#coping with loss of a loved one

[youstillsaiditsname]

i think i loved you, but i guess i'll never really know

joan tierney / death cab for cutie / sylvie baumgartel / the crane wives / @araekni / khalid hosseini / lev st valentine / wendy cope / richard siken (reordered)

#web weaving #joan tierney #death cab for cutie #sylvie baumgartel #the crane wives #araekni #khalid hosseini #lev st valentine #wendy cope #richard siken #love #loss #grief #it's about. not knowing if it ever really was love. and not having the time to figure it out #do i really love you or do i love the memory of you. did i really love you. was it just love or Love #i didnt know then and now i will never know and every night i am dancing with your ghost in the hope that one day it will tell me

[halcyonbot]

repainted over some old wendy and abigail pieces

#dst #abigail #wendy #wendy dst #abigail dst #if these look familiar these pieces were posted like two years ago. ive just repainted them a bit because i still like em #actually my secret motive for posting these again was to have an excuse to talk about wendy in the tags #to you she is simply a sad girl with depressing quotes...to me she is The WeirdGirl of all time who is enthralled with the concept of death #+ has forged it into her personality in order to cope with the loss of a dearly loved one And gets self conscious when #shes caught doing anything unrelated to it. And Also she likes to draw #^^^^just a joke i know a lot of ppl appreciate her character a lot already. and rightfully so! her quotes are fun to parse thru #my art

[hyp3rfixation-h3ll]

alright chat . it's time for "dissecting the inherent tragedy of transformers: botbots and the relationships in them":

toxic doomed yuri edition ( referring to these two ↑ )

(yes, i made this picmix myself 4 this. i have no regrets. also no tl;dr because you guys NEED to read this)

something i want y'all to understand is that it is Not about the idea that spud wasn't loved. he was VERY much loved by everyone, ESPECIALLY burgertron.

the whole point is that he sabotaged himself in the process of ruining someone else's life, someone who valued him and his word above others. he and burgertron BOTH let their ego get in the way of their personal lives, the only difference is that burgertron at least had the dignity to swallow his pride and apologise when it mattered most.

He gave spud a second chance because he loved him. because he recognised that he does deserve redemption, and above all else, he wants spud to know he cares, even if that means he'll never see him again, or they'll never be friends. (Even in light of the "sidekick" comment, i genuinely don't think he held any inherent malice in that statement. even if burgs was an egotist, he still loved him.)

the worst thing burgertron did in their relationship was be unaware, and im sure that despite his ego, he never meant for spud to get hurt. that's why he went out of his way to protect him, when he couldve just stood there and let spud get put on the back of a truck to never be seen again. it would have been easy.

but he didn't. he did the hard thing. the Right thing. he stood up for someone who never did the same for him.

Spud Was Loved. Spud Is loved. and sometimes love isn't going to look pretty, or manifest in holding hands and cuddling, and it isn't all rainbows and sunshine. it can hurt. it can be letting go of someone who you hurt by accident, who you never meant to harm, but it happened anyways because you made the fatal mistake of being oblivious.

And that's what Burgertron did. he let Spud go, because he understood they both needed time to heal on their own terms. regardless of if he's mad at him or not, he does still harbor positive feelings for him, and he stood up for him during times he probably shouldn't have. If he ACTUALLY hated spud, he wouldn't have stuck his neck out for him at bot prom. or believe spud when he was lying through his teeth in the games.

And that's what makes them so tragic. perhaps in another world, another life, they'd have been Actual good friends, who truly stuck by each other. maybe things would have been different.

But we'll never know that now, will we?

#botbots tag 🏪 #tf botbots #botbots #transformers botbots #media analysis #character analysis #picmix #gif warning #burgertron #spud muffin #they make me feel SHRIMP emotions you dobt GET IT #they were DOOMED from the start not of their own volition but because of other people deciding what their roles were going to be #and they obviously coped with that in their own very different ways that clashed with one another!!!!!! #but despite all of that burgertron is still WILLING to pick up the pieces if it means spud is going to be ok #because it's not about his ego or fame anymore. it's about how much he loves his friends even if their dynamic is soured #their breakup was messy and awful and resulted in a lot of pain #but he's not going to let his anger get the best of him: he WANTS spud to get better #he wants HIMSELF to get better #i want season 2 so fucking bad holy shit PLEASE #the themes of loss and growth are so important in this show it has just hit me #FUCKKKKKKK #im gonna be insane about this forever

[sukugo]

*JJK 238 spoilers*

Gojo? Dead.

Sukuna? In his true form.

Also Sukuna? Reverts back to being a selfconcerned douchebag because his slutty twink malewife didn't survive the Mortal Kombat fatality.

"Love is worthless." He sounds like a middle schooler dealing with their first breakup and it's fucking hilarious to me 💀

GDKDHDKSHDKFJSJD he's tryna cope fr. not to mention the way he keeps mentioning gojo too. he's doing BAD BAD, the loss is hitting him hard

#AND WHO'S FUCKING FAULT IS THIS SUKUNA #what did u think was gonna happen 🙄 #u reject gojo's love and break up with him before u're even a thing. when u were the one who wanted him first anyways. #and now u're preaching about love not having any value #literally. make up ur mind. #jdhjfhddjskdfsdfsjskffs #oh sukuna #jjk #sukugo #f.ask #'love is worthless' BOLD WORDS COMING FROM THE MAN WHO'S BEEN SEARCHING FOR LOVE FOR THE PAST 20 CHAPTERS #tho the loss of a pretty sluttty malewife twink is the greatest loss in the world. i do get him 😔 i wouldn't be able to cope either #gojo come back to me......... #← me but also sukuna

[problematic-poetess]

Lost by losing you.

I feel so lost.

Some days I manage to live.

Only twinges of pain at the memories here and there.

Other days

Days like today

Its overwhelming.

It clenches my heart and drains air from my lungs.

It tightens my throat and erases any hope I have left.

On the days that I live

I feel guilty.

At the end of the day I’ll lie in my bed and feel guilty that I laughed at something funny. That I ate something I enjoyed.

That I spent time with a friend or a loved one and I was happy.

And when I look back on the time we spent together watching tv, or playing on our phones, not paying attention to one another.

I hate myself.

I hate myself for not appreciating it more.

Because I would give anything and everything to spend just one more moment with you.

To tell you how much I miss you.

To hold you close and tell you how much I love you.

How much you mean to me.

How much I wish I could see you one last time.

These are the things that I think about.

The things I wish I could Tell you.

The feelings that flood me with piercing agony and leave me feeling so broken and empty that every poem, book, song, movie and show depicting loss in such an aggressive and dramatically tragic manner makes sense.

Some days I live.

Other days I just survive.

I can never truly explain how much I miss you.

How much you mean to me.

How much of an impact you made on me.

You changed me for the better.

You were there when no one else was.

And now inexplicably you’re gone.

And it’s soul crushing.

Every part of losing you has shattered everything around me.

I’m lost without you.

I’m so lost by losing you.

#poetry #poets corner #friendship #my poem #original poem #poem #poems and poetry #short poem #loss #losing someone #grief #grief poem #coping with grief #grief/mourning #losses #losing you #losing a loved one #loss of a friend #loss of a loved one #griefrecovery

[cosmobrain00]

well🙂

#*visibly trying not to burst into tears* hey guys whats up #surprise surprise another absence bc my life can’t stop getting WORSE evry day it seems haha! #so. now who’s gonna tell me how u deal w the loss of ur fave person n the one person u were 100% certain truly loved u no matter what #who also inspired u to be an artist in the first place n who's been there for u ur ENTIRE life #like idk how to start dealing w it lmao. one min ill be basically okay n then the next ill feel like smthing just tore a chunk out of me #looked outside just a sec ago n thought “oh so she'll never see my progress in art. oh ill never get to make another painting for her” #n yk part of me just wants to pretend like none of it happened honestly #like “hey that was a fucked up dream oh well let me call [x] n tell them I love them” #n I dont fucking KNOW how to deal w this grief n idk whats normal n what isnt #no I havent cried rlly but almost every day I feel like I cant breathe n tht my chest is collapsing in on itself #no I cant talk abt it but i can’t draw like I used to n thinking abt my last art project makes me wanna throw up #< considering it was going to be a present for her tht she'll never get to see. Haha so funny right guys #fuck I need to get so entirely drunk over this now RELAPSING TIME BABY!! #anyways. will try to be normal tm n talk to ppl again instead of isolating as a way to cope n sorry to ppl who have msg'd me Ill be back

[flaim-ita]

Ace is fighting for a World where All Is Happy to prove his mother’s powers were not a force of despair but a force of love. He spent 2000 years just trying to find her and learn why he was born. All Mitsume wanted was for him to forget her and be happy.

Aruto is fighting for a world where humanity and Humagear can live happily side by side. He does this because he still loves and mourns his beloved father, who was a Humagear. Soreo died so Aruto could be alive and so Aruto could be Zero-One without the weight of carrying on his legacy.

Is that anything?

#rewatching 01 #I’m remembering why I adore Aruto #and why I adore Takahashi #kamen rider #kamen rider geats #kamen rider zero one #hiden aruto #ukiyo ace #hiden soreo #mitsume #flaim rambles #it’s about honoring the lives of your parents but still moving forward on your own terms #it’s about the many ways to cope with grief #it’s about love and it’s about loss and it’s about choosing the right thing despite pain #it’s about Kamen Rider

[redpillsfortheblues]

I want to travel just far away enough from the earth so that when I look through a telescope I can see a world where you still exist

#grief #grieving #dealing with grief #loss of a loved one #depressing quotes #quotes #text post #text #poetry #poem #remembering loved ones #love notes #grief/mourning #grief poetry #coping with grief #love #family #my heart hurts #heartfelt

[halfyearsqueen]

thinking about her calling her sons ‘ my strength and consolation’

#I stress her relationship with her kids on this because that’s who she is at her core #she’s a mother . they’ve been her entire world since she was 16-17 #and the love she feels for them is almost defiant in nature because the rumors constantly attempt to make their very existence a source of #shame due to how bastards are treated and regarded in Westeros #the subsequent loosing of them is what inevitably leads to her downfall and complete mental collapse #she’s been through so much pain the entirety of her life and that ? they’re the one bright spot #they’re the one loss she would be fundamentally incapable of coping with #and she loses them one after the other 😭 #she loved them with everything she had because they were the only ones who loved her so implicitly #they’re her pride and joy they’re the one thing she would give up everything for #so being able to leave it TO them is such a source of strength for her #I’m gonna be here after my shower but just know her priorities go her kids —-> everything else

[mister13eyond]

underrated ship dynamic: clinging to each other through the Grief because you're both the last thing each other has left after losing everything

#actually this is 90% of how i ship giomis at first #later i think it grows into something much more but #also theyre both grieving teenagers who just lost their entire team and had their whole worlds upended #tbh this is ALSO 90% of what April 6th was about #im just saying. good ship dynamic. love people coping with loss in messy ways by desperately clinging to one another #and calling that love

[antstarion]

my house feels so empty without my dog :(( vent in tags

#I don't have therapy for fucking ages so here we go. im gonna rant #cw for pet death #cw pet death #cw pet loss #my dog died technically yesterday now and i am fucking heartbroken #he has been around since i was 9 or 10 years old so i was so fucking attached to that guy #he loved to cuddle on the sofa with me and we spent a lot of time together because i sleep downstaira in the same room as him #the pain that i feel is so much without even factoring my family #my family are extremely emotionally abusive and trying to cope with a loss that is this big around them is so difficult #im going back to my flat in a couple of days but the reactions to this event are fucking unsettling #nobody is talking about it. if i bring it up they just ignore it. #i am not one to govern how people react to grief but. if you knew my family #i feel like its importsnt to mention that they didnt tell me he was having to be put down until the day befoew #they withheld the fact he went blind and couldnt walk from me #last time i saw him he was old but fine and this time he was struggling to breathe #nobody told me #i dont know #in a house that was fucking horrible to me he was always nice #he was the only #one who didnt do anything wrong #he was a constant through all the abuse and now he is gone #i feel like everything is cracking beneath me and im about to fall #cw suicide #but im thinking just terrible things #im trying not to see this as a relapse in my recover because i know this is a normal reaction to grief for me #i just feel terrible and alone #and when i felt #like this before. he would always be there #hes stopped me from hurting myself before just because he was there #idk what to do

[pebbledrat]

The longer I'm around the more convinced I become that Jill and Michael also had some kinda codependent-besties archetype thing going on?? they may or may not even have been aware of it, but like. they're kind of a matched set, you know? Frequently purchased together, do not separate them

#this is based more on vibe then evidence but like. boy oh boy is there evidence #you could look at how the Lovers archetype affected Raven and Lloyd when they got split up and then compare that to Michael spiraling #idk. obviously there are a lot of factors at play here but like. sort of chronologically- #they were trapped in the tower together and had to stay sane for each other. making up games together. trying not to crack. #she was his first friend. you know? #they show up to the dinner party together. they bring wine and scotch! (she taught him to drink) #(they used to laugh and drink and party together until suddenly they couldn't anymore) #jill takes the chance to admit to lloyd that she worries about michael. to which!!!! lloyd says!! at least he has you #jill and michael's well being has ALWAYS been interwoven #or like. or like. in act 6 in the final battle jill follows her own melody line bc she's ticked and this is personal #compared with michael who doesn't have a personal stake in this other than the playhouse crew being involved! #michael doesn't have his own melody. he sings to the love and a dream playhouse tune bc that's his motivation for fighting #UNTIL jill is in danger!! when Michael jumps in to save her he finally gets his own musical flavor in the song! then it's banjo boy time #idk. there was a lot of loss and multiple different traumas Michael went through after that. but suddenly he's alone again #at least he's not stuck in a swamp or a tower for years but. he's all the way back to square one. he's alone. he doesn't cope well with that #and while he misses all of them he really misses jill. at the worst of it he doesn't even want to reunite with lloyd and david #but like. he's in a real bad way. he's hit rock bottom and he carries so much guilt over not being able to help jill #to the point where even hearing that there's hope is crushing to him bc it means that there Was something he could've done #and he did nothing #he's devastated all over again not just bc he lost her. but bc he abandoned her. he failed her. #we don't have nearly as much about how jill is doing but we do have her song titled Michael about their early relationship #and the way they rely on each other #go listen to that and tell me the narrative wouldn't just eat that up and link their destinies and mental stability #they spent years in level five. you can't tell me they got away with all this unscathed #i definitely think losing son mi was a big part of why michael spiraled but this essay is about jill and michael specifically #hdhjdfhrjrdgtsg how long can post go (challenge mode) #pebble speaks #shaperaverse

[poorlittleyaoyao]

Far be it from me to defend wwx, who has already a lot of unhinged fans lol, but being dismissive is really his way to cope lol. I know that can piss off how he treats jzx after his death, but it's his way to dealt with it. "ass full head empty" is his motto lmao. He is described as someone who doesn't cling to things, who is always smiling, and he literally does it! In his second life he doesn't linger in the past, he doesn't think about jyl or wq. And when he is forced to confront his past (es jc) he is like "ahahahah, he isn't that great so it doesn't matter!". It's not a great way to cope, but it doesn't have to be lol. Also this helps the narrative, so wwx can have his love story with lz without problems, lol. Anyway yeah in the novel everybody is worse than in the drama, they are assholes, in particular wwx and lz

That's the sense I got about him--I remember seeing a good meta once about how WWX doesn't remember anything (a blessing because he can happily move on, a curse because he doesn't recognize patterns or consequences until it's too late) whereas JGY doesn't forget anything (a blessing because it keeps him organized and lets him anticipate and adjust, a curse because he can never truly move on), and I love that for them as narrative foils.

I don't agree with it helping the narrative, though, at least in terms of what I like in a story. WWX's total lack of reflection--and the fact that this goes unquestioned, as opposed to this being something he needs to work on--makes the romance with LWJ feel cheap to me. The romance is the core of the story, and either those traumatic events mattered to it or they didn't. If they mattered, they need to have a lasting impact. If they didn't matter, why did they even happen? Why did JYL and WQ give their lives for a guy who doesn't even care enough about them to think about them once in awhile? I'd much rather read LWJ gently helping WWX unpack all of that as part of them coming to truly know each other than have Wangxian bouncing around with a disjointed cutesy romance on a pile of unacknowledged corpses.

#extra critical having just read Harrow the Ninth #where the entire STORY is because Harrow refuses to remember the traumatic loss of her loved one #and though her dysfunctional coping mechanisms are understandable she ultimately has to confront the fact that this happened #and then choose what she wants to do about that #and I loved that so much more than if she'd just been handed a new slate

[bumblingbabooshka]

A Star Trek Novel called “Pocket Full of Lies” really has NO business going so hard.

#IMPORTANT NOTE: I only read Star Trek Novels as they pertain to Tuvok #so I have no idea about how the novel reads overall #but the Tuvok storyline????? Damn. DAMN dude. #what if you were suffering from a loss that affected and changed you so deeply that even those closest to you no longer recognized you? #and that change is symbolized and mirrored through this alternate reality version of your best friend who in YOUR universe also no longer #understands you...could never understand you...but THIS version of her is familiar. You can share each other's pain. You understand one #another in a way no one else does. And what if your inner grief/turmoil #was symbolized again in this alternate timeline by a constant war that's been raging f #for thousands of years with no end in sight no matter how hard you fight. The fighting in the end means nothing. The violence means nothing. #The death means nothing bc when you die another will take its place. #'His death was meaningless like this is meaningless' you think initially only to find that NO! It's the holding on to the PAIN that's #meaningless. It's the SUFFERING that's meaningless. #Tuvok being sent to convince ALT Janeway to give herself up to Starfleet but being unable to do so because he sympathizes and empathizes #with her...because (on another level) she isn't ready to give up the war (the suffering grief) and neither is he because to them the war #and the pain has BECOME the people they're grieving (Elieth & Daughter) so to give up feeling pain is to give up feeling love #but that isn't TRUE!!! and we see that in how Tuvok actually rebukes the affections and concerns of those attempting to reach out to him #and offer love...in reality this 'protection' or 'vigilance' is unhealthy and closes them off from healing and love. Bad coping mechanism. #Initially Tuvok pushes away everyone he comes across but through helping Janeway he helps himself and is finally able to take steps towards #acceptance in the purging of his anger on Dayne (Alt Janeway's husband who willfully allowed her daughter to die) #and we can see this in his outlook on how to move forward. In the beginning he's like 'I will never heal from this and I'll just live the #rest of my life never feeling safe or at peace.' <- defining and living his life according to the pain he's suffered #but in the end he has a more hopeful outlook...he sees that there are people around who want to be there for him and that he wants to lean #on...maybe forgiveness doesn't mean literally forgiving those who caused you to suffer but instead finally letting go of that suffering #and living according to joy...friendship..two hands clasped together. love. #novel experiences #Tuvok #Janeway #st voyager #oh ALSO the fact that Janeway always manages to survive being turned from a good thing to a very bittersweet thing for Tuvok bc his own #son was not so lucky...-chefs kiss-

[problematic-poetess]

You were my person.

You are my person.

You’ll always be my person.

The person i could say anything and everything to.

You were unparalleled.

You were amazing to me in every way.

you were my best-friend.

You are my best-friend.

I’ll never stop imagining what life would be like if you were here.

I’ll never stop wishing you were here.

I’ll never stop remembering every second we spent together.

I’ll never stop loving you.

I’ll never stop missing you.

#poetry #poets corner #friendship #my poem #original poem #poem #poems and poetry #short poem #losing someone #losses #coping with grief #grief/mourning #loss of a friend #losing a loved one #death of a loved one #death of a friend

[dracaelus]

From Magneto (2023) #1

#he's so unwell #about his loved ones #why are all my faves like this #oh you don't know how to cope healthily with grief and loss??? GET BLORBOFIED!! #magneto #max eisenhardt #magneto (2023) #drac panels