#cis bullshit

[autumnhesperax]

No, a deadname is not a “true name” and only a cis normative idiot would think the very first ephemeral name given at birth is a “true name”.

Our True Names are the names our heart sings to for ourselves. And sometimes the music changes over time. Sometimes it doesn’t.

No, I don’t care that the source post claims to be an appreciation post — if it regurgitates transphobic bullshit, it’s 🗑️🗑️ trash 🗑️🗑️

This is why I detest the Sandman and it’s AU — it’s full of cis sexist assumptions of what is ✨ tRuE ✨ and it’s dated AF.

It should fade into irrelevance, not routinely be cited as “inspiring.” Especially given the original Gaiman authored works have the oh-so-inspiring story (“A story of You”)… of a trans woman dying in an utterly preventable manner but don’t worry, it’s oh so okay because Heaven, I mean, 👻 the Dreaming 😴 💤 will make it better. Isn’t that great?

Sure if you’re trans you get to die (and apparently be deadnamed by pivotal characters because idk 🤓🤓 cis people think that the first name you get mUSt bE yOUr tRuE nAmE!!! /s) 🤓🤓

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Oh the cis normative assumptions how things must really work for us poor transes

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To hell with that cis normative sexist bullshit.

And damnatio memorae for Puck

#cis bullshit #transgirl #trans #the sandman #criticism #the cis are not okay #mini rant #rant

[puffitale]

Weird question: but does anyone feel inadequate due to how ‘unseen’ they feel?

Like, I'm in my mid-30s. I feel like I’m old and fat. I can count on my fingers all the times I’ve ‘caught’ a guy looking me over in *that* way.

I dress for myself - for comfort. I don’t wear make up. I try to look presentable, but I know that I fall short in a lot of ways.

I try to make my self worth be about me, and how I feel about me, and what I love about my personality/values etc, but I feel like a complete bush pig that’s not worthy of love and knowing that I can see men that I find attractive, but also feeling completely invisible except to be a waste of space.

And…it, like…hurts. A lot. It hurts a lot to want to be beautiful and sexy and to be constantly barraged with the message that if you’re not hot and fuckable to men you’re nothing, and knowing that you fall on the latter scale more than the former. It hurts to see girls that look like me or better matched up. It hurts to see girls who seem have easily slotted into universal beauty standards call themselves fat and ugly and not good enough because they’re wearing track pants to target or they ate a big meal. It hurts to see someone announce a pregnancy or an engagement and just feel so…nothing. Like you’ll never be good enough for love or anything…really.

And the thing is…I know I’ve been programmed to feel this way. So I buy thousands of dollars of bullshit like expensive clothes that I feel uncomfortable in or bullshit beauty treatments. That I should get someone to suck all my fat out and mould them into an amazing set of tits and ass, that I should dye my hair and wear high heels and false eyelashes and have a tiny waist and dick sucking lips etc. And that I’ll feel lonely enough to settle for some piece of shit who sits on my couch all day and plays GOW or something and demands chicken wings on a 4 hourly basis only to flop into bed for incredibly unsatisfying sex on my end whilst he snores and I scrub the kitchen with a toothbrush to work through my self disgust at the fact that I was completely fine alone but I’ve chosen Barney Rubble and his garlic mayo farts over working on my self enough to die alone.

I feel like a dipshit. An incredibly alone and depressed dipshit.

I want the fairytale, the nice wedding and babies. I want to feel seen and wanted and love. But I also know it’s a trap and that either if I pursue that I’ll be worse off or it will never make me happy. I want to be able to work on myself enough to be happy as I am, but it’s just not there. Or there’s too much shit to deal with first (childhood trauma, cPTSD that bullshit).

I feel like a puzzle piece that’s been burned that expected to find its match but also be enlightened enough to just be as is but I have a giant whole that’s been burned out of me and I don’t know how to mend it and everything I’ve been taught from a young child has been that I need someone else to fix or fill it and nothing will be able to do that because I’ve been fucking burnt and have a giant burn mark in my centre, so I’m unfixable - only transformable but I don’t know how to do that, only fix, not transform, only fix…

#essay #beauty standards #cis bullshit #idk #i feel like shit

[lilylikesyuri]

honestly transphobes so desperately wanting to be oppressed is both hilarious and exhausting

#transfem #trans #lgbt #cis bullshit #cis nonsense #transgender

[knarfire]

How the fuck are you coming onto a trans woman all fucking night and then when she turns you down you misgender her??

#transgender #trans #cis bullshit #this literally happened to me tonight #when I was bartending #I'm so done with cis people

[transmascissues]

it’s so funny to me that people used to try to warn me “if you go on t it won’t make you androgynous it’ll just make you look like a man” because 1) i do want to look like a man, that is famously a major part of being a trans man but also 2) t literally has made me androgynous?? like they were wrong on both counts. i got most of the looking-like-a-man changes that i wanted (deep voice, broader body, hair all over my body including my face) and i also give every single cis person in a five mile radius a stroke every time they try to figure out my gender. the assumption that trans men wouldn’t actually want to look like men and the assumption that cis people are good at correctly gendering us once we’re on t are both weird as hell.

#people said this to me all the fucking time pre t #to the point that it did almost make me too afraid to go on t bc ‘what if they’re right and i don’t really want to look like a man?’ #but it turns out that was bullshit on so many levels #i look ‘like a man’ now and love it and also am the most androgynous person most cis people i meet have ever seen #y’all just don’t know how t works at fucking all #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia #trans men #transmascs

[cock-holliday]

It’s not at all surprising that cisfeminists try to push people out of conversations about reproductive care but it’s bizarre as fuck for trans people to do it. Like, I do not know how to express to you that this topic affects like 99% of trans (and adjacent) people.

Obviously (apparently not obvious to many of you) trans and not-cis or not-dyadic people who have or had (at least some of) the organs that allow you to carry a pregnancy are affected by it. It’s YOUR parts. Everyone who can get pregnant is affected. Everyone who could have an abortion is affected. Everyone who has to worry about birth control for THEIR specific own protection is affected. Everyone who has to get a pap smear is affected. It’s regulation about THAT healthcare, about THOSE parts, about accessing care for YOUR body.

Likewise, the ability and responsibility to bear children is placed on ALL women. Every woman who cannot, will not, or won’t become pregnant has their womanhood challenged. It doesn’t matter if it’s a physical impossibility (infertility AND choice to remove ability AND never having the ability to begin with) or a personal choice despite the ability—if you identify with womanhood, a large piece of the narrative is equating that role with baby-carrier. Which exists both in larger misogynistic society and as a point of pride among cisfeminists.

It’s a feminist issue for how we need to destroy the way society forces a role, it’s a feminist issue on the grounds of bodily autonomy. So just about everyone, regardless of AGAB, is affected in some way.

It does no good to forget (accidentally or intentionally) the trans people whose bodies are being policed in medicine, nor pretend those whose bodies are being policed by societal role are “being brought up for no reason.”

Of all the genders; trans man, trans woman, cis woman, and identities adjacent and between—none escape this scrutiny and it is a topic that affects all of us.

The only role that it affects less is ‘cis man,’ and even then only so far. Either cis man is an identity that one may not hold permanently in which case the previously cis man is brought into the above categories, OR it’s a role that should be brought into the conversation more because of personal responsibility to the above groups. If we are to actually shift sole responsibility for pregnancy from the one who can get pregnant to also encompass those who can get people pregnant (expanding birth control responsibility, financial and parental responsibility, etc) we have to recognize that no body or identity is absent from this conversation, even if one identity is a silent presence over it all.

#LJsm #while I think cis man is a category most unlike the rest #I still don’t even think THAT identity should be in a total us vs them #both because of how cis men are not solely responsible for this bullshit #but also because of the potential essentialism #by isolating the identity away from the rest of us #it makes it hard for previously cis men to come over to our side as an ‘ex-enemy’ #but also reinforces either that cis men are biologically bad or socialized bad #and both create thought patterns that are used to police trans people within community #aka ‘cis men are the enemy’ isn’t less of a foundation of radfem bullshit than ‘men are the enemy’

[thisismisogynoir]

I love it when women hate men. I love it when women are allowed to vent to each other about how horrible and creepy men are. I love it when women form friendships with and prioritize each other over relationships with men(whether they're attracted to them or not). I love it when women put men dni in their bios and on their nude photos and on posts on their blogs. I love it when women refuse to mollycoddle and accommodate entitled male feelings with "but this doesn't mean I hate all men, I know a few men who are great, I love my father/sons/brothers/uncles/male cousins/guy friends" I love it when women complain about men WITHOUT "not all men" being a disclaimer. I love it when women avoid socializing with/refuse to be around/befriend/get close to men because they know men can't be trusted. I love it when women make "kill all men" jokes. I love it when women offer absolutely no concern or care for men's feelings and if their misandry offends men whatsoever because why should we, men are the oppressor class who have raped and killed and abused us and kept us as subjugated as second-class citizens for millennia, they regularly mistreat us and the women in their own marginalized communities still every single day and make this world so much harder and more awful for us to be in, and if we choose to hate them and not spare them any sympathy then so be it, and I don't just mean "men as a class" either, you can be a woman who doesn't want to have anything to do with any man on an individual basis and completely cuts off men from her personal life too and ykw I will love and fucking support you in that because men deserve absolutely NOTHING from us. If they're so tough and strong then they can handle it just like they can handle being lonely. If you are a woman who hates men, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A LESBIAN AND/OR A TRANS WOMAN, then just know that I love you. I love you, I support you, and you are safe here.

#was going to make a post about how much i hate that women aren't allowed to hate their oppressors but i decided to spin it into something #positive instead #this is supposed to be the feminist site that makes reddit mgtow piss their baby diapers so let's go back to despising men and not coddling #their feelings and let's dye our hair blue while we're at it #i am so tired of this new wave of guilt-tripping and gaslighting women who hate men and don't trust or want to be around them #i hate how we're made into villainesses or the problematic ones for not valuing them in our lives or for wanting to guard ourselves or be #safe from our oppressors #and i'm tired of people who don't know the first thing about feminism being like 'BUT THAT'S TERF RHETORIC WHAT ABOUT X MINORITY MEN' #guess what women can also be x minority that you're trying to protect the men of and we get to hate men too #trans women are included when i say women btw and trans men are included when i say men #if anyone has the right to hate men more than anybody else it's trans women esp trans lesbians because they put up with so much shit #from men that even cis women do not and they especially know how vile men are behind closed doors #so #terfs fuck off #radfems fuck off #and if anybody tries to make this post more appeasing to men or 'not all men's this post you are getting blocked and hit with a hammer #feminism #misogyny #sexism #patriarchy #tw men #tw rape #tw abuse #misandry #terfs dni #radfems dni #feminists need to go back to being scary and unpalatable for men none of this 'but some of them are good!' bullshit #men are entitled to nothing from us #and if you try to prove me wrong then you are just proving my point if you have nothing good to say then simply keep scrolling #ok? ok.

[boyvibrator]

T4T detrans kink not from transphobic trauma but from the longing of feeling desirable when you used to be a girl, when cis guys would want you. when you had long hair and hardly any body hair and straight boys flirted with you.

but you were trans. you felt awkward in that mold of girl and boy. you were probably gay too, and you liked these boys. but not in the same way they liked you, not the same way other girls around you liked boys. and you missed out on a lot of fun experiences growing up because of this

and now you’re on T. and that’s amazing. and maybe cis gay guys are even into you, and that’s cool. but they just… don’t really get you. and you don’t really get them. sometimes you kinda wish you could be that young girl again, and have the guys you’re interested in wanting your attention and putting in the work to have you as their girlfriend. you used to have that, but you missed out on those opportunities

and let’s say you try to hook up with straight guys. the problem is. not that many are gonna be into you, you’re too hairy, too many, voice too deep, and even if they are okay with that they just wanna fetishize your trans body. they’re not seeing you how you want to be seen. you want to be GIRL. you want to be feminine again and wanted

but with a trans guy? happily seeing you as a girl? seeing right through you, loving those curves and your soft skin and recognizing the girl underneath your transition? he understands and he gets it. and you see HIM how he needs to be seen. as the young man going after girls like he never got to when he was young before his transition. because cis girls just don’t get it. but you get it.

#detrans kink #detranskink #ftm misgendering #ftm girl #ANYONE ELSE OR JUST ME???? #like i understand liking this kink because you have trauma but #I don’t have that experience I’ve never been bothered when cis society misgenders me #or puts me down or puts me through that sexism bullshit and wants me to stop transitioning #I miss the girlhood. I miss what I didn’t get to have because I was an akward trans kid #I miss the boys o didn’t get to date because something felt off #and I miss the girls I never got to date because I wasn’t seen as a boy #closest I had was middle school lesbian dating #but even then it wasn’t quite right

[peaceandlove26]

do you still consider yourself trans or not? sorry if this question is weird ive always been interested in how people view their gender :3

no its okay! i don’t consider myself trans anymore because i am not really changing anything about myself or wanting to be perceived in any way other than female. i don’t necessarily consider myself a woman, it’s silly but honestly “lesbian” is my gender haha

but i make the active decision to present as feminine even if whatever intrinsic homosexuality is in my body+mind causes me to constantly be perceived as trans by those who don’t know me LOL

#so many people at my college assume i’m nonbinary and automatically use theythem for me even if i tell them im a sheher #i guess even among cis women theres always going to be something about me that doesnt reallt work within that. social role or something #even if i choose it #idk! its interesting #i hope i worded this okay. i dont talk about my gender ablot publicly bc im afraid of terf freaks trying to #use me as an example for their bullshit arguments

[interstate35south]

listen. i like a good “hualian adopts wwx” au as much as the next guy. but do y’all ever think abt the fact that appearance wise. xie lian and hua cheng are supposedly like. 17-19

i forget about it until i’m consciously reminded of it but there’s comedic potential in there somewhere

like i imagine they could probably get away with it when wwx was a young child but it’s all fun and games until visibly 34 year old wei wuxian is still calling apparently 17 year old xie lian dad

#tgcf #tian guan ci fu #heaven official's blessing #mdzs #mo dao zu shi #wei wuxian #hua cheng #xie lian #the 17-19 feels like a bucket of cold water every time i hear it like they have always been mid-late 20s to me at LEAST #you’re looking at hua cheng and telling me he’s 18??? bullshit #i only accept it for the bit #like obv any dynamics with mortals and immortals has to factor in the whole “one of them will age and die and the other won’t” #but it just gets so much funnier when they’re an age that’s not even plausible to write off the fact that they don’t grow older #like lowkey twilight core #bonus points if lan sizhui is added into the equation #you’re 16 and your grandfather is 17 what do you do #hualian

[theminecraftbee]

you know, there are a lot of posts about how transitioning as an adult is like going through puberty all over again. and I’m not medically transitioning (at least not yet, maybe one day), so I don’t know if I ever expected to exactly experience that. after all, my hormones are at normal adult levels for someone on birth control. but no, some of the stuff I experience does make me feel like a teenager awkwardly becoming an adult again, actually.

see, I’m attending a friend’s wedding, and I need new formalwear for it (protip: it is generally frowned upon to wear a wedding dress to someone else’s wedding, and that’s the last formalwear I purchased). and I just… really didn’t want to wear a dress, so I went to go get a suit. and I didn’t know how to get any of the required clothes for it and had to have a salesperson help me figure out how dress shirts work and nervously stood there while getting shown how to try stuff on and it really did feel like I was a lost teenager, despite being, you know, almost twenty-six.

but also: I own a three-piece suit now! it’s grey! it looks pretty good on me! I even got a blue tie with bees on it! so it was worth the temporary embarrassment of suddenly realizing I don’t know how men’s formalwear sizes work and, oh god, why are there so many variations of “white dress shirt” what does this mean.

and I figure as I very slowly work up the confidence to be out more irl there will be more and more moments like this, and I’ll lament the fact I didn’t do all this stuff as an actual teenager, but as weird and scary as it is, so far, it’s been worth it.

#also shoutout to the salesperson both at the suit store and the department store #they were VERY nice and reassuring and the woman at the department store wished me luck which was very sweet #I was. very obviously nervous social anxiety is a bitch #I kept being like ‘I’m so sorry I don’t know how this works’ but I never had anyone teach me so I must give myself grace #anyway more personal than I normally am on this blog but I’m excited and also figure someone out there probably relates #just. late milestones. thing I keep experiencing both because autism and because not cis #suddenly realizing ‘oh most people figure this one out as a teenager’ #milestones are bullshit anyway #anyway some stuff needs to come in and then be hemmed so no pictures yet but #suit……

[sirfrogsworth]

Okay, I have two jokes in response to this.

Pick your favorite...

Or...

#transphobia #I have trans friends who have cis friends and they gab about that shit all the time so I call bullshit #but also they can say the actual word vagina like adults

[t4transsexual]

i think really the reason i have such a strong reaction to people who claim that they "hate men including trans men" is that pretty much all of them still have cis men in their lives. like they have cis male friends or cis male family they still positively associate with and cis male colleagues or theyre dating cis men but they DO NOT associate with trans men, theres not a single transmasc person in their circle or who feels comfortable with them because its obvious that they hold trans men to a higher standard than cis men, and its just like. youre not a misandrist at that point. youre just transphobic. like maybe youre not transmisogynistic and youre "just transmascphobic" but youre still transphobic and the lengths youre willing to go to accommodate the cis men in your life while accusing trans men of transitioning to get privilege over women and being "gender traitors" is disturbing

#also i dont respect the man hating of a woman who dates cis men btw #like if u 'hate all men' #and pull 'gender traitor' terf bullshit to trans men #and then to really drive that point home #you get on your knees to suck a mans dick #like ur not a 'based misandrist femcel' ur a transphobe #trans #transmasc #trans man #transmascphobia

[dykefaggotry]

pack it up everyone dylan mulvaney jumped on the "girl dinner" type of tiktok humor w a silly song about Girlhood and now all the cis girls who were eating it UP from other cis women are demonizing her and saying she's evil for mocking womanhood and doesn't understand

I'm absolutely sick of it. that culture was Bad to begin with, but any time it was critiqued the response was "WE'RE COPING WITH WOMANHOOD of course we understand!" & you were branded a Misogynistic Self Hating Woman for not finding it funny. but the SECOND a popular trans woman jumps in on it? it's think pieces about "does she really understand womanhood at all? people need to know that she understands and this song misses that" as if they wouldn't be gobbling it the fuck up if a white, blond, cis woman made that song.

#if u want to know the song it's days of girlhood #and like yeah tbh I dislike it in the same way I dislike all these songs and trends and bullshit around womanhood being cutesy #but tiktok sure would've LOVED IT coming from a cis woman #it's very blatant hypocrisy #either you see All Songs and trends like this are rough #or you don't just complain when it's a trans woman doing it #like no she very much does understand the reality of womanhood and misogyny shes just making a silly fun song like so many cis women made #popular on this stupid app #anyway.

[twistedappletree]

alternative coffin scene ⚰️

#possessive xie lian #????? #sorry I just couldn’t stop thinking about this lmaooo #actually planning on drawing it but memeing it is quicker and easier rn so HERE I AM #BACK ON MY BULLSHIT #tgcf #tian guan ci fu #heaven official's blessing #xie lian #hua cheng #san lang #hualian #tgcf meme #incorrect tgcf #tgcf crack #apple memes 🍎 #mxtx tgcf #idc that it’s OOC for xie Lian it’s funny to meeeeeee lmaooo

[chrissy-kaos]

Fuck this stupid place.. I'm so tired of this

#im done here #@staff #@staff needs to fix this bullshit #cis women dont get marked mature in a bikini then why the fuck do i #TUMBLR IS TRASH NOW #tumblr is anti trans #tumblr is anti LGBTQ #make tumblr great again