#but it's ummmmm. it's been a pattern with several friends of mine in the year or two after they transitioned

[thedreadvampy]

hmmm so like on the one hand I think it's. pretty understandable that queer men, especially trans men and transmascs, are pretty prickly about being talked about as The Enemy and not extended the same solidarity as non-masc queer people

uhhhhhh

however

I gotta say when you're putting post after post about how she/hers are annoying and unpleasant and you're sick of women and trans women have it so much easier than trans men and ugh everyone is Good and Valid except she/hers bc they're so dominating and angry and shrill uhhhhhhh

buddy I think that's just a good old fashioned misogyny I am not gonna lie to you.

#i don't.... #like it isn't even 'ugh cis women' it's 'if you identify with femininity you are Annoying' #cool dude but like. that is in fact just misogyny. #that thing where you stigmatise and denigrate anything associated with womanhood or femininity? #uhhhhhhh not radical my dude #this is about one blog I was Discourse Scrollin through #but it's ummmmm. it's been a pattern with several friends of mine in the year or two after they transitioned #and idk whether they grew out of it bc I didn't stick around I have better things to do than be told I'm weak and vain bc of my gender #like. again. seems pretty fair to have some distrust that women esp cis women will Get It bc. we often won't. #but there's a big difference between that and just. railing against womanhood. #and like uhhhh. with both my siblings they really put a lot of their own dysphoria onto me with like #I don't want to be a woman therefore being a woman is Objectively Stupid and Bad and Unpleasant #and that sucked for me but also! for them! and they've both put some work into teasing out what's fair to put on others #but aye neither of them ever went full anti-feminist or mra or like. this kind of rainbow coated version of that I see from time to time #and I am not SAYING that it's harmless to do the same in reverse although I know I have been known to #it isn't #but oh man is shittalking women and fem-aligned people like. Not A Radical Stance.