#disableism

[enbycrip]

Pretty much no impairment is as simple as abled people think it is.

People are taught to believe that disability is a simple “Can’t”. Can’t walk. Can’t talk. Can’t hear. Can’t see. An ability is just excised and no longer exists, if it ever did.

In reality, it’s rarely that simple.

It’s “I can sort of do x thing sometimes, but I get muscle spasms making it very dangerous or impossible to do it reliably or safely”. Or “I can do x thing but it causes me so much pain I will be unable to do anything else for hours or days after doing it”. Or “I can do x thing but I constantly injure myself doing it because of lack of muscle control”. Or “I can do x thing but so badly I functionally can’t do it two inches beyond my face, but now I have a mobile phone I can put up to my face so I can do it in certain very specific circumstances”.

None of these things mean someone isn’t disabled. And if you think it does, then it’s *your* ideas about disability that need to change.

The reason disabled people end up saying “can’t” when the reality is more complex is because people don’t trust our boundaries. They force us to injure ourselves instead of accommodating, or use energy that means we have none left to do *anything* else we need to do for the rest of the day. Or week. Or month.

Abled people need to start trusting disabled people, or you need to shut up, get out of any situation where you have power over us, and provide someone who will. Those are the only options.

The way we are expected to live in a performative hell of the making of more privileged people who then turn around and criticise us for not suffering in the precise way they have decided we should is genuinely nothing but ridiculous.

Just stop.

#disabled #disability #disableism #chronic illness #chronic pain #chronic fatigue #ableist bullshit #disableist bullshit #ableism #impairment #sick of this shit #the ableds are at it again

[orange-orchard-system]

Talking about memory issues is so annoying 'cause like. You gotta make a joke out of it or people will make a joke out of you. Y'know? I've gotta make a joke about how my issues with remembering important or common information is because x or y or haha yeah I know I'm so stupid, because that's the only way to get ahead of the people who will inevitably use those same jokes to mock you. And I'm trying not to let my memory issues affect how I view my self-worth, and I try to go against the idea that intelligence (or lack thereof) is an indicator of anything deeper, and I know that having a hard time remembering details doesn't reflect on my morality at all, but... it's hard to keep at it when the world tells you otherwise. When school tells you memorization = smart = good, when people tell you not remembering things about them means you're rude and mean, when not remembering something or mixing up information in public or online spaces inevitably gets people laughing at you, and often used as an excuse for bigotry or just general asshole behavior of some kind or another against you.

It's so tiring.

#amnesia #front soup.txt #levi.txt #disableism #vent but ok to rb

[hobiesdump]

this is just not ok

#[speaks spanish] #ableism #disableism #captions #spanish #microagressions #inconsiderate #inconsiderate af #my posts #atsv #rio morales

[daniemililly]

It's not that medical professionals are evil or something, it's that they're not equipped to judge the lives of disabled people because they largely have no experience comparable to it. They can't empathise because medical culture is fundamentally different than disabled lives, and in the cases of neurodivergent people, they largely can't empathise as neurotypicals with us. We need a culture of care/support that trusts disabled people/those we nominate to be the judge of our own needs

You can read more about the "triple empathy problem" for neurodivergent people in healthcare settings in this paper here: https://sussex.figshare.com/articles/journal_contribution/Barriers_to_healthcare_and_a_triple_empathy_problem_may_lead_to_adverse_outcomes_for_autistic_adults_a_qualitative_study/24424333

#disability #ableism #disableism #irish #ireland #disabled #politics #poverty #art #comic #comics #medical tw #medical bias #neurodivergent #medical trauma #care #care work #diagnosis #exercise tw #adhd #gaslighting #medical gaslighting #medical gatekeeping #cartoon gore #mental health #mental health crisis #hospital tw #academic papers #autistic #double empathy

[thatautisticadhdfeel]

Hi, two questions to the community. 1: Do you guys feel calmer and just (I don't have a better word) round when you are in water? I found that being in water, especially if it's salty, sends me to a very calm and happy place. I feel like it has something to do with sensory 'completeness'. Any ideas, experience or research on this one? I'd like to understand why this might happen so I can replicate the feeling in different setups as I live in a country with no seas or oceans. 2: Does anyone else struggle with active noise cancelling headsets? I've purchased one about a month ago but I don't really tend to use it, because it bugs me sensorily, it feels like there is constant buzzing in my ears but without the sound of it. (Sorry if what I wrote is hard to understand, English is not my first language and very specific feelings like these are hard to describe.) Your thoughts/comments/experiences will be highly appreciated.

#submission #autism #autistic #actually autistic #ad(h)d #adhd #actually adhd #actually add #actually ad(h)d #executive dysfunction #focus #feel #ableist #ableism #disableism #disablism

[pluralprompts]

Prompt #620

"But aren't you always thinking those awful thoughts?!"

Symptom Holder A leveled them with a stare so deadpan it could kill. "They're called intrusive thoughts. Intrusive, as in unwanted, and not reflective of my actual desires. What edgy YouTube channel are you getting your mental health info from?"

#plural system #pluralgang #pluralprompt #plurality #prompt blog #prompt #disableism #intrusive thoughts

[a-queer-crip-writes]

CWs for pregnancy loss, eugenics, disableism, medical trauma

Poetrytober day five

“Oh, you must be Catholic,” they said

When I told them there was no chance I’d be aborting a disabled foetus.

They did not even exist yet

And they never really did; it turned out

They were only a ghost of cells and hopes

And hurt and desperate longing

Of both of us

concentrated in a place that only cramped and bled and bled

And could not cradle and keep them as I,

As we

So desperately wanted

Washed away on a blood-tide into

The oblivion of never-being.

And yet even in that state of desperate longing that

Could never conjure into full being

I had to defend their right to be

From even the chance.

#poetry #poetrytober #spilled poetry #disableism #disabled poet #eugenics #pregnancy loss #pregnancy #medical disableism

[kimbureh]

say what you want, but to me Disney's Hunchback of Notre Dame is so fascinating particularly *because* the socially isolated and disabled main character doesn't get the girl.

Yeah, all the conventionally attractive male Disney heros get to have a girl as a prize, but Quasi-modo gets something far more valuable that truely can be *his* in the first place:

He gets a life of his own.

He gets the freedom to go outside, grow, learn who he is as a person in a social context. He gets to meet *himself*, learn who he is when he's not imprisoned and tortured by Frollo.

Getting the girl wouldn't fix Quasi-modo, even if he wants that to be true at first. What he really needs is to seize his own life, and not rely on other people to give him salvation- which is the trap Frollo fell into when he saw the source of his damnation solely in Esmeralda, and saw himself as the sole source of salvation for her.

Critics have often said that it was an awkward scene when after the finale Quasi-modo joins the hands of Phoebus and Esmeralda to give them his blessings. And I guess you can feel that way if you see Esmeralda as the *prize* which rightfully *belongs* to the main character no matter who he is. And I don't care if Disney wrote it the way they did out of ableism/disableism, I think it's a compelling and sound ending for Quasi-Modo to embark on a journey of self-development. That's a thing many other male Disney heros would profit from too, haha.

#idk if I should tag this people tend to get really aggressive over differing readings #ah heck #hunchback of notre dame #disney #ableism #disableism

[annunnaki7]

ARE DISSABLED PEOPLE LAZY? COULD REALLY DO BETTER IF THEY TRIED HARDER? This is an example of an average bad week, like 6/10 bad on mental health and 5/10 on the physical level. Oh yea it gets so much worst! Read this and tell me how I could have improved.  

MAY 2023 

Sat 29.04.23 

-Asthma bad all night. I coughed myself awake so often I didn't get any deep sleep. 

-Fibromyalgia not happy about this, and is flaring up on its way to STOPPING FLARING up instead! 🤬 Joy! So now going to pee has extra general pain added to it. 

- Allergies & Sinus bad. My nose runs non stop. Used 1/2 roll of toilet paper blowing my nose just today. And no, I don't like waisting things. Throwing meds at it. 

-Managed to work with my carer, sorting paperwork. I can't help with much else anymore. I don't have the hand strength to cut a carrot. That's annoying as taking away from my autonomy. 

Sun 30.04.23

- Allergies & Sinus still bad with non stop daily headaches, with migraine sometimes.

-Fibromyralgia flare. Pain feels like I feel down badement cement stairs or  when I had major surgery on day 3 with 5 days hospital stay. I'm in too much pain to eat. Exhaustion worst than Covid & Pneumonia! 

-Asthma bad. I have to rest for 1 minute every 10-15 meters I walk. Going to the loo takes 5 breaks.

- Urinary incontinence dissability related not happy about so many breaks to get TO the loo. I need buy more trousers! (I used 3 in one day twice this week)

- I'm in so much exhaustion & pain I can't even face watching TV. Strong painkillers increased. I'm not happy. I was hoping to decrease them this week! 

Mon 01.05.23 

-Migraine. 

-Sinus inflamed for past 4 weeks. Related to but not only cause of migraine. I'm a migraine sufferer.

-Fibromyalgia medium flare. Hands hurt as well as eveywere else. A plate is heavy to lift. I can't stab potatoes to zap them in microwave by myself. 

-Hayfever slightly improving.

-If I didn't have a carer coming to help me with a wash, I don't know how I would cope.She helped more today. She's so nice. People don't appreciate them enough.

-Concerned how I'll make hospital appointment of Thursday. And got builders in tomorrow. 

Tuesday 02.05.23

-Migraine at night. 

-All body pain bad. Been worst before though. 

-Builders poped in to say they'll be back tomorrow. And no neither owner nor estate agents told them about all the work needing doing. 

- This is in fact my comparativly, the "best day" to date. I can't sit in a chair re pain. And I have a high pain threshold. Had major surgery and got up by myself the next day when everyone else did on the 3rd day with help. Nurses said it was shocking to see me trot - carefully -  about.

- Hospital appointment of tomorrow changed for latter on. It's not a vital one. 

-District Nurse popped in to assess if I need to worry re swealing in legs. I'll have to go to the specialist clinic after all. 

-Blood Pressure still high & Pulse going nuts. Say hi to all types of allergies as a possible cause! I take the strongest anti histamin, plus 6 over the counter allergy tablets daily. Yep, the specialist doctors advised that. It stop skin for literally falling off and other horror stories! 

Wed 03.05.23 

-Vomited blood all night (5hrs of hurling on off) from ulcer, blood clots included! Yuck! 3rd time in 1 month.

-Day Migraine following as haven't been able to drink much 

-Im past normal exhausted as part of Fibromyalgia. It feels like I did a 14hr shift and haven't slep the next 2 nights. (Yes, I've done that in the past. Joy of nursing & midwifery whilst having dissabilities)

- Spoke to GP, meds increased. I don't want another endoscopy. Don't see what else it will tell us. It's costly to the NHS, I'm going to be in so much pain for at least 2 weeks after due to dissability, not the test. Urinary incontinence will be a pain. I'm not even for resuscitation (DNR) anyways. 

-Not hungry. Disordered eating means it will kick in if I can't eat at all today. Gods even cake don't sound appealing!

- Builders back. Same thing, back tomorrow instead. But now they got the list of job. 

-District Nurse decided I need compression stockings! My severe eczema might not like the extra heat in summer! & Scratchy material.

-Migraine afternoon - nightime.

-Did eat eventually. Yea me! 

Thursday 04.05.23

-Food helped with migraine & dissorted eating. 

- Pain and extreme exhaustion same. I can't hold a plate of food.

- Severe anxiety started in afternoon after flat owner demanding I get the garden clean that night. Message was passed to me by builder at around 4.40pm. to be done by tomorrow morning. Oh yea, I'm dissabled with poor balance, walks some 15-20 meter with 2 stick, uses wheelchair otherwise. And it would get dark even if I miraculously find someone for, ... work that's not urgent! And oh yes, there's no place to eat at the kitchen table due to building work. Like that's not a priority after builders leave rather than garden. Also. Thunder and rain so bad, I though thunder had struck nearby. 

-Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) few times last night (originates from past child abuse) but attacks due to the way the flat owner and estates agent treats me.

Friday 05.05.23

-Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) exacerbated since around 2am started with the stress.

- Headaches back

- Severe anxiety rising progressively

- C-PTSD flash back early morning. Good thing I know how to manage it.

- I ate with carer, yea! Well she made me eat. 

Saturday 06.05.23

-Anxiety still high

-C-PTSD same high during day, not typical of abuse. Definitely flat owner & Estates Agent related.

Sunday 07.05.23

- Actively managing the mental health side of things. 

- Bad Heaches day time 

- Friend brought me yummy KFC. Could only eat a tiny bit. Oh great, that's Dissordered Eating not happy with all the stress!

- Migrainy headach lasted 2-3 hrs. Resolved with management.

-Asthma attack in evening for over 2hrs. Was so rough couldn't do lung capacity measurement until finally calmed down. 

- I won't be able to finish my KFC now. I'm pissed off. I'm so tired of juggling several deseases. It wouldn't be so bad of people acted like human being. 

So. Do you still think I'm leisurely lying around having a relaxing time as a dissabled person?

Did you realise that it takes managing one thing after another everyday? 

So everyone can do better of they "really wanted"? I really wanted to not loose my mortgage and dog. It's my dog I missed the most, not even one of my things. From a Midwife I became homeless. From working 16hrs or work followed by Union Rep work (IE talking to staff, not official meetings before you quote the law) I'm now not able to eat independently at times, or wash alone now. I'm still acting?  Have a good, lazy life? You want to swap? 

#Dissability Awareness #Discrimination #Ableism #disableism #health management

[serious-cutie]

“life was perfect as a kid” okay we get it you didn’t grow up disabled

#vent #ableism #disableism #actuallyautistic

[onlytiktoks]

#tiktok #blind #visually impaired #braille #mona lisa #inclusion #inclusivity #accessibility #disabled lives matter #disabled life #disabled #louvre #art museum #museum #louvre museum

[enbycrip]

ID: a tweet by mythical @mitskileaks

“I used to rebel by destroying myself, but realized that's awfully convenient to the world.for some of us our best revolt is self-preservation,”

#disabled #disability #disableism #chronic illness #chronic pain #chronic fatigue #autistic adult #adult adhd #trans #queer #nonbinary #trans nonbinary

[orange-orchard-system]

Continuing this little vent-fest of mine, I really hate how people will just... absorb whatever misinformation they hear about DID. Like, sure, I get it, you want to believe the person who has the stigmatized disorder when they talk about it. But sometimes people with the disorder are just fucking wrong, too. Sometimes we also need to unlearn our biases, incorrect assumptions, and ideas that sound right but actually aren't. We're not a perfectly unbiased group. We're not granted omnipresence about every presentation and facet of our disorder.

And it frustrates me so much because it's always framed as though the people correcting the misinformation are evil, ableist bigots. As if we're the problem and not trying to handle a situation before it gets out of hand and people get hurt. They'll always absorb the misinformation because the person spreading it has DID but anyone fucking correcting it is "clocked" as a faker lying for unspecified malicious reasons. Omfg. Grow the fuck up and admit that you just uncritically absorbed the first thing you heard about whatever aspect of the disorder we're talking about this time. Grow the fuck up and accept that DID is complex and involves a lot of phenomena that might sound far-fetched at first. Especially when it comes to the complex ways we might be traumatized and show the effects of our trauma, are you kidding me. You are not immune to misinformation. You are not immune to exclusionism. You are not immune to hurting people in the name of protecting them.

I did eventually end up reaching out to the person who reblogged that post calling a specific subset of systems, as well as a specific form of abuse, a conspiracy theory. No word back as of yet. But I'm going to try to let it go and focus on my own projects for right now, because that is a ball of yarn I am not going to untangle overnight, but I can at least start sharpening the scissors for someone else to cut through it one day. Confrontation is not my strong suit, and I'm tired of being treated like shit for trying to correct misinformation about the disorder I work to destigmatize. Best to focus my efforts elsewhere.

If you've dealt with this kind of thing, seen this kind of post where people will spread the most obviously incorrect shit because they don't want to accept all the complexities and unusualities of DID, my heart goes out to you. It sucks. But I refuse to believe that it's going to be this way forever. No matter how fruitless it may seem, we are making headway in awareness, understanding, and acceptance. Some asshats who want to stick their head in the sand and only accept the most simplified, sanitized version of this messy and varied disorder are not going to stop us from making a place in the world for ourselves.

Keep your head high and your mind open. We're gonna make it through this shit.

#front soup.txt #plurality #pluralgang #actuallyplural #plural system #actuallydid #did #calico.txt #disableism

[hobiesdump]

What's extra killing me is that it's ALREADY TYPED IN THE SCREENPLAY

@darksidescorner

#my posts #replies #microagressions #disableism #ableism #screenplay #spanish

[daniemililly]

So after a LOT of research, we've finally found hard numbers on how many disabled people under the new system would be forced to interact with Intreo as part of their payments. Tier 1 is the group who could choose to interact with Intreo, but Tiers 2 & 3 would not have the option and would be forced to. Thank you for the graphic, James <3

#disability #ireland #disabled #irish #poverty #social welfare #politics #ableism #disableism

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

#yeehaw #1k #5k #10k #posts that got cursed. blasted. im making these tag updates after... 19 hours? #also i have been told it should say speech loss bc nonverbal specifically refers to the permanent state. did not know that! #unfortunately i fear it is so far past containment that even if i edited it now it would do very little. but noted for future reference #edit 2: nvm enough ppl have come to rb it from me directly that i changed the wording a bit. hopefully this makes sense #also. in case anyone is curious. though i doubt anyone who is commenting these things will check the original tags #1) my friend did not do this on purpose in any way. it was not intended to distract me or to hit on me. im a lesbian hes a gay man. cmon now #he felt very bad about it afterwards. i thought it was hilarious but it was very embarrassed and apologetic #2) “why didn't he use 🫵🏼?” didn't exist yet. “why didn't he use 🆗?” dunno! we'd been using a lot of hand emojis. 👌🏼 is an ok sign #like it makes sense. it was just a silly mixup. also No i did not invent 👉🏼👌🏼 as a gesture meaning sex. do you live under a rock #3) nonspeaking episodes are a recurring thing in my life and have been since i was born. this is not a quirky one-time thing #it is a pervasive issue that is very frustrating to both myself and the people i am trying to communicate with. in which trying to speak is #extremely distressing and causes very genuine anguish. this post is not me making light of it it's just a funny thing that happened once #it's no different than if i post about a funny thing that happened in conjunction w a physical disability. it's just me talking abt my life #i don't mind character tags tho. those can be entertaining. i don't know what any of you are talking about #Except the ppl who have said this is pego/ryu or wang/xian. those people i understand and respect #if you use it as a writing prompt that's fine but send it to me. i want to see it #aaaand i think that's it. everyday im tempted to turn off rbs on it. it hasn't even been a week