#but i wanted slam

[laughingcatwrites]

As a reminder that good exists out there, a coworker recently confessed to me that he found out his child is questioning their identity (kid's gender redacted for this post). The kid is keeping it from him, so he can't say anything to them or show that he knows, but he's doing his best to get mentally prepared and educated so that he'll be ready whenever his kid does feel comfortable enough come to him.

For context, this guy is a big, bulky middle aged dude who loves sports and typical outdoor "manly" activities. As his coworker and friend, I know he's a kind and sweet teddy bear of a person, but his kid probably views him as a stern, authoritarian figure, the way most teenagers view their parents. His family lives in a conservative area, so I'm sure between that, their dad's looks and interests, and the fact that their dad is a Figure of Authority, the kid is worried that they won't be accepted.

But you know what? When he found out about his kid, the first thing he did was reach out to his closest queer friend and ask for resources for parents of questioning children. His biggest fears are that his kid will be bullied or discriminated against and won't feel comfortable enough to be themself. His second action was to find himself a mentor in another parent who went the same situation (kid coming out in a conservative town). The other person is preparing him for some of the struggles his kid may face and the fights he may need to take on as a parent to make sure his kid is safe and treated well.

Something I want to emphasize for people focused on language as the primary method of allyship is that when we spoke, he used some outdated terms and thoughts about gender and sexuality. That does not make him bad. These were the terms and thinking used about questioning teenagers when he was growing up and he never needed to learn more current ones. But now that he does have that need, he's throwing himself in head first because that's his kid and he's darn well going to make sure that his kid feels welcomed and has a safe place to be themselves even if they never come out to him.

#I'm so proud and happy for my coworker and I've been trying to figure out how to let him know how amazing I think he is #what gets me the most is that he's keeping this super down low to avoid giving any hints to his kid #he has a lot of queer friends so he already is known as an ally but there's always a chance it will be different if it's family #and he took that chance and crumpled it up into a ball and slam dunked it into the garbage for three points #and decided that even if his kid wants to hide it from him for the rest of his life he will still do what he can to make their life better #pflag #parents doing their best #parenting win #good news #allyship

[elodieunderglass]

changes and trends in horror-genre films are linked to the anxieties of the culture in its time and place. Vampires are the manifestation of grappling with sexuality; aliens, of foreign influence. Horror from the Cold War is about apathy and annihilation; classic Japanese horror is characterised by “nature’s revenge”; psychological horror plays with anxieties that absorbed its audience, like pregnancy/abortion, mental illness, femininity. Some horror presses on the bruise of being trapped in a situation with upsetting tasks to complete, especially ones that compromise you as a person - reflecting the horrors and anxieties of capitalism etc etc etc. Cosmic horror is slightly out of fashion because our culture is more comfortable with, even wistful for, “the unknown.” Monster horror now has to be aware of itself, as a contingent of people now live in the freedom and comfort of saying “I would willingly, gladly, even preferentially fuck that monster.” But I don’t know much about films or genres: that ground has been covered by cleverer people.

I don’t actually like horror or movies. What interests me at the moment is how horror of the 2020s has an element of perception and paying attention.

Multiple movies in one year discussed monsters that killed you if you perceived them. There are monsters you can’t look at; monsters that kill you instantly if you get their attention. Monsters where you have to be silent, look down, hold still: pray that they pass over you. M Zombies have changed from a hand-waved virus that covers extras in splashy gore, to insidious spores. A disaster film is called Don’t Look Up, a horror film is called Nope. Even trashy nun horror sets up strange premises of keeping your eyes fixed on something as the devil GETS you.

No idea if this is anything. (I haven’t seen any of these things because, unfortunately, I hate them.) Someone who understands better than me could say something clever here, and I hope they do.

But the thing I’m thinking about is what this will look like to the future, as the Victorian sex vampires and Cold War anxieties look to us. I think they’ll have a little sympathy, but they probably won’t. You poor little prey animals, the kids will say, you were awfully afraid of facing up to things, weren’t you?

#this is the sort of observation I make here that people #go off and write their thesis about #so while I’m not expecting to be the first or cleverest person to say this #if you do use it as a springboard #tell me if you get a good grade ok? #I’ll be tremendously proud of you #like if you take a shitpost and use it to craft deep attentive thought on something important #I just think that’s probably the most noble use of a human brain #it makes me want to take off my hat and slam it to the ground in inexpressible emotion #it’s a cowboy hat btw #and I say something like GOLDURN IT THAT KID SURE HAS DELIVERED. #ok so don’t deny me this #especially if you correct me after a long research journey #GOLDURN IT THE KID IS RIGHT!

[lotus-pear]

"feels like we could go on for forever this way.." (x)

#wooo new header for me <33 #also back to skk posting i missed them sm #wanted to pratice some scenery and try a new style which simplifies my current one and focuses more on colors and painting #and i'm super happy with how it turned out i think i won #for forever fits skk so well it rly brings back the bittersweet memories of when they were once partners and each others halves #and it just feels reminiscent of days gone by and they were once so close but time and life their own decisions have torn them apart #ben platt's voice is so pretty i love this song sm i heard it for the first time again in years and was slammed by all the emotions😭😭 #i was so normal abt deh when it first came out i swear #bungou stray dogs #bungo stray dogs #bsd #dazai osamu #osamu dazai #nakahara chuuya #chuuya nakahara #soukoku #skk #lotus draws

[yes-asil]

Nothing more terrifying than a small kid staring right through your soul

#detective conan #conan edogawa #asil and art #what does Gosho mean it's been 6 moNTHS IN UNIVERSE #ARE YOU KIDDING ME #anyway I'm about to watch movie 4 as soon as I finished the au pages I sketched #I want to get to Haibara so bad 'slamming head on desk'

[bruciemilf]

I wonder how many times Clark and the batkids + Alfred revived Bruce with the Lazarus Pit and just never told him abt it

#he pieces it together later but i mean. its so hard for him to miss now that hes looking back at it #like why is he always always always cold with a turtleneck on and heating blasting #why is his appetite so scarce? how come his sleep deprived body withstands hours - sometimes DAYS - of patrol #and functions perfectly? how come time passes by but he stays the same? why wont clark and dick stop giving gim #*him looks of loving grief? #why does harley slam her fists on her head when she sees him? ' no no no you're gone. you're GONE. I KNOW you are!' #why does selina smile at him with such heavy pity ' sorry bruce. i don't do ghosts' #bruce wayne #dc #dc comics #batman #batfamily #clark kent #dick grayson #jason todd #bc they def exclude the cloning. they dont want another bruce. they want THEIR bruce. tim #like can you imagine jason getting up in tim's face and just ' if you're not gonna stand by us then stay out of our way' #dark bruce? tired. dark BATKIDS? sign me the FUCK up #batdad #text

[pelcrow]

i forgot how much i love Simon oops

#sketches #adventure time #simon petrikov #fionna and cake #adventure time fanart #I KNOW THIS IS SO PREDICTABLE I KNOW I LOVE THE TRAGIC OLD MAN #i want to slam dunk him in a basketball hoop

[birdyleblanc]

they could’ve been depressed besties

#fionna and cake #fionna and cake spoilers #spoilers #f&c spoilers #the lich #adventure time #simon petrikov #comic #fanart #fionna and cake fanart #adventure time fanart #i just wanted to see them slam beers together #digital art #doodle #art

[bluegiragi]

the prettiest pets you'll ever see (happy valentine's day!)

nsfw version on patreon

#would literally any of you believe me if i said i did this as an anatomy study #hoping to god tumblr's guidelines dont slam me for this #theyre wearing clothes tumblr!! what else do you want from me!! #i honestly didnt believe that this brainrot would last until february but what do you know #im still in the trenches with these three #please enjoy #and treat them well <3 #soapbox #simon ghost riley #john soap mactavish #ghostsoap #konig #cod mw2 #giragi art

[akademiyas]

day 3 & 4: all bark & no bite

#i must draw him silly or i explode #diluc ragnvindr #genshin impact #aprilluc #hes soo squishy i want to hydraulicpress him #i want to microwave hjim #i need to strain him #juice presser? #juicer... #slam dunk him #my art

[hanniedream]

photos that unequivocally destroyed my entire life and what little was left of my sanity

#i want to slam shua against a wall and ask him wtf is his problem #i also want to slam my head against his tiddies #joshua #hjs #seventeen #svt

[densewentz]

more dreamling dad au bc thats just what i do now apparently i like lazy afternoon naps and so do our boys

#dreamling #hob gadling #dream of the endless #morpheus #the sandman netflix #sandman fanart #a few people have asked me what the babs name is #ive been calling him Kian #and he gets jealous of Nightmare and wants to be scary too sometimes so his dad made him that horrific onesie #to kian's exact specifications thank u #my art #its important to me that people know kians got dreams dark hair and flair for dramatics but #hes also got hobs big dumb sunshine brown calf eyes that he flashes to get his way bc he also has hobs effortless charm #i also headcanon as he gets older he secrets handfuls of sand into his pockets from EVERYWHERE bc he wants to be like his dad #and hob has to be the sand police and has to make kian turn out his pockets on the doorstep every time they come home from anywhere #bc theres only so much vaccuuming even an immortal man can take #and kian does so but petulantly and while sporting dreams patented Imperious Pissy Face #they have a rule that kian is allowed to stomp as loudly as he wants to his room but isnt allowed to slam doors #in this essay i will-

[iraprince]

sometimes i gotta bask in the knowledge that teen me would be so stoked if it knew what i look like now

#hi. heres the annual ira selfie #mostly i wanted to take one bc i cut my hair for the first time today (as in layers not just shavinf the sides) #and it came out fine instead of being a disaster. so i'm feeling celebratory #i mean you cant even see the haircut bc i immediately pulled everything back and slammed my headphones on anyway. but its abt the spirit

[viiioca]

one of my favorite things in the ff14 fandom is the consistent and repeated phenomenon of people who got into the game with zero investment, named their character something shitposty because they had no plans to play beyond level 20, played 650 hours instead, had 92% of their brain permanently reshaped, and then eventually find themselves 80,000 words into writing a fanfic where their favorite blorbo is enthusiastically smooching a catboy named B'ento Bahks because they're in too deep for a name change

ff14 is an oncoming train and everywhere i look i see splatters on the tracks

#ffxiv #text post #shitpost #if your character's name is b'ento bahks and you wrote an 80k wolship fic played 100% seriously this is not a slam against you #i want to shake your hand

[seagull-scribbles]

“Ain’t turtles supposed to be endangered?”

“Only the ones who can’t do this!”

#TMNT 2012 #raphael hamato #casey jones 2012 #is your bestie really your bestie if the first time you laid eyes on them it wasn’t immediately on sight #rasey #it’s not ship art but also I want it in my rasey tag so #I am having so much fun drawing in the canon style I am but god did I need to do something in my own style again #it’s like when you get made to wear a fitted dress and everyone tells you you look nice and it’s perfect #but you feel self conscious and constricted and it’s not something you’d ever wear #I love learning from studying the different styles but I also miss just editing the designs and going off model #altering the brushes and colours to suit a vibe #this is messy gritty wrong and imperfect but that’s what made it fun and easy and I’m so happy with this you can all bite me #also this is the return of flat ass Casey #Lou jitsu’s moral enemy and opposite lmao #I am so normal about Raph and Casey honest #I don’t constantly think about the way he slams Jones on the car bonnet #just a normal short chunky dude with his lanky toll bestie that happens to have the worlds flattest ass

[journey-to-the-attic]

let it be known that solomon isn't holding ik's hand to protect her; ik is holding solomon's hand to comfort him

(this is that comic idea i had that ended up becoming the rpg au)

#(slamming fists into ground) (wailing) i don't know how to draw backgrouuuuuuunds #art #obey me #obey me solomon #obey me diavolo #obey me barbatos #jtta ik #also they're very briefly there but i'll tag em anyway: #obey me simeon #obey me luke #jtta aus #rpg au #these designs are veeery shaky by the way #i wanted to give everyone a little twist on their hair so now diavolo has a ponytail and barbatos... his hair's just a bit fluffier #yeah i couldn't think of anything for him #solomon and ik have matching braids :) #also solomon's outfit is based on flynn rider (with the colours from his casual outfit in-game)

[pollinatedpansy]

#me when #*slams fist on table* #huh?!? #when is it my turn to feel pathetic #please? #leaving the text out of this so a certain moot has free reign with rbing it if she wants #this also isnt me btw #i wish this was me tho #op is tys1aa_ on twitter