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antikosm · 4 months

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Aro/Ace Terms Masterlist

Please let me know if I forgot anything

NOTE: There is a distinct difference between someone's personal orientation versus how they feel about sexuality/romanticism as a whole. Someone who's sex/romance repulsed may be in favour of open sexual/romantic expression or even vice versa (shoutout to @sowearecleariamhere for informing me of this!)

Types of attraction

Sexual - I wanna have sex with that

Romantic - I want to date that

Sensual - I want to hug that

Platonic - I want to be friends with that

Platonic crushes do exist. They are called “squishes”. You go through the same process of having a romantic or sexual crush but instead of landing them in bed, you’re on the floor at 2am with pizza rolls, Shrek in the background, talking about eldritch monstrosities (or whatever your shared interest is)

Aesthetic - that looks so heckin’ cool/pretty I love it

Intellectual - the desire to engage with another in an intellectual manner, i.e. having a conversation, picking their brain, and finding out how they think

Terms describing degree of attraction

Aromantic - lack of romantic attraction

Asexual - lack of sexual attraction

Aplatonic - lack of platonic attraction

Aroace - lack of both sexual and romantic attraction

Demi - attraction only forms once a strong emotional bond has been formed

Grey/gray - rarely/seldom experiences attraction

Allosexual - someone who experiences sexual attraction

I think I’ve also heard/seen it referred to as ‘arosexual’ but that’s honestly a bit confusing

Alloromantic - someone who experiences romantic attraction

I personally shorten both of those to “allo” (pronounced ‘aloe’)

Apothiosexual - sex-repulsed

Apothioromantic - romance-repulsed

Apothiaroace - often shortened to just ‘apothi’. In addition to being aroace, apothis are repulsed by romantic/sexual scenes, items, displays, etc. to varying degrees

Sex-neutral and sex-positive/favourable aces exist as well

Not all of us have the same level of comfort with sexual and romantic activities so please check. I mean that applies to everyone anyway, but please check and don’t assume that just because someone is aro/ace, that doesn’t mean they are sex/romance repulsed

Queerplatonic - Queerplatonic typically refers to a relationship that bends the lines between a romantic relationship and a non-romantic relationship. A queerplatonic relationship (QPR) often goes beyond what is socially acceptable for a platonic relationship but does not fit the typical notion of a romantic relationship.

Alterous attraction - a type of emotional attraction to someone that isn’t entirely romantic or platonic.

Chastity - actively refraining from sexual activities. This is NOT part of the ace/aro spectrum, though it is a common assumption when someone says they are ace/aro. Thankfully we’re getting a bit more representation in media now so it’s not as common of an assumption as it used to be, but it’s still there, especially in those communities.

An absolute FANTASTIC addition by @heyftinally in case anyone doesn't see the repost

Gonna expand on sex favorable/neutral/repulsed, since this is a masterlist after all: - Sex favorable - regardless of your sexual orientation, you personally want to engage in sexual activity with someone (significant other, one night stand, friends with benefits, etc) - Sex neutral - if you're with someone who wants to engage in sexual activities then you may or may not, depending on a variety of factors, but you have no strong inclinations for or against engaging in sex itself as an activity. Basically it's "alright" Sex repulsed/averse - the idea of personally engaging in sexual activities makes you want to hurl/cry/claw your skin off/spontaneously combust. If someone suggested doing sexual activities together, you would probably vehemently say "No!" before they even finished the question. You would rather do anything else - Sex positive - refers to your attitudes about sex in general. Regardless of where you fall in the above three terms, you recognize that other people want to, and should have the freedom and right to, engage in consensual sexual activities, even if you personally don't like or want those activities. Essentially shorthand for "I respect the right of other adults to have gay sex, have gender-weird sex, have sex with multiple people in and out of monogamous relationships/marriages, and have weird, wild, freaky kinky sex, so long as all participants and consenting adults". You can still personally want zero sex for yourself or think a particular kink is weird/ick, but you can, in tumblr speak, be normal about consenting adults doing consenting adult stuff - Sex negative - conservative purity culture, basically. You think nobody should have sex ever, or at least not until marriage, and when they do it should only be the "right" or "good" kind, as arbitrarily decided by you/society/some collective. You think badly of, look down on, and may even treat badly anyone who doesn't have the "right" kind of sex in your opinion. You are not normal about consenting adults doing consenting adult activities (even though they don't involve you in any way)

A wonderful addition from @overlord-of-chaos Sex aversion is not the same thing as sex repulsed.

If you are sex adverse, you personally have no desire to partake in any of those actions but seeing or knowing other people partake in that doesn't bother you.

Sex repulsion is when you can't stand doing it yourself, seeing/hearing about/knowing that others partake in it, or even just the idea of it.

Microlabels/Terms describing flavour of attraction

Note: -sexual is used for many of these so we don't have to deal with duplicates confusing things. All of these prefixes can be used with -romantic, -sexual, -platonic, and I imagine -alterous as well

Abrosexual - orientation fluctuates between a variety of orientations

Aceflux - similar to abrosexual, but orientation is contained to asexual spectrum

Acespike - someone who is asexual but may experience intense, brief, and random bouts of sexual attraction

Aegosexual - disconnect between oneself and the target of arousal

Amicusromantic/sexual - only experiences romantic attraction to those who they have formed a platonic relationship with (subset of demi)

Angled aroace - the same as oriented, but for those who are demi, grey, flux, etc.

Anthrosexual - someone who is attracted to humans and alterhumans regardless of gender identity/expression

Bellussexual - has interest in the aesthetic/aspects/certain sexual actions, but does not experience sexual attraction or want a sexual relationship

Caedsexual - previously allo, but now ace due to past trauma

Cupiosexual - wanting a sexual relationship but not experiencing sexual attraction

Finsexual/gynesexual - attraction to femininity

Fraysexual - opposite of demi. Attraction dissipates once an emotional connection has been formed

Linsexual - attraction to androgyny

Lithosexual - experiencing sexual attraction but not wanting it to be reciprocated

Loveless Romantic/Lovelessromantic - those who cannot feel love or feel disconnected from love but can feel romantic attraction/don't feel disconnected from the concept of romance

Minsexual/androsexual - attraction to masculinity

Orchid - the opposite of cupio; experiences ____ attraction but has no desire for a relationship of that type

Placiosexual - not wanting to be on the receiving end of sexual activities but wishing to perform them on others

Quiosexual - unable to distinguish between sexual attraction and other forms of attraction

Qui(r)oromantic - inability to distinguish between platonic and romantic attraction

Reciprosexual - not experiencing sexual attraction towards someone until you discover they experience sexual attraction towards you

Requiessexual - similar to caedsexual, but rather than trauma, ace identity originates from a state of emotional exhaustion, usually from a past sexual experience

Oriented aroace - an aromantic asexual (aroace) individual who experiences a form of tertiary attraction, that they feel is significant enough to warrant a place alongside their aroace orientation. (i.e. gay aroace, bi aroace)

Angled aroace - someone who is on the aroace spectrum (grey, demi, fray, etc) who experiences a type of attraction significant enough to stand alongside their aroace orientation

Examples of mixed orientations

Heteroromantic asexual biplatonic

Poly greyromantic pansexual

Apothi abroplatonic

Placiosexual aromantic finplatonic

Aroace cupioplatonic

Pan lithioromantic

Fraysexual biromantic aplatonic

You can get WAY more specific than what these cover, but just to give a general idea

Amatonormativity

Amatonormativity is the assumption that all human beings pursue love or romance, especially by means of a monogamous long-term relationship. The term was coined by Elizabeth Brake, in her book Minimizing Marriage: Marriage, Morality, and the Law (2011).

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acespec-ed · 2 years

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I made a couple of flow charts for the ace and aro spectrums! Not meant to be taken 100% factual- you know yourself better than a basic flowchart. They’re mainly just for fun, though they can also be a good start for anyone questioning!

(Free to use as long as you keep my url on them and aren’t making money off it!)

#asexual #aromantic #acespec #arospec #graysexual #grayromantic #acespike #arospike #aroflux #aceflux #demi #fray #lith #cupio #orchid #apothi #aego #gray #original posts

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gray-ace-space · 6 months

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no judgements here these are all completely morally neutral ways of experiencing it!

@newpath3432 because you suggested the poll

@aegosexual-moments @cat-flavored @apples9 @arlyiahshay @limetimo because you might also be interested

rb for sample size

(especially curious to hear the allos' perspectives)

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foresdxw · 5 months

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cupio; enhypen smau

synopsis; an enhypen social media AU in which the entire nightball team and magic outreach board gets detention and discovers a cute little creature they have to protect, cupio, who has the powers to make their wishes come true. loosely based on the dark moon webcomic and dark blood album by enhypen.

pairings; jake x y/n, niki x oc (!!!), jay x oc, heesung x oc

MASTERLIST

nightball team profiles | magic outreach board profiles

1; day one

2; the prank

3; apologies

4; the forest

send me a message to be added to the taglist

#enhypen #enhypen fluff #enhypen imagines #enhypen smau #enhypen x reader #jake x reader #niki x reader #jay x reader #enhypen fanfiction #enhypen ff #enhypen socmed au #social media au #cupio #cupio masterlist #jake sim x reader #nishimura riki x reader

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batri-jopa · 8 months

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I just read this conversation on reddit about being aegosexual and cupiosexual with a person arguing how you absolutely can not be both at once because those are two totally opposite terms and so how you should not even ask about something that obvious...

Well I love mathematical logic with all my heart but I also am aware how it doesn't always apply to our imperfect real world. Even less to the living people.

In other words: it's just not that simple.

How I see it:

Stage 1: Let's pretend you're planning to have a meal so you look into the fridge. It's full of fresh and potentially tasty products but literally nothing you see makes you want to eat it. Imagining yourself eating any particular thing may even make you feel weird or disgusted. You assume that you're just not hungry [-> you are asexual]

Stage 2: Imagine you see some people eating with pleasure. You're surprised to find out that you actually enjoy looking at them eating their food. Exactly the same food that seemed so unappealing to you before. Later you find out that even thinking about other people eating their meal can be enjoyble. And that all of a sudden it makes you feel hungry. But still - imagining yourself eating exactly the same type of food as them - to you is not appealing at all. The thought of putting yourself literally in their place takes away all the pleasure [->you are aegosexual]

Stage 3: Imagine you are alone and trying to visualise yourself in the act of eating... something. You can not for the life describe what it is, it's totally unspecified thing. And it is not even important. It's the conception of eating process itself that seems so very enjoyable. It makes you feel reeeally hungry. You don't know what you'd like to eat but you're certain that you DO want to eat something good!

Now being wiser after Stage 1 - you decide to go to the biggest grocery store in the area and there you spend a lot of time looking for the best food for your desired meal. But still nothing you find is appealing to you. Even though you are undeniably hungry and you have whole range of options - you can't find anything you'd actually want! You may recognise few things that you think should be potentially tasty - but it doesn't change the fact you'd need to force yourself to put it in your mouth. [->you are cupiosexual. AND still just asexual]

(Confused as hell you fill your stomach with water until you stop feeling hungry)

Aegosexuality is said to be enjoying watching, reading or just imagining things in third person but never including yourself. When consuming media you "cease to exist"

Cupiosexuality is desiring to do some things including yourself... only with nobody specific. There is the longing - but the thought of doing it with any particular person seems not even a bit as appealing as the act itself.

According to mathematical logic there is no direct opposite between "two people that are NOT me" and "me but with NObody specific"

So maybe it is not possible to be like both at once in the same exact moment - but I'm not convinced it can't be taking turns in one person.

#cupiosexual and aegosexual #cupio and aego #cupiosexual #aegosexual #cupio #aego #cupiosexuality #aegosexuality #aego and cupio #aegosexual and cupiosexual #aspec #a spectrum #a spec #asexual #asexual spectrum #acespec #ace spectrum #(yeah I'm still confused as hell. but nobody said it's gonna be easy. no attraction that's for sure)#(a spectrum is wiiiiiiiiide... how deep is this rabbit hole?)

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palatteflags · 17 days

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Aegosexual, Cupioromantic, and Girlflux/Girlfluid combo flag! ^^ I tried a few different ways! For an anon~ Hope you like these a bunch!

Want one? Send an ask! -mod Jay

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warriors-pride · 3 months

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hi could i get aroace (both individual flags & the one flag) brambleclaw and trans man cupioromantic hawkfrost pls?

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utaicon · 8 months

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You, the most perfect and ultimate IDOL!

Cupio Ai Hoshino icons・★

Nobody requested, self-indulgent・★

Free to use, please reblog if using・★

#link: image credit ☆#ai hoshino #hoshino ai #ai hoshino icons #hoshino ai icons #cupio #cupioromantic #cupiosexual #cupio icons #oshi no ko #my idol's children #my idol's child

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pridewishes · 13 days

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♔ || SYLVEON ICONS

250x250 || cupioromantic trans || bordered circle

like / rb + credit + read dni if using

requested by anon !!

#sylveon #pkmn #pokemon #icons #pride edit #pride icons #pfp #edit #trans #trans cupioromantic #cupio #cupioromantic #transgender

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antikosm · 2 months

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do y'know if there's a suffix that combines sexual and romantic? saying something like "homosexual homoromantic" for example, is a bit of a mouthful

I do not unfortunately

For me, that's where I'll just use the prefix. Instead of saying apothi aroace aplatonic, I'll just say apothi. If you're demisexual-demiromantic, I'd just say demi. It covers pretty much anything that prefix applies to in the context it's used. You may have to clarify what you mean, but it works for short-hand with those who are already aware.

#aroace #aromantic #asexual #demi #aspec #arospec #fray #cupio #apothi #subcategories

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redtail-lol · 1 year

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Cupiorose Flag

I never found a solid cupio aroace (cupiorose) flag that I liked, only a few ideas tossed around. So I made one based on the cupiosexual and cupioromantic flags.

#cupio #cupioace #cupiosexual #flag design #flag #flag coining #cupioromantic #cupiorose #cupioaroace #cupioro #cupioaro

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gray-ace-space · 4 months

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alright, let's do another survey thingie! this time, i want to know,

followers of this blog, what acespec labels do you identify with?

i got the list by going through this blog's common identity tags. there weren't enough options in the poll to fit everything, so i grouped together some of the more similar ones, but i apologize if it seems reductive.

couple things:

if multiple apply to you, choose either the one you feel the most attached to or the one that's more specific. you can elaborate in the tags or comments if u want to give me the full picture.

if you fall under the "other" category, elaborate in the tags or comments also.

if you're one of like 2 allos that follow, just scroll past, i couldn't afford to include that option lol

IF YOU DON'T FOLLOW THIS BLOG AT ALL SCROLL PAST

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cupio-culture-is · 1 month

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Idk if this blog is still active but Cupioromantic culture is CRAVING wanting to do romantic stuff and being giddy when you get a partner cuz now you finally have someone to do those things with

Cupio culture is...

#cupio culture is #cupioromantic culture is #cupio #cupioromantic

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scribblemew · 9 months

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SEASON 2 HEARTSTOPPER KINDA SPOILERS!! READ AT YOUR OWN RISK!!! :)

Isaac is so cupioromantic coded in this show and I as a cupioromantic person myself, have NEVER related to a character so specifically.

Cupioromanticism (for those who don’t know) are people that are on the aromantic spectrum (feel little to no romantic attraction) but these people have the want or desire for a romantic relationship. The idea of a romantic relationship is appealing to them, but they don’t feel the romantic attraction that supposedly comes with these relationships.

A tiny bit of backstory, I didn’t know about being cupioromantic until more recently. I’ve identified as aroace for a very long time, but often found myself questioning it. While I know i’ve never felt romantic or sexual attraction, the idea of a romantic relationship has always appealed to me. I desire to have that intense closeness and intimacy people only seem to get when they have a partner. I wondered if I were a lesbian for a very long time, but never pictured myself having sexual or romantic feelings for someone else, even another woman.

While doing research, I came across the terms “romance favorable” and “cupioromantic”. The concept of being cupioromantic resonated with me almost immediately. It’s as if everything I’d been feeling had been described in one singular word.

Cupioromanticism is something that not tons of people are aware of, from what I’ve noticed, especially since it is part of the aromantic spectrum (which also, is something that the world and even the queer community don’t always address)

Back to heartstopper, Isaac, exhibits so many cupioromantic traits, especially in season 2. Throughout the series you see him reading many queer books, and not only ones about asexuality. (Here’s a link to an article discussing all the books he’s read throughout the series so far)

From this and from his behaviors in season 2, it’s clear that he wants to be in love. He WANTS to have romantic feelings for James (the gay boy that has a crush on him) and Isaac goes as far as asking Charlie what it feels like to actually like someone.

When James kissed Isaac, he had anticipated for it to be magical, and fantastic, but it wasn’t. There weren’t any feelings involved on his end. When he talked to James about it later, he states that he’s been doing research so he’d know what it’s like to have feelings for another person. he wanted it to happen, he EXPECTED to have feelings for James. He genuinely thought the kiss they shared was going to be just as amazing as everyone said, but it wasn’t.

Later on, as Isaac looks at the art piece made to represent the aro/ace spectrum, he seems to relate to it a lot. As it’s been confirmed that he is on the aro/ace spec, they haven’t specified where. Regardless though, throughout the series it’s clear that Isaac does in fact have an interest in romantic relationships, he seemingly even wants to have one with James. He was excited about it, up until he realized he didn’t have the same romantic attraction James had for him.

Considering that cupioromanticism isn’t very well- known, I doubt they are going to explore the topic much. However, as a cupioromantic, I’ve decided this is some of the best representation for it that I’ve ever seen. whether it’s intentional or not, I relate to Isaac in a very cupioromantic way.

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palatteflags · 1 year

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Space/Void based Cupioromantic/Ace moodboard! ^^ For an anon! Hope you like :)

Want one? Send an ask! -mod Jay

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warriors-pride · 7 months

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Transfem Bisexual Autistic Squirrelflight / Demigirl Abrosexual Autistic PTSD / Bigender Cupiosexual System Mapleshade

Feel free to resend the middle part of the request, since I believe you forgot the character

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