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thev01dd · 1 year

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stop the straight agenda 2023 challenge

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thatineffablewitch · 6 months

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Me: *doesn’t feel queer enough for other LGBTQIA+ people to recognize me as part of the community* Also me (at one singular event): “Have you heard Hozier’s new album?”, “You know, Chiron? He’s from Greek mythology,” “omg I LOVE the Percy Jackson books!”, “fuck the system! *insert social justice rant*”, “Remember SuperWhoLock?”, “Good Omens is my favorite show, it’s so good!”, “This would be better if they served garlic bread, and cake for dessert,” “Do you know your sun, moon and rising?”, *styles mandatory T-shirt with the most extra skirt, shoes, earrings, giant flower hair clip, crystal + moon necklaces and literal rainbow and black/grey/white/purple bracelets*

***These things a queer person doth not maketh. You can be queer and not like any of these things and be totally valid

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heterorealism · 1 year

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#sexism #misandry #gender #feminism #feminist memes #women’s strike #men aint shit #men ain’t shit #heterorealism #compulsive heterosexuality #office politics #harassment #human resources #human things #job interview #misogyny

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peachiime · 8 months

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somethin about ehhhh forcin feelins or whatever

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fuck-comphet · 1 year

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Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between liking the attention from a guy and liking a guy

I’m here to tell you that you that you are valid and worthy regardless of how much attention you get from guys no matter how hard the patriarchy wants to convince you otherwise

#comphet #compulsive heterosexuality #comphet things

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holysaintscathedral · 9 months

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A lot of bi/straight women really need to work past their almost instinctual need to demean and insult men and their appearance while allegedly claiming to be attracted to men. It just seems like a lot of women cause themselves unnecessary misery and negativity by bonding over the whole 'men ugly and barbaric, women beautiful and holy' rhetoric that gets passed around women's spaces.

#idk i honestly i think these things DO effect the way you think #if you're constantly saying nasty things about yourself and others you're going to be a negative #i don't feel bad or burdened for being attracted to men the way those women do and I just don't understand it #if you don't want to be with a man you don't have to be #theres not need to bring in insults and other bullshit #i know compulsive heterosexuality os a thing but cmon #men

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andthebeanstalk · 2 years

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Truly I have been hardwired by having tumblr throughout my teen years and into adulthood to look for every single gay shipping opportunity no matter what. Often when it's not even there. I literally cannot turn this part of my brain off that begins looking for conspiracy-level reasons that the thing I'm watching is actually gay.

And like, I wonder what future generations will be like?

If you have real actual queer rep as a kid do you still spend all your time imagining it with your friends? Or is this particular brand of deranged a tumblr-specific thing?

I have no regrets. We had crumbs and made ourselves feasts in any way we could.

Anyway, this is just to say that I am not yet three seasons in to the 1980s absurdist British sci-fi comedy Red Dwarf about two chicken soup machine repairmen and a man-cat stranded alone in space and I am literally unable to stop my brain from forming an earnest and rabid argument for why the chicken soup repairmen are in the midst of an enemies to lovers arc. One of them is dead and a hologram. It doesn't matter. They are going to fall in love. I know it.

#original #red dwarf #arnold j rimmer #david lister #cat red dwarf #lister is like if fry from futurama was kind and hot idk how else to explain this #and rimmer is like if malvolio was in space and the same level of hot #and THEY ARE GOING TO KISS IN MY MIIIIIIIINNNNND #i am guessing this popular 1980s British tv show isn't gonna go canon #but if it did it couldn't be worse than destiel XD #tho i would die of shock #that said there is no heterosexual explanation for Spock and Kirk #and also a lot of things from the past really were gay in a genuine and intentional sense. I am just pretty sure this is not one of them.#and of course you can always find opportunity regardless of author intent.#I often wonder how aware the Star Trek writers were that they were writing a married couple when they were writing Spock and Kirk #I should clarify. rimmer is not the same level of hot as lister. i meant he is the same level of hot as malvolio usually is.#notice I am not making any quantitative statements there.#I know for an absolute fact that one of my dear friends thanks malvolio is one of the sexiest characters in theater #which is unusual. But valid. I just have a compulsive need to make sure my phrasing is completely clear #the actor is not a bad looking man. But he is basically playing space malvolio in terms of tone and personality. also I have decided he gay

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triflesandparsnips · 2 years

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You know... I just want to write something about how hard Mary and Stede really tried, yknow?

Because like, yeah, girls probably really aren't Stede's preference, but I can't imagine he didn't try. I think he and she figured out... a process? Maybe? But it wasn't necessarily... organic.

Like, what if they figured out that him brushing out her hair at night was a good way to get both of them loosened up a bit, a signal and a secret code that almost felt like a love language in its way.

What if they had INTRICATE HETEROSEXUAL RITUALS.

Basically I want to write a little series called “Scenes from a Marriage,” okay, with every fic being just two chapters, tracing Stede/Mary and Stede/Ed through their relationships-- and in the last story, the first chapter is Stede and Mary at their best, like when they'd gotten pretty much as good as they were going to get with each other (but maybe an inkling of realizing this is as good as they're going to get, and they're starting to realize that that is maybe the saddest imaginable thing), and then the second chapter is Stede and Ed and it's mirrored and parallel stuff from the first chapter but is also much more organic and fun.

I’m just. I'm super interested in the idea that Stede may be emotionally unclear on what love is, but he did manage to have two dang children and become body-comfortable with Mary -- he can sleep in the same bed as her, he can touch her bare skin, they undress in the same room together (without servants!), and he accepts her hugs and leans back into them too. Like, they figured something out. It just wasn't all either of them was capable of.

But I also feel it's... an important thing to talk about from an older-generation-queer perspective? Like, there's a "blushing virgin" trope appearing in a lot of fic that isn't necessarily there because it's interesting to explore, but rather because there's an assumption that maybe Stede always knew he didn't like Sex With Women? Which idk, that feels like a very modern idea of what it's like to be queer, and it's GOOD that the Kids These Days believe that if you Don't Want That Kind Of Sex Then You Don't Have To Have It... but it's also not the case for a whole bunch of people historically and, well, right now.

(Also it plays into some of the harmful queer narratives, like "I am finally dating the kind of person I want to date, so therefore if I feel gross about something in the relationship it must be a holdover from hetero stuff and not What's Happening Wrong In This Relationship")

Maybe Stede and Mary could actually work up to having a pretty decent time! But the working up to it was... a lot of work. And more often than not it just seemed too tiring to put in the effort, and so instead it sort of devolves to something they plan for anniversaries or holidays or something, and they both feel kind of miserable about it but they can't figure out how to fix it either.

Compulsive heterosexuality is complicated, is what I mean. Compulsive sexuality is complicated. And I just want to explore that a little.

#our flag means death #ofmd #meta #stede bonnet #mary bonnet #queer narratives #compulsive heterosexuality #compulsive sexuality #things I will probably write ngl #but I also want to READ it so #free plot bunnies #if you write it link it #do the thing

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nytfythfhtyf · 10 months

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i have no idea how many people are into the show eyewitness by the lady that directed twilight. i havent even watched the whole show. i read a summary of each episode and then watched videos of the parts where the guys are being gay. cannot give a rating for the quality of the show. great resource for boys kissing gifs tho 👍

#my toxic male trait is liking gay panic stories #me when the straight male gets a crush on another male: 😫💥💥💥💥🗿🗿🗿🗿🗿🤯🤯🤯😭😀😁🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💥💥💥🛩🏙🏙#me when a blonde male and a brunette male kiss 😳🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯😄😄😄🗿🗿🗿🗿🗿🗿💥💥💥💥💥💥💥🗿🗿💥🗿🗿🗿🗿🗿🗿🔥🔥🔥#me when the special interest is boys who like each other #i bet you guys will never guess why i love when blonde and brunette men kiss each other.#and the blonde male suffers from compulsive heterosexuality. youll never guess.#i say things

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bookishforce · 3 months

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ugh

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asstrongasyouthink · 9 months

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for reasons that are unimportant, i was searching the word bitch in my google drive and found this?

“It’s not an insult, stop gettin’ so defensive,” Bucky said for at least the third time, knee jammed right into Sam’s spine. Steve did a pretty good bitch, please face for a white boy. He turned around to do it, the fucker, but if this time played out like the other two, Bucky would smack him upside the head and threaten to pull the steering wheel if Steve didn’t grab it. “I know it’s not an insult, it’s just not true,” Steve protested. “There was Peggy-” “I woulda gone straight for Peggy. The actual Tom of Finland woulda gone straight for Peggy.” “Tom of whatnow?” Bucky asked, leaning forward. He was all in Sam’s face, but the shift in position got his knee out of Sam’s spine, so Sam wasn’t saying shit. “You get a pass, Brainfreeze. Steve, no excuse. You’ve had time to catch up.” “Y’didn’t put it on the list.” Sam glared pointedly at the ridiculous breadth of Steve’s shoulders. “Did not think I would have to.” * This’ll show ‘em, Steve thought, stepping towards Sharon. Boyfriends were the worst.

did i write this? did i copy and paste into an untitled google doc (i famously hate google docs) from a longer fic? was i beta-ing this *checks watch* 181 word fic?

#who needs ghosts i'm haunting my fucking self #i wrote a thing #or did i???#super soldier samwich #i see your compulsive heterosexuality and i raise you bellicose heterosexuality #rare original post

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hilsoncrater · 5 months

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the levels of repression in both house and wilson…yet they are opposite of one another. house routinely makes gay innuendos (whether sexual and/or romantic) towards wilson, yet wilson doesn’t take him serious at all.

and this constant rejection from wilson is both a buoy as well as a giant wall. house pushes their relationship time and time again. wilson refuses to let the nature of it change. house brings up a romantic getaway, wilson shoots him down. house sabotages wilson moving out, wilson doesn’t stay. house allows himself to be The Other Woman regardless of how bonnie or wilson’s other ex-wives feel. in a way, it boosts his ego and makes him feel special. he is allowed to have wilson in this way.

amber is an extension of house; she is house in a woman’s body. house can accept it because he has expressed before that if wilson were a woman, they would’ve been married already. so why can’t the same be true for wilson? let him find a woman version of house. house loves wilson so much that he goes into a risky surgery to try and save amber. this is his Place simply because wilson and him cannot escape the confines of compulsive heterosexuality.

and it is compulsive. wilson never feels good enough or secure enough in a relationship outside of his and house’s. he cheats, he lies, he manipulates. all because at his core, wilson’s insecurities render him into a selfish person. he has affairs and he prioritizes house over his wives, because he doesn’t feel like his own wants/needs are met by his wives. or that they should/deserve to be met. he doesn’t know how to communicate them!! he maybe even feels guilty for having them. because even to house, he communicates these desires in metaphors or pranks or whatever other indirect way he sees fit. but the difference between house and his wives is that wilson has no tangible, legal sense of obligation to house. if house doesn’t meet his expressed needs, fuck him!! they don’t owe anything to each other!! the rejection will sting less.

wilson chases women on such a compulsive level that it’s nearly a reaction to whatever house has done. it’s affair after affair. wilson moves in with his patient during the time house is on a ketamine treatment. house, his patient who seemingly no longer needs vicodin. no longer needs him. if wilson is no longer needed, he parasites to the next host. why? because he doesn’t know who he is on his own. why? because he has trouble expressing his own core needs as a person. and as a result, these core (repressed) needs seep out sideways.

so why threaten this sense of safety he gets with keeping house at a platonic level? if they were to entangle into a relationship, wilson would be wrapped under an Obligation Gauze. there is a fear he’d lose house because, historically, all of his relationships end in loss. because, historically, he cannot express his needs to his partners due to his fear of rejection.

and then wilson becomes terminal. and then death becomes bigger than an anxious fear of loss/rejection.

“i need you to tell me that you love me.”

wilson, my brother in christ. house cannot say those words to you because for all the years you’ve known him, you’ve denied him it. the only way house can tell you that he loves you is by burning his home down and faking his death. he is nothing without you. you know it as well as he does. these things remain unspoken because that is the way you’ve molded the relationship to be.

wilson has house on a leash. house runs as far out as possible until the leash yanks him back. when wilson finally trusts house enough to let him go off-leash, house is too conditioned to act as expected.

and this conditioning in house is not just wilson’s doing. it’s primarily house’s own doing. his own self-loathing chains him to wilson’s side. as an addict, yes, but also as a support system. house hates himself so viscerally that it affects every interpersonal relationship he has, including with wilson. but wilson never, ever leaves no matter how bad it gets.

also. who else other than wilson gives him a sense of bodily autonomy? not stacy, not cuddy, not his fellows. wilson doesn’t pity him. wilson enables him. wilson lies for him. house will selfishly keep wilson forever because wilson is all he reliably has.

so house can push and prod wilson into gay romantic/sexual innuendos, but when wilson yanks that leash, he’ll drop it. it’s a buoy for reality checking where he is with wilson. it’s a giant wall for enabling his self-hatred thought process that even his boy best friend has limitations to his love for him (or at least what is acceptable). addict line of thinking.

they both eat each other up like an ouroboros. where does wilson’s repression end and house’s begin?

#is this making sense????? it’s after midnight and i’m. a little tipsy while writing this lmao #wilson is Deny Deny Deny (internal) while house is Deny Deny Deny (external)#house md #hilson

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jalluzas-ferney · 1 day

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Cole wasnt “changed” to be gay. He never was STRAIGHT in the first place.

and hell- whi says he’s strictly gay now? Cole could like girls as well for all we know 🤷‍♀️ uk like, be a Bi king or smth.

The thing is, just like people are used to seeing characters from books as white as a default until stated otherwise, just because they’re so used to it, this happens with straightness as well.

People are will BEG and SWEAR that a character is straight just because they were never outright stated to be otherwise. And emphasis on “outright stated” because even when there is coding, hinting or just blatant portrayal of it, people will still deny that that certain character is queer because it’s not like they canonically turned to the camera and told the audience that “I AM NOT STRAIGHT.”

But to them, even if the character rarely showed any interest in the opposite gender or ever really talked ab their attraction, the character is just automatically straight. It’s just inherent. Of course they’re straight.

And you know what? Even if the character does, who said Bi people don’t exist? I have a lot of Bi friends and a family member that either are bi or are dating a bi person, and their attraction towards the opposite gender has never invalidated their attraction towards the same if gender non-conforming.

And even then, a lot of gay men or lesbians have struggled with comp-het in the past, reuniting them in having tried to date or even marry people from the opposite gender only to then realize they never truly were straight, and were just compulsively trying to conform or believe that they are straight because again, straightness has always been seen as the status quo. As the normal thing to be. The default.

And this isn’t me saying that “the writers were writing Cole as a dude with comp-het this whole time” or smth because I don’t know that. And while I could theorize that I don’t think the writers really were thinking about implementing compulsive heterosexuality into this silly Lego show.

But just like I can’t assure that Cole canonically has suffered from comp-het or that he is gay and not Bi or hell he could be asexual or smth while being gay WHO KNOWS-but just like we can’t exactly assure that he is exactly one of those labels, people cannot come here and act like Cole was ever REALLY canonically straight. Hell. You could even say None of the characters of the show are STRAIGHT because who said they were? You can def interpret them as straight! But why do people insist on acting as if portraying Cole as having a male character a romantic interest as them CHANGING him as if he really ever WAS straight?

No one acts that when a character is straight that it was a huge betrayal or smth because the character was “OBVIOUSLY” gay by default. No. People just see it as normal and move on because that has always been the status quo.

Because this is a heteronormative society as much as people try to act as if making a character gay is “appealing to the world and the general public” as if straight people are suddenly oppressed. Hetero friends of mine or my family will always automatically assume I’m straight because that’s the norm to them. People will always assume someone it het or cis unless outright stated otherwise.

And if you can’t tell what’s wrong with that…

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And you know what? Get all pissed off about it. Complain. Make petition for “saving your boy Cole” (save him from what exactly? It’s not like Christianity exists in Ninjago so yall can scratch hell out of the list at least) the season was made. The character of Geo was made. The scenes where Geo fantasized about Cole being awesome and handsome were made. Scenes where Cole and geo talk about needing each other were made. Scenes where geo and Cole hold hands and look at each other all lovey dovey were made. None of that bigoted complaining is going to change that. Theyre not going back and deleting those scenes and they’re not suddenly gonna write Geo and Cole in completely different way from what they were written before. Womp. WOMP.

#ninjago #ninjago dragons rising #lego ninjago #savemyboycole #cole #ninjago cole #cole Ninjago #dragons rising #ninjago dr #gay rights #gay #comp-het #comphet #queer #queer representation #queer rep in media #geo Ninjago #Ninjago geo #geo

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bugbuoyx · 7 months

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one relieving thing about joining transmasc communities on tumblr was discovering i wasnt the only one who experienced internal compulsive heterosexuality and and compulsive non-masculinity (aka "being masc is gross and predatory its better to be skinny, white, and fem-androgynous"). honestly im much happier as a fat, hairy, gay man than i was trying to fit the Tumblr Standard of a Proper Enby

#transandrophobia #bc thats what it is isnt it lol the hatred of transmasculinity #i tried yall i tried so hard and at one point i was that skinny white androgynous could convince myself i was attracted to women nb #but it wasnt me and i wasnt happy #HONESTLY been considering iding as grey-aro i just dont want a relationship

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fuck-comphet · 1 year

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i really dont know whether or not im attracted to men.

i know im attracted to women. theres never been any question in that, but with men... i mean i know when one is good looking or charming, and... i feel like i should feel the same way for them as i do for women

the idea of having a boyfriend or husband (who isnt an asshole) is really comforting for me. it makes me blush to think about but in reality i just struggle to feel anything for men. somwtimes when i see a goodlooking guy im overhwlmed by daydreams of being with him but if the situation actually presented itself i am so deterred

but i feel like i shouldnt be ....

is this just comphet? or am i just repressing my attraction?

Hello friend!

Look, I can’t tell you what you are feeling because only you can know that for yourself, but liking the idea of men (including the safety and comfort of straight-passing) is not the same as attraction in real life.

Before I finally admitted to myself that I am a lesbian, I wanted to cling to heterosexuality so bad, I couldn’t bear the idea of letting go of that safety net. And that’s what comphet does and why it’s so hard to work through: it’s the conditioning of thinking that being with men is the correct, good and only way to live a fulfilled life. You are using language like “I should be feeling”, which is what comphet tells you you should be feeling. Everyone wants a fulfilled and safe life! But comphet is a lie: if you are not attracted to men, to real men in real life outside of daydreams and fantasies, you will not be fulfilled or happy being with a man.

I would encourage you to ask yourself: why would you suppress your attraction to men and not your attraction to women, when it’s much safer and easier to date men and be straight-passing (even if you are sapphic)? I’m asking you this because when I still identified as bi, I fully minimized and suppressed my attraction to women and convinced myself that I was attracted to men because I thought considering men and being attracted to them was a mandatory experience, despite men leaving me indifferent. (Obviously I can only speak to my own experience and others may have just as valid experiences/perspective that differ from mine.)

Whatever label or identity you land on, the queer community loves and welcomes you ❤️🧡🤍💓

#ask response #sorry for the delay in answering this ask!#comphet #fuck comphet #lesbian #lesbians #turns out i was a lesbian the whole time #comphet things #compulsory heteronormativity #compulsive heterosexuality

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hajihiko · 1 year

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I don't like sonia with kazuichi in general cause of how he treats sonia. Yet the more I get to know him the more I like to think it's a case of compulsive heterosexuality taken way too far. Besides Fuyuhiko and hinata, any other kazuichi ships ya like?

I have thoughts on it but yeah comphet is a big part of it

Who wouldn't have a bit of a thing for nekomaru

#Again tin my narrative kaz has a crush on nearly everyone #What the HECK is their name.#Soudanidai #Apparently #Kazuichi Souda #Nekomaru nidai #An art

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