#creativityofmymind

[ajokeformur-ray]

Do u any advice for newbie self shippers

Hello, my love!💖

I apologise for the fact that this has been sitting in my inbox for a few days. I’ve been digesting your question, as strange as it may sound, and I’ve been waiting until I have the exact words and answers for you. I would hate to hit ‘post’ and then realise that I’ve worded something incorrectly or answered you improperly. You deserve the most fleshed out answer I can give you and so I took my time with this one. I hope that the following is worth the wait!😊

The most important piece of advice I can give you is to have fun. Self-shipping is, at its very core, self-love, self-acceptance and making yourself happy. Even if you can’t love yourself actively and consciously, by loving your F/O (fictional other/one) you’re able to indirectly love on yourself. By this, what I mean is: How many times have you eaten because you know a certain character would want you to? How many times have you showered because you know a character would want you to? There’s no right or wrong way to self-ship, it’s all about what you want and need! As long as you’re happy, you’re self-shipping properly!

Something else which springs to mind is that there are many different ways to self-ship. I have sixteen F/Os and some are romantic, some are platonic, two are parental, and some don’t have a label because I only know that I love them and no other definition presented itself and that’s okay! Most F/Os assign their own roles, so to speak, but sometimes you can choose how you self-ship, whether they’re friends, a family member, or a romantic partner. It’s okay to switch roles or for a friend to turn into a family member or for a romantic F/O to become a friend, and it’s more than okay to play around to find what is best for you!

Get together items which directly help you to connect to your F/O. Make a playlist, get a journal to fill with relationship milestones about the two of you, get some merchandise or something which is a physical connection between the two of you etc. things like this will really help you to connect to your F/O and to feel them with you! This leads me onto my next point: remember that your F/O loves you for you! They are so so proud of you! There is a different version of your F/O in the minds of everyone who knows them and the version in your head is yours and they cannot be touched or taken away from you by other people. They love you for you and they’re with you every step of the way! They will be anything and everything you need them to be, and there’s nothing you could ever do which would make them love you any less or be any less proud of you.

As I said, there’s truly no right or wrong way to self-ship and it’s whatever you want or need it to be! All F/Os are valid and good and I’m so so proud of you for reaching out and welcome to the self-shipping community! There’s more of us than you know!😊 if you have any more questions then don’t be afraid to reach out to me, or search to ‘self-shipping’ tag on my blog - there’s lots there! I’m sending you love, hugs, and lots of F/O cuddles!💖

#creativityofmymind #requests closed #self-shipping #thoughts #advice

[ajokeformur-ray]

Do give shout outs? If so can you give me one? Pls?

Hi. angel!🥰

I typically only give shout outs to blogs within the fandoms I write for, but you are someone I’ve helped out a few times already so I see no reason to not do the same for you now!💛

If anyone is interested in The Silmarillion or ACOTAR, then please consider giving this blog a follow! The admin of the blog isn’t interested in sharing F/Os, but they put lots of care and attention into their posts. Their about page can be found here.

I’ve used appropriate tags and I hope that this helps you, my love. Thank you for reaching out to me, and I wish you all the best with your self-shipping blog!❤

#acotar #a court of thrones and roses #the silmarillion #tolkien #self-shipping #creativityofmymind #requests closed

[ajokeformur-ray]

How to start a self ship blog? Like should you introduce your f/o? Or how you both met?

Hello, darling!🥰💗

There is no right or wrong way to start a self-ship blog, angel. I don’t have a self-shipping blog myself, though sometimes (less so recently for several reasons) I’ll make such posts, but I’ll do my best to help you out. I hope that something here is what you need for it to be!💕

Self-shipping is self-love, self-care and self-acceptance at its very core, which means that your self-shipping blog is anything you want it to be. You can have whatever theme you want, whatever colour scheme you want, and it’s all about you. Make it as homely and as cosy and as yourself as you can, though you can also make it about your F/O(s) so that they are completely ingrained within the entire blog. Home isn’t always a place, sometimes it’s a person and that’s especially true of F/Os.😊💚

Aesthetics aside, however, I can recommend the following things to do to help you to create your self-ship blog:

Within your bio, have your status as a self-shipper listed, as well as whether or not you’re comfortable to share your F/Os (you can either list these in your bio or create a Carrd which you then put a link to in your bio or in a pinned post. Carrd is a platform I’ve noticed lots of self-shipping blogs use).

Your first post should definitely list your F/Os and if you have any ship names together (for example, my self-ship with Joker is ‘Erileck’; a combination of Erika and Fleck), and your general rules of interaction - the types of people you will and won’t interact with etc. This is called a DNI/BYF list and again, this can be put on your Carrd).

If you feel comfortable, your first post can also include information about yourself and your F/O; how you met, why you love them, why they love you, the things you do together, etc. 

Follow other self-shipping blogs but please make sure to check their DNI/BYF list. It’s generally safe to follow them if you fit their criteria, though every single blog is different! If you feel brave enough, you can ask them to promote your blog or to give you a shout out; in return, offer them the same! Generally, following the blogs they follow (again, check the DNI/BYF list) is a safe bet! Like-minded people stick together.

These are only guidelines, my love, and they’re not set in stone. It really is whatever you most want it to be, and as long as you’re happy and comfortable with it, then that’s the main thing! I’m so sorry that it took me a few days to reply to this and I hope that something here is useful to you. I’m more than happy to discuss this with you further so please don’t be afraid to reach out to me again; I’ll do my best to be more timely with my responses to you!🥰💖

#self-shipping #thoughts #advice #creativityofmymind #requests closed

[ajokeformur-ray]

I always wanna feel comfortable with myself enough to indulge in fanfic and self ship. I thought it was weird and selfish to ship myself with characters i like. I would feel self conscious about it. So thanks again. 2/2

Hello, darling!💛 I hope that one day you’re able to indulge in fanfic and self-shipping as much as you wish to; it’s absolutely not weird. It’s a very healthy and normal coping mechanism and more people do it than you would think. I’ve been a self-shipper for my whole life, even though I only really learned the name for it about a year ago. It’s not selfish, either. At its core, self-shipping is self-acceptance, self-love and making yourself happy; how could that ever be selfish? Let yourself indulge, my love.💚 Life’s too short not to! You’re welcome, angel, and if you ever have any questions please don’t hesitate to reach out to me or to someone else. I hope that you’re well!🥰🌷💗

#self-shipping #creativityofmymind #requests closed

[ajokeformur-ray]

Thanks for the advice

You’re welcome, my love. I hope that there’s something there which was helpful for you, and don’t be afraid to reach out to me or other sef-shippers if you ever need any other help!🥰💖

#creativityofmymind #requests closed