not to be a woman womaning all over the place but i feel like if you genuinely like. do not have friends that are women then you have something to work on. if you cant think of any female characters that you treat the same way you do male characters then you have something to work on. if you cant handle even seeing "i dont like being called a guy/bro/lad/etc because it doesnt feel gender neutral to me" but can understand when one of your masc besties is uncomfortable with being called girlie or sister then you have something to work on. if your default in regards to how you handle other people and even characters is to assume masculinity then you have something to work on. if you cant even let women and otherwise feminine people speak about our experiences without bringing up how you suffer too then you have something to work on.
it doesnt matter if youre queer or a poc or a minority in whatever which way, if you do not include women in your life and cant even stand a fucking inch of genuine feminism (and i dont mean terfs but god is it fucking agonizing that thats all you people can think of when you hear feminism anymore) where the point is to treat women, all women, equally then you have something to work on. listen to women, even the ones whose experiences completely dont align with yours (hell ESPECIALLY the ones whose experiences completely dont align with yours). just like how we all have to check ourselves for racism, ableism, queerphobia, we all have to check ourselves for misogyny too. stop acting like it got solved at some point. it still exists and it exists within you and you have to actually fucking work on that. "women should be included in your life and you should listen to them" shouldnt be a hard goddamn pill to swallow.
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Just had, for the first time in a while, a TERF respond to my last post of selfies trying to tell me I'm a man and that my makeup is dogshit lmaooo.
Fucking perish you goddamn cretin, nobody wants your dumb fucking self anyway lmao
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the only use for terf blogs is that they make a good block list. You just instantly know that if someone’s dedicated their blog to spreading hate with their mutuals that they’re a shitty person and it’s not worth interacting with them, or the aforementioned mutuals
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I hate hooking up with a girl who has “woman” in her bio and then finding out she has a fucking biovagina. Like, I’m sorry, your bio said “woman”? I am a female who is into female bodies, which you cisgenders just don’t have. And don’t call it a “genital preference”, that phrase makes me cringe and throw up. I am a lesbian and I am into women, okay, it’s not a “preference” if I find the alternative disgusting.
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Actually, fuck it. While I’m here, just a PSA:
Calling someone you disagree with a TERF just because you don’t like them is always morally wrong.
Telling people to kill themselves just because you disagree with them is always morally wrong.
All of you are way too terminally online and need to get real lives off of the internet. Learn how to be a normal person. Get help for your mental health. Become more mature. Learn the real meanings behind the words you use and why certain things have consequences.
I hope none of you have to experience a loved one ending their own life, whether due to mental illness or because they were being harassed on the internet. And if you’re subjected to the same things you yourselves do to others someday… I hope you learn some empathy.
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heads up, that post you reblogged about respecting pregnancy has replies that function as a free blocklist. op is a terf and espousing some godawful shit in the replies w all their terf friends
Yeah, I just looked at the comments when it came out of my queue & deleted the post right away 'cause YIKES. That's a whole lot of TERF bullshit right there that I missed when I queued it.
Wish we could have actual conversations about reproductive rights without people being The Biggest Fucking Transphobes about it.
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I've been seeing a lot that people are really surprised and upset that pissvortex got banned, and while I think it's fucked up and shitty that he did get banned, I also don't think it's very surprising because- and here's something I think a lot of non-TERFs don't understand- TERFs navigate this website very differently from the rest of us. The standard reaction to any non-TERF encountering a TERF is to block them, and generally not engage. You know, we have block lists of TERFs that go around. TERFs themselves, they don't really do this shit. They don't have huge block lists of trannies- I mean that would be like 80% of the fucking site- what they do is they keep watch of accounts that they really fucking hate and they hang out in their little discord servers because they're petty and vicious and have nothing better to do than fill their lives with poison and venom, and they harass you to provoke you, and when you say some shit about how terfs should kill themselves or be scalped, they share it around between themselves and mass report it. And absolutely no large social media website, not Tumblr, not Twitter, not Facebook, is going to see a post that received hundreds of reports where you said that somebody should be scalped and think, "Oh but was the other person being like a real huge asshole though?" That's not how they work. They just ban you. Whatever moderator is managing that shit does not care enough to look into the larger societal wide context of why you said that. I'm not saying this to say that you should be kind to or play nice with TERFs, I'm just saying this so that you can perhaps have an awareness of how some of your posts may look to a moderator who's received hundreds of reports about them. They're playing a different game, so play smart
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you said something in your take on the latest debacle thats been rooting around my head like a feral hog.
this is a total paraphrase but
"moderation is not to prevent bullies from hurting people its to keep a nice paint coat of politeness"
i'd like to see you elaborate on that tbh, as like, critique of existing systems of moderation and what could be done better.
what you think moderation Should be
Let me answer with a real example that happened to me. Early 2023, someone on here sent me a DM to point me to an asshole who was spamming some popular anime fandom tag with TERF shit (basically, taking pictures of characters from that anime and making them into anti-trans memes, totally unrelated with the actual fandom, just pictures and basic shit like "trans women are men" in white all-caps text, etc). I wasn't a mod, so I couldn't do anything myself, but I could report it using the special staff fast-lane (basically, go to the mods team channel in slack, point them to what was going on).
A super nice rank-and-file person from the ToS team got the posts removed ASAP and all was good. Until a few hours later, when her boss got into the slack thread where we had been talking about those posts to tell her that it was a mistake to remove them, because they didn't go against the rules: the posts wasn't addressing anyone in particular (so no harassment rule violation) and legally wouldn't be considered hate speech (so no hate speech rule violation).
That's what I mean. The person on the team who removed the posts cared about preventing bullies from hurting people: She saw someone being a little shit to others in tumblr and said "not on my watch, you fucker".
On the other side, her boss cared about keeping the coat of politeness: Legally speaking, the TERF wasn't doing anything that could get them in problems, so for the boss, it wasn't anything tumblr mods should be involved with.
What I think moderation should be? I think moderation should be opinionated. I think people should be banned for the intend, not for the words. The context matters: A trans person punching up and wishing a comically cartoonish death to a billionaire is way less harmful than a random people posting casual transphobic content on unrelated tags. But to evaluate that, you need to have an opinionated moderation, not some rules trying to establish some level of 'fair-play' between equally-valid opinions.
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