#desi girl problems

[hoodie-cinnamon-girl]

You have no idea how hard it is to be a daughter in a brown family. You'll often find yourself asking questions like "why am I born?" "how do I run away" "when will all this end?"

#brown girl problems #desi girl #desi girl problems #elder daughter #toxic parents #toxic culture #trauma #actually mentally ill #let women live #let us live

[chaar-din-ki-chandnii]

he said he loves my vibe and 'chaotic energy'? a faculty member at my uni? and it made me So unsettled and uncomfortable? and it makes me feel like I'm overreacting because... it's just a compliment? but it felt... weirdly invasive? you, sir, do not know me well enough to say that about me. you do not have the right to say ANYTHING like that to me.

it gave me the worst ick. and i hate hate hate that I'm doubting my own feelings? my very own gut feelings? that maybe he meant well and I shouldn't be feeling this way? i hate that I'm unconsciously just blaming myself for feeling the way I feel. making up EVERY POSSIBLE explanation in my head for why he said what he said and telling myself I'm overreacting.

#desiblr #desi #being desi #uncomfortable #men #creepy men #unsettling #desi girl problems #girl problems #boundaries

[yeh-mera-deewanapan-hai]

I search for an Aaditya Kashyap in a world full of Kabir Singh

#jab we met #kabir singh #desiblr #desi tumblr #desi tag #desi girl #desi girl problems #bollywood movies

[mooncrvmbs]

i love how mental illnesses are just buy 1 get 7 free

#i have at least 8 undiagnosed mental disorders #pretty sure depression tops that list #desi parents need to chill fr #desiblr #desi tumblr #desi girl problems #desi girl #mental health #mental illness

[ashlakh]

I need to know the statistics for a desi girl to find a guy like Atlas Corrigan or Peter Kavinsky

#is he available online?? #amazon ebay or sm #lmk pls #atlas corrigan #peter kavinsky #desi girl problems

[hoe-for-oreo]

will never understand kids who yell at their parents because they bought them iphone 11 and not iphone 14.

because mai nokia ka keypad chala rahi hu.

like some of yall had unconditional love and support from your parents who never made you feel as if you didnt deserve anything and it shows.

kyuki mere ghar pe toh har ek cheez conditional h. marks acche nahi aaye toh bahar se accha khana deserve ni karte, naye kapde deserve ni karte, doston se baat karna deserve ni karte, abey aur toh aur "tution nahi bhejenge kyuki tum education ke layak hii nahi ho" (which is what i get to hear after asking to join a tution for the first time in my life in 11th grade).

like kabhi kabar lagta h ki aisi hii zindagi honi thi toh kyu 1st se 8th tak jee jaan lagake mehnat karke hamesha full marks laayi mai? uski appreciation kabhi di nahi, vo ab ho nahi raha toh sunne ko bhot milta h. saala uss time ye sab chodhke thoda jee hii liya hota, atleast life ka ek part toh khushi se nikalta. ab lag raha h 16 saal ki zindagi toh barbad hii kardi maine. uss time ki mehnat ab matter ni karti, par ab mehnat ho nahi rahi h.

it just...gets unbearable to watch other people living their life after a while ya know? like you look at people who are going out, having fun with their friends, doing what they love, having good relationships with their family, and just, like their problems are so much different? they may not have their life together either, but you envy them because you don't have the privilege to do the same as them, because you know you're the one to blame for the subjects you chose, the life you chose. you see them actually living, and realise that youre still stuck in a loop, waiting for your life to begin, as you have for as long as you have been alive.

a couple days back one of my friends adopted a dog and i had a breakdown over it because....ye toh mai bhi deserve karti hu na yaar. mujhe kab milega ye? kabhi milega bhi? abhi tak toh nahi mila. aur ab toh milne ke chances bhi itne kam hain kyuki dena mujhe JEE h.

you can't help but feel hopeless.

pehle lagta tha jab kuch bhi sahi nahi tha ki....koi nahi, atleast academics ho raha h. atleast acche dost hain ab bhi. atleast ek acche future ka prospect h.

and then you lose it all. nothing to comfort you. nothing to make you feel as if atleast one thing in your life is going right, because it isn't. because your life is just one huge black hole now sucking away your happiness, your sense of identity. mujhe khud nahi pata mai kon hu. ab toh dost bhi chutne lage hain.

like, outwardly yes ill work hard and get out of this, but what then? people say "it's just 2 years uske baad sab bhot easy hoga" but what they don't understand is that it's not just 2 years. ive worked hard my entire life, and im sick of the constant guilt, constant expectations, constant pressure. i dont know if i have it in myself to hold on for 2 years more.

fir agar tumhare coping mechanisms maladaptive daydreaming and internet addiction h then toh hogya bas tumhara.

i could go on for a millennia with this rant. abhi toh family trauma bhi touch nahi kiya h. but then that will just be another proof of "yes, here's another thing going wrong in your life"

like, i have to remind myself each day that i dont have anything to be shameful about, i dont have anything that i dont deserve. love shouldnt be conditional. support shouldnt be conditional. especially if love and support are from your family and if they are based on a handful of figures.

like if at this point if i go and start doing drugs and alcohol to get some relief then can my parents blame me? but i cant do that, because guilt!

when will this end? i just wanna sleep.

par sone ke liye 5 min shanti se letna padta h and mai apne khudke thoughts tolerate kar paane ki ability kho chuki hu.

#desi girl #desiblr #desi #desi problems #brown girl problems #desi academia #desi girl problems #desi rant #indian parents #iit jee

[despairdesolationdeath]

Current motivation to study and get a job is to avoid getting married and breaking mom out of her marriage.

#desiblr #desi girl problems

[desirousmuse]

A lot of my posts from when I was younger and in my teenage angst years still get reblogged. Posts from when I was 18-24 and struggling with being a brown girl who just wanted to live her life without the pressure that comes from being the eldest in an immigrant family.

I am 29 now.

So much has changed and the things that I suffered through… my younger siblings no longer have to. The way I was never allowed to express myself through clothes or fashion, my sister does so without reservation. The way I was never allowed to have a social life and it severed many friendships (and brought forth a lot of anxiety and trauma that stems into my adult life), and now my sister is out everyday (whereas I still have PTSD and start having a panic attack if I am out too late and she waltzes in after 2/3 a.m all laadeedaa) The way my parents never supported me and showed up in the way I needed, my sister gets that. The way they used to tell me I would be married off by 23 or that I was expected to do all the housework and now my sister does shit all.

I suffered so she did not. Because my parents saw how badly it messed me up.

Of course, now I am the one in therapy and that is a surplus amount of issues in their own right but I am so glad that she does not have to jump the hoops that I had to. I now set boundaries with my family, advocate for myself and tell my family to get their shit together because I refuse to let them take my adulthood when my teenage and young adult years were snatched from me. And now? They listen. Because they KNOW. They realize. They UNDERSTAND.

So there is hope for all of you that still comment/reblog on all my posts because you relate to my brown girl woes. The woes have been woed. I believe you all. You got this. 🖤

#brown girl problems #desi girl problems

[phdguides]

Wishing you a Dussehra filled with love, laughter, and the triumph of good

#hinduism #ramayana #rama #durga #goddess durga #navratri #dussehra #vijaya dashami #halfmoonedits #Avatar #mooncrvmbs Badge image. #desi tumblr #desiblr #desi academia #desi chaotic academia #desi girl problems #desi girl #durga pujo #navaratri

[hoodie-cinnamon-girl]

I feel terrible

#here we go again #what do i do #sad and tired #mentally unstable #i feel miserable #desi girl problems #elder daughter #anxiety

[thecardiganunderthebed]

(me talking to myself) padh le behen gaslight girlboss gatekeep se ghar nahi chalne wala

#desi #desi humour #desi girl #desi culture #desi tumblr #desiblr #desi academia #desi aesthetic #desi memes #desi problems #desi things

[misssclumsy]

Tum bas Tumblr scroll karte reh jaana or mujhe duaaon mein koi or maang kar le jayega

#hunh #desi memes #desiblr #desi tag #desi academia #desitags #desi things #desi culture #desi stuff #desi tumblr #desi teen #desi indian #desiness #desi people #desi blog #desi blr #desiblogger #desi shit posting #desi side of tumblr #desis #desi problems #desi girl #desi boys #just desi things #desi thoughts #desi love #desi life #being desi #desi

[mooncrvmbs]

he's a 10 but he calls chai as chai tea

#desi academia #desi chaotic academia #desi tumblr #desiblr #desi girl #desi #desi girl problems

[maintohthakgayibhaishaab]

I dare you to read this normally

WHIRLPOOL WHIRLPOOL

#.txt #desiblr #advertisement #desi humor #desi girl #desi culture #desi tumblr #desi tag #being desi #desi moms #desiposting #desi problems #desi shit posting #mood #just desi things #desi stuff

[hoe-for-oreo]

self esteem so low i get guilt by asking my parents to pay ONLY my chem tution fee lmao.

#desi girl #desiblr #desi #desi academia #indian parents #brown parents #desi memes #desi problems #desi girl problems #brown girl problems

[iamreallyawkwardsblog]

So I was travelling back to hostel and was sitting beside this girl. 3 hours into the journey I had my earphones on and she turned towards me with a maaza in her hands.

I thought she was offering me her drink or a sip out of courtesy. So I nodded my head no telling her I don't want to drink it.

But she she kept pushing it towards me and said something. So I removed my earphones and she said "please ise khol dena "

She wasn't offering me her drink y'all 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

She was asking me to OPEN IT💀👍

I was red with embarrassment somehow opened it for her

I still want to dig a hole and crawl into it.

Baithe bithae bezzati ho gayi bhai!

#random #desi #desiblr #spilled ink #desi girl #desi humor #desi moodboard #like why #lol #embarrassing #please help #please please please #being desi #bezatti #desi love #desi life #desi kahani #desilusión #desi side of tumblr #desi people #desi problems #desi shit posting #desiexperience #why is my life like this #why me #ugh