MHA healthy coping mechanisms - i think I wrote this and never posted it???
I’ve twisted this around a bit to make this more specific, so this is, what healthy coping mechanism would each MHA boy do with you!!!! And what you do with them!
What he does with you - Exercise. Pick your poison, whatever it is, yoga, swimming, volleyball, pilates, Kirishima is doing it with you, making sure you don’t hurt yourself with poor form, massaging your muscles if you're sore. If you don’t feel like working out in whatever form you do, he makes it his priority to go on a light walk outside with you, so that you don’t spend all day in bed, even if you want to.
What you do with him - Deep breathing exercises. Kirishima is so emotionally intelligent, naturally in tune to the needs of everyone around him. It gets to be a bit overwhelming at times, not that he’d ever show his friends that vulnerability. As he learns to set boundaries with them, he finds sitting with you and doing some deep breathing exercises to be a great grounding method, reminding him to control the controllables.
What he does with you - Grounding exercises. If you start to panic, if your eyes get glassy, no matter where you are or what’s happening, Bakugou is the first to notice. He takes on supporting your mental health with the same fervent ambition he chases number one with, which means he’s always watching. He’ll hold your hand and growl a soft praise at you when you name six things you can see around the room, stroking your palm with his thumb, softly prompting you to then tell him six things you can feel.
What you do with him - Taking a time out. Managing a loud, raw temper is tough, but in order to be a pro hero and actually maintain relationships with people, Bakugou is learning to do it. You have a secret code, where he squeezes your hand three times, and no matter where you are or what you’re doing the two of you go outside and take a little walk. He yells and vents, and you nod and smile, and then he kisses your forehead and looks at you with uncharacteristic vulnerability, heart rate slowed, face no longer flushed, ready to return.
What he does with you - Reminds you that nothing is permanent. Not your situation, not the way your feeling. Time will pass, and things will change. You need a distraction? Hawks is your man, he know just the activity, going on a run, taking you up into the sky for a special late night flight, putting on exactly the right comforting television show.
What you do with him - Hawks has terrible nightmares, and at he used to be embarrassed when he’d wake up crying, and shaking, but now he’s used to your soothing voice, validating his fear while reminding him of reality, asking permission to gently touch and comfort him, and he folds into your warmth.
What he does with you - Deku is an analytical problem solver. When you are overwhelmed, he has you vent, and he writes everything down for you and organizes your problems on a graph, with the x axis being solvability and the y axis being urgency. He’s great at taking your complex nebulous emotions, and planting your feet on the ground in logic, all while never invalidating them.
What you do for him - give him a safe place to express his emotions. Midoriya knows he can always cry to you, and you’ll hold him and listen. He’s very strong, all the time, and he knows he can be vulnerable around you. After a tough day of work, it’s the wordless communication - the way he’ll bury his face in your neck and sigh. He respects your boundaries, and does the same for you, but it’s nice for him to know you’ll never judge him for being so expressive.
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It's All About All Might
This week's chapter we have a reminder of Shigaraki's grudge against All Might, something he has not mentioned since the training camp arc after having already caused All Might's retirement. Of course I'm not the first person to notice that Shigaraki is talking about All Might again or point it ou, but I can talk about what that means, or rather what that symbolizes.
There's symbolism in Star being just another All Might Ripoff, and yet another person who was saved by All Might when Shigaraki wasn't. In that All Might can symbolize completely different things to different people. For some people he can represent the safety and reassurance that they will always be saved, a true symbol of peace, and for others he's nothing more than a symbol of violence.
This isn't just true for the villains that All Might beats down however, it's also true for other heroes. For example, stars and stripes, cough cough cough. We have yet another example of a hero who says they were inspired by All Might to take up his legacy and become the new symbol of peace, only then to go on and immediately brutalize Shigaraki Tomura in the worst way possible, and immediately go for the kill.
Which I would like to note is something that All Might does not do. Even when fighting desperately for his life against All for One, All Might did not take the finishing blow, and instead had All for One imprisoned in tartarus on Life Support.
What's the point of rehashing this discussion again? It's something brought up by Shigaraki in the first few chapters, at All Might represents violence as much as he does peace.
It's because in these last few chapters we have been reconsidering what kind of legacy All Might is leaving behind. All Might himself becomes so distraught at the bad example he left behind for Deku, and his inability to reach out for his disciple and tell him to take some time off, that he wanted to distance himself from his legacy and give up on it entirely. However, Stain reminds him if that even if other people interpreted it wrong, there was still some good in All Might's message to begin with.
"In the worst of times, All Might would maintain that grin and devote every fiber of his being to the people. It had nothing to do with powers or quirks."
This has been the problem with hero society outlined to us from the beginning, so obsessed with the glamor and power of quirks, that it only wants to stare at the bright side of society and is ill equipped to deal with the messier parts. Because of that people like Stars and Stripes would naturally interpret All Might's message the wrong way, what saved her that day wasn't All Might's Willingness to jump in and help a complete stranger, but rather his super powerful quirk he used to smash the villain completely. Stars and Stripe's understanding of All Might and what makes a hero a hero is so far off base, that she calls All Might her master, when she's literally just a fan.
However, there is a problem with All Might not comprehending or not taking responsibility for the darker side of his legacy. There is a pattern of hero characters just ignoring the darker aspects of their society.
Stars and Stripe's willingness to stop Shigaraki's heart on the spot, is the same as Lady Nagant being used as an assassin for upstart groups who were simply gathering before they even did anything, and Endeavor's willingness to roast Shigaraki alive. Hero society relies on these quick and easy fixes for complex problems, that just so happen to happen out of side and out of mind for most people where no one else has to take responsibility for it, and what is created is an unacknowledged shadow.
In a Jungian Sense, this creates a shadow. The shadow is the unconscious part of the personality, ie. everything of which a person is not fully conscious. IN short, the shadow is the unknown side. It has a lot in common with the Freudian Id. The Jungian shadow however, includes everything outside of the light of consciousness, positive or negative. Because one tends to reject or remain ignorant of the least desirable aspect of one's personality the shadow remains largely negative.
In other words just like the Jungian concept of the shadow, heroes and villains are divided into a similar dichotomy, with heroes being in the light of the public eye, while villains are pushed to the side, rejected, ignored, and believed to be the least desirable members of society. In this case, in a story sense, it's villains who come to represent the repressed ID/SHADOW of a society, that is mostly ignored.
Simply talking about All Might's Legacy in Jungian terms, if the shadow is ignored it will come out in other ways, because it is just as much of a part of the identity as any of the conscious mind. What this means for story symbolism, is that if All Might doesn't acknowledge the shadow of his own actions, and confront the shadow, that what brought peace to others, brought violence to some, then that violent shadow will escape him whether or not he intends it too. It's in pure story symbolism term, if a character doesn't acknowledge their shadow, often, the character serving as the symbol of their shadow will rampage.
Stars and Stripes is the Jungian shadow to All Might. Just a few chapters after All Might gets a pep talk from stain to look more seriously at his legacy, you have a hero who only cares about violence and her powerful quirk as a means of peacekeeping, and goes straight for the kill. Not only that, but her is Shigaraki, the one person All Might could have held a helping hand out to save.
This isn't about the morality of All Might's actions, but rather the Jungian Symbolism behind them. You have All Might Say "I can Save Everyone", but inevitably there are people who All Might didn't or couldn't save. It's not that All Might is wrong for not being physically able to save everyone. It's that when confronted with the fact that there was someone who he could not save, not even just a stranger, but his master's grandson, All Might doesn't confront or seek out Shigaraki, instead he chooses to give up on him.
The shadow needs to be confronted in a Jungian plotline in order to be resolved. All Might, the great and powerful hero doesn't choose confrontation, but rather avoidance of the more complicated issue of Shigaraki's existence. In persona 3, 4, and 5 when you should "You're not me" at the SHadow, that starts a boss fight. This isn't about whether All Might's reactions were right or wrong, in a Jungian Story, running away from your shadow and not confronting it is not only impossible, it will only make the shadow grow worse.
So, Shigaraki is the shadow of All Might's tenure as the symbol of peace. Ignoring Shigaraki is so far a strategy that makes Shigaraki worse, and helps no one, especially when All ofr One comples into play. Because, All for One's entire thing is that he is the Dark Messiah.
He specifically targets those who All Might did not save, and not only does he use this idea that the heroes also use that the reason you didn't get saved is because "you didn't deserve to get saved", because "you didn't want to be saved" he not only repeats the same rhetoric the heroes use to dismiss those who aren't saved by hero society, he uses it to manipulate the people on his side, not only by positioning himself as their savior, but also the only person who would have saved them.
As I said All for One is yet another Jungian Shadow to All Mght, by specifically targeting the people that All Might failed to save, and failed to even acknowledge like this. The role that One for All plays as the messiah of the common people and the good people, All for One plays as the Messiah for the villains, that no one else would bother to save so they better work hard for him they owe him now.
The point being that when All Might fails to confront his shadow like this, not only is he letting people who could have been saved much earlier not get saved, but he is also making All for One's job way easier. Those who are already in the palm of AFO's hands, what reason do they have to turn on him? The hero side has already given up on them. Get smashed by Stars and Stripes, or get possessed and used by All for One. Shigaraki's options are looking pretty great here. It's no reason why SHigaraki flashes back to that house over and over again.
He's not really free, even now. Sure, he's a villain who doesn't obey the laws in the strictest sense, but he's not really acting as his own person here, as long as Shigarki is continually rejected by society, he will always remain the shadow to society, over and over again, until he can become more than just a shadow and be his own person again.
Which is why All Might is being called to look more critically at his legacy, and we are shown an All Might ripoff, just straight up killing a guy. Just focusing on the heroes side of the story, just seeing the world in terms of heroes and villains, has never worked. I mean we already have two more foiling points in two other Jungian Shadows who aren't acknowledged.
Rather than confront him we are shown once again a strategy of avoidance, not only does Enji not really want to see his villain son as a person, but he also spends about thirty chapters after receiving the love and support of his family NOT doing the thing he said he would doaut also there are thirty people right now who are dead who would never have died in the first place, if Enji hadn't sacrificed his whole family for herow ork. In Jungian terms, Dabi is the shadow that Enji fails to confront or accept, this is, rather obvious as Enji just yells "I KILLED THIRTY PEOPLE BECAUSE YOU WON'T LOOK AT ME DAD". This is paraphrasing of course, but not by much.
Rather than confront him we are shown once again a strategy of avoidance, not only does Enji not really want to see his villain son as a person, but he also spends about thirty chapters after receiving the love and support of his family NOT doing the thing he said he would do and tying to find Toya. The shadow / the ID monster has a simple role in the story,a s long as it's ignored, it's going to rampage. The more you ignore it, the more it yells for attention. Enji makes a public speech and fails to address his son, he tells his whole family he'll stop Dabi, and then ignores his other son, and uses another child as bait to go after Shigaraki, believing himself to be heroic the whole way through.
In strictly Jungian terms, it's because these people can't see themselves as anything other than heroes that we see them fail to realize their strictly unheroic actions, or the times they might be at fault for the fall of society. This is a pattern that even repeats with Uraraka and Toga, Uraraka tells Toga who is in the middle of a crisis that yes, she will be stopped if she continues to act out. But that's not the question she was asking. The question Toga wanted to know was will she be saved, and Urararaka, one of the most straightforwardly heroic characters in the story told her an answer that Toga interpreted as No. Uraraka wants heroes to be seen as people, but doesn't want to take the mental leap to see the villain just right in front of her, a girl her own age, as a person.
Which is where we get again to Stain's speech to All Might, that All Might wasn't a hero, and what made him strong wasn't his big flashy quirk, but rather his determination to save others even though it was hard. What makes All for One a strong power is not allt he quirks it has stashed up, but rather, because it was passed down from the first to the second, when the second came to save him even though he was the enemy of the world and the younger brother of All For One. It's a power that originated from people going above and beyond to save.
Because if there are no heroes, and no villains in the world, then there are just people suffering, and I'm going to close out on a quote from a TV SHOW I love, on why what matters more than the big flashy super powers, and the roles of hero and villain is how people treat each other. If there is no possible way to save everyone, then why does reaching a hand to Shigaraki Tomura and saving him matter?
Angel: Well, I guess I kinda worked it out. If there's no great glorious end to all this, if nothing we do matters... , then all that matters is what we do. 'Cause that's all there is. What we do. Now. Today. I fought for so long, for redemption, for a reward, and finally just to beat the other guy, but I never got it.
Kate Lockley: And now you do?
Angel: Not all of it. All I wanna do is help. I wanna help because, I don't think people should suffer as they do. Because, if there's no bigger meaning, then the smallest act of kindness is the greatest thing in the world.
Kate Lockley: Yikes. It sounds like you've had an epiphany.
Angel: I keep saying that, but nobody's listening.
All Might became a hero not for the glitz or the glory, but because he wanted to help other people, and that's the most important part. If you're going to redefine what heroes are, then it's good to remember heroes are heroes, not because they have powers, but because they reach out to help people. That's how a symbol of violence becomes a symbol of peace once more.
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"Don't move, I'm comfortable" with todoshindeku (tododeku or shindeku, if you're not comfortable with this ship) and lee/ler of your choice pls💞
Went with TodoDeku for this one. <3
“Don’t move, I’m comfortable,” Deku murmured into Todoroki’s chest as the peppermint boy began to shift his position on the couch.
Todoroki stopped and stared at the mop of hair laying on him. “I’m glad you’re comfy, but I need to move. My back is killing me.”
“Noooo,” Deku whined, hugging him tighter, pinning him in place. “Don’t moooove, Shoto…”
Todoroki grabbed him under the arms and tickled, forcing Deku to unleash his hold on him to defend himself as giggles bubbled up from within. “I’m just readjusting so my back doesn’t kill me in the morning. Sorry, but you’ll have to deal with it.”
“Shohohohohoto!” Deku squealed, desperately trying to wiggle away.
Todoroki smirked. “On second thought…” In a flash he’d flipped their positions so that Deku was lying with his back on the couch and Todoroki was on top of him, laying his head on his chest while tickling his ribs and sides playfully. “Ahh, this is much better. Don’t move, Midoriya. I’m comfortable now.”
“Todorokiehehehehehehe!” Deku pleaded, giggling helplessly, trying to pry his boyfriend’s hands away from his ticklish spots. “Stohohohohohop! Plehehehehehease!”
Suddenly feeling playful from all of the silly affection being tossed his way, Deku gave up trying to fight him off and instead decided to fight back by reaching down to curl his fingers into Todoroki’s underarms.
The icy-hot boy let out a giggly yelp and instantly let up on his tickle attack to defend himself, but Deku had found purchase now and wasn’t letting him go so easily. “Aw, what’s the matter, baby? You’re the one who started this~”
“Midoriyahahahaha!” Todoroki whined, trying to sit up but too weakened to do so. “Nohohohohoho!” Then he grabbed his sides and squeezed hard.
Deku jerked, but with Todoroki still on top of him, he wasn’t going anywhere. “Stohohohohop!”
“You stahahaharted it!”
“You wouldn’t mohohohohohove!”
“I was comfyehehehehehe!”
The two of them argued back and forth through their giggles and their tickling for another few minutes before finally having a full-on tickle fight with each other until they were both too exhausted to remember who had started what.
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Can I have a scenario with Izuku and bakugou (sep.) With s/o that's always tired? They're always fatigued, can't focus well while studying/in class, wants to sleep all the time even if they just woke up. They're not sure what's the reason but they try to live with it anyways and izuku and bakugou like to help them sometimes:)
I did HCs so I could get a longer span of time into it, but I hope you like it anyway
•He noticed quickly that you were pretty much always tired, unfocused and kinda cranky
•Obviously he is worried, because you seem to be getting more and more tired everyday
•At the dorms, you’re not really allowed in other people’s rooms at night, unless you get permission from Aizawa, but you sleep better with Bakugou, so you do it without permission too sometimes
•You take a nap pretty much everyday after school, and sometimes you do it in Bakugou’s room while he does his homework
•Bakugou has tried to get you to get some help, because being tired constantly isn’t really normal
•Maybe you should get some lab/blood tests done, or get some psychological help, and he has suggested both to you
•You’re grades are dropping, because you’re not able to focus on studying, and even though Bakugou tries to help you to study, it’s hard for you, because you’re so tired
•Bakugou tries to help you keep up a routine by adhering to one himself, so you could do it together
•It’s nothing major, and he still gets to do his own thing, but he wants to help you
•Midoriya is doing research into what could be causing your tiredness, and he suggests a couple of different things
•Mainly that you might be depressed or have some other kind of psychological issues
•He also urges you to go see Recovery girl to make sure there is nothing wrong with you physically, like a hormone imbalance or vitamin deficiency
•You like to take naps after school, a lot of the times in Midoriya’s room, because you find his presence calming
•You also have a habit of sneaking into his room at night, because you sleep better with him
•But you’re still always very tired, and can’t focus in class which gets you called out by the teachers quite often
•You and Midoriya study together, because it feels easier when there is someone there who was actually able to pay attention in class
•He tries his best to help, but obviously he isn’t a miracle worker and you should go get your health checked
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