#cuban immigrant

[inkskinned]

Genuine question, because I don't know a lot about the topic and you're:

If someone identifies as non-binary and genderfluid, which from what I've gathered means something like "human" instead of male or female, doesn't that imply that women are not humans , like whole complete people with richer inner lives? And why is a dislike for (performative) femininity combined with a preference for things that are stereotypically associated with maleness an indicator that one is genderfluid? Does that mean a woman is only a woman if she loves to do make-up, wants to be a mother, only wears skirts, dresses and high heels, shaves daily, is always kind and never angry, has long hair, hates to get dirty and so on? Because I have never met a woman who's exactly like that in my life, but plenty who liked gaming, sports, being loud, opposed to shaving & make-up, who wore pants every day.

I do not believe this is a genuine question, but I'll answer it as if it was, just in case other people have to deal with this, and would like someone who is patient enough to give them the words. The argument you're making here is something that already stems from a deep logical fallacy in the beginning argument. You assume "If you are neither A nor B, and instead C, you think that A cannot be C."

It is a logical fallacy to say "X implies Y" when it does not do so. By this logic, I also believe men are not human. By this logic, I believe only nb people are human.

Some - but not all - rectangles are squares. Some - but not all - animals are dogs. Some humans are nb.

I have given no information about how I present, nor my interests. I am not going to give you that information, because it's irrelevant. What I need you to understand is that, again, you are making the incorrect logical assumption that "If a person dislikes X and likes Y, they must be Z." For all you know, I dislike performative masculinity and like stereotypically feminine preferences.

You then assume your own statement is correct and move forward with your logic as if I had debated you. This is not a "genuine question" about how nb people work, this is assuming being nb is based on a series of preferences.

As a teacher, I do think it's important to tell you: even if this is coming from a genuinely confused place: you are conducting bad research. You begin with an inherently flawed question, as it biased and assumes a position I must defend against - "why don't you see women as people?" Then you make logical conclusions about my personhood and experiences and ask inflammatory questions as if you were debating me, which I am not interested in doing.

If you were my student, and genuinely curious about how nb people see gender, I'd have no trouble with you asking an out nb content creator. If you're really trying to collect information, ask honestly, without personal bias. Here's some examples of what a genuine question would have looked like: - Do your preferences play into your gender identity? - How has being nb informed how you see femininity and masculinity? - What tools do you use to express your gender?

You are mistaking gender expression and gender roles as being part of my identity.

You are most crucially mistaking being nonbinary as being part of the binary and having to exist "in opposition" to other genders in order for it to "make sense". One of the most freeing things about realizing I was nb is that I don't exist in opposition to anything - and also that all gender works similarly.

Gender is a describing word, and this can be confusing for some people. In general, we tend to learn describing words in binary - short/tall, old/young, kind/mean. Therefore, there are (many) people who think - feminine/masculine must be oppositional. Gender is also a feeling word - and again, these are words that can be taught in opposition to each other. Hungry/sated, happy/sad, feminine/masculine.

But because gender is such a rare type of word - feeling and describing - it exists outside of binary. It exists more like art exists.

Green can exist in opposition to red, but it also just exists as its own color. Blue is a part of green, but it is also a part of yellow - blue is still its own color, and yellow is still its own color, and green is still its own color. One painting titled "still-life with fruit" may be a series of vague colors and boxes. Another may be a hyper-realistic singular plum. They are both how the artist expresses their personal vision of the fruit. They might even be by the same artist! And although we may compare them, they are not opposites.

One song by Hozier is not in opposition to one song by Britney Spears. They are different styles, not oppositional styles. You may choose to see them as oppositional - but that is your personal opinion, and not fact. And some people may feel and experience those songs as being actually incredibly in-line with each other.

This is why we say: gender is a spectrum. That all gender roles are made up. Personality, interests, and experiences may shape how someone sees and feels their gender, but it does not define how they see and feel their gender.

When we question gender roles and gender expression like this, it tends to make people upset. People like me tend to make people upset. So much bigotry is based on the lie that "feminine" and "masculine" are oppositional. Opposition is rigid and important - it keeps white hegemonic structures in power. I don't have time or space in this post to talk about how rigid gender roles/enforced gender expression rules are not just sexist but also racist, classist, ableist, homophobic, and bigoted; but I really recommend you do the research on how disruption of the gender binary might put the patriarchy at risk.

The thing you feel trapped by - that "being a woman" is a complicated series of rules - is exactly the kind of thing a nonbinary person would agree with you about. We have to fight hard to be recognized for what is a basic truth about our identity - of course we don't believe that gender expression is equivalent to gender identity.

And truth be told... I think you kind of knew that. I think you kind of knew all of this. I am going to hope that you are young. I'll tell you this: I was raised by someone who was a far-right extremist catholic asshole. I certainly didn't have the research/knowledge/exposure to interrogate this stuff honestly until I was probably 23.

I am so much happier now. I hope one day you get the same opportunities as I had. I hope you choose to move away from bigotry.

love u anyway. all this in kindness only.

#to be deleted #do i accidentally give my short lesson on gender here? yeah #<3 in this u can tell exactly the age that i taught for 15 years lmao #but also like. #yeah you got me.... i have never met a woman before and i totally think women are only fembots #meanwhile every person who has ever read my writing: #every 3rd week this bitch is on her bullshit about how unfair gender rules for women are #this is actually more to help other nb people whom i KNOW get questions like this #than it is to inform the anon #who like v clearly is not doing this in good faith #this is just like the 10th one i got like this #that first logical jump of - you think ur not male or female but human so therefore #women aren't people #was just SO wild .... like #yeah!!! that's totally a normal thing to assume! #do you think people who are like ''well yeah im from america #but i wouldnt consider myself to be from any particular state'' #are actually saying ''i don't think states are american'' #hell when i say #im cuban but i obvi grew up in america im just the daughter of an immigrant #nobody is like -- well. raquel. that means u think no americans live in cuba huh #anyway love u bye #okay to reblog #!! #love u

[republikkkanorcs]

His father is a major speaker and fundraiser for the GOP on the lecture circuit.

#republican assholes #ted cruz is the zodiac killer #Rafael Eduardo Cruz #immigrants #chain migrants #canadian Cubans

[willgrahamsbecoming]

Brother every time I open your blog I shed a tear. This is a masterpiece (no fucking clue what it means)

pitraúl <3<3 i love him. he jumpscares me every time i open my blog

#idk if its more or less funny with context #but the context is that raúl esparza and pitbull are the same person with Very different vibes #american singers/actors born to cuban immigrant parents #ask #long-in-the-tooth

[karokawwo]

i'm sorry i barely see the resemblance

#maybe that's just me #idk #i remember i really liked miguel bc he's a cuban immigrant like me #and also he kinda reminds me of my dad

[fizzytoo]

rethinking how my sims would’ve expressed their cultures 😰

#bc rosa is filipino and danny is armenian. would they have spoken their languages at home? #would their kids know it? #danny’s mother is an immigrant and she would’ve brought him up w the language #so i think he’s speak armenian at home #adrien’s father is cuban. but he wasn’t around after adrien became a child. how much spanish would adrien know? is he fluent? #GIRL HELP #i’ve already established these sims 😭 why am i thinking about this now #*fizzyspeaks

[electrificata]

wild when old white people are talking to me and they think like "i am talking to white american woman time to talk shit about immigrants stealing jobs" and i am unstoppably compelled to tell them that my great grandpa worked his way over here on a shipping vessel and then just walked off the boat and lived here "illegally" for literal decades working and paying taxes and having a family and only became a citizen because there was an amnesty period under fucking ronald reagan.

#my 87 yr old neighbor is definitely crazy #like a combo of organic-original-homegrown crazy and aging crazy #and for the most part i just kinda let her say stuff but this one thing i refuse to let go #literally her partner was scottish her parents were cuban immigrants. she's just being a dick

[sun-3-160]

the only really important headcanon i have about adam is that hes from maryland (this goes along with my theory that saw takes place in jersey). why? well its because he is.

like look me in the eyes and tell me he wouldnt show up to the jigsaw survivors anonymous meeting wearing one of these bad boys

#like his parents are cuban immigrants but he was born in MD yk? #whenever i picture him in my head hes ALWAYS in the one on the right but i think hed also rock with the crab #saw

[sol-draws-sometimes]

Bilingual people, how do you it!!!

How do you sustain a full conversation in English….

Growing up in a bilingual (English/Spanish) city with bilingual friends really messed me up for interacting with people outside my city.

I have recently made monolingual English speaking friends and I CAN’T DO IT MAN!

Fuck, staying home for college+COVID really did make me reliant on Spanish/Spanglish

I can text/write in English with no problems… but SPEAK… over for me! I didn’t even speak this much Spanglish growing up!!! I’m sure I did speak more than I realized, but fuck, having casual conversations fully in English is rough. I totally have the vocab(honestly my English is better than Spanish), it’s just, I slip into assuming people know Spanish when they don’t. And then my brain’s already in Spanglish mode, which is hard to turn off. I’ve started responding to my teachers in Spanish when asking questions or answering small things, WHICH I CERTAINLY DIDN’T DO BEFORE. So uh yah… speaking hard, props to all my multilingual folks out there.

#bilingual #bilingüe #multilinguism #multilingual #polygot #language #immigrants #latinos #Hispanic #latine culture #english #latinx #america #united states #cuban american #caribbean #asian #sol talks #my post #it me! #(not asian but they tend to be the other bilingual culture in the US) #any other billguals relate? #or have a different experience #I’m sure most people have the opposite experience of never using their mother language #or getting good at not using it because they need to assimilate/literally people won’t understand you #doesn’t need to be Engish/Spanish #you mother tounge and country tounge(idk we’re gonna gonwith that) can be different! #but yah very much immigrant/child of immigrants(me) experience #I tagged latinos/Hispanic but you don’t have to be Hispanic #I caught myself doing this AGAIN and Injust had to post about it

[milfbro]

#i god randomly chosen for a search one time but the security guy looked at me and went nah you’re fine lmao#I’m so efficient and also apparently I don’t look like I would have drugs#sorry alice maybe you just look sus @adorablecrab

ASDFGHJKL sorry I have the face of a drug dealer I'm too red pilled for airports

#maybe the fact that I enjoy hanging out at airport gates makes people think I'm suspiciously chill #but my theory is that they think I look cuban #cubans all tell me I look cuban so #they think I'm probably smuggling something #I do love me a knick knack. very humiliating when the airport guy pulled a ioio out of my bag and laughed #the other time they looked through my bag and stole my toothpaste cause it was too big boohoo. #I was also pulled up by immigration and also one time they patted me down. its just like that #no matter how organized I am

[mariolopezgoicoechea]

@house_of_momo does well what it promises. That is handmade #Momos (Himalayan #dumplings). This dumpling of Tibetan origin has become widely popular as a #streetfood in countries such as Nepal, India and Bhutan. Here in Dalston, the menu is made up of four dumpling options: #SteamedMomo, #KotheyMomo, #JholMomo, and #ChilliMomo. I’ve never had dumplings like the ones at House of Momo. They were soft, plump and flavoursome. They were also on the right side of juicy. Neither gooey, nor dry. I also had a glass of #vegan #mangolassi to go with my meal. That, too, was a nice surprise. I’m used to sweet lassi and my taste has got used to it as a result. House of Momo’s was heavy on the fruit, which I appreciated, as it was a nice contrast with the spiciness coming from both Momos and fried rice. I highly recommend this restaurant. #Cuban #Immigrant #Londoner https://www.austinmacauley.com/book/cuban-immigrant-and-londoner #London #Londres #Londinense #visitbritain #visitengland #visitlondon #streetphotography #urbanlandscape #photography #VSCO (at Dalston, Hackney) https://www.instagram.com/p/ClHifpdM0Eu/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

#momos #dumplings #streetfood #steamedmomo #kotheymomo #jholmomo #chillimomo #vegan #mangolassi #cuban #immigrant #londoner #london #londres #londinense #visitbritain #visitengland #visitlondon #streetphotography #urbanlandscape #photography #vsco

[rattusn0rvegicus]

ok. Another thing that bothers me about that guilt trippy food post. People acting like vegetables (avocados etc) are inherently less ethical than meat sound to me like WASPy white kids who won't eat seasoned veggies because it's too "ethnic" or whatever. Like look. I know I'm just pulling this completely out of my ass and that was NOT the point of the post. But years of going over to other white friends houses and eating boiled/roast unseasoned chicken breasts and mashed potatoes mashed into oblivion with no salt or garlic or seasoning when I grew up with a very hispanic food culture has ruined me and I need an excuse to rant about it

#Like okay I'm a white guy myself but the mainstream white culture approach to food makes me want to jump off a building ahdsjsjfjjdjff #Like why???? Why do you hate vegetables and seasoning so much #I need more irl friends from immigrant families/friends of color tbh bc like visiting friends' families from my 95% white high school #was like. Everyone sitting around like 🧍‍♂️🧍‍♀️🧍‍♀️🧍 like they didn't even know each other and eating overdone noodles and unseasoned #alfredo sauce out of a can or smth #And me who comes from an italian american family that has been marinating in cuban+spanish culture for 100 years was just like #Ok why is no one talking also this food is terrible and I have to pretend to like it. Is my family just weird or what #and then when I moved to [current city] and started volunteering and like. hanging out with Black ppl more it was like a relevation of OH. #THAT'S JUST MAINSTREAM WHITE AMERICAN CULTURE OKAY OKAY #Like going over to my mom's family's houses vs my dad's family's is a night and day difference #My dad's family just stands around and like awkwardly asks you 1 question about work and then feeds you boiled green beans #My mom's family is like ASHAHSJSJDJDJSJDJDJSS LET'S TALK VERY LOUDLY ABOUT EVERYTHING #WOULD YOU LIKE SOME DEVILLED CRAB? SOME DEEP FRIED TURKEY? SOME ROAST VEGETABLES? SOME LASAGNA? SOME ARROZ CON POLLO?SOME TRES LECHES CAKE? #EAT EAT EAT EAT HAVE SECONDS YOU SHOULD EATSOME MORE LET'S BICKER IN THE KITCHEN FOR TWO HOURS #I LOVE THEM LMAO I MISS THEM

[atticus13]

libertad a través de los puertas. 🇨🇺

Freedom Tower

Downtown Miami, Miami, FL

March 12, 2023

#freedom tower #downtown miami #miami #florida #cuban revolution #1959 #immigration history #florida history #architecture #black and white #iphone #photography

[manwalksintobar]

My Father In English // Richard Blanco

First half of his life lived in Spanish: the long syntax of las montañas that lined his village, the rhyme of sol with his soul—a Cuban alma—that swayed with las palmas, the sharp rhythm of his machete cutting through caña, the syllables of his canarios that sung into la brisa of the island home he left to spell out the second half of his life in English— the vernacular of New York City sleet, neon, glass— and the brick factory where he learned to polish steel twelve hours a day. Enough to save enough to buy a used Spanish-English dictionary he kept bedside like a bible—studied fifteen new words after his prayers each night, then practiced them on us the next day: Buenos días, indeed, my family. Indeed más coffee. Have a good day today, indeed— and again in the evening: Gracias to my bella wife, indeed, for dinner. Hicistes tu homework, indeed? La vida is indeed difícil. Indeed did indeed become his favorite word, which, like the rest of his new life, he never quite grasped: overused and misused often to my embarrassment. Yet the word I most learned to love and know him through: indeed, the exile who tried to master the language he chose to master him, indeed, the husband who refused to say I love you in English to my mother, the man who died without true translation. Indeed, meaning: in fact/en efecto, meaning: in reality/de hecho, meaning to say now what I always meant to tell him in both languages: thank you/gracias for surrendering the past tense of your life so that I might conjugate myself here in the present of this country, in truth/así es, indeed.

#poetry #richard blanco #America #immigration #American poetry #Cuban-American poetry #Spanish #translation #indeed #fathers & sons #Cuba #learning English #immigrant songs

[qbdatabase]

Beth Kramer is a “townie” who returns to her sophomore year after having endured a year of judgment from her roommate, Sarah. But Sarah Brunson knows there’s more to that story.

Amanda Priya “Spence” Spencer is the privileged daughter of NYC elites, who is reeling from the realization that her family name shielded her from the same fate as Sarah.

Ramin Golafshar arrives at Chandler as a transfer student to escape the dangers of being gay in Iran, only to suffer brutal hazing under the guise of tradition in the boys’ dorms. And Freddy Bello is the senior who’s no longer sure of his future but has fallen hard for Spence and knows he has to stand up to his friends after what happened to Ramin.

At Chandler, the elite boarding school, these five teens are brought together in the Circle, a coveted writing group where life-changing friendships are born—and secrets are revealed. But is the truth enough to change the long-standing culture of abuse at Chandler?

#YA books #YA fiction #mental health rep #daily book #fiction #lgbt fiction #bookblr #lgbtqia #lesbian rep #anxiety rep #trichotillomania rep #Iranian rep #immigrant rep #gay rep #Indian-American rep #Brazilian rep #Cuban-American rep #biracial rep #bisexual rep #Middle Eastern rep #Asian rep #Latinx rep #The Chandler Legacies #Abdi Nazemian

[yaworldchallenge]

🇨🇺 Cuba

Region: Caribbean

Don’t Date Rosa Santos

Author: Nina Moreno

336 pages, published 2019

Original language: English

Native author? Yes

Age: Teen

Blurb:

Rosa Santos is cursed by the sea-at least, that's what they say. Dating her is bad news, especially if you're a boy with a boat. 

But Rosa feels more caught than cursed. Caught between cultures and choices. Between her abuela, a beloved healer and pillar of their community, and her mother, an artist who crashes in and out of her life like a hurricane. Between Port Coral, the quirky South Florida town they call home, and Cuba, the island her abuela refuses to talk about. 

As her college decision looms, Rosa collides-literally-with Alex Aquino, the mysterious boy with tattoos of the ocean whose family owns the marina. With her heart, her family, and her future on the line, can Rosa break a curse and find her place beyond the horizon?

Other reps:

Genres: #contemporary #romance #family #immigrant

My thoughts:

Cuban-American girl wants to study abroad in Cuba, is caught between cultures, and her family who fled the island years ago who will certainly disagree. And some romance with a boy in there somewhere.

Review to come.

Link to buy

#cuba #ya world challenge #booklr #books to read #don't date rosa santos #nina moreno #contemporary #romance #family #immigrant #caribbean #latina #cuban-american #latinx books

[liliflorida]

パスポートが...🛂

ずっと航空券の検索ばかりに集中していて、家族のパスポートの有効期限を確認することを忘れていました…。(笑) 私と子供達の日本のパスポートは去年更新しているので大丈夫ですが、夫と子供達のアメリカのパスポートが期限切れ状態。我が家は夫がキューバ生まれ育ち、私が日本生まれ育ち、子供達がアメリカ生まれです。それぞれ持っているパスポートが少し違うので、下記に書いてみます。 夫のキューバのパスポートの表紙 ↓ 夫：*キューバの市民権＋アメリカの市民権、日本国籍は持っていません。→ 持っているパスポートは、キューバ＋アメリカ。*現時点(2024年4月1日)で、1971年1月1日以降に渡米しているキューバ人は、パスポートを保持することでキューバへの出入国が出来ます。 私：日本国籍＋アメリカの永住権(グリーンカード)、キューバの市民権やアメリカの市民権は持っていません。→…

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