Storytime! This was my mom's Victrola. It's an old-timey record player. She died recently and I decided I wanted to keep this. Recently I found a place for it in my house.
This old thing belonged to my uncle, my mother's eldest brother, before he passed away in the 1990s. My mom claimed it and I used to listen to old records on it when I was a teenager. There are heaps of records my uncle collected--primarily orchestral pieces, big band, swing, and of course polka. My favorite EXTREMELY CREEPY polka record was called the "Open the Door Polka." I listened to it multiple times with family and friends and wtf-ed over its weirdness. I even made a cassette-tape recording of it by holding my boom box up to the record. Because, ya know, we were very technologically advanced in those days.
I was just going through the records, finally incorporating them into storage spaces in my house (even bought a new shelf to put some of them on). As I leafed through them to try to find any order and find homes for orphaned records, I was hoping to come across my old fave "Open the Door Polka." Well, I found it.
IT'S BROKEN.
The record is cracked!!
I'm so disappointed. I wanted to listen to my old fave and be creeped out all over again.
Feel free to listen to it as there are certainly surviving recordings. CW: Creepy man harassing and pressuring a woman to open her door to him.
Let all also not forget the weird comments george had made on the topic of consent and just sexual things in general. Clearly he refuses to take accountability of what actually happened and instead wants to make excuses (shit ones). This is just a way for people to understand it’s much different after also knowing his previous comments he’s made and that he’s genuinely just a fucking creep.
A clip of George on a podcast talking about sexual harassment and consent.
Screenshot of a post from a girl name andi who came forth about the abuse she endured throughout her and punz’s relationship.
Screenshot from punz’s Twitter replying to the post andi had made. In the post he confirms that George did in fact say that.
Fucking weird thing to say George. He’s a creep and stop trying to deny it just cause you wanna watch your favourite mcyt.
Okay, Men/Males/AMAB of Tumblr - here's what NOT to do.
Do not approach a female human being (AFAB or otherwise) - who is with their family (actually just don't do this in general) - sit next to her table while trying to give her compliments she doesn't want, ask to share her serving of soup, tell her 'oh I always wanted a bigger woman as a wife, they're sterner', when she declines, and then proceed to STARE AT HER FOR THE ENTIRE TIME you're there, and then, when you leave, tell her she's pretty and then RUB YOUR FUCKING MEAL RECEIPT AGAINST HER CHEEK with a creepy smile.
God I need several showers and some bleach.
THIS. This is why women/females/AFAB don't feel safe with men/males/AMAB! Because lots of you pull shit like this - WHILE OTHERS JUST WATCH AND DO NOTHING! (like my goddamn father).
I got to have a panic attack in a restaurant bathroom this afternoon. I did not enjoy it.
DON'T DO THIS. DO. NOT. DO. THIS.
It is not 'cute', it is not 'suave', it is not a fucking COMPLIMENT!
It's fucking CREEPY and GROSS!
And if you see another man/male doing this to someone FUCKING STOP THEM!!
he said he loves my vibe and 'chaotic energy'? a faculty member at my uni? and it made me So unsettled and uncomfortable? and it makes me feel like I'm overreacting because... it's just a compliment? but it felt... weirdly invasive? you, sir, do not know me well enough to say that about me. you do not have the right to say ANYTHING like that to me.
it gave me the worst ick. and i hate hate hate that I'm doubting my own feelings? my very own gut feelings? that maybe he meant well and I shouldn't be feeling this way? i hate that I'm unconsciously just blaming myself for feeling the way I feel. making up EVERY POSSIBLE explanation in my head for why he said what he said and telling myself I'm overreacting.
"You think you are about to possess what men have hopelessly yearned for throughout the ages: the soul of an innocent, trusting, dependent child inside the opulent body of a radiantly lovely woman."
I don't know...there's just something creepy about men who go after Black, Brown, and multiracial women because they want to fantasize about certain "traits" getting passed down to a daughter.
And it's always a daughter they're fantasizing about. Never a son.
you ever notice how a lot of 'red flags' are symptoms of mental illness or neurodivergence that, if the flagged is willing, are easily assuaged by respectful communication? where 'protecting' oneself from someone just trying to explain makes things way worse?
I have all these red flags, but no flagpoles to fly them from. But you can't see that without getting closer, and I know that's risky. Just have a little curiosity, I guess.