#cisnormative

[jaydenchip404]

You have brain rot. Log off the internet and get some fresh air

Oh, wow, log off and get fresh air? That's revolutionary advice, never heard that one before! I was just about to diagnose my screen-induced brain rot on WebMD, but your wisdom has truly saved the day. Let me go bask in the great outdoors; I'm sure the fresh air will magically restore my brain cells to their former glory.

#Abrophobia #Acephobia #Anti-LGBTQIA+ #Anti-MOGAI #Aphobia #Arophobia #Biphobia #Cisnormative #Enbyphobia #Exclusionist #Heteronormative #Homophobia #Omniphobia #Queerphobia #Transphobia #MOGAI #Queer #LGBTQIA+ #LGBTQIA #LGBTQ #LGBTQ+ #LGBT #LGBT+ #LGBTQQIA #2SLGBTQ+ #LGBT2SQQIA

[hamletthedane]

cw transphobia

obviously this is an extremely bizarre tweet that got ratioed to hell and back, but it’s also hilarious that of all the authors in the entire English literary canon, she somehow landed on Shakespeare as the epitome of cisnormative writing.

like ma’am shakespeare’s characters go on stage and announce their gender to the audience within the first few lines in nearly every play. Including…you know….the very play you reference???

#ah yes…the famously strictly cisnormative writer shakespeare #cw transphobia #cw homophobia #shakespeare #willy shakes #queer stuff

[yaoiboypussy]

I’m thinking about that person who asked me “ugh why would your parents want you to be attracted to men? Wouldn’t that make you gay? You men try to make everything about yourself” when I made a post about how I feel pressured to be a women who likes men because I grew up being told I’d be a woman who would marry a man and I asked if that counted as comphet. And people just couldn’t wrap their head around the fact that trans guys experience the misogynistic and heteronormative pressure to be women who likes men.

#.txt #trans #transgender #trans man #transmasc #lgbt #lgbtq #like woah cisnormativity and heteronormativity effects trans men??? who would’ve guessed !!

[stonebutchooze]

I need to see other butches. I need to see other butches unapologetically masculine and shirtless and relaxed in nature. I need to see other butches on TV and in my books and in my shop and bar. I need butches whose masculinity is not apologised for by feminine or otherwise mainstreamly redeeming qualifiers, like whiteness, thinness, able bodied-ness, attractiveness, feminine faces, earrings, women's jeans and shoes. These things are all okay, but I need to see a butch character who's not been shaped to be acceptable for all audiences with reservations about queerness. I need a butch who's fat, hairy, deep voiced, who's older, who wear shirts and ripped jeans and boots instead of dapper suits. Butches who are on T, or have PCOS, butches who also identify as ftm, or as a woman no matter how they're seen. I need trans fem butches who are fucking ACCEPTED for however they show up in their bodies and clothes.

We need butches not sterilised and redeemed by cis/het normative bounds of expression.

#butch #masculine #trans masc #trans fem #trans femme #butch lesbian #trans butch #trans lesbian #nonbinary #gendernonconforming #cisnormativity #heteronormativity #clearing out the drafts #mine

[facts-i-just-made-up]

What is the difference between a witch and a wizard

Both could generally refer to any gender of mage, but certain authors of recent infamy decided that one is female and one is male. Hence this scene from a movie that I can't believe is over 20 years old:

#cw harry potter #cw jk rowling #cisnormative bullshit #ursula k le guin #a wizard of earthsea #check it out #unreality

[textk4kira]

I've noticed a trend behind the use of the label "transsexual" vs. "transgender".

Oftentimes transmedicalists use transsexual to differentiate themselves from the rest of the trans community.

It's disheartening and quick frankly, appaling.

You will not achieve acceptance in a cisheteronormative society by distancing yourselves from the "bad" or "confusing" trans folks.

Transsexual is a wonderful label, and we cannot allow transmedicalists to take ownership of it.

#this isn't really a discourse-centric blog but it feels necessary to say. #lgbtq discourse #trans #transgender #transsexual #heteronormativity #cisnormativity #lgbtq #queer #nonbinary #lgbtqia #transmeds begone #anti transmedicalism #anti transmed

[super-ace]

Once you start going against everything society ever said you should feel, it really is game over. Sexuality? A social construct. Virginity? A social construct. Romantic relationships? A social construct. Gender? A social contrast. 9 to 5 working day? A social construct. How a body should look? A social construct.

#asexual #aromantic #ace #aro #aroace #queer #lgbtqia #asexuality #asexual spectrum #allonormativity #heteronormativity #amatonormativity #cisnormativity

[love-me-love-my-weirdness]

I was repulsed by the idea of marriage until I realised I wanted to marry a woman.

I felt suffocated by the idea of only having the option of romantic and sexual committed relationships until I learned about qprs.

I felt wrong when I got excited about my partner having a crush or when I thought about being so tightly bound to one person until I found out about polyamory.

I felt empty searching for what made me feel like my agab until I discovered I was agender.

These standards and pressures exist even when we don’t know what they are. Pushing a hetero/allo/monogamous/cis agenda onto kids hurts them even if they aren’t in an actively intolerant area. Ignorance does the most damage. Nobody deserves to feel broken.

#lesbian #sapphic #aroace #arospec #qpr #polyamory #polyamourous #agender #heteronormativity #amatonormativity #mononormativity #(idk if that’s the right term) #cisnormativity

[uncanny-tranny]

I think when people talk about things like desirability, they can miss the deeper point of why it can be important to analyze why people are seen as undesirable. It isn't just that a type of person is just... not hot... but often, it's the dehumanization of a person based on marginalized features.

For instance, I had a conversation with somebody about disability portrayal in media, and we had agreed that, historically, disability had been portrayed as a horrific ordeal. However, I think they missed the point as to why the "undesirable disabled" character was so appealing to a broader audience. The idea that disability is other, inhuman, and something that depersonalizes somebody from society is partly why those ideas were and are prevalent in mainstream media and culture. It is the idea that "nobody likes you. Nobody needs you. Nobody wants you" because of the person's marginalized body or experience or whatever it may be.

It isn't some superficial "oh why aren't I seen as pretty by everybody?" It is the knowledge that you are portrayed as undesirable in this way because it is a way to separate you from everybody else. It isn't about beauty, nor is it a selfish desire to be wanted by somebody. It is the desire to be seen as a person - an equal, regardless of who desires you or who does not.

#beauty culture #desirability politics #ableism #ableism tw #i brought up media but it doesn't solely apply to that and the same with disability #i just thought the conversation perfectly encapsulated my frustration with how people interact with desirability #because some people go at it with the assumption that it is shallow and vapid and vain to want to have people change their perspective... #...about how they view a marginalized status #like when trans people have criticism of desirability favouring cisnormativity fot instance - people assume it is vapid and vain... #..but it is us asking to be seen as PEOPLE even *if* we aren't fucking ~desirable~ by everybody. your desires shouldn't impact us like that #our lives shouldn't hinge on us fighting to be seen as human beings - we shouldn't need to fight tooth and fucking nail for it #i've been thinking about that conversation for a while now and it's kind of nice to somewhat flesh out my problems with it all #i have no ill-will to the person i was talking to and about. we just went at the premise in different ways and i have different ideas #i don't think the person is Bad and Horrible. i think that they AND i are impacted by this and we have different experiences

[jaydenchip404]

You seem young, and I wish someone had told me this when I was younger. There's no wrong way to be a woman or girl. Even if you seem so different from the other girls and women. You're allowed to reclaim it and make it you. Women have long hair, wear dresses, love femininity? I'm a woman and I don't! It's the most liberating feeling to take all the expectations and stereotypes of what I'm supposed to be and say and refuse to comply to the gender of woman while still standing firm that I am one. We're all unique and I feel like we're not given that room to explore expression without having people think you must actually not be a woman. I still am!

Oh, what a fortunate stroke of luck for you! Clearly, I've never been a woman or a girl. But hey, if you're so inclined to have me transform into one, that'll be a whopping $9.99. You can pay upfront at the counter, ma'am. Wouldn't want to miss out on such a bargain!

#Anti-LGBTQIA+ #Anti-MOGAI #Cisnormative #Enbyphobic #Exclusionist #Queerphobic #Transphobic #MOGAI #Queer #LGBTQIA+ #LGBTQIA #LGBTQ #LGBTQ+ #LGBT #LGBT+ #LGBTQQIA #2SLGBTQ+ #LGBT2SQQIA #Transgender #Trans #Trans Man #Transgender Man #Transmasc #Transmasculine

[naughtybg3confessions]

The first dirty poll has concluded, and Halsin won best tasting cum by a landslide! Onto our next dirty poll...

#dirty polls #sorry these polls are kinda cisnormative #since I'm limited in how many characters I can list I just go by canon (or presumed canon) #But you can write in literally whoever you want!

[fagziraphale]

ineffable husbands is a bad ship name but it is funny to see people be upset by it bc "theyre not husbands theyre nonbinary" as if they don't use male-gendered terms for themselves all the time. why do you want to control what words nonbinary people are allowed to use so badly

#is it perhaps that your view of aziraphale and crowley as nonbinary is in fact based on a shitty cisnormative view of gender #much like neilman himself...

[spacelazarwolf]

“trans men have male privilege!!!!!!!!!!”

let’s take a look.

here’s some examples of male privilege from an article i found:

“you’re not said to be going against your gender’s “natural instinct” or your role in society by not having children.”

trans men are barred from gender affirming care, often on the basis that people think we should be having babies. also there are many groups of people who can get pregnant who deal with the opposite, who are encouraged not to have children or even forcibly sterilized.

“the media, popular sex advice, and normative definitions of sex focus primarily on your pleasure, especially if you’re cisgender.”

i have literally never once seen trans men mentioned in the media in regards to sex advice or positivity, and the fact the author tagged on that “especially if you’re cisgender” shows me they have never in their life spoken to a trans man.

“school sex ed, religious values, and other pervasive sources of sexual norms don’t treat your gender as more dirty, impure, and undesirable for losing your virginity.”

except they do, because most of us grew up assumed to be or forced to be girls, so we heard and internalized all this along with the cis girls, with the added element of “being trans is morally wrong and dirty and disgusting.”

“most pornography is made with your gender in mind (and it creates some pretty damaging ideas about women and other genders).”

there is very, very, very little pornography made with trans men in mind, and the stuff that is is made for chasers.

“you can be open about enjoying sex without people feeling automatically entitled to have sex with you.”

we actually can’t, because of our “lifestyle of degeneracy” and even the most woke cis people wring their hands when it comes to the question of sex with trans men. not to mention the constant harassment we receive from cis people who insist that they’re not transphobic while making it very clear that they think trans men’s bodies are disgusting and they would never in a million years sleep with us.

“you can make changes to your appearance like a haircut or dye without assumptions that you’re doing it for men.”

every change a trans man makes is put under a microscope. we are assumed to be doing it to “pass”, aka..... doing it for men, and other cis people.

“products like viagra exist with the aim of helping cisgender men maintain their sex lives as they get older, and social norms congratulate you for doing so. there is far less support for women to continue being sexual beings as they age.”

i guess you just forgot trans men exist with this one.

“you can be expressive about your sexuality in conversation, art, music, and more, without people accusing you of ‘using your body to get by’.”

nope. our art is suppressed, and when it’s not, it is under an intense amount of scrutiny, with people often saying that the only reason it’s successful is because we’re trans, not because it’s good art. and god forbid the art is about being trans.

“you can participate in kink, BDSM, and other alternative sexual practices without being judged as a “slut” or facing assumptions that you’re not in control of your own sexual choices.”

did we forget about the fact that people call trans people sexual deviants? or that there are people on this website who stalk and sexually harass trans men for their private sex lives?

“you’re less likely to be the target of street harassment. the majority of women have experienced street harassment in their lives, and most of the men who do are queer or gender non-conforming.”

so we’re just admitting that we consider white cishet men to be the owners of manhood? 

“you can turn down a date without worrying about being verbally attacked, physically assaulted, or even killed.”

nope, most of us face the exact same bullshit, but with an added element of transphobia.

“you’re less likely to experience intimate partner violence.”

false again. we experience incredibly high rates of intimate partner violence, again with an added element of transphobia and exacerbated by the fact we are economically disenfranchised, leading to higher likelihoods of financial abuse.

“you’re less likely to be raped, especially if you never go to prison.”

trans men actually have higher rates of rape than any other demographic.

“you’re less likely to be homeless as a result of intimate partner violence. Half of all homeless women and children in the US are fleeing intimate partner violence.”

trans men are more likely to be homeless than cis women, and are more likely to be turned away from domestic violence shelters because of their appearance and gender.

“you can enjoy partying without people blaming your “lifestyle” if you’re sexually assaulted.”

do i really have to explain why saying trans men won’t be blamed for our “lifestyle” is incorrect?

“doctors are more likely to take you seriously when you tell them your symptoms.”

trans men face higher rates of medical neglect and healthcare avoidance because of that medical neglect than cis women because we face both medical misogyny and medical transphobia.

“while medical research often ignores women and other genders, you get the benefits like research focusing on the heart attack symptoms you’re more likely to experience.”

again, just forgetting trans men exist.

“you’re less likely to have your physical illness symptoms attributed to psychological factors. For instance, when men and women with identical symptoms mention stress, doctors are more likely to overlook a woman’s symptoms of heart disease.”

incorrect, we often face the same medical neglect as cis women, with, again, an added element of transphobia. for example, doctors will often completely disregard our actual issues and just blame it on the testosterone if we are on hrt to the point we literally have a specific name for it: trans broken arm syndrome. 

“you can show your nipples in public, and are less likely to be harassed overall for showing some skin – even when women in public are using breasts for breastfeeding, they can be subject to harassment.”

do i really have to explain why trans men, whether they’ve had top surgery or not, can’t safely be shirtless in public?

“you can easily enjoy sports with athletes of your gender, as men’s sports get more airtime and promotion than women’s sports.”

there are very, very few athletes who are trans men, and it’s difficult for trans men to join men’s sports in the first place because cis men will often become violent if the trans man is better at the sport than they are.

“you can use the internet without being harassed.”

HAH.

“your gender is more represented in film, with women making up 12% of protagonists, 29% of major characters, and 30% of speaking characters in the top 100 grossing films.”

i can count on hand the number of trans men i’ve seen on the big screen.

“you don’t have politicians primarily of another gender making laws to control your gender’s bodies.”

again, HAH.

“there are more lawmakers of your gender determining the rules we all have to live by. for instance, women make up not even 20% of congress.”

according to a study done by an associate at harvard, during the year the study was done, there were 36 transgender people running for government positions. only 6 of them were trans men.

“you can have strong political opinions without people calling you a “feminazi” or judging you for being “opinionated.”

trans men get crucified on social media and in real life day in and day out for simply saying we have a right to exist.

“as a parent, you get more professional opportunities – avoiding the “motherhood penalty” that hurts women’s careers if they have children.”

don’t even know where to start with the cisnormativity. anyway trans men can be birth parents and face a shit ton of discrimination for it.

“you have a lower risk of living in poverty. 1 in 7 women and 4 in 10 single-mother families are poor, with the poverty rate for native american, black, and latina women at almost double the rate for white women.”

trans men have a higher risk of poverty than cis women, especially if they are not white or are disabled.

“you can put little time into your appearance without a negative impact on your work life, like having people believe you’re unprofessional or not put together.”

trans men have to agonize over tiny details about our appearance in order to gain a tiny amount of respect from cis people. this includes in the workplace.

“you can spend less on products to maintain your “professional” appearance. women are expected to spend more on clothing, accessories, and beauty products, even when they’re earning less.”

trans men have to spend thousands of dollars on surgeries and hrt, new clothing, makeup, other things to help us pass. if we don’t do that, or don’t want to do that, then we are subject to an immense amount of scrutiny.

“if you’re never promoted, it’s not because of your gender.”

lmao.

“you’re not expected to put in unpaid emotional labor, like maintaining office harmony, in addition to your work duties. people don’t believe that your gender is just more suited to this often unrecognized and uncompensated work.”

trans people are often expected to put in an incredible amount of emotional labor in the workplace, especially if they are out, and even then our workplaces aren’t always safe. it’s why we have higher rates of unemployment than cis people.

“you aren’t raised to believe your gender is inherently more delicate or weak with phrases like “you throw like a girl.”

more cisnormativity.

“as you’re growing up, you have more positive role models of your gender to choose from in media, history books, fiction, and more.”

cisnormativity 2.0. i didn’t even know trans men existed until i was well into adulthood.

“If you’re religious, you can find a place of worship that doesn’t treat your gender as inferior. for instance, feminist christian churches exist, but in many areas, the only options for worship are churches that follow patriarchal traditions.”

not only is this christonormative, but also ignores the fact that most if not all religious spaces are either not welcoming or actively hostile to trans people, including trans men.

also, most of these examples don’t take into account intersectionality but that’s not surprising.

in conclusion:

begging y’all to use a single fucking brain cell.

#trans #transgender #trans man #trans men #transmasc #trans masc #trans masculine #transphobia #cisnormativity #transandrophobia

[transenbyconfessions]

i wish there were more trans kids at my school. i wish i knew more trans people. i wish there were more safe spaces i could go to and meet more trans and queer people there. sometimes it’s so tiring to always be flooded with cis people and cis things and straight people and straight things and those people are always so just unaware

Submitted March 25, 2023

#transgender #trans #enby #nb #nonbinary #non-binary #non binary #representation #cisnormativity #cissexism

[dysphoric-culture-is]

Quick positivity post for trans people who didn’t get more conventionally attractive after they transitioned!

Trans people who look ‘worse’ or ‘the same’ are wonderful and look great actually.

Conventional beauty standards are exclusionary and flawed, and shouldn’t be the goal anyway- the point of transitioning isn’t to ‘glow up’ by becoming attractive, it’s to become more comfortable with yourself.

Trans people shouldn’t be expected to suddenly become conventionally attractive as part of their transition anyway (look as weird and non-cis as you want! it’s your body!), and photos of ’ugly’ pre-transition people who look ‘better’ after transitioning should not be used to justify to cis people why people should be allowed to transition.

Look the way you want (or the way you pass), not the way beauty standards want you to look! The endless quest to become conventionally attractive is a trap and you don’t have to fall for it when you transition.

#this post especially goes out to: #transmascs with ‘rat hair’ #transfems with big noses and big shoulders and muscles #transmascs who can’t grow beards or aren’t muscular #people who don’t medically transition #people who don’t tuck/bind/pack/wear breastsforms #gender nonconforming people #nonbinary people who are not androgynous #trans people with funky died hair and fashion #intersex trans people who will never meet cisnormative beauty standards #trans poc who don’t fit into eurocentric and cisnormative beauty standards #etc etc #you are all amazing and mod loves you all sm #not dysphoric culture #trans acceptance #trans beauty #trans inclusion #trans positivity #transmasc #transfem #nonbinary #trans #lgbtq #queer

[thecommunityoftrustworthysinks]

actually i can condense and generalize my last post to cover a lot more bases: stop analyzing the lives of trans people through cisnormativity and cisnormative ideas of gender.

#x #transgender #trans politics #cisnormativity #transmisogyny #transandrophobia #trans issues