#do you rlly think diagnosing a stranger with Abusive Friendship

[tyrannuspitch]

x

#4nti 4ntis are genuinely so strange sometimes #do you rlly think diagnosing a stranger with Abusive Friendship #based on one sentence in an ask from a DIFFERENT stranger #about them being around some ppl with possibly overzealous stances on fiction #is the Mature and Sensible and Responsible response lmao #you do not know them!!!! #like sure ppl online can go overboard with this stuff #and can sometimes be quite *toxic* #but there is a world of difference between 'some of my tumblr mutuals have strong opinions of media and im anxious abt it' #and an abusive friendship. which requires a *power dynamic* and a complex system of manipulation and control #and tbh a lot of investment in the friendship in a first place #and not everyone actually does do that w their online friends! #it can be hard to tell from the outside bc ppl can be willing to share more and therefore trchnically be closer #w/o actually putting that much *time* in #etc etc it's just complicated and different from irl #even things like the threat of isolation... like okay definitely a threat to some ppl. but plenty of ppl have strong offline support sys #which their online friends cannot touch #and imo it is easier to find *new* online friends than offline bc the circles you can move in are less limited #if ppl do turn out to be shitty and drop you #etc etc #yhe point is you're making sweeping statements while knowing exactly Nothing abt this person's actual relationship to their online friends