#but meant to make a real post

[watchingwisteria]

im so sorry i get it now i really do, the gay angels have me shaking screaming crying at all hours of the day and night, they mean everything to me i am literally thinking about them all the time and what it would mean to love someone steadily and silently through eternity, what it would mean to love across the lines of a divine war of supposed good and evil, what it would mean to carve out a space for oneself and ones lover in no man’s land, in the grey and moral ambiguity when you were created to be black and white without blemish. god i love them so much i just

#update from the tags : posted this after watching s1 knowing the end of s2 #and i was like hm hope im not too offbase #but imagine my surprise when they literally said ‘i love this space we carved for ourselves’ #I WAS SICK #ineffable husbands #<< u dont get it. i used to see that and it meant nothing to me. now its like a knife inside me #good omens #aziracrow #crowley #aziraphale #ur girl watches good omens #experiencing full brain rot. like every song is about them somehow #im imaginging edits in my head bc i do nawt have time to make them for real #i just bought the book and i am about to devour it #lol another update #the drama in this post is so HDISJSISB but i was FEELING IT #i was GOING THROUGH IT… #and when i think abt them for too long i still am

[lillybean730]

art gallery blog: @lillybean730-art

art tag: #my art

commission info: here

Edit: I didn't make these I just collected them and put them in my pinned post bc I like them

#don't want anyone accusing me of stealing or whatever #this wasn't ever meant to be seen as a real post ya know? #edit 2: not even my pinned post anymore -_- it feels weird to have these spread with my art information attached #makes it feel like im saying this is my stuff

[zu-is-here]

cupid

#zu art #cream week #cross!sans #dream!sans #xunshine #undertale #undertale au #utmv #I know you never meant to hit #You shouldn't shoot if you can't miss #But please don't try to pull it out #My heart belongs to you from now #♡ #(no idea when I'll be back tomorrow so posting it now ٩( ᐛ )و) #I love this one so much #I love these moments when my brain suddenly shows me whole visions #and I say 'God give me strength to make it real as accurately as possible' #and when the vision is gone the picture remains #thank You╰(*´︶`*)╯

[bucktommys]

think about all the places we could go

buck/eddie | 2k+ | ao3

“I,” Athena says, slowly, “have a lot of questions.”

“That’s understandable,” Eddie says. “Take your time.”

Athena takes two long, deep breaths. The other officer next to her doesn’t seem to know where to look; Buck sees him desperately pretend to be interested in the one solitary picture Eddie has hanging on his wall, like their family trip to the zoo is pertinent to the matter at hand. “I don’t suppose anyone knows about this,” Athena says.

It’s not a question, but Buck is also currently wang-out in front of his boss’s wife, so he has enough self-preservation not to get caught on semantics, now. “Uh, no ma’am.”

“Don’t you ma’am me,” says Athena.

“Sorry.”

The other officer is now almost nose-to-nose to the picture with the force of his feigned ignorance. Athena just looks grieved. “Why, then,” she says, “did you get military-grade handcuffs? Were the pink fuzzy ones not macho enough for you?”

Her tone drips with derision. She’s absolutely going home to tell Bobby all about this. “We kept, uh, breaking the pink fuzzy ones,” Eddie admits, and then, “Buck, don’t preen.”

“I’m not preening,” Buck says, probably definitely preening, but like it’s his fault, okay? It’s good to know the bicep curls are working. “Look, we’re two big firefighters. Those flimsy sex store handcuffs weren’t gonna hold us.”

read on ao3!

#my fic #im. so sorry. #this was also not the fic that was meant to be written but alas the taylor book fic is taking her sweet time #it appears the only fic i can write is crackfic. but sometimes its what a girl has to do 🫶 #also on a real note these silly little shorter crackfics kinda help with like....idk making ao3 casual again sdgfhsdf #sometimes i can get a bit nervous about posting on hammersmiths bc i get in my head and think everything has to be at least 15k+ and perfec #but sometimes it can be 2k and silly as rocks!! #so anyway hope u enjoy i missed writing fic so BAD

[sephospaganplace]

There are so so so many ways to experience the gods.

There is no right or wrong way. There is no blunt way. Its all feeling and ephemeral.

If you've felt warmth, if you've had a dream, if you've seen a crow that stares at you for too long, if something inexplicable happens and you're lucky suddenly, if you've caught eyes with a stranger and felt like you knew each other. If the candle flickers a certain way, if one time when you're singing your voice sounds gorgeous in a way you weren't expecting, these are all the presence of a god.

God phoning is popular on witchtok but half the time what they're saying is bullshit. I've very very rarely heard a voice and every single time it was my own voice, just suffused with something, saying something I normally wouldn’t say. Or maybe I would. I've never heard a clear, distinct, audible voice. Its an invisible world we're connecting with, its a different plain. We cannot experience it the same way we experience every day life.

We'll never sit down at a coffee table across from the physical manifestation of our god, and know that its them, not until after. And even then we can never be sure. That’s the nature of it. There are no absolutes, there cannot be. That’s what makes it beautiful. That’s where belief comes in. It isn't about being good enough or worthy enough or devout enough, that doesn't exist. That isn’t what its about at all. You are worthy even if the divine doesn’t manifest in a way we've been told is the only real way, and you are connecting even if you cant see it now. My most intense spiritual experiences are never something I realize are happening in the moment, its always only after that I can see it clearly.

The gods are all around us.

#Hellenism #Paganism #deity communication #my posts #I will never forgive witchtok for making an entire generation of pagans feel inadequate #You are good enough your practice is enough your experiences with the gods are good and normal #You don't have to have a godphone or intense dreams or whatever the hell they're claiming they're doing for clout #Even if what they're saying is true one of the Delphic Maxims is literally 'Do not boast about power' #Don't tear yourself to shreds #we all want to feel like this is real #to KNOW that this is real #but there is no way of knowing and having proof isnt the point #it isn't #it's about you and your soul and your spiritual journey and connecting with the magic in you #repeat after me #you are good enough. #the gods are with you in ways you cannot see #in ways you aren't meant to see #live your life #keep going keep building something in yourself take CARE of yourself #thats them guiding you too #ok to reblog

[isalabells]

- And we pulled that stupid prank on you. - Wiener schnitzel and sauerkraut. - Yeah, we thought we were so clever. Eva von Braun, right? But you– you just set it aside, and you put your head down and got to work.

FOR ALL MANKIND 1.02 He Built the Saturn V || 3.03 All In

#and today on posts for girlies who are equally insane about s1 & s3 Margo #legit gonna throw UP. like what is she seeing in this picture at this very moment #forallmankindedit #For All Mankind #Margo Madison #having LOTS of thoughts on this. #the only mission control pic she has on display is from her FIDO days. not even flight. but from her very beginnings. #it does something to me. no disrespect to her entire career but deep down to me she'll always be #Margo who wanted to be a flight controller who wanted to be FIDO on a real mission guiding people safely into space and to the moon. #anyway can't decide what makes me more feral. the fact that it's Bill 'Margo you're outta your lane' Strausser who brings it up. #the way her features s o f t e n as soon as she picks up the frame. #the fact that the show springs this on her in THIS particular episode at THIS very time in her life. #the way this is most likely why she allows herself to openly dwell on this era and what it meant to her #like. she brings up Apollo 11 twice in s3. her good bye speech mirrors Gene's words. I'm feeling ill.

[andromeda3116]

people actually went on about how game of thrones made it socially acceptable to be a fantasy nerd, as though the lord of the rings movies hadn't been released less than a decade earlier and left far greater cultural ripples and i am just

got may have made the adults feel better about liking fantasy, but lotr got into the kids' heads when they (we) were just young and impressionable enough to be absolutely transported and emotionally rewritten by don't you leave him, samwise gamgee and my brother, my captain, my king and and rohan will answer

lotr was rewriting entire generations' brain chemistry long before asoiaf and so obviously it's not fair to compare any post-lotr fantasy novel to it, and each book series was trying to do different things within their own spheres and so that also is not a fair comparison, but in terms of the cultural impact of the adaptations that came out within a decade of each other, saying that it was game of thrones that made fantasy mainstream is baffling

game of thrones could only run because the lord of the rings movies laid the path, and i will die on this hill

#lotr #lord of the rings #lord of the rings movies #i started this post because ''may it be'' came up on my playlist but now i think i'm going to start my nth rewatch of the trilogy #there is a lot to discuss about it re: comparison to the books but it's like... #for all the changes they made - good and bad and neutral - everyone involved in making the films *loved* the source material #they all *wanted* to do justice to it and believed in it and it shows #i think of some posts i've seen about how frustrating this modern push towards tongue-in-cheek irony over sincerity #so afraid to be corny or cheesy that you have to tack a joke onto every real emotional moment #like no fuck that #give me sam hauling frodo onto his shoulders saying ''i can't carry it for you but i can carry you'' #give me aragorn gently kissing boromir's forehead as he dies #give me merry and pippin throwing themselves at the uruk hai to distract them from frodo #give me theoden's grand speeches and gandalf's pained expression when frodo says he'll carry the ring #tbh i think that sincerity is a large part of *why* it has such staying power even now #because it is a story you are meant to get deeply emotionally invested in and not hold yourself a little ironically apart from #it isn't meant to sell merch it's meant to bring you to middle-earth and capture your heart and make you believe that the war can be won #with love and loyalty and hope and fellowship and fidelity and integrity and just... just refusing to give in to despair #it is earnest. it is unafraid to be melodramatic or corny because it believes in the story it's telling. #and so it imprinted onto a whole generation growing up right at the cusp of a barrage of apocalypses #anyway. i have Feelings about these movies and their impact and how that mirrors and enhances the books' own impact

[13eyond13]

You know even if L and Light were both extremely heterosexual men, I still don't get how either one of them wouldn't find it alarmingly sexy that the other one was secretly trying THAT hard to constantly impress them and read their mind and personally entertain them and trip them specifically and ONLY them up

#like im sorry but #cant get much more romantic than that? #would somebody try that hard simply because they wanted to be your bro or because they did not care for you in any personal way at all? #no #idk why im making so many posts these days btw #i just keep getting hit with lawlight thoughts about the lawlight thots #like the steps of planning light went through to make the entire yotsuba arc happen?? #this is why he is the gone girl / amazing amy of the pair #it's like ok that's definitely scary and very insane of you but also maybe kinda hot hahahaha #and this is exactly what Alessandro Juliani meant when he said he thinks they have a real affinity for each other im sure #like he's probably a straight dude but even he was like dang they r in love #light yagami #l lawliet #lawlight #p

[sunforgrace]

no but the thing is the thing is orpheus turns and. you’re early. i missed you. he sacrifices his life to save his love and he still dies at 41

#(i do not subscribe to the words of actor man at con. call that a con man. So in my world 15x20 is 6 months later. #[​- read that somewhere that it was the time in the first draft/og script? - though ig that would make dean 42 if the show is meant to #vaguely follow rl timeline with the confession happening in nov? who can never be sure. anyway] #he still dies six months later.) #youre telling me dean winchester resurrection guy extraordinaire dies and spends 10 minutes monologuing about how it’s his time #dies for real forever and ever and it’s after cas (to his knowledge) went to angel demon die forever land forever because he sacrificed #himself by loving dean so much venom took him there and these two things are meant to have no connection whatsoever. #[​evie posted destiel hadestown today so im obligated to release this one from the drafts]

[thedreadvampy]

every time something from Neil Gaiman's tumblr crosses my dash I'm so concerned about the people writing and to him like. why have you outsourced your imagination to this man? asking shit like 'what does Morpheus sound like in this scene' or 'what does this dialogue mean' or 'what's the backstory to this moment' like BABES. THIS IS WHAT BARTHES WAS TALKING ABOUT. YOU'RE MEANT TO MAKE THESE DECISIONS YOURSELVES THAT'S WHAT MAKES ALL ART A COLLABORATIVE CREATION OF MEANING. if the author wanted something to be explicit in the text they can make it explicit in the text and if it's not explicit in the text YOU CAN MAKE IT UP.

what really gets me is I 100% prommy these kids regularly use 'death of the author' to mean 'i can enjoy works by problematic creators' which 1) yes I agree you can and should (using some discretion re who it profits and what's replicated in the work) but 2) THAT'S NOT WHAT IT MEANS LITERALLY WHAT IT MEANS IS. NEIL GAIMAN'S POST HOC OPINION ON SANDMAN OR GOOD OMENS IS A NO MORE LEGITIMATE FACT ABOUT THE TEXT THAN ANYONE ELSE'S INTERPRETATION. the text has left his control it belongs to the reader now, you get to decide and debate what it means.

#red said #i know i keep making posts like this but IT KEEPS HAPPENING #like you are not toddlers you do not need daddy to hold your hand and walk you through the story #if you're mature enough to meaningfully engage with a story for adults then you are mature enough to interpret it for yourself #and to understand that ambiguity or vagueness or an invitation to imagination are features of storytelling not bugs #hmmm actually I'm gonna tag this #neil gaiman #sandman #good omens #bc. some of you people need jesus or more relevantly literary and critical agency #like you understand that a story isn't a partial view into a reality that's as 3d as our own right? #the play doesn't carry on backstage #you're not MISSING OUT on a fundamental truth of the fictional world that's obscured by the shape of the story it ONLY exists in the story #you're SUPPOSED to construct the context and detail out of the clues you're given in the text and build your own world #and draw your own conclusions #it's not a Real World That Only Neil Gaiman Can See Into it's a STORY he wrote SPECIFICALLY TO INVITE YOU TO IMAGINE #like it's YOURS. YOU'RE meant to fill in the gaps. ART IS A CONVERSATION BETWEEN THE TEXT AND THE READER. #THAT'S what death of the author relates to #what part if any the author has in that other than what they put in the text

[books-and-dragons]

I'm so sorry, I'm kinda drunk and dropping another idea, do with it whatever ye will.

Yknow how in the beginning of the game, Sojiro tells Ren he won't take care of him when he gets sick?

Consider: he's not used to city germs/being that closely shoved against other people on the train. He DOES start to get sick around Kamoshida's Palace, powers through it, and then is SUPER sick just after it's over.

He plans on sucking it up and hiding it, but Futaba hears his hacking coughs over her bug even when he's upstairs, followed by wheezing, maybe even a little weeping. He's constantly in and out of the bathroom, and he's starting to run out of tissues.

Futaba nervously texts Sojiro that the kid they took in sounds awful. Sojiro is gruff at first and says he's not a baby, he can take care of himself. She responds by sending him the audio and suddenly Dad Instincts kick in

y/n

obviously it's a YES, our brainrots continue because early-game ren and sojiro dynamics break my heart every time how dare you get me so invested in this idea, this post got too long so it's going under a read more

listen listen look i love sojiro and the coffee family okay, but early-game?? sojiro could catch these hands

ren has already been though so much by the time he arrives in tokyo, to then be put into a dusty old attic like a spare part would absolutely fit in with ren's own perception of himself at that stage. it would be almost too easy for him to put his own health on the backburner kinda like he's already used to it

very used to not taking up space, 'not being a bother', and then sojiro really reinforces this message when ren first gets to leblanc- so when ren inevitably gets ill a month into his probation, it's already doomed for maladaption

tokyo would be such a breeding ground for sickness compared to the countryside, and ren just doesn't have the consitution to deal with it. the dusty attic and poor eating habits don't help matters, and then we have the stress of kamoshida and the metaverse?? ren is not having a Good Time™

at first it's something he thinks he can shrug off, and is adamant that ignoring it is the way to go. a cold, it's nothing, he can handle this alone, no need to bother anyone else with it.

inevitably, he gets worse, because that's what happens when you don't rest and let yourself recover. a tickly cough becomes a tightness in his chest, mild congestion shifts into an attack on his senses and blurriness- but maybe that's the dizziness. he's not really sleeping, either.

it's something that's becoming increasingly difficult to brush off and hide, he even relented to finally getting some medicine (nothing as strong as he needs by this point, that would eat too much into his limited funds, but some painkillers to take the edge off). once or twice he's tempted to stay off school, at morgana's insistence, or a too close call where he definitely blacked out for a minute, but then sojiro's voice will ring in his head 'i won't be the one looking after you if you get sick', 'your parents got rid of you for being a pain in the ass', and all his worst insecurities come rushing back and he's resolved to deal with it on his own

meanwhile, futaba's been making use of her hidden audio bugs- normally they're a comfort for her in the daytime, but since the new kid- ren- has been staying at the cafe (part-timer her ass, how gullible does sojiro think she is?!), she's been listening more frequently. when ren gets sick, she figures it out quickly.

time goes on, he's not getting better- he's actually getting worse- and futaba starts to wonder if she's the only one who knows

(there's something in his sharp contrasts- the quiet kid who shuffles through the cafe and takes sojiro's scolding, to the coughing kid who cries into the silence of night when he thinks there's nobody there to see it- that stabs through her numbness. it feels like a companion to her own ghost)

one night she swears the kid gets up to be sick, and there's hardly any sound heard from the attic all night. if nobody's gonna help ren, then she will (futaba used to like helping, once upon a time).

she texts sojiro the next day, when ren doesn't say anything again, and goes off to school with what she bets is a fake assurance on his face

and you're so right, sojiro dismisses her concern really easily, claims the kid can 'take care of himself' and he won't 'baby' the part-timer. insists ren needs to learn some disipline, then maybe he'll stay out of trouble

frustration wells in futaba- if she was less fixated on what was going on with ren, she'd register it's one of the first changes of mood she's had for months- and she responds with nothing but an audio clip, an attached explanation that this is just from the past few days- it's been going on for weeks, then she waits, and hears the distant sound of her compilation through one of the bugs, a hitched breath from sojiro, curse words under his breath-

for all his earlier postulating about not helping ren if he gets sick, sojiro is immeditely struck with a pang of concern- it sounded bad, and if futaba's words were anything to go by, this had been going on for a while. the kid's at school now (at school, being as ill as that and he was still going to class-), so sojiro will talk to him when he gets back. there's a chance he goes a bit too over the top, between the variation of medicines he purchases, supplies he grabbed from home- if you accused him for over-compensating after maybe being too harsh on the kid in the beginning, you'd be right

and you just know ren would be so resistent at first to help, or even just the offer of staying off school. in his sickness-induced fugue, ren's filter-less in rattling off how he can't stay off, what will the students and teachers think, and he has work that afternoon, and a test soon, and he doesn't want to get in the way-

sojiro's heart just shatters

this kid, whose been silently carring the weight of the world and has apparently been falling to pieces for weeks now and sojiro didn't even notice?

(a part of it reminds him too much of the other kid he's got at home, the countless ways he's already failed futaba, and now ren too? he feels useless)

sojiro focuses on what he can do, and that's making the kid rest. work will understand, school can wait, ren isn't an inconvenience, he guides the kid to bed, calls takemi immediately (who rushes over, despite the fact she's technically closed at this hour, and refuses to take any payment),

even still, there's this stilted awkwardness between them when the quiet pushes on too long- they hardly know each other, afterall. sojiro is still figuring out the 'caring for kids' thing, and ren isn't familiar with any kind of parental affection, so some of sojiro's care veers a bit too close to clinical or mechanic, and ren still struggles to communicate what kind of help he needs, but it's enough for now.

for now, sojiro is there. he's trying, and at least ren's getting some colour back on his skin. for now, ren's willing to take a few days off and have some medicine, but he's over-apologetic and definitely tries to make up for his sickness once he's healed. it's gonna take them both a while yet, but luckily there's always their guardian hacker, ready and able to call them out when needed (and maybe some day she'll be able to keep an eye on ren and sojiro in person)

#ask #also the idea of it being futaba who first realises going on?? developing hers and ren's bond before they even meet?? #june i love your brain have i ever mentioned #such a gem even when it h u r t s (which is obviously only ever ALWAYS <3) #us : *sees angsty p5 game content* it's free real estate! #i want ren to have a HUG and REASSURANCE and also a bowl of soup #instead he gets dusty attic and milk-crate bed and instant noodles he packed for emergencies :c #persona 5 #p5 #persona 5 headcanons #ren amamiya #futaba sakura #sojiro sakura #oh also also!! imagine how sojiro might feel about his early-game behaviour by late-game/post-canon?? #ohhh i bet he'd hate it and there'd be so much self-blame/loathing there #parent guilt and all that good stuff y'know #futaba? seeing herself in early-game ren? ren? seeing himself in palace-futaba? sorry they make me soft and emotional your honour #i love my coffee family but i love it more flavoured with all the issues they haven't yet worked through #once again THIS WASNT MEANT TO BE SO LONG

[mintharasthrone]

please just get rid of the fucking rainbow at this point

#drop the t #gender critical #the b and t both hate gay people and have pushed us out already but we get blamed for their crap #i saw a post yesterday that was framing gay people as privileged nasty unwelcoming bullies to bis and every other fauxsexual #genderist on a “gay” page im so tired #when will it stop #when i went downtown i saw the rainbow flag halfed for the stupid nb flag / trans flag / black and brown #stop with your fucking flags #the bi flag is really meant for having pride for being attracted to the opposite sex a PRIVILEGE it's so insulting to act like bisexuality #is oppressed not just ur ssa which you rarely are serious about with your 95 percent het marriages #the b&t always speaking over and stepping on gays needs to stop #transphobia and biphobia both aren't real make your own community if you hate gays so much

[candy-pants]

my babysitter's a vampire + villains (insp) as in characters with naturally evil tendencies and actions, not just creatures/people made evil by mistake (usually benny's) or created by someone for a specific purpose

#mbav #my babysitter's a vampire #vampireedit #stern #jesse #richard waugh #joe dinicol #i am NOT tagging all these people lmao #flashing tw #long post #meus #usereris #i hated the lucia and jacob ones but i just couldn't find any shots that worked so this will have to do #debbie dazzle is in this because she became obsessed with being alive but IN MY OPINION!!!!! that had nothing to do with the spell #she became evil on her own accord #sarah being possed by the spirit from the netherlands- i mean world was because rory was stupid but the spirit was already evil #and the mask not being here was because rory put it on thus making himself 'evil' which he naturally isn't and neither is the mask tbh #it was just doing what it was meant to do which clearly does not fly in this century #and cyberdontist and evil sarah literally aren't real

[tangledinink]

hey bad news you guys. my therapist told me today that he thinks i should actually be sad on main MORE.

#something abt practicing emotional vulnerability for the real world with real people and blah blah blah #we discussed tm(n)t for a while #he said Be Like Nerves #i think this can be interpreted in many ways #but what he meant was just write shit and post it sometimes #instead of needing to make everything into an elaborate art piece #anyway sorry guys you're all a part of my trauma therapy process now #vent #personal #look im being emotionally vulnerable #^ thats the tag im gonna use lmao coz i think its funny

[suckishima]

okay this is so small but makes me really happy. taketora just got done talking about how much he admires tanaka and how cool and "manly" he is, which like makes sense right, both tanaka and taketora are always being shown as these like loud "boy's boys" archetypes who do everything with power, talk about girls, and emphasize "guts" and "manliness," so obviously taketora would respect tanaka

but then he immediately turns to also think about how much he admires fukunaga in the same way—fukunaga who doesn't display any of those same qualities that taketora was just admiring about tanaka. fukunaga is quiet, fairly low-key and doesn't flaunt anything ever. dude just goes around making weird puns that 1 people often barely even hear and 2 apparently seem to baffle everyone. but taketora sees all of that and sees how fukunaga still shows up and gets the job done more than successfully—he's one of the top point getters on the team—and taketora respects him for all of that, still calls him a "man's man" and tbh more than respects him, he admires him and sees him as a rival

and idk that just makes me happy, like 1 it's a nice small way of furudate saying that yeah "manly" is a thing that's important to taketora but it doesn't just mean one stereotypical thing—like it's showing that taketora isn't as one dimensional as we would have thought and that he sees things from multiple perspectives (we also saw this from him back during the whole "guts" thing with kenma and how he respects him too)—and it's also an example of seeing fukunaga from another perspective too. it's because he's so low-key that even we as readers have probably barely noticed how much of a rock he is for the team, but if you got back through their matches you can see how often he does score—he's quiet but he's always there. and i just like that furudate takes a moment to not only acknowledge fukunaga but to do it from taketora's pov in order to really hit it home to us how true it must be

#idk it just fleshes them both out and makes them both feel more real ya know #like we all know people who are like this right? but irl they arent one dimensional either. and like we've seen it with tanaka since foreve #like yeah hes 'manly' n stuff be hes also caring and compassionate and respectful #and i just appreciate the furudate does show these like “manly” characters as being more than just the typical archetype and makes #everyone feel like well rounded characters who can be multi faceted #<- okay maybe its not quite that deep here with this example lmao but i do think its something furudate does a lot #2021 reread #karaneko manga spoilers #hq manga spoilers #taketora #fukunaga #bingo contender? #x #this one was meant to be just a quick thought and not really a meta post but it sorta turned into a rambly mess instead oops lol

[daoforthexbox360]

i really dont get the criticism that bioware "retconned" the qun to include trans people. i feel like gender being inherently tied to your role in society, regardless of whether it aligns with your assigned gender at birth is something that existed since origins. its why sten and morrigan have a whole banter where she asks if sten has a hard time considering her a woman. not because she's in any way masculine, but instead because she takes her place on the battlefield; in the qun, all weird mage stuff aside, she'd be considered a man. i think people only think its a retcon because they give it a special word in inquisition in probably the most groundbreaking yet very messily handled scene involving a trans character ive had the (dis)pleasure of seeing where bull is like "yeah the qun has a word for people like krem" which immediately helps him to understand krem, also.

the difference in sten and iron bull when it comes to adjustment to non-qunari in majority non-qunari spaces is that (probably due in part to the chargers and iron bulls already very thin ties to the qun, and definitely in part due to bull being a member of the ben-hassrath and sten being a member of the beresaad) bull just naturally has an easier time connecting with people, even people who aren't part of the qun. sten has a hard time doing this due to his role as a soldier. he was not sent to make friends with ferelden or spy on them, he was sent to figure out what the blight is. he works through this in origins if you get his approval up but he never gets to iron bull's level as far as the games are concerned. theyre fundamentally different characters, bull does not act the way he does as a means of retcon. bioware's retconned a ton of stuff but this isnt on of those things

#can u tell im very passionate abt this #dai's inclusion of krem meant a lot to me #and looking at the retcon criticism retroactively for this specifically it just makes no sense #posting #dragon age #dao #dai #the obvious answer is that people dont like trans people and want a reason to be mad #look at the reblogs for this !! like the ones w additions and tags cause theyre all real and true