#cw: biphobia

[ninadove]

Really love how people can still reblog my posts from users I’ve blocked, and add to the mille-feuilles of stupidity.

@staff — something for you to work on in future updates!

#Tumblr needs to do a MUCH better job of protecting their users in general #In light of recent events you might want to crack down on queerphobia urgently… #vent #trigger warning: homophobia #cw: homophobia #trigger warning: biphobia #cw: biphobia

[hydesjackiespuddinpop]

Ross Geller is definitely one to buy into the stereotype about bisexuals being “cheaters”

#friends #anti ross geller #cw: biphobia #he’s homophobic and biphobic

[segasister]

Pansexuality is an inherently biphobic label. Pan people think bi people are only attracted to two genders and they're the only people capable of being attracted to NB people, which erases lived bi experiences and history. Pan people have enbyphobia and biphobia baked into their identity, you can't be a safe space for both those assholes and bi people, because by siding with pan people you're invalidating bi people by default.

I literally have never met a single pan person, either personally or in passing, who thinks this way. In fact, the only place I’ve seen this harmful mindset is in fucking Big Mouth of all shows. Honestly, this mindset you yourself are presenting reads as queerphobic in and of itself. It’s like saying that asexual people are homophobic just for being ace, or binary transgender people are enbyphobic just for falling into the binary gender spectrum. (Hell, I myself faced this while I identified as pan.)

I’m not one to debate a person’s own labels, so if they choose to use it, then I won’t argue. However, if they do have those views, then their label isn’t at fault. Just like you, I don’t doubt, have had an experience just like you’ve described, perhaps they have met a single bi person who was transphobic or enbyphobic, and that’s also not okay.

What I’m saying is that attacking each other isn’t the answer. That’s just what TERFs want, what the LGB Alliance wants, what any exclusionist wants. They want us to be divided and fight with each other so we’re too distracted to notice actual harm being done. The generalization of people identifying with a label isn’t the problem; the queerphobia is.

#from: anonymous #CW: Biphobia #CW: Panphobia #CW: Transphobia mention #CW: Enbyphobia mention #CW: Homophobia mention #CW: Queerphobia mention

[claireneto]

"That's been my family's attitude for a generation. Monty [sic] sexuality got framed as a destructive force in his life instead of a mere fact of it. And as far as anybody could tell, that happened on my father's watch, he had worked with Patty Bosworth and urged everyone else to do the same". 

Robert Clift on his uncle, Montgomery Clift's sexuality in Making Montgomery Clift (2018)

Just a reminder that it's Bisexual Visibility Day 💖💜💙 and I hope all my bi mutuals are having a great day!!! I wanted to touch on how media uses biphobia and bi-erasure for monetary gain. I'll briefly mention some BIPOC examples as well, but since I'm very white I won't go into detail since it's not my place to. If you're BIPOC reblog or comment so I can boost your stories about bisexual BIPOC experiences. Now onto this shortish essay, I promise!!!

So, the quote above is taken from the documentary Making Montgomery Clift (2018) by Robert Clift and Hillary Demmon (Robert's Wife). Robert is Monty's nephew through his older brother Brooks. This documentary is a great lens to look at how Hollywood and various other media portray sexuality or gender identity as an illness or the "root" of the problem.

The quote starts at minute 43:00 in the documentary, Robert is explaining how his father Brooks on a phone call with Patty Bosworth, Monty Clift's biographer and family friend, went wrong. Brooks tried to clear his brother's name of how his substance abuse addictions were not caused by his sexuality, but by the infamous car accident or the painful surgeries he went through as a child and young adult.

Brooks was trying to make Patty understand that Monty's bisexuality wasn't the "root" of his problem. As Robert says in the quote Brooks "urged" family members to get the record right since biographers just like Robert LaGuardia, who ignored editorial notes or the advice from the Clift family.

Patty Bosworth would end up doing the same thing with Monty's "tormented" sexuality and that was the "cause" of his problems. Despite Brooks trying to help re-edit some of Patty's word choices, i.e., when Monty was got having sex with a young man. Patty said it was a young "boy", which enraged Brooks, who knew his brother wasn't a p*dophile because of his bisexuality.

Because Patty ignored Brook's advice, Monty's reputation was tarnished after his death (Bosworth made her book years after Monty died). Brooks even noted to his family that despite the car accident that Monty was in, Monty on record believed his best performances were post-car accident despite the ongoing substance abuse. It had nothing to do with his sexuality.

When Monty died it was discovered that he had an underactive thyroid, which meant he could appear sluggish or drugged even though he was sober at the moment. This illness could've made people believe Monty was not mentally there on set that day when he was actually mentally there. Montgomery Clift's story is a reminder to treat people with respect flaws and all when comes to their bisexuality or gender identity. Monty was also comfortable in his sexuality which was such a rare exception for Hollywood at the time (see Lavender Scare) and he paved the way for more queer actors to have prominence in the entertainment industry.

Despite Monty's story, he is not the only one that has had a reputation tarnished or has an important detail in their life misconstrued. The list of previous people, who's lives has been littered with bi-erasure/biphobia include Anna May Wong, Billy Holiday, Sammy Davis Jr., Cary Grant, and David Bowie.

Since the new century, other people have been erased from the bisexual umbrella or had biphobic remarks made toward them. Some of these people are Lady Gaga, Megan Thee Stallion, Evan Rachel Wood, Alia Shawkat, Frank Ocean, Leslie Cheung, etc. This gross habit made by the media and Hollywood has caused these people to deal with these false narratives about them and have their lives tarnished.

In conclusion, we need to stop people from exploiting one's bisexuality or sexuality/gender expression for monetary gain. Listen to bisexual people about their personal experiences especially if they're a person of color. Bisexuality just like homosexuality is not a disease. Be proud of yourself and how far you've come. Similar to what Magneto said in X-Men 2: United, be yourself and "never let anyone tell you different".

(Note: if there are any errors that you notice feel free to correct me. You can also watch the documentary Making Montgomery Clift on Tubi for free.)

#bisexuality #bisexual visibility week #bisexual visibility day #bisexual history #lgbt #lgbt history #bisexual actors #bisexual actresses #bisexual entertainers #bisexual men #bisexual women #bisexual people #bi tag #montgomery clift #robert anderson clift #hillary demmon #william 'brooks' clift #patricia bosworth #cw: biphobia #tw: biphobia/homophobia #cw: bi-erasure #cw: surgery mention #cw: substance abuse #tw: substance abuse #tw: car accident #cw: p*dophilia mention #that was a lot of tags again please go watch the documentary

[what-yadoking-likes]

My mom's drinking.

How do I know?

I have 2 PMs from her saying how she misses me, & have been tagged in several posts on Fae-s'buk.

I have been in the same country as her since June last year & can recall that she has only called me four/five times (4 of those times because she needed me to do something), & seen me about 6 times.

BUt yAdo wHY dON't YoU MeSsaGe heR

Because she exacerbates my anxiety. Because she is deliberately negative & overly critical whenever she is with me. She judges my every decision whether small & insignificant or life-changing. When I call her out she automatically reverts to being mean or saying how her childhood was bad (true, but it's always irrelevant to the topic at hand). She has consistently chosen men over her kids time after time. She has allowed her kids to live under the same roof as dangerous men. Her current boyfriend is racist, controlling & sexist. She makes no effort to understand me or my experiences. She only wants to know why my partner left HK abruptly because she is nosy. She tells us men can't change but hers has.

She has NEVER accepted my bisexuality. Hates how I go to others for help/support/comfort because she taught me I was "too sensitive" or "overreacting" or that she had it worse as a kid when I went to her. Hates how I have anxiety because she doesn't think I do. Depression the same. And she doesn't know about the PTSD but the math wouldn't be math'in if I said I thought she'd accept that. She thinks my sister's celiac disease & my lactose intolerance is put on & an awful inconvenience for her.

I might be her daughter, but I am not responsible for healing her. And I don't have to pursue a relationship with someone who contributed to & perpetuated my mental ill health. And I don't need to justify that to anyone, but sometimes it's cathartic to write it down and hit 'Post' because maybe, maybe someone out there feels the same & they deserve to feel less alone.

#yado rants #yado thinks out loud but on tumblr #cw: biphobia #cw: foul language #cw: mental illness #not a payday post

[ein-kleiner]

mmmm Maybe I need to touch grass but I'm going to have an aneurysm because people on /r/deltarune are seeing Ralsei and Noelle shipping and screeching because it's WRONG because she's a LESBIAN because ???????? It's kinda, like. Biphobic. I don’t know what they’re talking about if it isn’t “Because she isn’t currently showing attraction to multiple genders, she MUST be a lesbian”

#cw: biphobia #deltarune #ralselle

[uilos718]

House of Narcissists (CW: Trans- and Bi-Phobia)

So. Told my mother I have a Non-Binary partner. She lost her fucking mind on me. Told me she wished I said I was Gay and bemoaned the fact this means she'll never have Grandkids (like being Gay would have changed that, ma?) Also said she doesn't believe in Non-Binary, whole nine yards. A week later, we try this shit again. She's changed her tune. She did some research. She's still not sure she believes in NBs but fuck if it makes me happy. She claims she was mad at me because I corrected her about my partners pronouns. Not that they have non-gendered pronouns, but that I corrected her about them. My sister is pissed at me because I did not call her first (in retrospect, I should have, she speaks my parents language better than I do) and both are very much aware of how much of a hair trigger my father is on this subject and were prepping me for inevitably informing him of my relationship. So yeah. My happiness has to be a fucking project because my family are bigoted snowflakes. Fuck me I wish I drank more.

#cw: transphobia #cw: biphobia

[lizardsfromspace]

Sometimes you wonder how far Very Online discourse can go before it becomes total gibberish; a melange of au courant buzzwords & misapplied theory so inscrutable it turns into utter raving lunacy, so untethered to any reality not even people on the same "side" can process it

Then you see someone on Twitter having a prolonged fight about how "bisexuals are the Israel of sexualities" and you're like. That's it. That's the edge

#biphobia cw #bisexual erasure cw

[galedekarios]

love how ppl constantly invalidate gale's bisexuality

#first thing i see in the tags and it's biphobia #he loves men and nbs #can ppl stop talking exclusively abt 'ladies' when speaking abt non-specific tavs/ocs #also love how you get multiple posts with thousands of notes when ppl complain abt m/f being invalidated #but it's crickets when it concerns m/m or m/nb #i'm so Tired lmao #ch: gale dekarios #vg: baldur's gate 3 #series: baldur's gate #text: personal #fandom critical #biphobia cw #tbd

[professorcalculusstanaccount]

hi! loving your art. I was watching your awesome stories/gifs and I was wondering: how did Chang develop his feelings for Tintin? Did he discover them before or after him? How did he react and why? (English is not my first language so if you see a grammatical mistake, I'm sorry. Also, sorry if so many questions made you feel like you were in a philosophy exam)

Thank you so much! As a contrast to the rest of the Marlinspike team I'm writing Chang as someone who makes friends and develops crushes pretty easily!

I imagine he's had a crush on Tintin for some time, possibly from when they first met. He's been at the mercy of his circumstances for most of his life until that point - Tintin basically makes him feel capable of doing stuff.

He's pretty heartbroken after the Blue Lotus. Tintin doesn't contact him for years. Chang is struggling to adjust to his new family and is failing at school, having missed out on a good education for a few years prior. Until Tibet he feels pretty hopeless, he will never live up to the time when he took down a drug ring.

His near death experience in Tibet shakes him out of this rut. He starts to travel and take up hobbies like dance and photography. Didi trains him in some basic martial arts. Tintin makes an effort to actually stay in touch this time. Chang has some abandonment issues as he's frequently lost people throughout his life, so he's someone who's willing to give people second chances, even if they've hurt him badly. Chang thinks he's well over his crush on Tintin when he comes around to Belgium for his studies, but falls for him again very quickly!

Unlike Tintin, Chang is a lot more comfortable with who he is. He's used to being the odd one out and has generally low expectations for himself, so just goes with the flow.

Below I talk a little with how I'm going about writing him and the historical context surrounding this, cw for mentions of racism (sinophobia) and queerphobia:

I'm writing Chang as bi, I thought it would be interesting to explore as Asian men were perceived differently in the 30s compared to today. While Asian men in the West are currently heavily desexualised in the early 20th century they were stereotyped as predatory and deviant. In London a lot of Chinese immigrants were male dockworkers, so when they married white women there was a lot of fearmongering about predatory and disloyal Chinese men.

A lot of depictions of Asian men in Western media reflected these stereotypes (and often used queercoding to push the idea of Asian men being animalistic seducers - General Henry Chang in Shanghai Express (1932) was written to be bisexual while posing as a threat to the white leads). Some examples off the top of my head include Hishuru Tori from The Cheat (1915) and The Mask of Fu Manchu (1932). Novels frequently depicted Chinese drug lords with borderline supernatural powers in manipulation.

On the other hand I've noticed how fans frequently depict Chang as someone who's submissive, demure and soft, which ignores how ridiculously brave and proactive he is in canon (stealing documents from police officers, charging into a man immediately after getting shot at by a machine gun, I could go on!). It's a common example of Fandom Racism (not accusing anyone specifically, it's just a trend I've noticed.)

When writing Chang I'm kinda reckoning with two different eras. From a contemporary angle I'm writing him as a love interest, which as an Asian guy I rarely see in media today. I also gotta consider his own time and context, how he would navigate being a queer Chinese guy, and how that would affect his relationship with others and himself.

#asks #fanart #tintin #adventures of tintin #chang #tinchang #gif #animation #2d animation #comic #racism cw #biphobia cw #i am Absolutely overthinking this whole thing but i will not stop #tldr chang falls in love easily #he has a small crush on tintin from the blue lotus #gets his heart broken #meets tintin again and they rebuild their friendship #and he falls for him again #the blue lotus

[punkeropercyjackson]

A rdfem post got recommended to me because apperantly i hadn't been careful enough(at least i got a free blocklist out of it)and the very first line was so out of pocket stupid even by t/erf standards-Their idea of 'women forcing themselves to be presentable' was fucking acrylic nails.Obviously this is stupid period but acrylics are a fashion statement that was created by and continued and mostly influenced by to this day by BLACK WOMEN.It's a way of expressing ourselves,an art even,it's NEVER been about fitting into men's standards and in fact that's always been the opposite intended effect!!They're about what makes US happy,not anybody else

And that's just the thing rdfam always do-They make everything about men and their hatred of woc,black women especially and EVEN MORE SO TRANS women.It's never been about liberating women,it's about policing us.We can't be kiddy and pastel and bubbly and chaotic and indie and hopeless romantics who want to get the princess treatment,we're doing it for men 'even if we don't know it'(an actual thing one of them said to me on my post explaining that my brand of femininity comes from my kind of autism and their idea of 'real womanhood' was The Handmaiden and i WISH i was a kidding)and as if lesbians and aroace women who're like me in this aspect don't exist and they do and three of them are close friends of mine and have also talked about bullshit this is-And yes,all three of them are also woc,one pakistani and two black

And apperantly,we can't be edgy and rowdy and cocky and bitter and blunt and alt and and butch and uninterested in actively pursuing romance either because then we're 'too much like men and not really women so we might as well stop calling ourselves ones'.If we have brown skin or heavy body hair or big noses or other dark and strong features,we have 'biological faults' or whatever the fuck and they brag about hating men until someone realizes they're not a man but a woman and wanna physically and socially transition to feel like one to their full happiness they want them to be men instead.They sexually harras people,they invalidate mspec women for loving men AND lesbians for not liking women 'correctly' according to them because they love nonbinary women and transfems AND rentlessly mock aroace women for not feeling attraction by calling them losers and they don't even draw the line at kids.They use all kinds of slurs and ableist rethoric and are exactly two tippy toes steps away from being t/radwives

Nobody's more obsessed with ruining womanhood than rdfems except chauvinists and even then,they're just another variant of them that happen to have less political power.You're not an ancient greek goddess in women's history,you're grown ass women obsessed with genitals and gaslighting vulnerable young girls into your minions.You know nothing about girlhood and you won't learn until you get all those boots out of your mouths you're choking so hard on you can't speak anything but bullshit

#antiterf #antiradfem #intersectional feminism #misogynoir #racialized misogyny #poc #bioessentialism #misogyny cw #gender stereotypes #cisheteronormativity #aspecphobia #biphobia #transmisogyny #lesbophobia #black femme #lesbiansafe #stud #wlw #sapphic #transfem #trans women #xenogender #bigender #genderfluid #catkin #dragonkin #ghostkin #💌 #actuallyautistic #summerposting

[vague-humanoid]

Eugene mayoral candidate Douglas Barr, a FOOD for Lane County driver, has lived in the community for decades. 

A resident of the Bethel district, Barr, 59, has been involved in various community organizations.  In 2020, he ran for city council in Ward 7, where he lost to incumbent Claire Syrett. 

Barr is also a convicted felon, he shared with the Daily Emerald. Upon further review, the Emerald found that in 1984 at age 19, Barr was involved in a self-described hate crime — referred to as “gay bashing” by the prosecution. Barr and three other men were charged of the beating and murder of John O'Connell, 41, a man who they believed to be bisexual.

Barr’s three co-conspirators were convicted of second-degree murder in the case; however, Barr was found not guilty in the murder, court records show.

Barr and his friends assaulted three other men in the same evening in San Francisco, a night prosecutors in the case referred to as a night of “homophobic rage.” Barr pled guilty to assault charges in the other beatings. He was sentenced to seven years in a California prison for his role in the attacks, but ultimately did not serve the full sentence. 

After his release, Barr married his wife of 34 years, and said he has “educated” himself, though he did not elaborate on his education.

Barr said he has since “strived to be better,” citing that he has become an active member of the Eugene community. Until 2020, he was an executive board member for his neighborhood association, Active Bethel Community, and recently joined the board of directors at Burrito Brigade, a food pantry for the unhoused.    

“We have to give people a second chance, especially if they're trying to do good. We have to reach back and include them. If they have ideas, we need to know that we need to participate,” Barr said. “[Despite their pasts] we want to uplift them anyway.”

He hopes to convince voters that reform is possible ahead of the upcoming election, but acknowledged that many Eugene residents may be hesitant to vote for him. 

“Being mayor a lot of people want to frown upon [me] because I was a felon. [But] do we want to frown? Do we want to stop people who come out of prison, [from] helping our community?” Barr said. “I have a lot of good thoughts about how to cure the homeless. Should I just be on the sidelines and not step up?”

"felon" this man wasn't arrested for having weed, he hate-crime gang murdered

#homophobic violence cw #hate-crime #murder #homophobia #biphobia

[jasontoddssuper]

I've never met any fandom as obsessed with making racist white characters into 'the REAL victims' and creating personalities out of their nothingness as the Harry Potter/Marauder's Era one.They convinced themselves that the faction who are a metaphor for n*zis(Slytherins)are 'discriminated against for being ambitious' when the reason everyone hates them is that they're bigots and bullies towards minorities and when there's exactly one canon poc amongst them.And now,because they're selfish enough to betray their trans siblings and jewish people and disabled people and like every other opressesd group in existence for their own nostalgia,they've turned the ones who never even appeared onpage into their 'unproblematic blorbos' because they're THAT desperate for white faves.It's just plain weird really

#anti harry potter #trans #trans rights #transgender #xenogender #neopronouns #actuallyautistic #poc #antisemitism #transmisogyny #transmascphobia #exorsexism #ableism #antiblackness cw #anti asian racism #lesbophobia #biphobia #homophobia #panphobia #transmasc #transmasculine #trans men #transfem #trans woman #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #genderfluid #bigender #letters from summer

[5-7-9]

If Brucie is rumored to be gay or bi, as a way to explain his lack of being committed to a trad wife, that has many ways it can go.

The positive side is that it would make woman feel safe if they thought he was gay because they know he probably won’t sexually harass them. It would also make other gays and bis feel safe enough to approach Brucie.

Negatively though? There will be constant rumors about whether or not he slept with every man he interacts with. If they believe the bi rumor more than the gay one then other women would feel less safe because if the idea he’s a sexual deviant that will fuck anything. He’s uncommitted, he’s a slut, lots of biphobia. The persistent homophobic rumor is that the reason why he adopted a child without getting married is because he’s a pedophile. Yes I’m talking about Dick/Robin. Or the idea he’d turn his kid gay, or the idea he’s unfit to parent at all.

Remember, those socialites Brucie hangs out with are old, traditional, and snobby. They are terrible people Brucie constantly has to invite to his charities. If I were Bruce I’d be sick of the attention too.

#cw biphobia #cw homophobia #brucie wayne #headcanon

[hoolay-boobs]

Ok listen to me here. If there was a character in a show. Fuck, if there was a guy in real life. Who just. Really liked cowgirls. His first fictional crush was a cowgirl. He had a poster of a cowgirl on his wall. He loved cowgirls. But he never dated one. Perhaps married a city girl woman who made him incredibly happy, and he made her incredibly happy. But it was obvious. That he had liked cowgirls. Not that he was cheating on his wife, not that he was going to leave her for a cowgirl, but just that like. That was an obvious interest of his, his friends even called him Cowgirl Loving Steve. Now hear me out. Suddenly Steve is being told or reading posts that it doesn’t count. That he never dated a cowgirl, he has no way to know. That nobody believes him. That they don’t even want him to go to any rodeos anymore, or if he does, he needs to leave his city girl wife at home. In fact, he’s not even part of the rodeo community anymore. His crushes on cowgirls were probably just him lying.

That is the shit that ppl say about bi girls with bf’s who love girls. And you have no idea how easy it is for us to internalize that bs.

#vent post #bisexuality #bisexual #bi visibility #bisexual visibility #bi #biphobia cw #text post #bisexualism #bi bi bi

[what-yadoking-likes]

Parents are W I L D

Like you denied my bisexuality. Ignored & neglected me during my teens, called me a waste of space. Constantly put me down telling me no one wants to hear what I have to say. Never make an effort to engage with me & my interests or life. Don't visit if it requires you to do something like drive. Stayed in relationships that endangered your children. Are now in a relationship with a controlling, misogynistic, racist, homophobic man who pits you against your kids.

... and you wonder W H Y your children don't care to know you?

I'm not actually mad anymore, I'm just tired of it all.

#Yado rants #Yado is fine #I know this might seem like I'm not fine but actually I'm just tired lol #CW: biphobia