ok but. ralph promises a stability and certainty of love that andrew never does and also both andrew and laurie are manipulated in this situation by derek who has his own issues associated with this whole thing so it's a mixture of laurie's uncertainty about the extent of andrew's love, derek's manipulation of the situation, and the promise of love and stability with ralph along with the residual romance of his teenage crush on ralph
(I’m gonna assume you meant Dave bc wtf does derek have to do with any of this?)
Agreed but at the same time i feel like the "miscommunication as a way to create conflict" trope plays a really big part here and imo Laurie is largely to blame too (im not saying it’s all his fault but he did make some mistakes). he was too scared to confess his feelings to Andrew for fear he will reject him and Andrew well... it’s a more complicated issue involving dave, religion, just the time the story takes place in general plus a bunch of other stuff im probably ignoring.
But I also feel like yes there’s stability w/ ralph but to what extent? obvs Laurie’s image of Ralph is still deeply marked by his teenage crush and he still sees Ralph through a rose tinted lens he does come to see him more realistically throughout the book but he’s very idealistic and i don’t think he’s really thinking abt his future with ralph with a clear head. I would like there to be a happy ending but idk I feel like Ralph and Laurie just wouldn’t last... they are very alike but at the same time they view the world very differently and in the end i feel like that would cause too much conflict on top of the fact that ralph has a lot of other issues that i think he needs to work through before he’s ready for a relationship (like the idea that a relationship will just automatically better ur mental health or solve ur trauma really pisses me off bc the other person doesn’t have any obligation to "fix" you and yes it is good to have someone there to support you but at the same time they shouldn’t b the only thing you’re relying on that’s not healthy and is an emotional/psychological burden on the other person)
TL;DR Dave sucks, Andrew needs someone to help him with his internalized homophobia, Laurie sucks at communicating and Ralph should get some therapy before committing to a long term relationship
@grxnite more on my thoughts (if ur interested)
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