#demiromantic problems

[sapphic-sprite]

I really don’t see fellow aspecs come to the defense of demisexual and demiromantic people enough. more often than not I see them contribute to their ostracization. A lot of the time I see non-demi aspecs hop on the “but is demisexuality/demiromanticism real?” train of thought and it’s harmful. I have lost count of how many ace and aro people I have come across who were unsupportive of demisexual or demiromantic individuals. I shouldn’t have to ask y’all to care about or respect someone in your community. Just because you are aspec that doesn’t mean you understand or have to understand other aspec orientations. You can just respect people and move on.

#I’m real sick of seeing hate against demisexuals and demiromantics #it’s tiring and unnecessary #demisexual #demiromantic #aspec #aspec post #aspec problems #aspec tag #demisexual post #demisexual problems #demisexual tag #demiromantic post #demiromantic problems #demiromantic tag #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbt post #lgbtq post #asexual post #asexual tag #aromantic post #aromantic tag #ace #ace post #ace tag #aro #aro post #aro tag

[little-cereal-draws]

It’s frustrating when writing an explicitly aro/ace character bc in order for the audience to 100% grasp that this person is not interested in romance/sex, you still end up writing abt romance/sex

I wish there was a way to clearly communicate that they are separate from those things wo having to talk abt them at all. It just seems so counterintuitive, and a bit invalidating in a way, by still linking the character w those topics, even if it’s the absence of them

#idk just my thoughts #writing #fan fiction #aromantic #aromantism #asexual #aro #ace #aroace #qpr #queer platonic relationship #demiromantic problems

[disasterdemi]

Calling your friends “bro” to tactfully establish that you aren't a viable romantic option is all well and good until you catch feelings and are stuck with the deeply ingrained reflex to still call your crush/partner “bro” 🤡

#demiromantic #greyromantic #grayromantic #romo aro #arospec #demiromantic problems #demiromantic experiences #demiromantic culture #I'm sure my kiwi roots don't help either #also lol i should probs clarify that i use bro in a gender-neutral & not-necessarily-familial way (like dude but when the dude is a friend) #disasterdemi

[void-star]

Demiromantic Dating Problems:

I want to get to know you in order to find out if we can fall in love! oop you're already a ghost and I learned nothing real about you

#demiromantic problems #aroace

[birchshutter]

It has been so many years since i felt any romantic attraction that I began to wonder if that is what I have felt.

#seven years #demiromantic problems

[emily-wesley3]

Aspec Bingo Card by @aroandaces

https://instagram.com/aroandaces?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

#aspec bingo #actually aspec #actually aromantic #actually asexual #aroace #aromantic #asexual #asexuality #ace pride #aro pride #aromantism #aro #arospec #ace #aspec #demiromantic #greyromantic #aromantic problems #acespec #instagram

[ashesbreadandbutter]

Asexual issues #1

Having to explain that asexuality is a spectrum and not just "yeah I like sex" or "no I f*cking hate it" all the time.

It's a spectrum for a reason, let's try not to accidentally invalidate others.

#asexual #aspec #acespec #ace pride #ace problems #asexual spectrum #asexual struggles #asexual stuff #sex positive #sex negativity #sex neutral #asexuel #aromantic #cupiosexual #cupioromantic #demiromantic #demisexual

[shebeezee]

I hate these strong emotions. They’re so triggering for me. Feeling something is worse than feeling nothing. I hate how stressed and anxious I am. I want to run away and cut everyone off. I want to hear nothing from you ever again but god I want your validation so bad. You don’t understand how bad you fuck with me mentally when you’re so hot and cold with me. I’m drowning in emotions and no one seems to be noticing.

#borderline personality disorder #borderline thoughts #borderline problems #living with borderline #BPD #bpd problems #bpd thoughts #bpd fp #bpd shit #bpd vent #bpd feels #vent #demiromantic #queer #bpd stuff #bpd mood #relationship #actually bpd #actually borderline

[demetriusyeet]

To anyone who tries to remind me that I “had crushes as a teenager” please remember I literally lied that my favorite color is orange for my entire childhood bc I thought I needed a favorite color bc everyone kept asking and when I was 6 the children’s pastor at my church asked me and I said orange in a panic bc he had gone through all the other options and I hadn’t picked one yet and then I didn’t want anyone to know I had lied to a pastor and now it’s been 19 years and there is so much orange in my bedroom that I’ve even purchased for myself and I still don’t have a favorite color of course I was lying about the crushes I was just saying normal shit I thought sounded normal

#and this is where my lying problem comes from #aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #demisexual #demiromantic #demi posts

[ask-mspafamily]

Happy Pride Month! Here's something quick for now, but get ready for something more later on! I have a Pride minicomic and others in the works, so see you then!

-Mun!M

#fandomstuck #fandombound #ask mspafamily #ask-mspafamily #fandomstuck art #homestuck #art #homestuck fandomstuck #intermission fandomstuck #problem sleuth fandomstuck #hiveswap fandomstuck #psycholonials fandomstuck #Pride Month #Bisexual #Transgender #Nonbinary #Lesbian #Pansexual #Demisexual #Demiromantic #Fully-Rendered Fandomstuck™

[kafus]

i think i need to fall in love with a hyperverbal girl so we can stay up till 5 am incessantly infodumping about shared interests and then kiss about it. so many of my closest friends are on the quieter side and are really good listeners and i appreciate them listening to me talk so much but i feel so satisfied actually rapidly shooting off thoughts with someone and talking for hours until my throat hurts. my one IRL friend is like this with me, whenever he's over we tend to spend literal hours talking our mouths off and basically doing nothing else and yet the time goes by so quickly because i am completely lost in the sauce of conversation. but we are not dating and i don't like him like that. however. someone being able to keep up with how much and how fast i speak and think is literally so fucking attractive. infodump with me until the sun is coming up and then make out with me pls

#sorry for all the lesbian yearning lately i have problems #kiki was here #kiki.txt #my demiromantic ass is not gonna ever have this it feels like LOL

[little-cereal-draws]

When you’re at a camp out w ur friends and all they want to do is talk abt their bfs and love triangles at school and play MASH and ask you for romantic advice involving other ppl at the camp out and literally ask you “you don’t have trouble w ur crushes do u?” And ur demiromatic ass is sitting there like

#wwdits #what we do in the shadows #guillermo de la cruz #demiromantic #demiromantc culture is #demi #demiromantic problems #pls someone save me #I just want to play uno or smth #😭😭

[aroaceinthestreets]

Having other arospec friends is so funny because I'm always getting asked for relationship advice and I'm like

I have had exactly one (1) relationship. I don't know how I managed to make that happen. It was primarily long distance, and probably only lasted as long as it did because my boyfriend and I were the exact same level of socially inept. I have experienced romantic attraction once in my entire life and just went for it. I learned nothing and have not been able to duplicate these results since. WHY are you asking me???

And my friends are like: this is infinitely more relationship experience than any of us have ever had. Please, dispense your wisdom

#arospec #aromantic #demiro #demiromantic #greyromantic #grayromantic #demiromantic pride #aro pride #aromantic pride #aromantic problems #greyromantic pride #grayromantic pride #lgbtq #queer relationships #aromantic relationships

[mariko-san]

Imo "love yourself first" is one of the worst things you can say to someone who is insecure or sad about being single. It puts the fault on them, for not being enough and not deserving of love. Yes, its important to know your worth, but you can learn self-love from other, too. Lots and lots of insecure, messed up people couple up and live less miserable lives together.

Also, growing up arospec, i kept thinking and thinking whats wrong with me when i cant find love, what am i doing wrong, i think i'm fine but apparently can't love myself enough.

And on the top of that, the whole concept of loving yourself is quite a lot to ask in a world that constantly demands the impossible from you. Can't i just be how i am without having to prove my worth to myself or others?

#gray aro #amatonormativity #aro struggles #arospec #loneliness #being single #aromantic #aromantic problems #alloaro #demiromantic #love yourself #self love #toxic positivity #toxic self love

[im-in-a-love-cult]

Idk if i want a relationship, i might be cupioromantic or demiromantic IDFK

I feel bad breaking up with him cuz hes super duper sweet and we just got together but idk im just not really into this relationship

He feels more like a friend, like a best mate that u can talk to abt whatever u want but hes not. Idk

@the-dumpster-fire-of-life advice?? 😭

Anyway this is my shit

#cupioromantic #demiromantic #i am confuzzled #boyfriend problems #lmfao #i feel like shit #i feel so bad #guilt #Spotify

[starlight-archer]

Man just sucks when you're ace and someone is like a cool friend and then they give you a vibe like they want to date you or start hitting on you or say they want to hang out and then act like it's a date when it's not and its like please no for fucks sake not again. I just want to have friends.

And like, also when you want to date someone and they say they're cool with you being ace and they understand it and then turn around and sexualise you and make passes like... Why must you be this way???

You said you accepted me. Why did you lie? For what purpose?

It doesn't help that I'm this combo of asexual (do not want sex or sex acts at all ever in any capacity) and demi/biromantic so it takes me like sometimes years to romantically love someone who has a strong bond with me and then they end up wanting sex and making it a problem. Like you knew I was Ace this whole time and acted like it was fine and now it's not and I have to break things off.

I just need to find someone I find nice and pretty with similar interests and same music taste and settle down in a qpr and have 4 cats and a special room in the house for art and books. We can do crafts and hold hands.

I'm so tired I just want to be free from the nonsense.

#Asexual #Ace problems #Demiromantic #Biromantic #Is it just me??? #I feelmlike the older i get the less i want to date anyone #It feels like everyone just wants the same thing (esp men) and i just keep waiting for the other shoe to drop