#discourse mention

[calamityquellerei]

positionality vs identity

making this post in response to circulating claims about "transmasc privilege" and a noticeable gap in some of y'alls understanding of oppression.

positionality can be thought of as the way society perceives and treats you, and what privileges you are afforded accordingly.

identity can be thought of as your internal sense of self.

for most people, the two do not line up perfectly. your positionality depends on what people immediately see, not what you tell them. your positionality may also vary day to day based on a number of factors including but not limited to the people you are surrounded by, the space you are in, and the positionalities and identities of those perceiving you.

privilege is based almost entirely on positionality, not identity.

a good example is the diversity within the transgender community. if you take three transgender men at different stages in their transition they will each have a different positionality. one may have the positionality of a gender conforming cisgender man, the second may have the positionality of a transgender man, the third may have the positionality of a gender conforming cisgender woman. the gendered privileges these three people are afforded are vastly different despite all three of them having an identical gender identity.

if you have the positionality of a certain marginalized group, you will be targeted with the same oppression as them whether or not you share an identity with them. the fact that you don't share the identity doesn't suddenly make that oppression go away. you can be oppressed based on a positionality that does not align with your identity.

if you have questions on positionality vs identity i urge you to reply to this post instead of ignoring the gap in your knowledge.

#positionality #identity #positionality vs identity #trans #trans community #transmasc privilege #transfem #transgender #discourse mention #important #oppression #activism #transandrophobia

[orange-orchard-system]

Fakeclaiming is easy because it feels like activism. It feels like protection.

Spotting a "faker" feels like you're doing something. It feels like you're protecting yourself, your community, by pointing at someone and saying "look, I have identified the enemy". You get to feel good that you have done something to help, and you get to feel good to see one of your enemies torn apart by your allies. It's based on a simple reward system for community.

The thing is, though, is that this community isn't solid, and this reward system is flawed.

If a primary way of protecting oneself is spotting fakers, then you're always on-guard, always looking for the enemy in your allies. You'll look for patterns where there may not be any, because you want a leg up on spotting the next of them; you want formulas to rely on – one to decide if someone is faking, and one to decide if someone is not. You want to make the process of protection as simple and easy as possible. And in turn, the easier it gets to "identity a faker", the more often you get that rush of spotting one, that camaraderie of tearing them apart with the "real ones". You have made it easier to justify hurting others, because you have made it easier to win that reward system. And yet, at the same time, because you must remain on-guard, you stress yourself over whether someone fits the formula(s) you have crafted. If all your enemies are fakers pretending to be allies, then you must be ready to turn on any of your allies and tear them apart, too. You must rely on this second formula; these rules you have enforced to decide who is real and who is not. You must not ever think about the process beyond how you can better improve your formulas.

There is no repeal, once a claim has been filed. There is only dogpiling and tearing them apart, demanding they apologize, delete their blog, kill themselves for "faking". They are the enemy, this is what has been declared, and you can tell because they plug into the formula. You can tell because they did something we don't approve of. You can tell because we have declared it true, and you must always believe us and never listen to the person we have been tearing apart, because you wouldn't want to risk defending the enemy, would you? Because...

Conveniently, people who speak out about this reward system are often automatically considered fakers, too. Because their voices are seen as defense of the enemy you have already branded, so they must be enemies too, right? I must now be your enemy for telling you the flaws in this system; in this community. Because only enemies to a community say there's something wrong with that community, don't they? They can't possibly be members of the community who want it to be (even) better. They can't possibly be real members of your community who you have plugged into an arbitrary formula that doesn't even make sense most of the time. They can't be people who have thought about this for two seconds and decided, "Actually, tearing people apart doesn't sound like a very moral action."

Fakeclaiming is a flawed reward system that depends on the idea that the main enemies of any community will always be trying to pretend to be them. Will always be wolves in sheep's clothing. And that the way to help your community – the way to get that rush of justice against your enemy – is to never truly trust your allies; to be prepared to hurt them at a moment's notice; to create formulas based on confirmation bias and plug people into them if they do something against the rules you have decided upon.

I'm aware this is scathing. That's the point. Fakeclaiming doesn't serve any productive purpose; all it does is give the same rush that hitting a child gives a parent.

I am also aware this will likely be used to make me out to be a "faker". An enemy. Very well, go right ahead. Anyone who would decide criticism about the way they go about harassing and tearing apart their own supposed "allies" is an act of "the enemy" is not someone I wish to associate with, so please do reveal yourselves, so that I may block you and move on with my life that does not involve hurting people for the rush it would give me but does involve thinking critically about accusations.

Fakeclaiming doesn't even help the community the way it's supposed to. Drop your formulas. There are better ways to help your community, like accepting our variance and differences, offering advice born from personal experience, and advocating for more awareness and acceptance in your everyday life. Go leave a positive comment on someone's post. Go make a positivity post. Be there for people. I believe you can do better, and make this community better, in turn.

#front soup.txt #discourse mention #long post #had thoughts about this today #fakeclaiming #suicide baiting

[neokonewman]

Those type of People: I hate how pale the human!Alastor concept is because he’s supposed to be a mixed race and looks pale as f•ck! He’s basically a white man! Gross!

Me, a mixed black person who has the near exact skin tone as most of the interpretations of human!Alastor: …

#hazbin hotel #hazbin alastor #alastor #discourse mention #drama mention #racism mention #colorism mention #if i had a nickel for every time this take has happen #i would honestly have at least a dollar by now #neo muses #some people just only see one shade of dark skin huh

[dimensionhoppinghare]

Proof that the shipping discourse is utterly pointless:

#invader zim #iz #shipping #johnen vasquez #discourse mention #irkens #space aliens #(i decided to post this on its own too)

[if-loki-was-a-fox]

It's really funny to me how much some people despise wing-ears on bird-hybrid characters with their whole beings. You'd think those things were commiting murders with the amount of hate they get sometimes

#just me rambling #discourse mention

[reminders-for-systems]

Daily reminder that you are under no obligation to interact with the system community. You do not owe anyone your time or opinions on discourse. You do not owe anyone information regarding your systems and/or alters. You owe people nothing about yourself. And this does not make you a bad person or "lesser than" others in the community or "wrong".

#actually did #actually dissociative #actually mentally ill #dissociative identity disorder #other specified dissociative disorder #did system #osdd system #system positivity #positivity #discourse mention

[this-world-of-beautiful-monsters]

I just think it's so funny that I've seen multiple posts on my dash in the past few days implying that "babygirl" is a secret conspiracy to hide the fact that Nobody Cares About Women besties i pinky promise that you can talk about female characters being ignored in fandom without convincing yourself that talking about male characters in feminine terms is Secret Misogyny.

#'rule 63 is just trying to make people care about women' because no one would ever ever be interested in canon characters from another angle #want to clarify this post is being made in a very lighthearted tone #I just do think it's amusing #also tomfoolery will be blocked on sight #discourse mention #discourse adjacent #tw discourse #female character s #babygirl

[echoes-lighthouse]

I will never be over people who prefer to make a canonically fucked up and abusive relationship into a 'uwu great father figure and their innocent little bean' rather than people who lean into the disturbing shit and make it romantic.

Like, yes, both are valid approaches and both of them are also fucked up approaches but the fact that one of them tends to get all holier-than-thou about it will always make me crack up.

#also the 'great father figure' one makes me worried #i'm like 'you know that isn't actually good right?' #whereas the people writing the fucked up romance shit #i'm like 'yeah you know you're writing something toxic i don't have to worry about you' #anyways #this is specifically about black butler and skulduggery pleasant #but i'm sure there are other instances #proship #ask to tag #i'm not sure what the content warning here would be #cw age gap #i guess? #fandom wank #fandom negativity #negativity #feeling spicy might delete this later :P #tw discourse #discourse mention

[probatiostudies]

heads up investigative folks: Portuguese-speaking creator Noble will no longer be participating in QSMP Purgatory 2. if you want to know the reason(s) why, feel free to sort through the bird app. i’d recommend putting anything lore related to him on hold since it might change with whoever takes his spot!

#qsmp #qsmp purgatory 2 #discourse #discourse mention

[crastledivorce]

I think a lot of DSMP discourse comes from the fact that people literally haven't seen the same story.

Each pov is a story. So is the larger SMP. But the only way to view The Story (of the whole DSMP) is by watching literally everything from everyone's pov. Which is impossible. Even besides some content being lost, most don't have the time or motivation to watch nearly all that.

That's all fine and dandy ofc, the fact that the medium is consumed by piecing chapters (vods) from multiple connected stories (povs) to make something is REALLY COOL!

But everyone's story made of everything they've watched varies as what they've watched varies. What they've watched colors how they interpret things. Even aside from personal bias and stuff it's literally Different Versions/Parts/Stories of the DSMP story.

Idk I think if we realized it it might get a little bit nicer around here.

#mcyt #dsmp #dsmpblr #dsmp fandom #discourse mention #the dsmp is dead long live the dsmp #<-my fandom tag

[unrestrainedbalderdash]

Stop blaming sex negativity on sex-repulsed aces challenge [impossible]

#just saw a post from a fellow ace complaining about sex negativity and throwing us under the bus. i'm so tired. #they said that not liking sex isn't because we're ace it's because we don't like sex #like the rest of the post? kind of iffy but plausible. but that sentence really ticking me off tbh #like imagine saying that if a trans person has dysphoria it can't be because they're trans and it has to just be body issues or summat? #let us be ace in our own way #why does our own community have so much infighting. why can't we all just respect each other #vent #discourse mention #asexual

[orange-orchard-system]

Why do we all have to argue over system origin shit when we could be making jokes about the origins of our headmates and/or our systems as a whole. I visualized picking up and putting down a blorbo like a cat and my brain decided that was good enough reason to grant said blorbo consciousness. How is that not just fucking hilarious

#front soup.txt #plurality #pluralgang #plural system #actuallyplural #actuallymultiple #systemsillies #funny #discourse mention

[dtblrlove]

Xomoosexo beloved, thank you for your very careful reasonableness when entertaining and discussing potentially disruptive conversations. I find myself going to your blog when I've been away from tumblr for a day because I'll usually find a pretty good and fair recap of any contentious events that might have occurred in dtblr while I was away. Very helpful for my anxiety while waiting for dream's bomb to drop <3 You are so good at moderating conversations and giving a fair and open playing field so I can know what's happening without needing to look at triggering Twitter idiocy or other unfortunate side effects of being in this lovely fandom <3

💌 @xomoosexo

#xomoosexo #discourse mention #💌 you've got mail!

[whumperofworlds]

Don't get involved in discourse don't get involved in discourse don't get involved in discourse don't

#seeing a post going around and i got stuff to say #but i'm being very brave about it #not gonna put myself out there in regards to certain discourse you know? #wow vents #vent #discourse mention

[hpdculture-is]

hpd culture is wanting to make every view you have extremely clear online (even though your views can easily change at times) and holding yourself back from making some of it obvious because people are downright shitty to people with a certain view in a type of discourse and even doxx them

-🍓🦇

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#actually histrionic #actually cluster b #actually hpd #cluster b #hpd #endo safe #histrionic pd #histrionic personality disorder #hpd culture is #sysmeds dni #also hi honey !!! (one of my in sys partners sent this ask) #(they didnt want to make a post abt it and I tend to make the posts on this blog mostly anyway) #discourse mention #doxxing mention #hpdculture-is #hpd culture #hpdculture is #🍓🦇 anon #anon ask #anon submission #vent #-Firelight

[lukmarc10]

dude i REALLY gotta unninstall twitter one of these days

being a hellaverse fan is like being a fucking nazi to the mfs over there i swear to christ

#hazbin hotel #helluva boss #vent #discourse mention #anti twitter