#clinginess

[liesandnights]

I cling to everything - CDs that skip, rings that turn my fingers green, the dead ends of my hair, old love notes that turn my stomach over and over. I'm not proud but there are still boxes under my bed. I'm not proud but my closet is still running out of space. And nostalgia is a fucking waste of time but my heart is full with it. Tell me I won't hold this forever. Tell me there will be a day where I let gloriously go.

#clinginess #nostalgia #clingy af #letting go #chaotic academia #literature #art #dark academia #love #academia aesthetic #literature academia #poetry #tumblr writers #spilled ink #forever #is a lie #romantic academia #holding on #clingy #writersclub #txt #love notes #bookblr #love quotes #romanticism #books #classic literature #escapism #vintage aesthetic #life

[firsttarotreader]

I don’t know if this was asked before, but is he a clingy boyfriend? If he is dating someone, will he want to take his gf/bf everywhere and be with them all the time? 🥺

Hiya! I am positive I have done a reading about him being clingy or something, but this time I asked if he would possibly be someone that would want to be with the person everywhere if he was in a relationship. The first pull was the 2 of Cups, 10 of Cups and 8 of Wands.

2 of Cups is in this context represents love and passion and harmony and getting along well with someone. 10 of Cups is that “domestic bliss” and “happy ending”, and it means he would potentially want to enjoy everything with the person. All the parties and celebrations and gatherings and everything. Family included. 8 of Wands points to him being all over that person, again, passionate and intense, sometimes even going too fast and too strong.

The second pull was the Page of Cups, 9 of Swords and 5 of Wands. Well, Page of Cups is the love sick puppy. He’s sensitive, emotional and a dreamer, even kind of naive. This state of boy in love he gets in would possibly bring him lots of anxiety and worries with the 9 of Swords. He would be anxious, nervous, uneasy and unsure. It would be the kind of thing that makes him stay up at night. You know this man hates feeling vulnerable and this Page of Cups energy is a sweet boy who fell in love. That probably scares the shit out of him. 5 of Wands is curious because it looks like he would feel like in a competition for the person’s attention. Like he had “rivals” and he would need to be constantly earning their love.

This man is passionate but he is also conflicted and insecure. I would say from these cards he might tend to be “clingy” and he would want to take the person everywhere like he needs to compete for their love.

#relationship #clingy #clinginess #Readings

[destinygoldenstar]

I wanted to talk about Duncan’s clinginess and why it is so important to his character.

(Well, there’s a lot to Duncan’s character, hence why I think he’s the most complicated character in the entire show, but you know what I mean.)

We all know already that Duncan is a horn dog when it comes to his love interests. This can easily be said with both Gwen and Courtney. While the relationships are different, Duncan’s treatment of them is relatively the same: He’s the one expecting the affection and he amplifies their bad traits to mold them into his bad persona.

It’s important that he wants people to see his persona and not Duncan himself, as he bails on the notion of deserving love whenever he’s doing something good.

The most good we ultimately see him do for these girls is let them touch him or when he does the carvings when he thinks of them, like the skull for Courtney in Island and carving Gwen’s face on the plane seat in World Tour. Even after everything between them in All Stars Duncan still offers himself to be allies with both of them to get their attention, something that he is denied and amplifies his desire to be bad once more and leads to the burning building.

But there’s more to the puzzle than just being horny for girls. This can apply to his other platonic relationships as well, or even past romantic interests.

Lines that come to mind are in the Island special when he says:

“I’ve had tougher girlfriends than him. And uglier.”

Did Duncan have past failed relationships even before Courtney? It’s likely they all failed in the same way, he cares more about his persona and just wants to receive love not knowing how to give it. It would definitely explain his attitude towards the women in his life.

Or another factor could be with his parents, as the father says:

“Come to think of it, do we love you?”

Which definitely would have a dent on a kid and we don’t know if he says stuff like this often or not.

The mom, the female, comes to Duncan’s defense and openly expresses that she loves her kid.

It’s far more likely for kids to cling to familiar love than try their luck in changing hate.

It could also be said to who they need to be to get that love.

So while Duncan doesn’t trust the people around him, he clings to people willing to show him love, even if it is manipulation. This explains Heather’s factor in his Island elimination. Talkspace discusses clinginess on the following quote:

“Often, it can be due to feelings of insecurity, self-doubt or anxiety about the future,” she said. “A lack of confidence in relationships can also contribute to clinginess. For some people, the idea of being alone can be uncomfortable and so they may cling to other individuals in an effort to avoid feelings of loneliness.”

I will link it here:

Talkspace

So how does this apply to Duncan? Well his persona insecurity is one of his biggest downfalls, and whenever the person he’s with doesn’t appeal to his insecurity, then he moves onto another person even if he can still get affection out of the old one. It could also explain why he’s escaping Juvie in the audition tape. We don’t really get canon discussions of Duncan’s experience in Juvie, specifically his feelings towards it, but maybe that’s intentional and he doesn’t WANT to talk about it. Especially with crippling loneliness that comes from a harsh environment. This could be a factor as well.

So when he turns to someone willing to hang out with him as a friend or a lover, he clings to them to avoid feeling alone. Avoid feeling unheard. It’s why he clings to Heather despite knowing she can’t be trusted.

It’s why he clings to Alejandro as a friend despite knowing he’s the bad guy.

It’s why he clings to Courtney until she tries to ignore his persona.

It’s why he turns to Gwen when Courtney tires him.

It’s about the persona. It’s why he chooses to cling to Geoff and DJ but not work with Beth. Geoff and DJ respect him and don’t preach goodness to him. Beth does. The same can be applied to Zoey and her constantly bugging him about being soft. Zoey and Beth are preaching Duncan to be something else, intentionally or not, which is why he doesn’t engage with them unless he feels he has to. He will cling to people, but they need to be what he’s looking for. Otherwise he’s at a loss of receiving affection when he can’t give it without breaking his persona.

It’s why after all these relationships are broken and he’s treated against his persona, he snaps and burns the cottage.

Duncan is emotionally hungry. He nurtures this hunger in the worst of ways.

In that sense, yeah, prison, a place packed with being alone in a cell, really is the Ultimate bad ending for him.

#Td Duncan #Total Drama #clinginess #clingy #relationships #just what was on my mind #td courtney #td gwen #Td alejandro #td zoey #td geoff #td dj #td beth #td heather #emotional hunger #mental hunger

[pastnotfuture]

Clinging to the hope of a feeling that only exists when our bodies meet

Born to Love, Cursed to Feel. Samantha King

#Samantha King #born to love cursed to feel #poems #poetry #books #quotes #excerpts #feelings #literature #hope #body #love #sad #clinginess #life #tragic #loss

[positively--speculative]

The way "clinginess" is often portrayed feels kind of off-putting for me, especially as someone who has been that person clung to.

Like, this clingy person I knew desperately wanted all my attention at almost all times and had very little regard for my boundaries. And they tried to push me to alienate myself from my family and friends. Abuse doesn't always come in the form of physical, sexual, verbal insults, etc. Sometimes it comes in the form of a combination of love-bombing, guilt-tripping, and gaslighting. Looking back, I realize that their behavior was due to trauma, but in her case, instead of seeking help for her trauma, she appointed me as the person to "fix" her regardless of my feelings on the matter.

Having trauma is nothing to be ashamed of, but it's unfair to assign other people who are not professionals to carry that burden, and it's certainly not fair to be angry at them for having boundaries.

#clinginess #trauma #boundaries #abuse #toxic relationships

[lunaprincipessa]

ENTRY SIXTY-SIX

I found this pic and I loved it so much at first because I feel the same way. I've always been either thrown away or rejected in general and it feels so damn good when someone actually puts effort in!

But that word, "clingy..."

I am more than aware that the author meant no harm but I wanna get into that word a little bit because it makes my skin crawl to be brutally honest. Best to know what signs to look for if you ever encounter it because it's affection and attention you want, not clinginess. Let's find out why.

While the author is not advocating for anything unhealthy, clingy behavior within itself certainly does.

Clinginess is defined as the act of resisting separation by tightly grasping onto something. This is not known to be a benefit in relationships. There is a huge difference between you both putting the work in to stay together versus one person putting 100% of the effort in, in order to prove themselves.

In our relationships, this causes issues because as we get into it, we will see how being clingy is actually being controlling with an anxious attachment style.

Sad part is, clingy people are amongst those that can't see themselves. They are not aware of how they're coming off when they engage in such behavior(s).

Lets get into the detail. There are four attachment styles.

1.) Secure (an ability to build healthy, long-lasting relationships).

2.) Avoidant (failure to build long-term relationships due to an inability to engage in physical and emotional intimacy).

3.) Disorganized (having extremely inconsistent behavior and difficulty trusting others).

4.) Anxious (insecure attachment characterized by fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, depending on the significant other for validation and emotional regulation; codependent tendencies too).

So, which came first, the chicken or the egg? The clinginess or the anxious attachment? 🤔

Attachment styles will often reveal the premise of our upbringing. They are formed when we're babies, based on the emotional attachments we had with our primary caregivers. And yes, they absolutely impact our interpersonal relationships in adulthood, it's what we're exploring in this blog!

For example, people with healthy upbringings will have a secure attachment style, honoring independence for the sake of functioning effectively as a person in society. People with unhealthy upbringings may have an anxious attachment style, wrongly interpreting independence as a lack of connection with someone.

See where the problem is? And keeping in mind, this is in reference to people who don't work on themselves.

A couple's therapist stated, "Clingy behavior comes from a person's desire to fulfill their unmet needs, whether it be emotional, spiritual, physical, or mental. The person is experiencing fear and anxiety that is attached to a belief that they won't get their needs met, so they cling hard to a person to prevent this from happening."

So, if you're anything like me, you're wondering where the line gets drawn or if there is a line at all.

I mean, don't we all want our needs to be met, isn't that normal and common? Yup! Does this alone make us clingy and controlling? Nope!

There is a line that gets drawn. In my view, that line is drawn at emotional immaturity.

Emotional immaturity is a person's inability to regulate their emotions in an age-appropriate way. There is a severe lack of self-awareness in emotionally immature individuals and they can overreact quite frequently. I think this very element enables clingy mindsets and behaviors.

None of us are perfect. However, the goal here is to bring light to the fact that we can't put unrealistic expectations and standards on our significant others because that just paves the way to disappointment, resentment, maybe even burnout or breaking up depending on how severe it is. We need to regulate our own emotions. That's no one else's job. Asking for help is one thing, using a human being as a crutch is another.

I have a list of behaviors here that are categorized as "clingy:"

*needing constant reassurance and/or affirmation, the amount of which is discernable as excessive

*has no hobbies, nothing else to focus on, although they seemingly have made a hobby out of throwing pity parties every time someone suggests taking charge of their life/feelings in some way

*intense and disruptive jealousy, this type causes frequent fights and embarassment

*reaching out excessively, expecting constant communication and interaction although it's an indirect communication of needs, often resulting in mixed signals and manipulation

*expecting immediate responses, conflict and possibly accusation(s) if not

*refuses or makes excuses out of giving you personal space/personal time

*needing to spend every moment with you, often accompanied by following you around

*possessiveness to the point of discomfort and potential isolation from others - they have a tendency to feel insecure around the people in your life and will attempt to pull you away

*stalks you on social media, monitoring all activity and every conversation; above average amount of notifications, often causing them to be the only person you see when you log-in to check them

*hypervigilance and surveillance in multiple areas of life

*you notice yourself remaining completely aware of your significant other's mood, but it's draining and often at the cost of your own contentment - especially since they often withdraw to induce guilt

Some things that make a person controlling include gaslighting, playing the blame-game, constantly criticizing/judging, insecurity they don't work on but make decisions from, causing you isolation, guilt-tripping, enabling one's own emotional instability, passive-aggression from dissatisfaction, often using the silent treatment as a response, consistent moodiness, and micromanaging.

Clingy people engage in these types of things but it's often overlooked as controlling because it's not outwardly aggressive, like loud verbal threats and physical abuse.

Passive or aggressive, it is still the act of manipulating someone to conform to only their wants and needs in an attempt to control everything around them. Don't use the word "clingy" loosely. Know the differences; seek and demand something healthy and wholesome.

Before I conclude, let's let these two duke it out for a sec. Aaannnddd FIGHT!

Affection vs. Clinginess

Affection: Gives

Clinginess: Takes

Affection: 1, Clinginess: 0

Affection: Expresses desire and love in a healthy and respectful way that leaves you feeling excited and comforted.

Clinginess: Excessive and draining pleas for attention and validation that robs you of the ability to maintain other areas and relationships (family&friends) in life.

Affection: 2, Clinginess: 0

We have a clear winner here! 🏆

Side note: May all of us that have never been loved right find happiness someday.

More thoughts later.

#clingy #clinginess

[catmask]

bf admitted he likes being bossed around which is insanely funny considering 1) my mom always told me id never find a partner bc i can be bossy (just comes built in being the oldest sibling also Literally got it from her. also im a virgo not my fault) 2) i was asking him because i was worried i was doing it unconsciously (i try my best not to be) but then he was like no keep doing it i like it

#txt #match made in heaven but also im so glad someone loves me for whatni consider some of my most undesirable traits #like. yes i can be bossy and a bit pathetic and i scream when i see insects and i also get clingy extremely easily. but he likes that about #me so i cant be all that bad i guess #scratchpost

[bitter-intestines]

#clingy yandere #clingyshipping #bpd #bpd vent #bpd things #bpd life #obsessive yandere #clingy af #im clingy #yandere thoughts

[xan-the-emo-trans-man]

Original

#caring quotes #relationship #yearning #clinginess #why don’t we romantize this #why do people feel bad for being clingy? #why is it shameful to love someone? #don’t get it man #love quotes

[its-elioo]

Okay, since my last post UNEXPECTEDLY blew up, I'm gifting you all with more random doodles of this AU.

I really have to think of a name for this squad, hm hm.

#look at these sweet toys being the best supportive and encouraging friends ever #also dogday being a clingy pup <33 #I'm 100% sure this doggo is very strong but doesn't realize it #like- he will grab you and YOINK you right on his shoulder with ease #very slowly I'm getting the hang of drawing him #my artstyle is always changing FFS- #dogday #poppy playtime oc #poppy playtime chapter 3 #poppy playtime #poppy #poppy playtime dogday #poppy playtime fanart #fanart #sketches #art #digitalart #doodles #kissy missy #dogday poppy playtime #poppy doll #poppy playtime poppy #poppy playtime kissy missy #original character #poppy playtime au #poppy playtime 3 #au #alternate universe

[sketchbot9000]

AU where Kabru gets horribly cursed and Laios is suddenly his absolute best friend

#best buds #dungeon meshi #delicious in dungeon #kabru #laois #perhaps a bit clingy

[qtboni]

╰﹒ 𝐒𝐖𝐄𝐄𝐓 𝐃𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐌𝐒, 𝐌𝐘 𝐋𝐎𝐕𝐄 !

PAIRING: Simon 'Ghost' Riley X Reader

OVERVIEW: Simon woke up to you sleeping far away from him in the bed so he pulls you back to him <//3

C/W: none just clingy simon missing u in his sleep (pure fluff) !!

W/C: 944 bubs

Simon shifted in his bed, feeling the empty coolness beside him. He reached out, wanting to feel your warmth, but his hand met nothing but empty sheets and bed covers.

"Love..?" He whispers faintly, his voice filled with a quiet desperation to find you.

Rubbing the sleep from his eyes, Simon slowly opens them to find you there, on the other side of the bed, lying with your back turned to him.

He lets out a quiet chuckle at the position you're in, your legs flung out in a starfish, snoring the night away. It's a silly sight, but it cracks him up, and he can't help but chuckle softly.

"Baby..." Simon sleepily whines to himself, calling out to you. "C'mere.."

Simon gently moves closer to you, pulling on the sheets to free himself. You feel his arm encircle your waist as he pulls you towards his warm body, spooning you in his arms.

Your skin meets his, and the warmth from his body causes your heart to skip a beat. You feel the gentle rise and fall of his chest as he breathes, feeling peaceful and safe in his embrace.

As he holds you close, Simon's thoughts drift to you. He thinks about how soft he is for you, how you make him feel alive and whole, how he doesn't want to let go, ever.

You're his everything, his world, and he can't imagine life without you. He feels his heart swell with love for you, and the need to be close to you and hold you tight, to never let you go.

With you in his arms, Simon feels complete. He would do anything to keep you close, to love and cherish you every day for the rest of his life.

You're the love of his life, and he will never forget the moment he first held you close, feeling your heart beat against his own, and knowing that he had found his soulmate.

As he holds you close, Simon's body moves instinctively, nuzzling his face in your neck, wanting to feel your warmth, to be closer to you. He wraps his arms around you tighter, unable to bear the thought of ever being apart from you again.

The warmth coming from his body slowly roused you from your slumber, your eyes fluttering open as Simon's arms tightened around your waist. You could feel his heart pounding against your back, beating in time with yours, and your heart skipped a beat in response.

"Simon?" You called out to him, voice still slightly hoarse from sleep, and you could hear the smile in his voice as he responded.

"I'm here, love," he whispered, his voice low and full of love, and you could feel his body pressing up to yours, wrapping around you like a warm blanket. His hands softly carressing your waist and hips. You felt his breath upon your neck, his heart beating in yours, and you felt a deep sense of peace wash over you.

"I love you," he whispered, almost inaudible.

As his arms wrapped around you, you felt a rush of warmth and comfort wash over you. His voice was low and gentle, and you could feel the love and intensity in every word.

You loved him more with each passing moment; each time he held you, each time he told you how much he loved you, and each time you felt his heart beating against yours.

"I love you, too, Simon," you whispered back, further relaxing into his embrace as you pecked his bicep that was hugging you close by your shoulders.

You could feel the love and intensity in every part of his body, from the warmth of his breath against your neck to the way his heart beat in time with yours. You knew that you would always be by his side, loving him and cherishing him for all eternity.

As you drifted back to sleep, his arms wrapped around you tightly, unwilling to let you go and wishing to always be this close. You could feel the love in every part of his body, and you knew that this was the love that could never be broken.

Simon pressed a gentle kiss to the nape of your neck, his breath warm and soothing against your skin, and you felt a pang of love and comfort wash over you.

His arms wrapped around you tightly, unwilling to let you go even for a moment, and he held you against him, feeling your heartbeat against his chest.

"Goodnight, love," he whispered, his voice low and filled with all the love he felt for you as he cuddled you close.

"G'night..." you sighed dreamily and closed your eyes.

As you drifted off to sleep, with your head resting against his chest, Simon couldn't help the rush of affection for you. He knew that you were the love of his life, that he would do anything for you, and that he couldn't imagine a future without you by his side.

Holding you close to him, he felt your heart beating slowly and regularly against his chest, and he felt a deep sense of peace wash over him. Every fiber of his being told him that he loved you, that you were everything he had ever wanted in life, and that he would always be there to protect you, to love you, and to cherish you.

He whispers your name softly, almost inaudible, as he drifted off to sleep, holding you tightly in his embrace. The love and intensity in his voice, in his touch, and in his eyes, was overwhelming, and he knew that you felt it too.

navi / masterlist !

#dont touch me im soft rn #clingy simon is so cute #it honestly wana make me squish his lil cutie patootie cheeks so much #UGH LIKE PLS IM BEGGING #👾 — [bonnie’s wk] #cod fanfic #simon riley x you #simon riley x reader #simon ghost x reader #simon ghost riley x reader #simon ghost riley x you #simon riley imagine #simon riley smut #cod x reader #cod x you #ghost cod #ghost x reader #simon riley ghost x reader #simon x reader #ghost x you #cod modern warfare #cod x y/n #cod mw2 #ghost fluff #simon riley fluff #simon ghost riley x y/n #tf 141 x reader #tf 141 #call of duty

[firsttarotreader]

Hi Mami!

Wanna ask the cards, it's been a while for me to send it here

We know he doesn't do relationship, but seeing his history of being scared with the loss, if he does (or did) relationship, how clingy could he be? Or maybe he's still guarded of himself even if the partner is so loving and loyal towards him?

Hello! Well, I have done a similar reading about whether he is clingy or not, but let’s do another one to see what the cards are giving us now. I did my usual pulls and the first one was the 8 of Hedgehogs, King of Spears and 3 of Flowers.

8 of Hedgehogs means he will possibly be very “dedicated” to the person, in the sense that he will be present every day, he will be investing in the relationship and in understanding the partner and what they like and need on a daily basis. King of Spears shows our man being kind of rational actually, not so emotional, but rather someone who is calm, in control, someone who will be great to talk to, maybe not very romantic, but very ethical and respectful. 3 of Flowers points to him always having lots of plans for them, always full of ideas and eager to make them happen.

The next pull was Temptation, Ace of Spears and The Mystery. So, Temptation (The Devil) is interesting because it means he will probably be super horny, all over the person, kind of obsessed, handsy and physical. Ace of Spears is again about someone who will be great to talk to, he will have this clarity of mind and will love to have long conversations with the partner. The Mystery (The High Priestess) points to him ending up being actually more subtle in the way he expresses his emotions. He will be very physical and intellectual but he could avoid too much “romance talk” and expressing too much his feelings.

The last pull was the 3 of Hedgehogs, Strength and 2 of Hedgehogs. 3 of Hedgehogs means he might like to work on projects with the person (not necessarily professional projects like movies or shows), to explore their partnership doing a lot of stuff together. Strength shows him, again, trying to control his feelings, master his raw emotions, and 2 of Hedgehogs points to him doing a juggling act, trying to keep balance between his feelings and his actions and handling these two sides at the same time in the most harmonious possible way.

So in the end, he doesn’t seem like he would be too clingy. You can notice a lot of Hedgehogs and Spears cards, representing earth and air, being more physical and grounded and also intellectual, but no Teacups, the suit representing water and emotions. The Major Arcana, despite Temptation being hornier and more on the obsessed side, we have The Mystery and Strength holding it back at the same time. He would be dedicated, physical and loving conversations, but not that much clingy, at least not in an exaggerated way.

#clinginess #clingy #relationship #Readings

[latimeria-fell-from-heaven]

Okay look, I know people are gonna characterize Aventurine as the kind of yandere that manipulates everything behind the scenes and is always coming up with ways to try and make his darling unable to rely on anyone but him. But honestly? I can see him as the desperate needy type who needs to have your attention on him, he NEEDS to be the only man you'll ever want and look at, and GOD, he just desperately needs you to own him in his entirety.

He'll do anything to keep your attention on him and make sure that you at least will keep him around long enough for him to enact his plans of keeping you by his side. You want a dog who does whatever you say and will crawl on hands and knees for your amusement? You want a pretty little toy that you can break over and over? You want him to take the lead and make you unable to think or walk anymore? He'll do it, he'll do whatever you want, he'll do anything to keep your attention on him until he can make you his.

#lati thirsts #tw yandere #honkai star rail x reader #yandere honkai star rail #yandere aventurine #aventurine x reader #GOD i just need to write about a needy and clingy yandere that is willing to be your toy just to keep your attention on them #like yeah aventurine could be manipulative and greedy but have you considered him to be INSANELY clingy and needy? #edit: omfg stop liking this I wrote this in the middle of my botany lab pls

[cosmickmagick]

My BPD got to me today. My ex is (shamelessly) my favorite person. He's been busy with a family guest... 😭 Neeeeeeed my regular schedule with him baaaaaaaack.

#actually bpd #actuallybpd #bpd #needy #neediness #clinginess #clingy #bpd mood #brb crying #crying #ex-boyfriend #favourite person #favorite person #despair #moody #personal

[inkskinned]

they want to talk about mental illness and acceptance and how everyone is a little ocd it's cute and quirky and their "intrusive thoughts" are about cutting their hair off and you say yours are about taking a razorblade to your eye and they say ew can you not and everyone is a little adhd sometimes! except if you're late it's a personality flaw and it's because you are careless and cruel (and someone else with adhd mentions they can be on time, so why can't you?) and it's not an eating disorder if it's girl dinner! it's not mania if it's girl math! what do you mean you blew all of your savings on nonrefundable plane tickets for a plane you didn't even end up taking. what do you mean that you are afraid of eating. get over it. they roll their little lips up into a sneer. can you not, like, trauma dump?

they love it on them they like to wear pieces of your suffering like jewels so that it hangs off their tongue in rapiers. they are allowed to arm-chair diagnose and cherrypick their poisons but you can't ever miss too many showers because that's, like, "fuckken gross?" so anyone mean is a narcissist. so anyone with visual tics is clearly faking it and is so cringe. but they get to scream and hit customer service employees because well, i got overwhelmed.

you keep seeing these posts about how people pleasers are "inherently manipulative" and how it's totally unfair behavior. but you are a people pleaser, you have an ingrained fawn response. in the comments, you have typed and deleted the words just because it is technically true does not make it an empathetic or kind reading of the reaction about one million times. it is technically accurate, after all. you think of catholic guilt, how sometimes you feel bad when doing a good deed because the sense of pride you get from acting kind - that pride is a sin. the word "manipulation" is not without bias or stigma attached to it. many people with the fawn response are direct victims of someone who was malignantly manipulative. calling the victims manipulative too is an unfair and unkind reading of the situation. it would be better and more empathetic to say it is safety-seeking or connection-seeking behavior. yes, it can be toxic. no, in general it is not intended to be toxic. there is no reason to make mentally ill people feel worse for what we undergo.

you type why is everyone so quick to turn on someone showing clear signs of trauma but you already know the fucking answer, so what's the point of bothering. you kind of hate those this is what anxiety looks like! infographics because at this point you're so good at white-knuckling through a severe panic attack that people just think you're stoic. even people who know the situation sometimes comment you just don't seem depressed. and you're not a 9 year old white kid so there's no way you're on the spectrum, you're not obsessed with trains and you were never a good mathematician. okay then.

mental illness is trending. in 2012 tumblr said don't romanticize our symptoms but to be fair tiktok didn't exist yet. there's these series of videos where someone pretends to be "the most boring person on earth" and is just being a normal fucking person, which makes your skin crawl, because that probably means you are boring. your friend reads aloud a profile from tinder - no depressed bitches i fucking hate that mental illness crap. your father says that medication never actually works.

you still haven't told your grandmother that you're in therapy. despite everything (and the fact it's helping): you just don't want her to see you differently.

#writeblr #warm up #to be clear let me state again: i think you should id however you fucking want if it helps you seek peace #but there is a HUGE difference between being like '.... im undiagnosed but i think i might be X' #and a person who is like ''omg my intrusive thoughts made me buy a birkin!!!'' #babe mine made me throw up bc they disgusted me so much <3 #mine made me hurt myself evenly. even when i wanted to stop. i have had to put my hand on the stove MULTIPLE TIMES #and again i'd rather have 10000 people get help for something they don't need help for #than have 1 kid NOT get help #but there has GOTTTTT to be a middle ground here #bc at this point it isn't ''raising awareness'' #it's . fucking misinformation. and ''what this picture says about you!!!!!'' #& yes! im mostly talkin about ppl who are actually disgusted and offended by signs of mental illness #but use it to defend THEIR actions #like babe you hate when kids start yelling in the walmart? but you YOuRSELF can yell? #you are depressed so it's fine you were cruel to your spouse? #but if your spouse spends too much time in bed she's a lazy fuck? #your partner needs to do everything for you bc of your history in trauma? but when SHE has needs she's being clingy and gross? #HUGE difference here between whom i think most of my followers are btw. like #all it takes is fucking anyyyy empathy or kindness . like. #anyway it's hard to explain im hoping we all know the person im talking about lol