#common sense is a wonderful thing

[larapaulussen]

#gif #why do I have to spend every christmas and every birthday alone #for what am I being punished #I am a good person #and I don’t think this suffering has any sense #it’s just that in life the happy people have good things coming their way #and the sad people always just get more trauma #I know I could have a relationship if I didn’t have such a traumatic childhood #my trauma lets me reject the good guys and waste my time with the aholes #but i don’t know what to do about it #every nice guy I met absolutely wasn’t attractive to me #and we also didn’t have anything in common #so I’m not even regretting rejecting them cause it wouldn’t have worked out #and they deserve someone who actually fancies them #i just wonder why I never met a nice guy that I have common interests with #or who matched my preferences lookwise #it really feels like I’m simply not allowed to ever meet the right person #and gotten to the point where I swipe for hours have a lot of matches and then ghost everyone #as I just know it either will be someone nice but not attractive to me or an ahole #I just don’t have any energy left anymore #I just want to experience love so bad but can’t do these dates anymore #I’m so so tired

[peliginspeaks]

Listen, I'm sorry to the people who draw Veils in torn/bloody robes because of the whole Vake thing but you're simply wrong. Do you think Veils would Ever go out like that. Do you think it doesn't have fifteen changes of clothes ready immediately, with options depending on the day and occasion, to climb into when it comes back from killing things. Of course it does. Veils is getting home, taking a shower in the Bazaar, putting on a new perfectly clean robe with accent panels and silk trim, and then dabbing 1 (one) tasteful bloodstain on the hem of it with a claw because it's arrogant and it thinks it can get away with it. What is a Veils if it's not serving cunt. Of course it is.

#Fallen London #Mr Veils #BaL spoilers #i do love veils it's awful. i love it as the interpretation of a beast unchained and a wild thing resenting its constraints #and that's the most common interpretation of it i tend to see #but Also it is a politician. so so so clearly. it covers up its crimes with spotless cufflinks and talks the blood away #it's spent hundreds of years swaying who it wants and killing who it wants in kind #the apparent clashing of its domains is funny sometimes but also to me it makes perfect sense #fashion and violence. look elevated enough and anyone will believe you. kill ruthlessly enough and the ones who don't don't matter #it's the perfect cover #it's also why in spite of seeing some relatability in its moments of straining for freedom Hallowrove doesn't regret killing it #if it were just a beast following its instincts out of control that would be one thing #if it were even a consicous thing bringing anything to ruin it could as revenge for being trapped that's another #but it just so clearly enjoys having power over things. and using that power to crush #and the manipulation beforehand #...hm. makes me wonder if the feelings in the early vake dreams were genuine #or if it constructed the rush to lure the player further into hunting it #.... you know what i think it was genuine actually. and i think it still doesn't matter. #sorry for bag a legend rambling on the funny poast i just think about it a lot still #in spite of finishing more than a year ago

[soreiya]

If you have an irrational fear of criticism. Perhaps it would be in your best interests to actively avoid it for your own mental health? I’ve recently witnessed some individuals become so defensive that they tried to project their own negative emotions onto others. In which case, they are only making themselves more miserable by sending condescending anon messages, obsessively scouring fandom tags/other people’s pages, and comment responses looking for something to be upset about. Getting angry enough to do things like this makes it apparent that this is very much a ‘you’ problem and not a fandom issue.

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Criticism is not anti behavior. I’m going to try my best to explain the difference. Hopefully this will clear things up a bit.

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A critic will elaborate and break down their opinions in an attempt to get other people to understand their point of view. This is usually done on their individual page and will be tagged to the appropriate fandom/s in question. If a criticism post has been tagged incorrectly, kindly inform the author about the issue. Block the new criticism tag, or the author in question if you don’t want to be exposed to anything more.

Criticism might be annoying to see sometimes, but it can also give you an opportunity to learn something new or view things from a different perspective.

People who genuinely enjoy something are not going to stop doing so just because of some random stranger’s thoughts on the subject. More often than not fandom decline comes from someone simply losing interest and moving on to another fandom. Thinking otherwise might be a bit delusional.

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Anti behavior is invasive. These people will go out of their way to express their hatred for something by directly commenting on other people’s posts/fanworks. They act entitled as if it’s justified to want the content gone. They will try to harass people in an attempt to get them to leave the community. If that doesn’t work, they may go as far as attempting to socially cancel you with lies, or other ignorant statements. When writing their own posts, antis will condemn others for liking content that they do not. They will insult people, or label them as something inappropriate in order to give them a sense of superiority as if they are taking the moral high ground by being mean to other fans.

Keep in mind that most people are afraid to voice their opinions because of people who act like this.

Anti behavior absolutely should not be tolerated under any circumstances. Don’t allow such people to ruin your fandom experience. Block on sight and move on.

#ranting #fandom criticism #It should be common sense to treat other fans respectfully #not liking ships is fine #You can absolutely talk about what you don't like about a ship #but insulting other fans and telling them that they shouldn't like those ships because you don't is anti behavior #Also... The few people who are getting upset about seeing 1 untagged criticism post in a year #are the same people turning a blind eye to untagged AU content #It's almost like it's unpleasant to be exposed to things that you don't want to see #gee I wonder what could be done to prevent others from not being able to avoid undesired content #I'm tired of having to ctrl+f every fic before reading it in order to avoid an anxiety attack #So me telling people to not treat AU content like it's official isn't me telling people to not enjoy the AU #learn the difference #I've always treated fans with respect and have encouraged and helped them with their work #but I will call out hypocrisy and mistreatment of other fans when I see it

[muninnhuginn]

having to make myself just pull back a second and go for "simplest explanation that fits all the facts and isn't accidentally inferring beyond the facts we do have".

#I tend to not want to eliminate possibilities so long as there's even a small chance of them happening and I get why #but at the same time I've ended up doubting things that I think in retrospect I should have taken at face value. #so being sus of ltx beyond the point at which it was clear she wasn't some secret mastermind and wondering if chen bin was even possessed. #and I've ended up making assumptions without realising we're not actually shown it (re: presuming photo possession allowed control) #I think it's mainly just frustrating because in retrospect I can see the clues all lining up. it's not that it wasn't fair play. #the pieces were all there. #link click #link click spoilers #(for the tags :V) #And I'll be honest. Usually I just keep theorising to myself unless I'm super certain or enough other people think similarly #because sometimes I'm on point and can't explain why and other times I trust hunches and don't realise that's what I'm doing so get confuse #when suddenly a piece of media seems to 'contradict' itself. when it's actually just contradicting what I thought I'd inferred #just. taking a step back and trying to apply the simplest explanation that fits. applying common sense as to what fits within genre etc. #I feel really weird about meta-gaming theorising using stuff like current pacing etc but at the same time it's still data that's available #and as long as it's not stuff like idk an interview giving it all away I don't think it's necessarily 'cheating'? #(may delete later idk)

[miabrown007]

I'm always so impressed when I hear people speak French or Spanish in an English show, like, wow, how cool is that they speak a different language, I wish that would be me!! and then I. realise.

#it's a curious thing because in Hungarian I never forget that I speak English #and I wonder whether this has more to do with me using English more than Hungarian lately #or with my brain categorising English as a skill I acquired while Hungarian is nothing in that sense because it's natural #or with speaking a foreign language being more of a sensation if your first language is English because fewer people do #and all in all not an overwhelming percent of Hungarian people speak English but it's very common for the younger people so I guess #it's just less of an outlier that way #miaing #btw this is not to say it is not impressive if someone speaks a foreign language because that's super cool either way!! #I just find it funny that I forget about a skill I have and am actively using to process that information

[a-beautiful-crow]

isn't kinda funny how we as humans tend to treat other human enemies like monsters when we're so similar to each other? you could dehumanize someone as much as you want but it won't change the fact you'll always have more in common with them than not

#but it makes sense. humans are so complex but theres only so much variations you can get before you start getting stuff in common #which is a good thing! we're always trying to be unique (and we are each unique in our own way) #that we forget how great it feels to have someone understand us in a way that isnt superficial. #having traits in common helps us empathize with each other. so what we have in common we use it to better love and care for each other! #isnt that kinda wonderful!? Anyways that's enough going on about how much i love humans.

[guinevereslancelot]

my brother is living and working in japan rn and apparently everyone gets their birthday off like it's a holiday. why doesn't everyone do that

#it makes so much sense #why are people working through their birthday w a lame office party at some point in the day as a standard #or wasting one of their limited days off #birthdays should be an automatic day off #i'm wondering now how common that is #but its not a thing in the usa that ive ever heard #holiday like christmas as in a free day off btw not holiday as in you use one of your vacation days but say holiday bc ur british or w/e

[swampndn]

Y'all, please clap for me. I finally did it. I blocked my mother's phone number.

#Okay now did I have an awful 2 hour conversation first? #Yes #There was no getting around it #But I swear to Creator that woman makes me so angry #And even angier post-recent traumatic events #Like I am at an unprecedented level #because I understand so much more now and I cannot fathom doing a single thing she did to me to my child #Like how the literal fuck did she do that #And then try to be like #there's no manual for parenting #UM THERE KINDA ARE SOME #PLUS IDK COMMON SENSE #BECAUSE ABUSING YOUR CHILD IS PROBABLY BAD #Anyway #I am very angry #I am very upset #But I blocked that bitch and I told her I'm not going to talk to her for a very long time so deal with it #Gonna burn some medicine now #It will get better #But it just makes me so angry how some awful people get to have kids and so many wonderful folks don't #I did think my trauma era was over #lol #But the last thing I'm gonna say #is that if there was any lingering anxiety about being a parent one day especially growing up the way I did without a healthy parent #it's gone now #I ain't worried about it for when the time comes #And she ain't gonna be none of this grandma shit

[redwinterroses]

by far the wildest take I have seen recently has been "tags are for my organization only, and content creators shouldn't be looking at their tags on tumblr."

Like. okay first of all: cc's are people and they are tumblr users just like anyone else. Expecting them to interact with the site in some weird, circumspect way is ridiculous. Why in the world should someone have to blacklist or avoid the tags for their own work or character?

Second: tags exist in order to find things. On your own personal blog, when reblogging things, they're for organization (and helping your followers block things.) But when you make a post and tag it, that goes into the main tag. That's how tumblr WORKS. (Or at least, is supposed to. Sometimes it's hard to get things into the main tag. That's another issue entirely.) Saying "I tagged it with this person's name but I didn't want them to SEE it" is insane -- if you don't want people interacting (and that! includes! the possibility! of a cc!) then don't maintag it. It's that simple.

I don't know if this is a newbies-don't-get-how-tumblr-works thing or what but if you put something about someone on the internet, they 100% have the right to interact with it, positively, negatively, or otherwise. Especially if you specifically tag them.

#not making this rebloggable because i don't want to have chain arguments with the reblogs #but come on people. this is common sense #and yeah it's about the pearl thing but i didn't want to call anyone out specifically so... whatever #just be grown ups okay? try? #discourse #putting this in the tags because i don't want to make another post and probably no one will see this so i can vent in relative obscurity-- #someone's reblogged my og tango post (which someone else added the pearl stuff to) #being all ''uh ACKSHUALLY pearl took down that post so? it doesn't actually matter and stop treating it like a hard boundary'' #so you're telling me that this woman expressed a boundary about her character #tumblr -- PREDICTABLY -- jumped down her throat about it #and she FOR SOME REASON decided to take down the post?? #that doesn't read as ''she got pressured into shutting up'' to anyone else?? #GAH this is so dumb she's a grown woman she can defend herself BUT #this fandom can be garbage sometimes and this is a prime example #''oh she took it back she must be fine with it'' #no she took down the post after a bunch of people attacked her over it i'm embarrassed to be seen with these people #AND THEY'RE ON MY DANG POST #...i wonder if I can turn off the reblogs on that version

[trinrose3]

The fact that so many people comfortably and confidently use words that they have almost no understanding of, definition or context wise, scare me.

#and of course theyre surrounded by an echo chamber of fellow idiots saying/doing the exact same thing #thinking about that one british girl on tiktok who didnt know what a sundown town was and was saying that she wanted to live there and #then made a video about her 'silly' mistake #like girlie...keep that to yourself no one is gonna give you 'woke points' for that your just gonna get a bunch of people wondering where #you heard that word let alone in a /positive/ context #which was of course exactly what happens #like critical thinking skills and common sense have just gone down the fucking drain huh....

[guideaus]

trigun stampede is just really weird because everyone says "stampede is different from the 90s anime! that anime wasnt even finished off of trigun maximum, anyways, so you shouldnt be comparing them" and its like ok, but it also takes a good amount from the originals, so its hard not to compare them. its not the same characters in different situations which still enforce the original theme, or maybe different characters in the same situations, but a wild mismatch that can't definitively say one thing

#personal #adaptations dont even need to be one to one to be good (hmc/httyd/etc) but its trying to play both sides #idk its just real weird that they do touch some things that could be criticized in trimax but then choose to do smth that makes no sense #and frankly i cant even treat them all like entirely different characters who happen to be similar bc the draw IS the big 'trigun' label #i dont think i'd be watching otherwise #and i wouldnt recommend it either. the only way i think i'd be ok w it is if i had no base reference #and i truly wonder how new fans feel abt common criticisms

[crescentmp3]

my god. help my soul

#<-hes confused about the conjugated form of «a loro» #i wonder if theres a way to know whether its gli or li. #conjugated form? is that how one would say it? i dont know. you understand #ahem. its very fun but i am having trouble with remembering them all #oh and - i wonder which way of saying it is more common? #for example- when saying a sentence like ''io vedo a te''‚ would one prefer to say «ti vedo» or «vederti»? its interesting to think about #im sure i'll figure it out once i start to consume italian media yet but i can't begin that for now because i am a little guy #<-knows nothing when compared to fluidity in a language #i did attempt to bite at a conversation in italian with this one language-practice chatbot but it was immediately clear i had nowhere - #- near enough vocabulary. #oh - nor do i know enough tenses of time! just one. #i'd suppose it's the present tense but i've seen it used in... god does it have an english version? #looked it up on google translate - no‚ the word i know for it is only in turkish #theres a difference between present tense and general(?) tense. #ah i suppose it makes sense that its similiar to english on that front then. #one thing i realised was all the patterns i noticed. very frustrating to not know their purposes though #for example - one of the phrases it used was «parlare» conjugated as «parleggi»‚ which doesn't give a difference in google translate #but is surely something different than just present tense! #along with «piacere» conjugated as «piacerebbe» which i have no clue what it does for now. #im trying not to jump ahead of my current skill level and take it slow by learning it all in the order of the book im using #but its all so interesting! i need to learn all of it Now. please #the book im using hasn't even gotten to «essere» and its conjugations yet! i only know sono sei è et cetera because of duolingo. #which - ohh‚ hang on. thats interesting. #duolingo teaches through english and this book teaches through turkish! #turkish has no equivelant of essere‚ but english does with am/is/are! thats fascinating. #♚ — rambling !

[spittingstar]

ytrytr

#i wrote abt this in my diary today #but i’ve been thinking abt who i am when i don’t have an active romantic interest #and i’m not wholely sure #like rn i can feel that slipping away rn #and out of it the major defining feature is that i’m sleepy #but i’ve also noticed i don’t want to return to the things i found cool before #but then again i did go from one relationship into another sort of one #so there wasn’t time for me to process how the first person influenced my sense of self #that’s one of the beautiful things though #that time w someone can be such sn influence #i know in a subconscious way i try to change myself in order to match the person better #i’ve done thst w friendships all my life and an intimste relationship is that but even more #i wonder how often other ppl do that too #i feel like it must be a common thing #is it our little brains feeling satisfied through belonging and homogeny (in a nice way) #anyway this is all to say that i am trying to consider who i am #may i’m back to feeling like a strange background character in my own life #i used to feel like the manic pixie dream girl bc that’s the way men would look at me and treat me #but it would make me feel like a supporting roll for someone else’s life #but that character architype is out so i’ve been treated less that way now #now it’s more elena ferrante scary and unsettling treatment from freaky guys #like today i went to the library and a man stopped his car just to make suggestive gestures at me #why can i not simply be and be accepted #but maybe i must accept myself first in order for that to happen

[maddy-ferguson]

it always annoys me so much when people say something isn't political because i can guarantee you no matter what you're talking about it absolutely is

#when there were hit tweets saying black lives matter isn't political it's human rights...what's political if HUMAN RIGHTS arent political #OF COURSE it's common sense but that doesn't mean it's not political #there's the same rhetoric around feminism...lgbtq+ rights...like it's all political are you kidding me #i wonder if it's an american thing or if it's a people younger than me thing or a language barrier thing #like? something being political isn't a bad thing lmao #people really think politics only happen in the parliament and like. on elections day #are you stupid #you are aren't you #i think i've even seen people say that about palestine and israel like BRO #and like i say: brf slt

[buysomecheese]

Having thoughts about the concepts of common sense, learned behaviors, and cultural norms; how different cultures, I’m sure, have varied definitions of each, and how even within any culture the definitions can be different based on generation, socio-economic status, and minority group (gender/sex, sexuality, race, ethnicity, neurotype, etc.)

A few articles (like the fun almost Buzzfeed type ones) gave examples of ‘common sense’ such as ‘‘don’t touch a hot stove’’ or “don’t walk in front of a car”- which are all technically learned behaviors. ‘Common sense’ feels like something that should be innate but a lot of the examples aren’t. Yes, keeping oneself out of danger is innate and a natural-instinct, but we’re not born knowing the specifics of that in this modern world. We don’t automatically know that getting hit by a car is fatal, or the way heat works and can be painful.

A lot of the other ‘common sense’ examples had to do with like “dressing formal at a job interview” and “knowing when to go to a doctor”, which are definitely very culturally-based. Even within different local communities, I’ve heard people in more rural places won’t go to the doctor until a limb is falling off or something, simply because it’s not convenient or worth it otherwise. Hell, it might be ‘common sense’ for someone who’s been verbally abused to understand love in contexts of insults, and that could be paralleled by so many other hyper-specific situations surrounding the way that a child grew up!

So if all ‘common sense’ is a learned behavior, and is so dependent on the backgrounds and experiences and teachers one has had in their life, why is it such a widely used concept? Clearly there’s no way to generalize it on a grand scale, not enough for it to be accurate or valid, just in a way that’s easy for people who would be inconvenienced by the questioning of their mindset.

And why would it be assumed that the only way to amass ‘common sense’ is through worldly experiences? Why would it be assumed that reading something from someone else’s perspective, even from a fictional standpoint, would not help broaden your own perspective? I was a constant reader in my childhood and that is where I learned/solidified a good portion of my empathy and morals. Honestly, I wish I would’ve read more varied books to expose myself to more perspectives, because I tend to stick with YA realistic fiction or fantasy, and there are a lot of overused tropes and plot lines in those genres.

But in comparing myself to someone who’s lived, say, 40 some years longer than I have but has read a fraction of the books, who surrounds herself with the same types of people over and over again when I actively seek out situations where I’ll be interacting with new demographics, who just accepts ‘social norms’ as the way they were when she was my age as opposed to trying to understand the way things are now, I would say I could be considered on the same level of ‘common sense’. I don’t care that your “IQ” is higher, in general that is a bullshit arbitrary system that just gives a sense of elitism to some, I know how to debate points and research as well as you. I know how to ask and talk to other people almost as well as you. I may not know as much about how the bank works but if I decided to, I could learn the whole history and create my own understanding that would make much more sense to anyone who asks me to explain instead of the “that’s just how it is” gospel you spew.

#you've cracked the code. all of this is a mommy issues rant disguised as philosophical wonderings #I was trying to discuss something related and she was refuting everything I said #turns out we were referencing different definitions. but she wouldn't listen to my definition (the one widely recognized by. everyone I know #) #but kept insisting that knowing how to make a bank statement for instance is 'common sense' best friend. no it is not. #that is not common sense. that *is* a life skill and something I need to learn but that's the thing. it is learned/ #*. #I don't care HOW neurotypical you are. there's no way that comes 'naturally' to you. honestly if it came incredibly naturally like you- #-needed no teaching on the subject matter to write it yourself I'm willing to bet that YOU are Very neurodivergent because. c'mon now. #anyways #long post #vent #I would just love it if she'd actually #listen to what I say sometimes and give it some thought instead of automatically writing it off based on my age and autism. #and then insisting she doesn't think I'm dumb when she just said that in twice as many words. #whatever anyways she's narrow-minded #she's just a bit silly and old

[seyaryminamoto]

I just thought about this, but have you ever thought about turning this masterpiece of a fanfic of yours into a book when it’s finally completed? Because it’s definitely worthy of becoming a published book.

Aaah, that's so flattering! Thank you for saying that, Anon! <3

Unfortunately, I think I would need to take a loooooooong time to figure out how to ever file off the serial numbers with a fic as intricately connected to canon as Gladiator is with ATLA. There's even outright references to ATLA in the story... there's a lot of things that are just too deeply intertwined with canon's lore to just yank them out of there and still keep their meaning intact. It's really not as easy as changing the name of bending for something else, switching all character and location names... I do have a few AUs that are disconnected enough from ATLA that they could very well become original stories of their own, but ironically, my biggest and most ambitious fic isn't one of them.

As it is... my sole hope to ever have Gladiator published officially on any capacity would be for me to become a major hit in the publishing industry sometime in the next 30+ years (???), to the point where Bryke find out one day that I wrote the longest ATLA fic to date and they decide to make the most out of that? But let's be real, one look at my blog and my criticism of their content and they'll ragequit on me at once x'D still, I really think that's about the sole way something like this could come about.

Now then, I don't really know if I'd feel comfortable just filing off the serial numbers to begin with. If Gladiator ever became a published book series or so, it'd mean I'd have to take it down from the Internet altogether and... that just feels like a very mean thing to do x'D so, in the end, I guess it is what it is. While making a living is very important... I think one of Gladiator's strengths is found in its connection to canon and how it repurposes so many of canon's ideas, mixes them with my own ideas... and then becomes something kind of cool x'D if the day comes when making a full-blown book editions of fics is possible (if likely free, since the legal disaster to be found in outright selling fic is... not pretty), I'd definitely love to get that whole crazy story on paper. But if not... well, it's no sweat off my back either way xD knowing that people like you think it's of high enough quality to warrant being published fiction is enough for me <3

#anon #gladiator #my baby fic is too attached to its other parent #as in ATLA #but tbh fic has always been a wonderful free world of literature #where you can enjoy stories and bask in them without as many unpleasant constraints #as in just about every other level of literary society these days #like... the kind of stuff people are writing nowadays just to feel 'innovative' #is genuinely mindboggling to me #look it's fine to try new things #but some new things are done just for the sake of making literature LESS accessible for others?? #like... actual intellectuals think their books are better just because no common person without 5+ years of college training can read em #look... I disagree entirely #I'd rather tell the most cliched story in the universe #and make sure it makes sense and has heart #than 'innovate' with nonsensical fiction just to get drunk on my 'I'm different' Kool-Aid #and yes I'm saying all this because that's how I've felt like over the local original fiction production #it's the kind of stuff a lot of my college classmates assumed made good literature #and honestly the last thing they care about is telling a good story so... yeah I'd rather tell a good one for free #than getting a book deal for something with no substance #but anyway I digress thank you anon <3