No revolution can ever succeed as a factor of liberation unless the means used to further it be identical in spirit and tendency with the purposes to be achieved. Revolution is the negation of the existing, a violent protest against man's inhumanity to man with all the thousand and one slaveries it involves. It is the destroyer of dominant values upon which a complex system of injustice, oppression, and wrong has been built up by ignorance and brutality. It is the herald of new values, ushering in a transformation of the basic relations of man to man, and of man to society.
It is okay to completely change your beliefs, ideas, intentions, boundaries, expectations and desires. You are a dynamic being. You are “supposed” to explore more and change. Change is a core part of your expansion.
Disabled people experience growth just as abled people do. But for a lot of us with support needs we don't get the same privacy to explore and experiment as non disabled people.
I can't try out different gender expression or fashion styles in the privacy of my own bedroom because I need help to dress myself. I can't go to pride or religious services without someone with me who knows what to do if I have a seizure and can help me eat and drink.
And carers need to understand this. They need to not be judgemental, and to respect questioning and change and experiments without questions. Even and especially if those experiments take the disabled person in a direction that doesn't look like the carers own life.
[A white fortune cookie paper with black text on the front and an icon of a bee. It reads: There are big changes ahead for you. They will be good ones!]
If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold on to it forever. Your mind is your predicament. It wants to be free of change. Free of pain, free of the obligations of life and death. But change is law and no amount of pretending will alter that reality.
Our priorities and interests change over time, and that’s perfectly okay! We don’t have to stay the same, and in fact, it can be very freeing to change! 🌱