This poll is potentially controversial, but the majority of our followers voted to allow it.
Prompt submitted by anon:
Question to cis monosexual people: "Would you date/have sex with a pre-op trans person who identifies as the gender you're into?"
Options:
🍷 No; I want my partner to have particular stuff down there / I have a strong genital preference.
☕️ Yes, but I wouldn't want to interact with their genitals.
🧁 Yes, I'm into all kinds of genitals, what matters is how someone identifies.
Additional options: cis straight guy / cis gay guy / cis straight woman / cis lesbian.
look, women are going to be women, so i believe the first run of pops was because of his height. we can have all the conversations about how hypocritical that is, but women are going to be women, and his height was definitely the primary reason for the first run of pops. the second run of pops was for his name, which admittedly is probably a little much for some people. it's a lot. it's cool in that kind of famous european classical composer vibe, but i get it if a woman thinks that's just a lot. petty, but we are talking about women. but it's the pop when he said he's a chef that kills me because i don't understand what's wrong with that. like there's a video of a girl saying that her ick is men who can cook, but i always assumed she was saying that just to be outrageous. but is that a real thing? a woman out here really unattracted to men who can get down in the kitchen? that's crazy to disqualify this man cuz he can cook! women are truly insane.
I (F21) am a lesbian. The thing is, I have 0 desire to sleep with trans women. Sex is a crucial part of the relationship for me, and I love going down on girls. Dicks repulse me; they look like fucking naked mole rats. And the results of gender-affirming surgery are not there yet. Plus, I don't like how most trans women I know are obsessed, and I mean it, with femininity, trying to act like a conservatives' wet dream. My bisexual friend (F22) wanted to set me up with a trans girl she knows, so I told her I only date AFABs (who aren't trans men). All hell has broken loose, and now half of my friends avoid me and call me transphobic. I don't hate trans people; I'm just not that into them. AITA?
Nick Cannon Faces Backlash Over Dating Preferences Comments
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Nick Cannon is once again facing a wave of controversy following comments he made about his dating preferences. During a recent interview, the media personality suggested that his mother’s race has influenced his attraction to women.
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Having a preference such as being attracted to a thinner person over someone that’s not isn’t wrong. Making someone feel bad because they don’t fit your preferences is.
But in and of itself, it isn’t. It doesn’t mean you’re shallow. It doesn’t mean whatever negative word they try to label you as.
Sometimes I think my age preference with dating isn’t that serious and then I’ll get the fattest crush on someone in their 30’s and the sheer thought of being with anyone my age is just gone, out the door
People 10+ years older than me have no business being that hot like tf
Anyways I’m getting crushes on men in their 30’s again so I’ll deal with shit as it comes
Here Blaire White reacts to a series of events involving Andrew Tate, Jeffree Star, woke TikTok users, and Jordan Peterson. Andrew Tate was arrested, leading Blaire to express their thoughts on the situation. In addition, Jeffree Star has claimed that he "escaped the Illuminati", which has caught Blaire's attention. Woke TikTok users have also been causing a stir by claiming that dating preferences are transphobic, which has prompted Blaire to share their thoughts on the matter. Finally, Jordan Peterson has been sentenced to a re-education camp.
I need to talk about preferences in dating, and an example of an actual preference, because a lot of what is considered “preferences” is actually just bigotry. And way too many people think that having a preference means: “this is the only group I will date. No one else. I refuse to date anyone else”. Which is completely untrue.
So I once preferred short dudes. And no, I’m not talking about dudes who are medium-height, aka 5’6 and up. They are nowhere near short, and I will argue until I’m blue in the face to prove that. I’m talking about dudes who are around 5’0. ACTUAL short dudes. Dudes who are tiny af.
I always pictured myself being with a dude who looked like a hobbit, a goblin, a gnome, etc, just any short mythical being, especially if they gravitate to nature, and yes fantasy is my special interest. But my partner happens to be 6’3, and I don’t mind that at all. And I, in fact, like to think of him as a kind, and soft-hearted giant or troll, etc, because fantasy-brain and we both love nature.
Or a giant cuddly bear. I’m a fairy.
So having a preference for short men doesn’t mean I wouldn’t date anyone who is tall or medium-height. And I damn sure won’t go out of my way to shit on people who are medium or tall. That’s pathetic and uncalled for. I don’t like bullying.
Same thing for food. Just because I prefer cookies and cream, cotton candy and vanilla doesn’t mean I won’t eat cookie dough, chocolate, or peppermint.
So don’t claim to have a preference while shitting on people you won’t date. Because what you have isn’t a preference if you refuse to date someone because of how they were born, and treat them like shit because of it, or say that this group of people are all ugly, undesirable, etc. It is bigotry. You are a bigot. You haven’t even given this group a chance and you’re immediately shitting on them.
Just say you will only date this specific group of people and shut up.
Hiii! Right now, there is this huuuge debate within the LGBT community as to whether not wanting to date trans folks is transphobic. I'm bi, so pre/post-op is not an issue for me because I like all kinds of genitals, but I'm wondering how the attraction works in this regard for cis monosexual people (gays, lesbians, straights).
Could you make a poll asking, "Would you date a pre-op trans person?" with the options "No, I want my partner to have particular stuff down there", "Yes, but I wouldn't want to interact with their genitals", "Yes, I'm into all kinds of genitals, what matters is how someone identifies", and additional options: cis straight guy / cis gay guy / cis straight woman / cis lesbian. I sent this idea to other poll blogs, but they refused to publish it :((
This topic is quite controversial and can be triggering to some people. We want our blog to be an inclusive space, so we'll let our followers decide.
Feel free to make suggestions / expand on your answer in the comments!
ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story
Penny stardewvalley makes me so sad because she's SO sensitive to, like, basically everything you tell her (telling her that you can't stand children while two children are nearby is a pretty lousy move but -1500 friendship?? being a jerk to other characters' faces typically loses you about 50 points, and if you choose the option labeled "creepy" and ask Leah for a kiss in her 2 heart event she physically hits you and kicks you out of her house but that's only -100 friendship…) and so if you want to befriend her it's a whole lot of lying and tiptoeing around her feelings (2 hearts: George was right but saying that makes her feel bad. 6 hearts: her food sucks but even if you try to be polite about it she feels like a failure; only a bald-faced lie pleases her. 8 hearts: saying you don't want to be tied down with a family loses you a little bit of friendship and she's only happy if you say you want kids) and I can't help but think she's a product of her environment. She lives in a trailer with only her mother, who gets drunk every night and has something of a temper. Penny's like a skittish rescue animal who won’t even come out from hiding under something unless you leave her lots of treats