#cis men

[bizarreaizen]

aromantic and asexual cis men seriously need more recognition, they've been told that being a virgin above the age of 18 is weird and that they get no bitches and they've seen that romance and sex is very important to a man and you need to have it or your "lame" and "boring"

#cis men #aromantic stuff #aromanticism #aromantic spectrum #aromantic pride #aromantic asexual #aromantic #aro pride #arospec #aroace #aro ace #aro spec #aroace pride #aroacespec #aroallo #aro #asexual pride #asexuality #asexual spectrum #asexual representation #asexual #acespec #ace spec #ace pride #ace spectrum #ace stuff #acearo #ace #queer #tw cursing

[pet-shop-of-horror-fan]

If you pay attention to TIRFs (trans inclusive radical feminists) you will find they talk about trans people two ways.

One is that all trans people are women. That is, trans women are women, but also trans men are female socialized so they are close enough, and non-binary people can be mushed in as cis women or trans women as needed.

The other is that trans women are women (good, pure, innocent), trans men are men (bad, impure, guilty), and non-binary are mushed in as cis or binary trans, (evil) man or (virtuous) women, as needed.

Even when radfems are not TERFs, they are still bioessentialist.

#anti radfem #radical feminism #transgender #queer #misgendering #transmisia #transmisogyny #transandromisia #exorsexism #cisgender #women #trans women #cis women #men #trans men #cis men #non binary #genderqueer #binary #binary trans

[genderqueerdykes]

Hello. I was just wondering what your opinion on cis/het men learning masculinity from butch lesbians/trans mascs/trans men are? Also can cis/het men identify as butch or is that an explicit queer term? Thank you!

hello there! butch is an explictly queer term, it can be used by cis gay men, trans straight men, etc. but cishet men should just use the term "masculine" for themselves! as for cishet men learning about masculinity from butch lesbians, transmascs, trans men, etc. i don't see why that would be a bad thing at all! it's important to learn how different types of people express masculinity, i think it would be a very important learning experience for a lot of people to take a look at how people of differing identities express themselves and how we can learn about ourselves from watching them.

i think it's a great idea and i want more people to be open to ideas like this! hope that helps! thanks for this ask, i really enjoyed answering this! take care!

asher

#asks #answers #masculinity #masculine #butch lesbian #transmasc #transmasculine #transmasculinity #trans guy #trans boy #trans dude #ftm #trans man #cishet men #cis men #men #butch

[pandacake-with-love]

When I say men deserve to be treated as human, im talking about radfems and man haters. The people that want "ugly" men to be "tied to railroad tracks". The people that would rather see trans men as breeding stock for white babies. The people that think men have no coherent thought process or emotion.

All of these things are astounding and vile. If you think this way you definitely need to reevaluate your values, and you definitely can't call yourself a feminist.

Men are just as able to think and understand emotions. Men are harmed under the patriarchy in the sense that they are forced to hide these traits. We should be working together to dismantle the patriarchy and make the world better for everyone, not just for white women.

#fuck radfems #fuck terfs #radfems dni #terfs dni #trans #transandrophobia #transgender #transmasc #transmisandry #ftm #trans men #misandry #men #cis men

[nonbinarymlm]

You know, the patriarchy exists, so I'm not going to be down on trans folk who have discomfort around cis men. But I'm sometimes uncomfortable with blanket assertions I see from other trans men sometimes that trans men have *nothing* in common with cis men and our experiences, attraction, everything is *entirely* different. Maybe that's your experience, but it's not mine, and many trans men share experiences with cis men. And if you're asserting that an experience related to oppression or gendered alienation can't happen to cis men, then you might be wrong.

I have found a lot of unexpected common ground with other marginalized men. Queer cis men, intersex cis men, and cis men of color can all have complicated relationships with oppression and gender. I've talked to queer men, cis and trans, who've face forms of violence and harassment that would be associated with misogyny. I somewhat often see posts asserting that the attraction trans men have to women is nothing like the attraction cis men do, but I find overlap with other bi and aspec men in general, including bi and aspec cis men. In discussions around trans/cis relationships I sometime feel the implicit assumptions that the trans member of a trans/cis relationship must be the more oppressed party, but I have't found that true in my relationship as a white transmasc dating a mixed race cis man.

Experiences can be diverse within a community and you don't have to find overlap with cis men's experiences yourself. I'm not trying to dictate experiences. Just... especially if you're also a white, perisex trans man... maybe be careful about being so eager to validate your experience of oppression as a trans men that you forget about intersectionality. Transness is not the only way men can be oppressed and oppressed cis men exist and may have experiences that you wouldn't expect. Cis men have privilege for being cis men, but that doesn't mean they never have experiences of oppression or complexity around gender or attraction.

#long post #late night thoughts #trans experiences #trans men #transmasc #cis men #intersectionality #oppression #experiences of oppression #gender discssion #attraction discussion #nuance #text post #personal thoughts #personal experiences #gentle reminder #i've just seen a couple of posts around trying to validate trans men's experiences by emphasizing that they're nothing like cis men's #especially trying to validate trans men's oppression or queerness #it's okay if you're experience is completely different but i share experiences of oppression and queerness with marginalized cis men #as marginalized cis men do experience oppression and queerness

[atimodeus]

shit that makes more sense to me since transitioning, pt 1

in this edition of Local Idiot Learns Things as a Result of Transing His Gender, i'd like to present this subject to the court for consideration:

Manspreading.

i feel like prior to transition, i understood in the abstract why cis men do it. i mean, hello, ya don't wanna squish your junk. but now, as i've reached seven months on T and my body has begun to shift towards its final form, holy wow do i feel bad for giving cis dudes shit before!

mind you, i don't even have the whole shabang down there — just what being on T has given me thus far. and yet, even with my comparably lesser amount of junk, trying to sit with my legs together makes me so stupidly overstimulated and uncomfortable. like, it's genuinely unbearable. shit, at this point, i think i might manspread more than my cis friends do.

all of this to say: cis men, this is my formal apology for clowning on you before. i've been a fool, and i humbly submit this testimony as penance.

#transgender #trans man #transition #trans hrt #cis men #manspreading #trans men #trans man things #transition update #transition diary #i'm sorry #i am paying for my ignorance #if i'm this overstimulated i can't imagine what having actual balls must feel like bro omfg

[catbookcat]

I am new but I totally forgot that cis men exist on tumblr. I was like... you're a what?

#cis men #tumblr #queer #gay #adhd thoughts

[spaceshipsandpurpledrank]

#talkin #tik tok #cis men #straight men #homophobia

[alabasterandpitch]

This is probably gonna end up a garbled word salad. I'm just vomiting my insecurities, please don't take this too seriously

Realtalk, the Tumblr community is a wonderful place to find like-minded folks who share your fucked up interests and obsessions and mental illnesses, and it's honestly really nice to share that with someone as I start down the neuro-questioning rabbit hole myself. I don't think I really appreciated how closed-off I'd let that part of myself get these last few years.

But shit if this site doesn't make me feel like hot garbage as a (semi)straight man sometimes. And on some level I get it; even if we're not all oppressive agents of The Patriarchy™, there's a lot of privilege being seen as part of the in-group of society's Default Setting™. Even though I don't really fit the typical ideal of masculinity in a lot of ways, I'm still spared a tremendous amount of grief purely by virtue of being visibly male-presenting, so I'm hardly the target-demographic on Tumblr. I have my own axe to grind with societal perceptions and expectations of masculinity, but we'll save that for another day.

Tumblr is a community that focuses on uplifting and empowering marginalized groups and bringing together artists and weirdoes and eccentrics and people who might otherwise feel utterly isolated and alone, and that's such an amazing and laudable thing. I think it's more necessary than ever in the world today to have communities that celebrate all sorts of marginalized people that we don't see reflected in Mainstream Society's version of things, whether they be LGBTQ+, POC, ND, or anyone who wants to break free from the box of restrictive societal norms they feel trapped by.

Believe me, the absolute last thing I wanna do as a straight(ish) cis man is show up at The Designated LGBTQ+ Hellsite™ and start whining: 'bUt WhAt AbOuT mE?1?!?'.' But I'd be lying if I said it didn't feel a little shitty sometimes to rediscover such a vibrant community of people I can actually relate to, who makes my weird brain feel a little less alone, only to feel like I stumbled uninvited into a party nobody wants me at.

I guess I often don't feel like I'm intrinsically desirable as a man on the scrawny, introverted end of the spectrum (hardy har), and I know that's on me to deal with in therapy.

It would just be nice to see a little more male-positivity

To all the lads, boys, men -- whatever word you want! -- out there, you're fuckin killin' it dude and I'm goddamn proud of you. Don't hesitate to check in with yourself and dump out all the emotional shit from time to time, and for the love of all that is holy, don't give yourself a second less time and love than you would give to your dearest friend in need.

My asks are always open if you wanna vent to someone who knows the struggle.

#rant #rambling #venting #journal #masculinity #positive masculinity #self hatred #self loathing #ignore me #cis men #ftm #trans men #male positivity #gnc #gender identity #actually mentally ill #mental illness #self esteem #men #men's issues #i'm probably overthinking this #please dont judge me #too normal for the weirdos #too weird for the normies #too weird to live too rare to die #male validation #masculine #masc #masculine urge #the masculine urge to yearn for emotional intimacy

[bizarreaizen]

just reminding you that, cis men who are bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, polysexual, asexual, aromantic or literally any orientation, you guys are valid and deserve more recognition <3

#cis men #cis man #bisexual #pansexuel #omnisexual #polysexual #asexual #aromantic #queer #pride #lgbtq #lgbtqia+ #lgbtq+ community #lgbt community #lgbtqiap #lgbt pride #lgbtq rights #lgbt #lgbt positivity #lgbt representation #lgbt+ #lgbt rights #lgbta #lgbtpeople #lgbtpride #lgbtq community #lgbtq positivity #lgbtq pride #lgbtq representation #lgbtq+

[scramblema-am]

Didn't want to derail a post so I'm making my own.

I came across a post talking about how we're not gonna get rid of the radfems until we give up "all cis men are evil" because gender essentialism is brain rot. Which is completely and totally true.

AND ALSO

I can't believe I have to fucking say this, but we need to give up "all cis men are evil" because cis men are... also people??? I understand that the people who have hurt women and the LGBTQIA+ community are white straight cis men, but that doesn't make them inherently evil or inhuman. It is dehumanizing to label an entire category of people as evil. I don't care if they have privilege, they still deserve to be treated as human beings. Cuz surprise, ALL PEOPLE should be treated like people and have the right to not be told that they're scum constantly.

And fuck it, hot take: it fucking sucks to be told you're evil for shit you can't change, no matter who you are. It's not ok to call all gays evil, or all black people evil, or all trans people evil, or all women evil. It's NOT OK to call all straight white cis men evil either.

And you know what? If I was called evil all day every day online and out in the real world by people who claim to be "liberal" and "feminist," I might get angry, or at the very least depressed. When you are in a heightened state of emotion, you are vulnerable to manipulation. If some asshole is like "hey I get it, *those people* hates me too, they're all stupid," men, especially young men who are depressed and angry, might follow them into whatever stupid shit they're doing. That's how Andrew Tate has as big a following as he has.

TLDR: Men need to do better, AND communities that push for acceptance and change NEED to drop the "all cis men" are evil thing. Those things aren't mutually exclusive!

We need to treat men like real human people.

Otherwise what the fuck are we even doing here.

#rant #v emotional about this #I get it #They can be annoying #but jesus christ #let them live #and practice what you preach also? #don't ask for equality and equity and then turn around to stomp on someone else #damn #men #cis men #straight white cis men #“all cis men are evil” #fuck off radfems #feminism #liberal #LGBTQIA+ #hot take

[deusinabsentiaa]

I'm so tired of the transphobia in the gay community. And I'm talking about cis gay men being transphobic towards trans gay men. It's a common occurrence for me to receive hate messages or demeaning comments or even to be called slurs by cis gay men on dating apps due to me being a trans man who happens to be gay. Just a minute ago, I received a message from a stranger where the man was fully mocking me and laughing, saying that I had made their night and they needed the laugh. Y'all, do you know how tiring it is just to fight to be accepted into male gay spaces as a trans man? It's fucking hard. Any time I go on a date, I'm terrified that it's just a set up to a hate crime. I just want to be accepted and validated. I want to be welcomed into gay spaces just as much as a cis man would be. I don't want to be laughed at or treated like a comedy act. I want to be treated as an equal, that's it. That's all I'm asking for.

#travis talks #travis vents #I'm so fucking tired #lgbtq #lgbtqia #transphobia #transgender #trans male #trans masc #gay #gay male #cis #men #cis men #i'm at the point where I'm giving up on ever finding someone

[spilled-ink-n-blood]

i will never understand the way cis men’s brains work. tell me why i asked this man on tinder if he had any friends to debrief and talk shit with and all he said was that he spent time being stoic and used drugs. like y’all will never experience the joys of being a teenage girl sitting with other teenage girls in a bedroom and talking about boys, books, fictional characters, etc. i really want to understand but i just can’t get with y’all, damn!

i’m just saying the more you isolate yourself the worst it’s gonna be for you. i learned that the hard way. if you do have anybody to reach out to please do.

#really how hard is it to be upfront about your feelings? #that’s such a redundant question and ik we all have problems™️ but come on now #rant #vent #cis men #transmasc #girlhood #transmasc experience

[nonbinarymlm]

Green Flags for Cis Male Partners (based on my fiance)*

1) Loves (complex) evil female characters - Cersei is his major GOT fave

2) Is not okay with other men being misogynistic - low bar and yet

3) Is deeply uncomfortable with random sexualized women being all over media and advertisements - okay, he might actually have a trauma response to this in part due to comphet so I don’t know if it counts, but

4) Can be little spoon  - big spoon is good too, but accepting the little spoon vulnerability at least sometimes is important

5) Is bi/pan/queer - look it’s a given, right?

6) Has female and trans friends

7) Is more concerned with sexual violence than false accusations of sexual violence - if this is the other way around then be concerned

8) Is huggable - important

*Disclaimer: this is not a serious post and all kinds of people may be toxic/abusive in relationships as human relationships are very complex. Don’t @ me

#mlm #gay mlm #cis partners #cis men #cis trans relationship #cis boyfriend #relationship standards #relatioships #boyfriend posting #gay posting #fiance posting #sexism mention #misogyny mention #green flags #relationship green flags #love posting #i love him #loving queue

[nullv01d]

the physical manifestation of emotional immaturity

#artists on tumblr #queer art #caterpillar #traditional art #colorful #art tag #cis men

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

Transmasculine Cis Man Pride Flag

[Image: eight horizontal stripes colored with four shades of blue, white, cyan, darker blue, and pastel black. End ID.]

Transmasc Cis Man: a trans-cis experience of modalities and male-masculine identities; experiencing masculine transness and male cisness; or being both transmin/transmideo and cismia/cismain.

#mod ap #mogai pride flags #liom flag #transmasculine #cismiagender #cismaingender #cismiaspec #transmideospec #transmideogender #transmingender #cis man #cismale #cisgender male #transgender #trans-masc #transmasc #trans #cis men