#chaotic aromanticism

[leo-fie]

Thing is that I've known I'm autistic since 8th grade. And since then I tended to attribute all my quirks to being autistic. No interest in friendship, romance or sex? Autism. It didn't help that I didn't know aromanticism and asexuality existed. Chaotic, forgetful and lazy? Overload because autism. Now I'm almost certain I have ADHD as well and also the meth is working.

I've also never thought of myself as anxious. It's not so much fear I feel, but stress and frustration. And the fear I did have was very reasonable, I'm dependent on the whims of government bureaucracy after all. That I couldn't sleep before important appointments is also just an autism thing, I knew what an exhausting day was before me.

And isn't it normal to fear letters from social security? They hardly ever bring good news, and even if it's hidden in confusing language and comes with a thousand caveats.

Isn't it normal to be so frustrated with school maths that your brain simply blocks and refuses to compute no matter how much you try? Isn't that autism?

So, yeah, there's probably some anxiety. But it doesn't matter, since there's also a shortage in psychatrists, psychologists and therapists.

#neurodiverse stuff #neurodiversity #autism #adhd #possibly anxiety

[starvels]

the many revelations of the making of the superhero community polycule map, ft. an increasingly complex notation system

i'm thinking something akin to an expanded polycul.es, with categorization and notation methods for any (or all!) of the following

any associated teams of an individual relationship designation, type, and status (sexual, romantic, kink, alterous, "whatever sounds fun," open, closed, exclusive, hierarchal status, perpetual, spontaneous, "exes so turbulent that it's essential knowledge," tentatively back together, zealously back together, etc) primary powers & abilities (non-hero, combatant, unenhanced, technological enhancement, mutant, mutate ± source, other biological enhancement, magic user, empath, telepath, specified/nonspecified elemental kinetic, shapeshifter, alien, interdimensional being, extradimensional being, etc) anything else one's heart may desire and/or find amusing

i would greatly enjoy at least one discovery of an unexpected relationship (regardless of whether it's because they have been involved, because they haven't, or due to the manner of involvement) or at least one person with an incredible number of current and/or former relationships, but mostly i just want to see where your mind goes kdjskdjskd

(prompt inspired by true events-- earlier this month i met my partner's partner, who then introduced her partner and partner's partner, and at some point it was revealed that that person's partner, who is five down the line from me if you're trying to keep track, has five partners of their own?? i do feel it's relevant to note that before the events of that day, i was only aware of the existence of the metamour, who i had not met, and the fact that they're also non-monogamous. evidently, it's much easier to end up in a large polycule than any prediction i could have come up with. aromanticism win? emphasis on the question mark)

polycul.es is a really cool tool! it might be something i fiddle with in the future but tbqh, i wonder how i would do with trying to order things like so, as i'm notttt a hugely ordered person? kdjfnbkjdnb i do make character notes for longer (20k+) fics, but its like.

seemingly very ordered planning thoughts for RSTV! but when you open the files its just

which is just snippets and not really any concrete, fully formed organized thoughts lol.

but ! i do find the idea of a vast complex, silly and ever evolving polycule amongst the various teams compelling. there's a couple of tools for hockey fandom where people have gone through and you can see the relationship mapping and degrees of interconnectedness amongst players and that's what i imagine this to be. could be a 616 canonical version and a fanon version where everyone is real gay and fancy free. i feel like it would be really delightful.

reminds me of that chaotic relationship post i did about the richards/dr. doom/namor/steve/tony.

so! in response! i could maybe do summat like that again if folks like it, yus!

fun for you on the discovery of five degrees of poly tho! congrats on the bacon 🥓

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answering what pairing/porn trope/kink you wish i would write 👀

#our talk #what you wish i would write #stevetony talk #fic talk #writing talk #otavengers

[auspicious-poppy]

Well I just finished the romantic killer anime and as promised here are some thoughts:

1) The over dramatic screaming got annoying as it does in any anime but Anzu’s facial expressions are unparalleled 2) I don’t like the sparkly filter slapped on the guys in the early episodes, that wasn’t in the manga 3) I really hope romantic scenarios being crushed by the power of friendship become a new trend 4) Hijiri should’ve moved in too, that would’ve made everything way more chaotic if he was always commenting on how the commoners live 5) if anyone can complete this series without thinking Anzu isn’t at least somewhere on the aspec really need to get their eyes checked 6) even though I knew it was coming the dark turn toward the end still hit weird with such a change of tone and 7) /hj as an aroace who has been a lifelong chocolate addict and only loves her cat I’m so happy to finally have representation 🥹 overall a pretty fun watch, there needs to be more fiction mocking amatonormativity & I stand by my comment of it being viewed as a satire of the aromantic experience

Hope you’re having a good day/night 👋

Hey! So sorry for the VERY late response, life got very busy. :') Glad to hear from you though!!! 1. Perhaps we're both getting too old for dramatic anime screams aha. Used to watch so many slice-of-life and romance animes back then sooo.... 2. Interesting... what else was different from the manga? :0 Were they just presented normally in their manga panels? I wonder if the sparkly filters is supposed to exaggerate the romance part or represent Anzu feeling attraction (which is what those shoujo filters are used for usually yeah? I forgot lmao.) 3. BIG AGREE WITH YOU THERE!! WE NEED MORE OF THIS. THE POWER OF PLATONIC RELOS!! 4. BIG YES TO THIS TOO! Can totally imagine Hijiri dying internally over a million times seeing how commoners - especially Anzu - live their lives. Though I wonder what situation would Riri cook up to force Hijiri to live with Anzu though, might need to take more than just flooding a room. 5. In defense of the allos - aromanticism still is relatively unknown. But yes, Anzu's experiences resonated with me somewhat as an aro. Hopefully other aros feel comfort as well. 6. I personally love it when stories take a fucking turn haha. It did reveal Kazuki's past, pushed Riri to do something selfless and most importantly, cemented the power of friendship!! 7. Don't really know much fiction mocking amatonormativity - we certainly need more of those. :( And if anyone has recs, pls send them through!! Buttt, I can recommend an anime that parodies anime in general and bonus bonus, the protagonist is aroace (while the word is never explicitly stated, he literally says that he doesn't experience romantic attraction!!). Watch The Disastrous Life of Saiki. K!!!

#romantic killer #poppy answers #poppy rambles

[transmasc-wizard]

2 for Oddities, 10, and 21!!

2: give short descriptions of all the main characters for [WIP]

Quinn is a noise-sensitive thirteen-year-old autistic girl who loves to adventure and find things out but isn't so good at thinking about consequences or the reactions of others.

Thomas is a comedic and overly-anxious fellow thirteen-year-old who's trying to figure out who he actually is, especially without Quinn there for every major moment of his life.

Valentin is a seventeen-year-old thief with arthritis who's determined to help save his older sister and protect these chaotic young children who he's grown surprisingly fond of.

Maria is a scientist who studies the connection between worlds; she's also Valentin's sister, and the person the other three are trying to find so Quinn and Thomas can return to their home.

10: which patterns keep popping up in your projects/characters?

stories revolving around art or books in some way, themes of mental health & self-care, themes of queerness (especially transness & aromanticism), mistrust of authority figures (including guardians), different types of love & ways of showing affection, magic that is alive and emotional about it, monsters that are more than just monstrous.

21: what are the most important facets of creating a character, to you?

The "why". Why are they in this story? This is both in the sense of "why do i need them to be a part of it" (role & impact) and "why aren't they just walking out of the plot they're in and doing something else?" (motivation & stake in the story).

#asks #ask game #writblr ask game #wip oddities #multi!!

[adashofniallandasprinkleoflunacy]

Girl halp

Some guy told me that he had a crush on me today and I had to explain to him what aromanticism and how I'll never be able to reciprocate the feelings and then I kept pressing the elevator button because I had to go. It was chaotic. I tried to be nice and let him down easy but it was so awkward.

I legitimately said "It's not you, it's me."

NOT THAT LINEENENDJEJDJEJD THAT IS SO…..👹👹👹

[thatonemouseykid]

the fact that i have the power to fuck up any conversation by even the mention of alloaro romeo montague makes me feel more confident than all the pieces of advice i have ever been given

#i am a chaos gremlin #aromantic #aro #aromanticism #aspec #arospec #lol #idk #those were all recommended to me i did nothing #alloaro #aro pride #chaotic aromanticism #honestly just the power and knowledge i have over allos by being psychologically incapable of conforming to amatonormativity is *chefs kis* #also for the record #mercutio and tybalt are exes #mercutio and benvolio are either dating or benvolio is aroace i switch between the two #mercutio is probably in love with romeo or at least at some point has been #but yeah honestly heterosexual or even bisexual aromantic romeo is so interesting to consider #and i find it really funny with some of my headcanons where i'm just wondering what it would be like if #or just seeing it as one interpretation #which is what this is #like shakespeare always has many paths to go down #but people get so angry because they think i'm trying to ruin everything they've ever loved #like i'm sorry i just love analysing fiction and am unsurprisingly slightly hyperfixated on the ace and aro spectrums! #gcse english #can you tell #also it's important to note that we can never definitively assign modern labels to old people or characters #once again this is just something i find narratively extremely interesting as an aroace #if i get one 'the whole point of the play is that he's in love with juliet' i will scream #revisit the play if that's your opinion

[whelvenwings]

I've been thinking a lot about romance and romantic feelings since I got that ask a few days ago. I've been thinking about how when it comes to asexuality, we differentiate between arousal, libido, and attraction. Asexuality specifically applies only to attraction.

Is it possible to do the same with romantic feelings? Can you be turned-on in a romantic way and be craving romance (romantic 'arousal'), or generally have a strong drive towards romantic actions and experiences (high romantic 'libido'), while having little/no attraction to other people all the while?

I think my understanding of my own place on the aromantic spectrum would be a lot better if I remembered to treat it as something interpersonal, based on attraction, rather than something to describe how I feel about romantic stuff in general.

#wubble #these thoughts are doubtless old hat #aromanticism #to an extent it's all a big beautiful chaotic human mess inside us isn't it? #and we'll never quite get to the bottom of it all #but I know I'm more contented and confident the more I understand myself #so I'll be keeping at it

[moonlysdarkthings]

I mean How I Met Your Father is cool and all (I have only watch the first episode so far) but what about How Your Mothers Met? Like the whole friend group could be a chaotic found family of queer people. And like the original, ultimately be a comedy but include issues of life. But specifically related to being queer. And some actual representation. Like not just cis white people. Some trans and gender non conforming characters. And bisexuals and pansexuals. Asexuality and aromanticism. And characters who are still figuring themselves out.

#how i met your mother #gay #biseuxal #queer

[potatopossums]

✨ good morning from a chaotic aro ✨

ah, lesbian aro panic (?) under the cut ~

I've had a wonderful past weekend.

Not sure what to make of all of this yet, so i guess that's why I'm talking about it here.

I have a gay cuddle friend. I'm so happy about that. She is sweet and cute and a lesbian (like me), and we just enjoy each other's time and presence.

Prior to becoming cuddle buddies at all, we talked about our queer identities together. She knows I'm aromantic, she knows I'm a bit ace. I know about quite a bit of her queer journey as well. We have become close based on those things, and just enjoying being with each other.

Lately, that enjoyment has spread into physical affection.

I really don't mind this. The only time I would ever be nervous about this is if I was: a) uncomfortable touching someone, which in this situation I'm not; or b) afraid that someone had unspoken intentions behind said physical touch that I didn't align with.

I'm pretty sure my friend understands my intentions. And I'm pretty sure her intentions are similar to mine. We have both explicitly agreed upon being touch starved and affectionate people. I think we both appreciate each other's presence in all this, and I think we are looking at this for exactly what it is right now, which is a real relief to me.

There are bits of worry in me about her needs, and whether she is expressing her desires. However, I also want to trust that she will express it if she needs something else, or if she is confused about something. I'd like to believe, with prior evidence, that I've helped to cultivate a space where we can be honest with each other about our desires and needs. It might be hard for both of us because we are recovering people-pleasers, but I think we are both trying to approach this with a healthy awareness.

All that said.

I'm really happy.

I haven't had someone to cuddle with in a long time, y'all. I miss that. Cuddling is my comfort. It grounds me and helps me feel safe. I have tons of pillows and plushies. I have to be hugging a plushie to fall asleep. I have to have a pillow supporting my back to fall asleep. I know this about myself, and considering my aromanticism, it can be kind of hard to find people who are willing to do these sorts of things with me without expecting a romantic relationship out of me.

So far, things have been so nice with this friend. We went to the city together on a day trip and had such a fun time. On the train ride home, we fell asleep leaning against each other. It was just so natural and normal. Even though I hadn't really ever experienced that before outside of a romantic context, it made me so happy to experience it. It felt absolutely right.

More recently, we had a sleepover. We originally intended to bake edibles, get baked ourselves, and she would sleep on the couch that night. But instead, as it came time for bed, while high, we both decided that nope, we are sleeping together in the same bed. And legit, that was so lovely. That was the most wonderful thing. I have been needing that and wanting that for so long. It felt so good to cuddle and comfort each other and snuggle in a little bit closer. It felt so lovely to doze off and wake up snuggled a little closer to each other than we started. I adore that feeling of closeness and neediness and comfort. It makes me feel so fulfilled and understood.

And now, I just want more chances to hold her and cuddle with her and let her hold me.

I don't know where any of this will go. I don't know how she's feeling about these things, and part of me does want to check in with her and see how she's doing (I also want to give her a chance to say something on her own; I don't want to assume she's uncomfortable or wanting more until she says otherwise, namely because that isn't my job to predict people's comfort — a.k.a. people please).

I do wonder if things will eventually lead to sex. I have no idea if they will, and I'm okay either way: whether they do or they don't. I think we have a lot of chemistry already so it is entirely possible it could lead in that direction naturally. Part of me is nervous about that, but considering how comfortable I feel around her physically, I'm actually more looking forward to it as a possibility, rather than dreading it. I still want to make sure that she feels comfortable too, because I have noticed she struggles to be assertive about things. But, our friendship is also still quite young, so perhaps she is still getting to know me, and will gradually feel more comfortable telling me things as time goes on.

All I know is, right now, I feel really happy that I have someone who I can hug and it doesn't have to mean anything we don't want it to mean.

We can be friends who cuddle, friends who fall asleep together, friends who hold hands, even friends who have sex. We can be friends who dress up as Gomez and Morticia because we are gay and enjoy being queer as fuck together (yes this is an idea we had and it's the best fucking idea ever). We can be friends who want to go to prom together (also to be visibly queer af together) even though we've both long since graduated. We can be friends that flirt, friends that are there for each other, friends who love each other and dote on each other, friends who maybe even experience attraction for each other. We don't have to be anything we don't want, and I love that.

Considering all the rough times I've been through lately, I'm really happy to share this bit of happiness and hope with you all, especially as an a-spec person. So, thank you for reading and I hope this gives you some comfort and hope. Regardless of what it is you desire from life and your relationships, regardless of your needs, I know there is a place for you. I know there are people who will accept you and care about you, people who will respect you, and you will find a place where you feel comfortable, if you haven't already found that place.

#queer #aromantic #alterous #demisexual #lgbtq #personal #lesbian #friendship #gynephile #agender

[kxrishima]

Oh. OH!!! That’s it!! That’s what I’ve needed!!!

The whole ‘aces can have sex they just don’t experience sexual attraction’ thing can apply to Aromanticism too!

I can want to date someone even if I don’t feel romantically attracted to anyone.

Holey shit, I can’t believe it took me that long to get it. Omg I feel great now.

Ok. Ok, yeah. I’m AroAce. I’m fucking AroAce!!! Ahhhhh!!! Fuck yeah!!

Fuck I feel amazing. This feels right. I feel good.

Sorry, self discovery is a bit messy and chaotic sometimes lol

#aroace #aromantic #asexuel

[qandgay]

Hi

So... I'm here to ask for some advice about my daily sexual crisis

I am an asexual heteromantic, or atleast I think. At first I was only questioning about the hetero part, but now I think that I'm also an aro?

I know that my attraction with guys is fine-I see them, talk to them and often leads to flirting. Like I said, guys are very much fine. I would like to have a romantic relationship with a guy someday but everytime I'm with them, I was like "ok, where's that spark they're saying, you know that falling in love thing?" Now I don't know, I'm incapable of romantic love? I want a romantic love. But it's just not clicking and doing it for me?

About the hetero part, I just want to say that ladies wearing suits are damn jaw dropping. Ladies cross dressing, well they're just in on another level. Yup, maybe I should stop pretending to be straight.

But, what's wrong with me. I also tried flirting with ladies. It's very fine too. Just that it's really not clicking, the romantic part. Also, while I fancy to have a romantic relationship with guys, I dont with women. Some of them are just really attractive. So i think that that also makes me bi. Or not?

It's not that I don't want to be in any romantic relationship, I want to. I really do. But I just can't attach myself to anything connected romantically. And I know aromanticism is having little to none of romantic attraction, so does that put me on aro spectrum too?

Wow, I'm putting a lot of pressure for you to answer. I am so so sorry, it's just it always bugs and I like to have another person have their say about my chaotic stuffs.

I rather ask anonymous people here than anywhere else, so thankyou in advance I guess?

no worries!!! this blog is meant for questions like this!!!

so... romantic love is complicated. i (hollow) am demiromantic, so im aspec! it took me a long time to figure out and come to terms with my identity for some of the same reasons you are! i never felt that *click*, or the spark everyone talked about. but i have fallen in love before

here's the thing,,, you can do romantic things and be in a romantic relationship without being romantically attracted to someone!!! you can be sensually attracted, aesthetically attracted, etc etc.

i don't think anything is wrong with you. i identify as queer because i had similar struggles to you!! so that's what i call myself instead of gay or bi or omni. it's more comfortable

don't feel pressure to label it right now. it can be hard, but sometimes going with the flow and just figuring yourself out is what's best!

(i apologize for the weird wording, im sick DBJBAWJDBW maybe mod gabriel will rb later with more insight)

#q and gay #brendughh #romantic attraction #attraction #tertiary attraction #love #queer #hetero. #homo. #gay #bisexual #omnisexual #mspec

[quoictopus]

“ The first quoi flag, similar in style to the asexual flag, was created by Eris (tumblr user chaotic-evil-gender). The black stripe represents asexuality/aromanticism, the green represents harmony, the blue represents emotion, and the grey represents confusion and fuzziness. “

from theacetheist, is this one the right flag? I hope this helps

Here you go:

https://web.archive.org/web/20150422134838/http://chaotic-evil-gender.tumblr.com/flags

Thanks so much!

#✉️

[spacep1ant]

Who am I lying to? If I did that all the time I’d have no friends at all XD Puns are the best, and I stan for it. I love them, but it doesn’t always mean that I’m great at making puns🤔🙃 My (imaginary) friends tell me it’s okay. They don’t mind me with all my chaotic neutrality and me being too extra... Do you have ✨bright✨ personality? Or maybe one of your friends? 🌱 🌱 #art #comics #funny #meme #asexual #artistsoninstagram #aromantic #aroace #asexualmemes #asexuality #asexuals #asexualaromantic #aromanticasexual #aromanticism #aromanticmemes #digitalart #digital #digitalillustration #digitaldrawing #digitalpainting #digitalartist #illustration #illustrationartist #procreate #procreateart #procreateartist https://www.instagram.com/p/CO0sJR4MYEm/?igshid=1utj9fcisdfjt

#art #comics #funny #meme #asexual #artistsoninstagram #aromantic #aroace #asexualmemes #asexuality #asexuals #asexualaromantic #aromanticasexual #aromanticism #aromanticmemes #digitalart #digital #digitalillustration #digitaldrawing #digitalpainting #digitalartist #illustration #illustrationartist #procreate #procreateart #procreateartist

[xxtha-blog]

OKAY SO HOW DOES INK AND ACE INTERACT

Okay i made a list on discord before so lemme just

Ace really likes to travel AUs, loves to, he can’t do it on his own though so he always has to find other people to do it for him. Ink conveniently owns a pair of universe slicing scissors and a massive sphere full of AU gateways. And so Ace already has a very strong interest in him. Using him at first, but you know.

They first truly meet when Ace finds a way into Ink’s Doodlesphere. The only time they’ve ever met before that is when Ink tried to save Ace’s AU. Anyways, in order to get Ink to let him stay, Ace has to turn on the charm and turn it up high. Ink likes compliments so you can imagine how it goes. Ace can also create anything just like Ink can, and thus charm him with that ability. Give Ink anything he wants, gifts, art supplies, all in the name of getting him to trust him.

Ace has a habit of falling in love with people then becoming paranoid they’ll hurt him, but as Myebi put it, Ink’s pretty harmless, so Ace really has nothing to worry about.

Ace starts to go out of his way to visit Ink even without any plans to steal his stuff. For everything he steals, he gives Ink two gifts and always returns his supplies in the end. It’s a pretty harmless prank and Ink doesn’t really mind.

Ace has been known to hate creators and thus artists, but that hatred dissolves as Ink shows him what art can create. Both of them know creators exist though, and that they’re essential for staying alive. Ace is one of the few people in the multiverse who shares this knowledge with Ink. Both Ace and Ink believe everyone is just a character.

Ink hates being completely alone and Ace hates being with lots and lots of people, so just them together is the perfect meet in the middle.

They can both cosplay like fuckin g gods

They’re both asexual! (I have to break Ink’s aromanticism for it to work obviously, so I just go with demi-homoromantic usually.)

Ace’s illusions + Ink’s pranks = absolute hysterical chaos

Ink never finds Ace to be boring, as he’s always able to entertain no matter how many times they meet.

Ace can’t really find anything boring about Ink either, he’s colourful and fun, and in a lot of ways an opposite of himself: spontaneous and impulsive vs careful and calculated.

And you know, they might both be sarcastic, prank loving, semi-emotionless (Ace fakes being emotionless and Ink makes sure he never gets emotionless), chaotic jerks, but they have their ways of being nice, especially to each other, and when they open up.

Ace can make absolute anyone he runs into in AUs think that it was all a dream before they leave so the timelines never get messed up. (Ie making them think they just woke up with illusions)

Ace can create entire worlds with illusions for Ink to explore, and Ink can take Ace to them.

And really neither of them have a family so hey, some family in each other.

And that’s a short summary of it :D!

#undertale #chancetale asks #ACK #crACK ship #Ace x Ink #Ace ships

[philip-seville-archive]

15, 16, 19, 20

What’s your proudest moment/accomplishment in BDRP?

answered but have another! i originated the labors like pitched the whole insane thing bc i am a chaotic neutral and i wanted to get my way quite frankly! but i am proud of its legacy and that its become something that other people do and want to do. i remember when i pitched it i was like ‘and no one will be crazy enough to do it so its not like u will ever have to worry about it again.’ im glad i was wrong lmfao. labor stuff is so fun. 

What thread that’s not your own do you remember watching closely?

i was reading a recent eilonwy/lachlann actually bc it took place in hatter’s and so i was like well what if there are things here i could Overhear xP and i just LOVED their relationship of course. they are so sweet !! 

Write some love for three Muns of your choice!

this is kind of stressful but i’ll do some newer people ok 

Z, seriously!! I’m so happy you’ve returned and brought such lovely characters to us. Our Nemo/Ian is still one of my favourite threads, and I really like the relationship that Pipian has too. You play Ian so thoughtfully and have amazing ideas. I also felt like personally so happy when u picked up Edward since that was one of my favourite skeletons i had written in the past year. You once again have AMAZED me with ur interpretation of it-- the book that gains a page, the narrator’s voice...literally chef kiss buddy. 

Jean!!!!! you are such a delightful presence! you really made an impact with Lachlann and it shows. I love how you embraced the spill...really helps me feel less self-conscious or insecure with it sometimes ehe. and also again, our threads have been full of surprises. i like writing with partners who i cant predict and who also can’t predict me if that makes sense...we just kind of Ride The Vibe of the para. I never would have thought lachlann/jun would go where it went and i hope they get another para soon! 

Emma, you sent this to me so!! You already know but we mourned ur absence for years. I’m glad u came back and decided to stick around and am constantly inspired by how inventive you are with plotting and with twitter lol. you’ve even started that amazing new friends day (!!) thing which is so cute and just shows what a natural community builder you are. Happy that we have Henleigh, a doomed and twisted ship, but genuinely do wanna say ashleigh has more affection than she lets show. also phinnip ahahahahha look when i send you 20k of the phinnip au please roll with it lkfajldk

Write some love for three Muses of your choice!

these r gonna be more ridiculous here we go 

pip....... my shiny lavender scented glade plug-in. stop hijacking my brain we get it you’re awesome! keep doing exactly what ur doing, don’t change, get more embarrassing, be meaner actually!!! maybe ur the inner mean girl i never was and this is performative art! whatever it is, you’re right im wrong shut up!

nemo.......................................................i conclude. jk i just sdkjflkdal very happy u r getting off-dash help rn lmao. ur honestly my favourite trope out there, aka the good bean. to contrast wht i just said about pip, being a good kind person is way harder than being mean, its complicated and interesting to read about in my opinion. i love how hard u try. 

jun! my favorite thing about u is how i can write something i just Disagree With Completely. I’m like oh ho ho, this boy is WRONG! i also like how u (secretly) know its wrong too but u wont admit it, you’d rather die. also getting really emotional these days about how you are probably on the grayro scale but how different your grayro-ness is from john darling or mel or andrina or olaf and how that helps me understand different types of aromanticism beyond my own. :) lets keep learning about each other buddy! this got serious??? my bad!

#meme #evil--endeavor

[9puppiesdrowninginapool]

I‘ll be rating Pride Flags

(This is not meant to offend anyone, it’s just an aesthetic valoration of the flags based on my own opinion, none of the actual indentities or sexualities are any less valid than the others because of the rating, I am aware that not all existing pride flags are represented in this post. And I acknowledge every single one of the sexual identities and sexualities that the flags represent, even if they’re not found in this post (minus pedophilia). No tolerance for pedophilia on this blog.)

1. Lesbian flag

Ultimate Tier

Just look at it, uh I get chills. The first lesbian flag, created by a terf and sexist lesbian was bland and kitschy. Though add orange? Uh yes, you get the best flag in the world. This screams cottage core and lesbian essence.

2. Gay men flag

This one I discovered just a short while ago, I don’t know if it has been around a long time or not, but I’ve always thought the rainbow one was for gay men as well as the whole lgbtq community in general. But I am glad that they also get to have their own flag, and even though I’m not familiar with it nearly as long as the others, it slaps. Look at those colours. Uh yes, hit me with that acqua marine shit. It absolutely is the aesthetic opposite of the lesbian flag. And we’re here for that shit.

3. Aromantic flag

The frog pride flag, we’ve been knew that frogs are the national icons of the aromantic nation. When I found out about aromanticism I was absolutely delighted, (especially as I’m still figuring out if I belong to the spectrum or not) then imagine my joy when I found this colour coordinated beauty of a flag. It reminds me of fresh weed and rolling green hills.

4. Bisexual flag

Okay with this one I struggled for a very long time but which I’ve learned to love so much.

I used to ignore that this flag existed, it was too kitschy for me, with the hot pink and all. Instead in my early gay years the general pride flag WAS IT for me and I used to ask myself why I wasn’t gay just for the sake of having a prettier flag. But now? Ugh yes. This is the shit I’m here for, it exudes the bisexual energy just perfectly, it’s bold, it’s chaotic (as us bisexuals tend to be).

I’ve used to have internalized biphobia. But coming to terms with who I am and learning to love myself came hand in hand with learning to love this flag. Long live the bisexuals.

5. Gay flag

As I’ve mentioned earlier. This was my former favourite, when I was a baby gay. But, wasn’t it for everyone at some point? It’s the rainbow for fucks sake, you get all the best; aLL oF tHeM colours.

Though today it just doesn’t slap as hard as it used to, it’s too simple compared to others, it’s a safe bet for a beautiful flag but nothing too risky. And it isn’t all that original either if you think about it. Nature should claim copyright on their rainbows.

6. Pansexual flag

Ah yes, baby colours, even though those aren’t actual pastel colours I always have the feeling I am looking at pastel colours. I also get the feeling that I’m looking at a cupcake with delicious frosting. It looks so tasty. I want to bite into it.

I used to put this one above the bisexual one as well, but I’ve learned better. Nevertheless it’s a gorgeous flag and I’ve been obsessed with this one for quite a while. Whoever had the idea of putting together blue yellow and pink is a genius and should receive an award they knew what the fuck they were doing.

7. Transexual flag

Ah yes, pastel colours. This flag is beautifully put together and adorable, pastel colours are a blessing and I’m glad that the trans community got that blessing.

8. Asexual flag

Okay, to be fair: purple is my “hate” colour, and as the ace flag is purple centered that could explain why it is one of my least favourite (even though I still love it infinitely like all of the pride flags).

Nevertheless I must say they did an amazing job by putting it together with black, grey and white. This makes it look elegant, which is very suiting for asexuals if you ask me. I know, that’s another weird statement to make, but in my eyes asexuals are the description of elegance. Those elegant motherfuckers, bless.

9. Non binary flag

Last but not least. The reason this is last is because it has a similar structure to the asexual flag (it’s basically the ace flag plus yellow) and well, in this case the white makes it look cheap instead of elegant. As opposed to: if they had made it just black purple yellow I’m sure it would have slapped, as yellow and purple go together very nicely.