queer people start dating into adulthood, and even with previous ‘straight’ dating experience, everything is so incredibly new! And it’s great but also anxiety inducing and frustrating.

Then, there’s Rie and Junji. A thing I found incredibly interesting is that in every scene of them (except two) they’re already in contact. In the car they’re holding hands, and when they’re hugging and eating lollipops, and back to back in the basketball court, we don’t know who started it, but it doesn’t matter because Junji and Rie are equals and stand on the same ground of mutual love, respect and experience, they’re having fun and smiling at one another, even when they’re playing basketball face to face, their eyes are on each other and its playful and great. Rie has one of the best lyrics in the song that is “I trust youand I accept it”. Junji and Rie don’t need to fight their instincts, really, because they know everything is reciprocated and their libido (not as in sexual drive but as in life energy) is matched in the other, they have trust over everything else, and this can also be shown in the only scene where Rie lays his head on Junji’s back, he’s supporting himself on his partner and Junji accepts it because relationships aren’t only fun but also healing and giving someone a place to rest. And Junji does his part and bandages Rie’s wounds, which @henlex pointed out as a Achilles and Patroclus reference, being these basically the top tier of gay love and companionship, when Patroclus died (represented by Rie), Achilles dies avenging him, asking for their ashes to be mixed so they could be forever one. So yeah, let’s yearn for something like this gays.

Finally, the trio. They’re the first ones to have their solo scenes, and you can see Love in the bathtub, he is naked and exposed, playing with some rosemary leaves (yeah I went to someone and asked them if they recognised the plant leave me alone). Rosemary used to be given to Aphrodite bc it was used as an aphrodisiac. It also represents fidelity. Yeah. So Love is playing with fidelity, basically. Many thoughts were thought.

Then, Nine and Mill are a continuous contrast throughout the mv. While Nine is inside and laying on the floor, cozy and reading, Mill stands outside in the garden looking at the window. I’ve said it before but I think it’s really important the way Mill’s character portrays one of the harsher parts of queerness that is that “other-ness”. You’re just an observant, and you want in and to be yourself with your friends and participate in those rituals, but something inside you doesn’t allow you to. In here, though, is not just ‘I want to identify with my straight friends’ but ‘I want to be free like these other gays, why can’t I do it?’.

Nine and Love’s relationship doesn’t really show a lot of romantic moments, in fact, I can’t really think about something between them that was, intimate and sensual? yes, but not romantic. Which is completely okay. Sex is not something bad, and gay sex is constantly demonized. Casual sex is okay and sex with friends and whatever, as long as everyone involved is a consenting adult, sex is okay. So to me, Love and Nine are friends, the arm around the neck seemed casual and natural, they’re comfortable with each other, and they’re also comfortable with mill, as shown in the creek scene. They didn’t mind the audience (yeah this sounds kinky ik), both nine and love are pushing the boundaries, unlike kb. But pushing isn’t always wrong, per se.

Nine starts with the lyrics “leave it, libido, we’re like roots (…) mixing together with no rules”, while Love sings “don’t suppress it just accept it”. Both nine and love are clear with their intentions and instincts, their subconscious is not their enemy in any way, since both of them accept the relationship they have.

Meanwhile, Mill battles with his libido, but it’s not like Yoojung who has a partner that actually loves him, if Mill takes the chance and jumps, he doesn’t know where he is going to land. In the whole video, not even once Mill touches someone else, even if he desperately wants to (Yongsoo did a great acting work I’m still so amazed!!). The yearning and pining over Love, who pulls him in and gazes at him, is such a good concept, because even if Love is giving him all the signals that there is (he is with another boy openly, allows close contact and shows himself in front of mill), Mill will still doubt himself and what he is doing. Hesitation and all, he takes a leap of faith in that one scene where he approaches Nine and Love, and keeps eye contact.

Now here is where the controversial crotch grabbing scene comes, and both Love and Nine sing. They say they’re walking over shallow water, so it’s not risky, they’re not gonna drown, and there’s no one around and they just “keep walking”. They do their thing with no care of what others may think. But also, Nine asks “what you need?” And “why can’t you see the light over there?” now, maybe after the whole no compromises he did catch feelings for Love, but Love, playing with fidelity as previously stated, answers “I’m gonna go where I feel like going”.

And then we have Mill’s rap. He talks about how this ‘experience’ can’t be compared to anything else but it’s an experiment. Now I know a thing or two about downplaying queer experiences, it isn’t unusual for gay ppl to look at things our younger selves did and think ‘how did I even passed as straight?’. Mill, even after saying it was just this experiment, says “you’re already putting a period, that doesn’t end things”. So, my guess, since after that we don’t see them directly interacting unlike the other couples, is that it all fell apart. Love, having the upper hand in the whole dynamic, didn’t have actual romantic feelings for any of the other boys, and he left them hanging.

While a bit heartbreaking, I think it’s important to point out that queer relationships are just like straight ones, and sometimes they end up in ruins, and it’s okay and its part of growing and discovering oneself!

So yeah, that’s my interpretation. This is like 1500 words. A whole essay. Hyperfixation is a bitch. I need a girlfriend.

#onlyoneof #long post #isi rants #as always excuse my bad english #oh to have a gf so i didnt have to torture my followers w my babbling #if someone wants to give me their opinion and talk to me i will love them forever!!

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Anonymous asked: do you think xiaoven have exes..?? how do you they navigate dating n does the experience affect their dynamic at all..? esp if its modern AUs .

— honestly? i can't see either of them dating anyone. n not just like. "i don't like seeing xiaoven w anyone else" but just w the way ive characterized them

venti fanon seems like the flirty type that will date/sleep w anyone who asks, but i don't rlly see him that way?? n idk where that came from, tbh. he rlly strikes me as someone who keeps his distance from others, especially emotionally. so its hard for me to imagine he may have gotten close enough to a mortal (much less another god, given his rebellious yet lackadaisical nature. mmmaybe the time god? but we don't know enough abt them) to enter a romantic or sexual relationship. n this transfers over to modern aus, where he might get flirty for a few free drinks but run at the sign of genuine interest bc of how difficult it would be for him to make himself vulnerable in any kind of way, even if it's just being undressed. everything he wears, does, says is a mask he uses to hide how much of a mess he is inside, n the tiniest crack could be his downfall (in his mind)

xiao, obvs, is v distant from others emotionally n physically. from the fact that he was a child when that evil god took control of him, to the fact that the relationship seemed less of "im using u for violence AND pleasure" n more just "im using u to destroy anyone n anything in my way", n that he fell deep into the "i am just a weapon" mentality even after rex lapis saved him, i rlly can't see him even allowing himself to THINK of romance or sensual desires. which once again transfers to modern aus, in which xiao has always felt separate or unable to trust someone enough to even be friends w them, much less give them any kind of hint of control or power they could use against him physically or emotionally

but w each other it's like..venti has never wanted or expressed a desire to control or overpower xiao in any way. he's just wanted to help xiao, share his music. so its easier for xiao to come to trust venti bc there's not even a hint of ill intent anywhere (traveler sometimes can seem TOO nice or TOO helpful n it causes xiao to be suspicious. venti will at least tease him or say no every so often). n xiao is obviously someone in pain like venti is. he obviously can UNDERSTAND what venti's been through to some degree. n w how gentle of a soul xiao is, how intent he is on not hurting anyone, how genuine he is, that venti finds it easier to let his walls down little by little, the more he sees xiao. the fact that they can see through each other's masks to the hurt beneath but still are willing to stay, is huge for both of them (venti, w traveler, is like...they almost forced their way thru, or venti felt caught w his walls down, rather than letting them down himself) (im using traveler bc theyre the one i see the two being closest w emotionally outside of each other)

plus!! i see them both as demi, so there's no deep attraction anyway until that bond is formed

Anonymous asked: u can use this cc as an expansion to talk abt their dynamic if they do have exes

ALRIGHT LETS DO THIS

there's a few circumstances where i can see them having previous romantic relationships—mainly when they're a lot younger than i usually write them (early-mid-late 20's depending on au)

for xiao, i imagine it's smthn like.....he maybe developed feelings for this person, n they agreed to date him, but it didn't last long bc they said he was too much n too intense in regard to his feelings. n that probably would have a hand in some of his issues w expressing emotion or affection for others, or even allowing himself to develop that attachment. esp if it happens when he's like. early high school age

for venti, maybe he tried a few times. ppl he generally vibed w (but didn't rlly feel deeply close to, emotionally) n had fun around. but the same thing: they said he was too much. too much, too flighty, too talkative, too loud. n the more times it happened, the less he tried, until he just stopped altogether. n this would, once again, have a hand in him not feeling like he can authentically express all sides of himself n his lack of general self-esteem, as well as feeling like he can't hold on to anyone bc they always just end up thinking he's annoying anyway

SO. i think it would be a sore subject for both of them—talking abt their past relationships n also thinking of the other's past relationships. one day, they'd probably talk abt it more honestly. xiao would admit that they left him bc he felt too much too intensely n he was scared of that happening again. venti would admit the same: that his last relationships ending bc of his personality making him scared that it'll happen again w xiao, esp since they seem so outwardly incompatible

n bc im a SAP, the conversation would end w just an internal reinforcement on both parts of their feelings n commitment n love for each other, bc they can't bear to think of doing what those ppl did n the past, n that those ppl don't deserve them anyway

#misc question #xiaoven #angst

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