To start with it’s always
Lust and Obsession,
That one day it will turn into to
Love and Affection .
i learned that a landlord cancelled rent for hundreds of tenants so they can afford food during the pandemic (x)
I could never resist the way you even touch me.
Being suicidal is silent. Tell someone that they matter and that they are loved. It just might save them.
Hey I think I need to tell you something that’s really important.
“A sense of mind runs like a thread through all our experience: we detect its trace in our perceptions, where it is hard to disentangle judgments from observations. Mind is in experience, holding it all together, creating the connections that permit the associations that build the relationships that form the structures that we, by long force of habit, give the name ‘shape and form.’”
-Tarthang Tulku, Caring
Sweet as honey,
the memories of those good feelings,
These tears are acid on my skin,
As laughters turn to pain.
Always believed in myself,
In my strength and sensibility,
something inside of me hurts.
There’s a void there
Where a heart was,
Memories of bitter feelings
I’ve forgotton their origin
Forgotten in entirety
All I remember now are
All the goodbyes I said time and again
I never truly let go
There has been quite a sudden demographic change in the group of Facebook users, of late. Have you wondered why your Boomer or GenX parents are suddenly taking to Facebook and why they can’t stop talking about it? Well, here’s one way to look at this:
1. Peers Supporting Peers
The primary reason for the middle-agers to have started using social media like Facebook is quite simply, peer pressure. Only, it’s no pressure. Our aunts and uncles have become unpaid promoters of Facebook by way of encouraging and convincing their peers to join the platform to ‘get with the times’.
2. Find and Re-connect with People Long Lost
With changing times, heavy national migrations and limited resources, if there’s anybody who has lost touch, it is the middle-agers. A huge part of lost connections has been a result of arranged marriages, work-relation relocation and sometimes just a change of heart. We have all heard them recite the stories of their youth when times were simpler and joy was not out of reach, stories about their friends, their professors and the little ones in their tightly-knit colonies. The emotion with which we have heard them tell us about all these anecdotes has eventually led most of us to try and get in touch with their long lost friends for them. It’s safe to say that the joy- the pure happiness they have found by way of reconnecting with an old-times has been moving. It tells us why their relationships were built of something else altogether in contrast with the delicate relationships we have now.
3. Real-Time Communication: A-WHAT?
These middle-agers are from times when sending letters were the norm and STD calls would burn a hole in their pockets. The dynamic shift in how communication is perceived has been massive. From waiting for days, sometimes months, to receive a reply from loved ones, to get a way to be in touch with them IN REAL TIME has been a weird blessing that nobody wants to miss out on.
4. Connect with Youth
Since we kids have grown up with the onset of technology as we know it, they have always struggled with the idea of how easy we made it look. How is it that a 2-year-old knows how to record a video on a phone while his 50-year-old grandfather struggles to understand the same? It’s honestly quite obvious: Technology was a new concept. Between bringing up a bunch of kids, ensuring their quality of life AND keeping up with the market scenario, there was little time to indulge. When IT took over, people thought of it as a passing trend, a FAD if you will. But then, it stuck. Who could’ve thought? Computers? What good are they for? It wasn’t an easy concept to grasp and neither did they have time to spare.
Now these middle-agers see their kids and grand-kids who have grown up with technology, use it like bread and butter. It’s baffling. The social impact the times have had on the youth has left the older generation feeling somewhat out of the loop and the need to feel involved is REAL. Facebook has acted like an opening on that journey. They see their fathers and mothers using a new-age social media platform and they appreciate the effort that has been put in by them. An effort to learn, to crush their orthodox inklings and accept the present. It’s empowering.
5. Media and UX
Photos, videos, articles, statuses- WHAAAAT? Wait a minute, that’s information overload. Or is it? For those retired or in the last leg of their jobs, it’s the perfect thing to fill their time with. These are people who are done with most of their household duties, just waiting for time to go. With Facebook, they now have access to real-time updates of their friends and families. YAY TO GOSSIP.
Facebook has a pretty straight forward interface with a variety of tools to explore. They now get to be a part of a bigger community with a click on a screen? How is that not a good idea? You now get a send baby videos to your grand-kids and tell them how they were the same. Commenting on their niece’s Europe trip pictures makes them feel complete. And if she replies to the comment? BINGO, she has now extended micro-emotions of feeling included and valued. Why didn’t they think of this earlier, they question themselves.
It’s the simplest thing in the world to judge someone, but a little empathy goes a long way. It’s understandable to get irritated with the elders nagging you to teach them a few nicks but think about how you can alter a person’s mood just by sparing a few minutes to teach them how to send an emoticon. We are the by-products of our older generation and we owe it to them to empower them and help them understand things we are fortunate enough to call our bread and butter :)
I feel everything with you 🖤
There will always be a disparity between partners in a marriage. Unfortunately; someone will be the breadwinner, someone will be more caring, someone will be smarter, someone will be more fit, someone will be more organized, someone will be more productive, etc. In the worst case; it may be incredibly obvious to both who is actually the better partner, even better person.
Jedes Mal nachdem ich duschen war hat er mir den Rücken abgetrocknet, weil er wusste, dass ich dabei zu nachlässig bin und meine Sachen sonst einfach immer so darüber angezogen habe.
Jetzt habe ich wieder einen nassen Rücken.