#completely useless person

[violentviolette]

honestly real talk tho the longer and longer i have been really deeply involved with cluster b pd stuff the more i really do believe that the entire catagory needs to be dissolved, reevaluated, and remade. we need to radically change how we view and speak about these symptoms

i used to criticize the dsm6's decision to do just that, and dont get me wrong i still do think the new model needs work, but the current one we have is fundimentally broken and useless. getting diagnosed (or diagnosing urself) with a current cluster b pd is at this point actively harmful to ur own mental health and thats just unnacceptable.

no one knows what they're talking about, no one understands the criteria, no one can agree on the criteria, or understands the history of it, the cultural misinformation is too widespread and great to be properly divorced from it at this point and is infact leeching into practice to do irreparable harm to people, people treat them like hogwarts house identities, theyre not helpful for understanding core underlying disordered thought processes or unpacking where they come from, all 4 catagories are steeped in huge amounts of ableism, sanism, racism, and misogyny, new studies and meta data and long term case studies show most of our understanding is misguided, its really and truly just a mess and its doing more harm than good at this point

and like yea, some of that is because people are stupid and ignorant and dont want to learn and so it'll always be an issue, but when its at *this* scale its a foundational problem. because at the end of the day these diagnosis only exist to help people articulate their experience so they can be heard and get the help and support they need, and so if they arent doing that and the catagories are only making it HARDER for people to be properly understood then they're functionally useless

like at some point i think we gotta conceed that the problem isnt that absolutely everyone is just stupid and that if people are constantly disagreeing about basic criteria and tenants of a disorder, then the problem is the foundational understanding and it should be reevaluated. because peoples lived experiences and their emotions and their distress is whats actually tangibly real and its the catagories we use to explain that experience that is socially constructed and therefore should change

#jack.speaks #aspd #bpd #npd #hpd #cluster b #cluster b pd #cluster b personality disorder #npd safe #actually antisocial #im entering my abolishment era #if the current criteria cannot be understood and properly utalized to help ppl on a large scale it is useless and must go #and yall in this tag prove every god damn day that no one knows what the fuck theyre talking about #so clearly we need to restructure and redefine how we understand this #and i think the only way to do that at this point is to completely start over

[grimalkinmessor]

This one has probably already been done but I haven't seen one and I'm curious 👀

If you choose Something Else explain in the tags!!✨

#mobrei #reimob #poll #polls #not main tagged bc im hoping for a specific audience on this one 🙏 #i ran out of buttons but i also had time manipulation and literally nothing on the list #idk personally im fond of the idea of him having something super powerful but completely useless to him in battle

[wonder-worker]

"[Elizabeth Woodville's] piety as queen seems to have been broadly conventional for a fifteenth-century royal, encompassing pilgrimages, membership of various fraternities, a particular devotion to her name saint, notable generosity to the Carthusians, and the foundation of a chantry at Westminster after her son was born there. ['On other occasions she supported planned religious foundations in London, […] made generous gifts to Eton College, and petitioned the pope to extend the circumstances in which indulgences could be acquired by observing the feast of the Visitation']. One possible indicator of a more personal, and more sophisticated, thread in her piety is a book of Hours of the Guardian Angel which Sutton and Visser-Fuchs have argued was commissioned for her, very possibly at her request."

-J.L. Laynesmith, "Elizabeth Woodville: The Knight's Widow", "Later Plantagenet and Wars of the Roses Consorts: Power, Influence, Dynasty"

#historicwomendaily #elizabeth woodville #my post #friendly reminder that there's nothing indicating that Elizabeth was exceptionally pious or that her piety was 'beyond purely conventional' #(something first claimed by Anne Crawford who simultaneously claimed that Elizabeth was 'grasping and totally lacking in scruple' so...) #EW's piety as queen may have stood out compared to former 15th century predecessors and definitely stood out compared to her husband #but her actions in themselves were not especially novel or 'beyond normal' and by themselves don't indicate unusual piety on her part #As Laynesmith's more recent research observes they seem to have been 'broadly conventional' #A conclusion arrived at Derek Neal as well who also points out that in general queens and elite noblewomen simply had wider means #of 'visible material expression of [their] personal devotion' - and also emphasizes how we should look at their wider circumstances #to understand their actions (eg: the death of Elizabeth's son George in 1479 as a motivating factor) #It's nice that we know a bit about Elizabeth's more personal piety - for eg she seems to have developed an attachment to Westminster Abbey #It's possible her (outward) piety increased across her queenship - she undertook most of her religious projects in later years #But again - none of them indicate the *level* of her piety (ie: they don't indicate that she was beyond conventionally pious) #By 1475 it seems that contemporaries identified Cecily Neville as the most personally devout from the Yorkist family #(though Elizabeth and even Cecily's sons were far greater patrons) #I think people also assume this because of her retirement to Westminster post 1485 #which doesn't work because 1) we don't actually know when she retired? as Laynesmith says there is no actual evidence for the traditional #date of 12 February 1487 #2) she had very secular reasons for retiring (grief over the death of her children? her lack of dower lands or estates which most other #widows had? her options were very limited; choosing to reside in the abbey is not particularly surprising. it's a massive and unneeded jump #to claim that it was motivated solely by piety (especially because it wasn't a complete 'retirement' in the way people assume it was) #I think historians have a habit of using her piety as a GOTCHA!' point against her vilification - which is a flawed and stupid argument #Elizabeth could be the most pious individual in the world and still be the pantomime villain Ricardians/Yorkists claim she was #They're not mutually exclusive; this line of thinking is useless #I think this also stems from the fact that we simply know very little about Elizabeth as an individual (ie: her hobbies/interests) #certainly far less than we do for other prominent women Margaret of Anjou; Elizabeth of York;; Cecily Neville or Margaret Beaufort #and I think rather than emphasizing that gap of knowledge her historians merely try to fill it up with 'she was pious!' #which is ... an incredibly lackluster take. I think it's better to just acknowledge that we don't know much about this historical figure #ie: I do wish that her piety and patronage was emphasized more yes. but it shouldn't flip too far to the other side either.

[mortifyingideal]

good omens season two: he would not fucking say that

#[Marge Simpson voice] look how they massacred my boy #release the Spanish dub #but actually don’t #there’s only so much we can expect from translators when the core material is such a crock of shite #this is not a joke #the writing in this season… Roblox oof dot mp3 #we love a complete character backslide for no fucking reason #we love all the new characters to be completely useless and with 0 real personality #yes girl go give us nothing #good omens #gos2 #good omens season two #gos2 spoilers

[imjustalittleman]

My favorite supercorp fics are the ones that are like:

Narrator: Lena is a workaholic. She’s busy 24/7, in meetings, taking all-nighters, living in paperwork galore

Kara: "Hey! Want to hang out?"

Narrator: All of a sudden, Lena was completely free all day, all week, for the rest of her life, actually

#it never fails #its so goofy but i love it #supercorp #lena being a completely useless person around kara lol

[57sfinest]

Are there any characters that you think could be removed from the game without much of an impact on the story overall?

there's plenty of characters you could remove without making much of an impact on the actual plot of the game (cuno's dad, rene and gaston, easy leo, roy, call me manana, measurehead & the gang, idiot doom spiral & gang, neha, the paledriver, smoker on the balcony, sunday friend, and on and on) but in terms of substance, no, i really can't think of a single character who didn't enrich the world in some way. half the story of disco elysium isn't the plot itself but you getting to know the world of elysium. remember that this game was in large part intended to be an introductory exposition-dump game for a broader series set in the world, before the whole za/um fraud debacle. all of the extra characters are there to play a role in the experience whether it's to advance the plot, introduce something about the setting, help expose something about harry, or set a mood in a given scene or area. to me, the quality of every single side character and the no-waste approach to interactions is a huge defining factor in why disco elysium is as good as it is.

#i saw someone say recently that part of why DE's writing is so good is because there is no line of dialogue that feels useless or filler-y #and i agree and i think the same about the characters #i can't think of a single character who i feel is completely useless and would be better off just getting removed from the game #even the hateable side characters like gottlieb have a role to play in the framing of the narrative #and in the contextualization of harry as a character and person #genuinely i have been thinking on this ask for multiple days and have not thought of a single 'useless' character #kiwipost #ask #thanks a ton for this ask this was definitely really fun to think about #god i love this game i don't think i'll ever love anything more

[altschmerzes]

ted lasso fandom stop posting things labeled as gen fic with both & and / tags listed for the same relationship leaving me wondering if i want to open the box of schrodinger’s gen fic and get shipping jumpscared today or not challenge

#gav gab #all fandoms do this but boy this one is bad about it eh #if im wondering if the fic you posted and labelled a gen fic #is a ship fic or not #something went very wrong with your tagging #while im at it ‘pre-relationship’ or ‘if you squint’ or ‘hints of x/y’ tags are just #functionally completely useless #because ive seen them regularly used to mean anything from like #‘these characters are worried about each other or possibly make physical contact at all’ #to ‘the pov character is actively pining for the other person in a direct way’ #and those are wildly different things #please say what you mean :’) #tbt the time i was reading a fic that was completely tagged as gen and with & tags #and a ‘hints of possible future x/y’ on it which given it was an h/c fic is like #are we referring to Care and Comforting Someone When They’re Hurt as hinting at a possible future romance? #bc often yes that’s the case! #in this case it was literally the pov character at the most situationally inappropriate moment fantasizing about a sex act w the other one #which is uh #call me a bitchy stick in the mud aro if you want but #that’s not covered by ‘hints of possible future’ if you ask me that’s pretty damn direct #stop putting it in the damn gen tag #it’s already hard enough to find gen fic without all the ‘actually ship fic but nobody fucks so people think somehow that makes it gen’ #shit that gets in there #at least it’s not the spn fandom out here tagging things like ‘gencest’ which truly proves that nobody in that fandom #can be normal about platonic relationships #like what the fuck are you talking about actually

[bisaster-energy]

Merlin but Merlin loses it when Arthur dies and instinctively starts a time loop and every time Arthur dies it automatically resets...for angst purposes it could stay tragic..no matter what he does to change the past kilgharra was right. no one can change their destiny nor can they escape it. or by starting this time loop at all he's doing is preventing the rise of the once and future king so by staving off Arthur's death he's actually preventing anyone from ever really living again. a never ending story with one character aware of the narrative but powerless to change it. a puppet with a brain but no autonomy to put it to use. A tragedy of his own making instead the one prophesized

#so that it doesn't work on the first try maybe morgana remembers and interferes or #maybe future Merlin is a sort of apparition that can only act if his old body lets him. he talks to past him like a ghost or demon even #so what he's saying directly contradicts kilgharra or gaius so present merlin probably distrusts him like crazy #merlin becomes another old annoying person in his own ear #who he doesn't even know if he can trust #OR he ends up sending arthur back by accident and arthur is in the past trying to fix shit #and this CHANGES something because now there's warnings of a great ending of all things coming for Camelot and by extension albion #and arthur knowing about Merlin's powers after keeping his knowledge to himself (cos he died RIGHT after learning about the magic) #finally understands the burden merlin had without having to try and understand based on Merlin's summary of an explanation alone #he understands morgana and mordred even nimueh like he GETS it gets it #anyway time goes on canon events are rewritten and the 'great evil' rips a giant hole in space and time and it turns out #future merlin was the cause. because he was smashing alternate realities to pieces looking for arthur is desperation #not knowing where the hell he even sent him breaking any known laws of time and space and reality consequences be damned #arthur cannot kill merlin. he cannot do it. not even for Camelot #so this can be angsty too like merlin loses himself completely in the search for arthur (paralleling the og timeline where Merlin ends up #singularly focused on Arthur's safety instead of his true mission) #and it literally swallows him and their entire known world up #or they get through to him. arthur AND past merlin. seeing that past him was able to diverge from the set path. live more for himself #than just arthur or for the sake of camelot be a PERSON outside of that. and have knowledge that he DID change arthur's mind. #not just as a useless deathbed confession but as something that actively changed and SAVED albion redeemed him of the mistakes he made and #proved that arthur is the man the KING he told every antagonist he was #future merlin sacrifices himself to destroy the black hole he made and it's like that future never even was. #just a bad nightmare you can't really remember. #just thinking about Merlin god bless #bbc merlin #fic ideas

[meadowlarkx]

One of my favorite things about the worldbuilding in The Left Hand of Darkness is the "perverts" in Gethenian society—those who are permanently in one of the kemmer forms. The "normal" person on Gethen goes through a kemmer cycle with periods of somer, but that's not every Gethenian. People whose bodies don't work this way get treated with repulsion. Genly compares them to "homosexuals" in his society, and that comparison is really instructive. Gethenians may not have gender roles and identities the way we do, but they do have societal norms, including about bodies and sexuality. And those norms leave people out. They are imperfect and sometimes they are unfair. I think this is part of the point.

In subtle ways, this theme is woven throughout the book's descriptions of Gethenian cultures. To stick to sexuality, something similar can be said about the different norms surrounding incest on Gethen and the empathic treatment of Estraven's past relationship with Arek. There is no taboo about incest between siblings on Gethen, only on siblings vowing kemmering, but if a child is born of it, the parents have to separate (and it seems like Estraven is separated from Sorve because of this). The reason for including this element, in my reading, isn't to impose our own moral standards by "showing" that Estraven's relationship with Arek was "bad" (in fact, we learn fairly little about it, beyond that Estraven cared deeply for him.) Instead, I think it's partly to demonstrate the dissonance between Gethenian mores and our own, and unsettle both. Because, like Genly, we see Gethenian norms as strange, we can notice that they bring about particular situations and cause particular hurts. Even the custom of vowing kemmering monogamously for life, which sounds more familiar, is shown as double-edged. Estraven breaks a taboo by making his "false" vow to Ashe, but was trying to build a new life with Ashe really wrong?

These things are not 1:1 to any "real life" issue, but like everything else in this story, I think they're chosen because they are provocative. It's really meaningful to me that even in terms of gender and sexuality, Gethen isn't painted as a utopia, but as a real place. Le Guin shows us two sets of norms and asks us not just "are our norms arbitrary and/or constructed rather than essential truths?" but also "are norms always socially constructed? Should we question them sometimes? What harm is done to maintain them? Who is being left out?"

#the left hand of darkness #lhod #my posts #thank you alix jouissants for reading over this and aiding me to express more clearly <3 <3 <3 #and idk i am obsessed with ''estraven the traitor'' being a name from folk legend. with the way the character who comes across most moral #and most thoughtful betrays the norms of patriotism and of prejudice against ''perverts''. vows twice and had a child with his sibling #it says something powerful i think about what is really important and more important about a person ultimately. character of all time. #this is not to say the normless utopia could/should exist or that the portrayal of gethenian cultures is wholly negative btw--not at all #constructed =/= useless or without power/meaning or completely arbitrary either #just it is such a thoughtful book. and it's saying so much on so many levels #obviously i haven't even touched here shifgrethor or suicide or the budding nationalism... and i don't have my copy on me. #maybe some of this seems obvious but it feels worth highlighting #edit: there's more to say about the sibling thing and ursula's logic in why a society that places different associations on sex might be #mainly concerned with avoiding kids born of those unions--but i'm thinking here about what we see of estraven's experience

[care666bear]

of course I can’t shut up now, I was raised in a “speak when spoken to” household

#learning I was allowed to talk changed my life #it made me completely insufferable and unable to repress anything #like let me be excited with my useless paragraphs I’m allowed to talk!!! & I love it!!! #I honestly still struggle with it pretty hard in my personal life some days #have me ​feeling like my voice was stolen by ursula from the little mermaid #and I’m still atrocious at maintaining relationships through conversation #I am still unlearning needing to be good enough to talk to just regularly #but my communication skills are off the charts it’s a damn shame I’m not more social #like I got things to say clearly

[live-laugh-lenney]

anyone wanna do the honours and phone in sick for me so i can stay home and stay in my fictional arthurtv world and not go to work?

#severely understaffed and we have a busy BUSY day today #there’s three of us #well… almost three because one of the staff is completely useless in anything remotely related to working #with a st patricks day party on tonight #and the rugby six nations games on all day #like??? #and they wonder why none of us want to work there anymore with this stress and embarrassment and chaos on a weekly basis #?????? #personal shit #absolutely waffling

[thunderboltfire]

I've tried to run BG2 again (I need to finish my modded playthrough) and my laptop is in such a bad state it prectically lags BG2. BG2, which could be run on a determined microwave, on a laptop that has 8GB of RAM! It is heavily used and it has a lot of apps, but I've uninstalled everything I didn't use and cleaned the registry awhile ago. I suspected the antivirus, but the system manager shows it actually doesn't consume a lot of resources. It's not the disk space, since it's got plenty. It turns out it uses 100% of its disk all the time, and the main culprits seems to be.... *drum roll* system and Windows telemetry service! I now have to spend the evening elbows deep in frankly confusing system settings to find a way to turn the telemetry service off, and it may or may not improve the situation.

Once I finish this playthough, I'm definitely switching the laptop to Unix.

#personal #you know I'm annoyed by the number of completely useless apps win10 runs in the background #I don't need 5 processes of edge I really don't! #I don't need windows game overlay #or a separate service to launch office in one-click #also kudos to the designers for splitying settings into 3 different apps! #I've disabled animations and everything and it didn't improve things at all unfortunately #I don't want to reinstall the system just yet bc mods are easily messed up during reinstalls #but I bet. that this dying laptop will suddenly run like gold on unix #my old work pc did and it was two times weaker than this one in every possible aspect #thankfully I have a better computer now but it still annoys me to have a laptop I just can't use bc it effectively boots for 15 minutes #and lags afterwards #I don't know if it's planned obsolence or something #but I put a lot of energy in the maintenance of this laptop and I'm losing patience #if it is planned obsolence #then... well. I'm not going to buy a newer presumably more resource intensive system #for a laptop that wheezes in effort under an older one #oh no #If they make their product unusable I'll just cease to use it #I've got another pc on windows anyway

[silenthillbunni]

🐰🩹🧸🏨

#i hate being in pain like this #bc it completely takes over my life. like im incapable of thinking of anything else #im incapable of relaxing or enjoying anything. i cant do important things. cant do anything else but sit still nd be in pain #it just renders me completely useless and makes me stop functioning properly #im just a hopeless mess made of anxiety nd sadness. idk why but i just hyperfixate on it and i cant 'let go' or relax or not think abt it #idk how other ppl do it.... i wish i wasnt like this bc it's awful. it's like the only thing that exist nd ever will exist is this pain 4evr #im dramatic i know but ​it genuinely feels like my entire life is over and i'll ever know is pain nd nothing will ever get better again #im so caught up in it i cant see anything else but my pain. i cant think of the future bc do i have one?? i dont know #im just not feeling good at all. and everything feels bleak and depressing and i dont want it :(( #i cant have any fun or nice moments at all and im just tired of life #i feel so fkn stressed abt all the things i need to do nd all my responsibilities and idk how i'll do them when im in this pain #i just hope it can calm down soon i just want it to be a little bit easier just a little bit #getting thru each day now is so fkn hard i barely sleep but when i do i wish i never wake up #i hate everything and it feels like my future is fucked #which makes me wanna die!! but it also makes me sad bc there is actually sm i want to live for #i dont want it all to be ruined bc i want to try to live!!!! :( #and yess im know im being dramatic but i cant help it. im weak nd im terrible at dealing w pain nd issues #im not a strong person who can withstand everything nd finds ways to live either way. maybe it's bc my will to live isnt that strong #idk. i just hate this i want it to be over. it's taking over my life nd idk how to still function like this

[swiftcola]

i think if you’re already struggling to read/understand the male characters despite their prominence and accessibility, you might not yet be able to comprehend the female characters of the series

#this is not me trying to be a dick bc i’ve been there before. it took me a long time to figure out the characters #but with so little to go on wrt female characters you can’t just make shit up on the fly #bc you risk severely mischaracterising them and trivialising them completely #rendering your reading of them useless #there is a lot of headcanon involved w these female characters #but it’s through an exploration of the nuance of their very existence #taking in to consideration exterior factors and in universe biases #to realistically create a rich inner life #while trying to stay true to the glimpse of personality they’ve shown us

[newfeeling77]

i had therapy n she told me i need to stop punishing myself relentlessly and its ok that i need help with things and im not a perfect adult or perfect person for that matter and i probably shouldn’t kill myself. im skeptical but we’ll see how it works out

#idek where this came from bc my parents didn’t exactly try to instill any sort of work ethic into me #but i really do feel that if im too easy on myself ill be a complete failure #so if i dont do enough or do it right i get really mad at myself and punish myself psychologically #and i dont give myself any praise for what i do accomplish because i think it shouldn’t be a big deal and should be easier therefore #its not an accomplishment #i dont want to be the ‘proud i got out of bed today’ type person bc i dont want to feel weak and useless #even if im at a point in my life where it is a major accomplishment #i struggle so much that going to work and school is a major accomplishment #and until i acknowledge that ill never be able to build on it and move on to better things

[pinkieroy]

Couldn't sleep, created a firbolg druid on dnd beyond instead of studying

#like if i couldn't sleep at least i could've been studying for my exam but noooo #text #personal #anyway completely useless character unless my first one dies which could very much happen because my ac is 9 (with leather armor)