omg ok so i wanna share a story about a guy i met on reddit
its a short story and has no ending, so its more of a vent
So i was on reddit not too long ago and I was struggling with my brain being a douche and my mom fueling the flames, so I made a vent post on an FtM sub asking for advice on what to do, and of course everyone was super supportive and calmed me down..
However, support isn't always given to me in the way that is appropriate, as shown by a guy that I'll call Tony.
Tony DMed me on Reddit and said "Hey, it'll get better." Of course, since I was going through a rough time that day, I was flattered that someone found the need to message me and comfort me.
I said thank you to Tony and told him that his message meant a lot to me, because tbh it did, and then we started talking a bit.
He told me his name, his pronouns, that he was 17, and that he was gay. In return, I did the same. "Henri, He/Him, 14, bi." Y'know.. the standard get-to-know-you message.
I don't mind talking to people older than me most of the time, but for some reason I got a weird feeling about Tony and I didn't know why.
Tony asked me if I was on HRT, and I said no because of my age. Since he found me from a trans subreddit, I assumed he was trans too and asked him the same question, to which he replied "no, I'm a cis ally :("
Now don't get me wrong, cis allies are amazing and I love them more than life itself... but it struck me as a red flag that this specific person was messaging me and trying to get to know me.
I apologized for the question because it was rude to assume someone is trans just because they are on a trans subreddit, but he said it was ok.
He asked for my Discord immediately after, even though we hadn't even been talking for 30 minutes. I was caught off guard and got a bit nervous. I did not have a good feeling about Tony and this was only making things worse.
After a couple minutes of me thinking things through, I went to my Discord, changed the settings so that every image will be scanned for explicit content no matter the sender, and then gave him my ID.
He sent me a friend request and I accepted, y'know.. as you do.. and not 2 minutes after he asked me for a selfie so he could "trust me."
I was very tempted to block him at that second, because asking a kid you literally just met online over reddit for a selfie is a bit suspicious... but I decided to give him a chance and sent him a selfie, but demanded he send one back.
Now this is where I got very nervous, because I didn't know what I was about to see. Did I make a mistake? Should I block him?
He took a couple minutes until he responded again. He started off with "wait.. you're super handsome." and sent his own selfie. He looked exactly how I imagined him. Tall, skinny, white, tbh he just looked like your average white teenage boy.
I said thanks and told him he was cool too, and then tried to change the subject.
I don't mind people complimenting me, don't get me wrong.. but once again that weird feeling I had about him was just getting worse.
We talked a bit more and he asked if I was out to anyone, to which I replied "yes, my friends and family all know I'm bi, but only my parents and grandma know I'm trans. Are you out?"
I was just trying to have a conversation, like you would when talking to someone, but he seemed a lot more interested in talking about me than holding a steady conversation.
I stopped texting so I could do some school, but about an hour later when I checked my discord again, I got a message from him asking what I was wearing.
Now I was a uncomfortable. I was wearing shorts and my binder at the time, so I was pretty exposed. I didn't tell him the truth. Instead, I said "a tshirt and basketball shorts. The usual. are you on virtual or physical school?"
He quickly responded saying "virtual" and then changed the subject back to by clothes by asking for another selfie.
I didn't respond, which (for some reason) prompted him to send more messages begging to see a picture of me again.
I told him I was uncomfortable with sending another selfie because I had my hair down which makes me dysphoric (truth) and also that I was only comfortable sharing that one picture of myself from earlier (truth)
He wouldn't take no for an answer.
Pleading, he send me message after message saying things like, "but youre so handsomeee." "youre the prettiest boy ive ever seen🥺" "come onnn I won't judge you. We're friends :)"
At this point I was thoroughly disturbed. I put my foot down and told him "Bro I'm barely 15 ://" I then asked him how he found my reddit account, because now I was getting suspicious that he may have found me from a different sub rather than the trans sub I had just posted on.
He was confused and told me the FtM sub. I apologized and told him I was paranoid.
He then told me to "show myself" and said "pleaseeee" over and over.
I said no.
At this point our "conversation" was dying out.
It was obvious that I wasn't going to bow down to him and he was beginning to see that I was not going to be his little toy by sending him pictures whenever he asks.
I'm not stupid.
Eventually he said "well just know there's no such thing as ugly. You're handsome af so don't be shy."
I said thanks and that it meant a lot to me (lie) then he stopped messaging me.
Now.. I don't know what his deal was. He was apparently 17, conveniently still a minor, cis, and lurking on trans subreddits. I checked his profile on reddit before giving him my discord and saw he never commented on anything ever, never posted, and has had his account for a couple years. That should've been a red flag, but I wanted to give him a chance.
I don't know if he was a chaser or just needed a friend, but either way I didn't want to be part of *that.*
Moral of the story? If you're in a vulnerable state of mind, don't send strangers on the internet selfies of you because they might beg you for more which will give you an anxiety attack while you are trying to write a paper on George Washington.