#doesn't feel polite to show me that

[raayllum]

2x06 / 5x02

#tdp broyals #I FEEL A FIGHT A BREWING #tdp #the dragon prince #it doesn't have to touch on this bc rn it is mostly subtext BUT #if it does i will be screaming crying throwing up #closest advisor (opeli) / his defender (soren & corvus) #and honestly zubeia almost fills that political partner role #broyals #parallels #mine #multi #the show: we will not stop paralleling ezran having a hard time as king with when rayllum gets to goof off the most #i've thought of this every damn day since s5 aired #'go through this alone' is the realest line on earth to me #wishlist #s6 wishlist #final season wishlist

[epsilonchi]

I really think the fandom should finally accept that Show!Alicent is NOT gonna be a Cersei, at least for the early stages of the show. She is much more compassionate, much more selfless, probably the most selfless character of the entire show so far. She always tries to find a compromise between the ambition of her father, her friendship with Rhaenyra, and Viserys' whims, barely thinking of her own position, despite her political awareness. You can tell by her looks to Rhaenyra and to Viserys she sees how much empathy she has for the both of them, in their discussion with them how much she wants the best for them, despite the fact it doesn't benefit HER, or her father for that matter. Heck, we even see her disobey by proxy to her father, by not talking about succession shenanigans to Viserys after she read Corlys' letter. Her empathy is her biggest strength, and her biggest flaw in this game. And it is fascinating to watch her evolve at court, playing this incredibly tough balancing act between her father's ambition and her love for Rhaenyra and Viserys

#house of the dragon #hotd #alicent hightower #rhaenyra targaryen #rhaecent #rhaenicent #otto hightower #viserys targaryen #i should point out i DO NOT ship alicent and viserys #for obvious reasons #but their feelings for each other are truly interesting to analyse #alicent doesn't love him romantically #but she is happy to give her support because that's what a good wife does #and viserys probably sees her as the only person at court who doesn't sees him as the king #it's such an interesting dynamic #because viserys is so naive and craves support that is not political #but alicent KNOWS it IS political #but she can't show it #anyways point is : alicent hightower has me on a chokehold

[uncanny-tranny]

It's always weird when people are like, "Oh, you being [x minority] made me stop hating/reconsider my bigotry toward [minority]!"

Not only is it weird from the standpoint of "wow, you hated me?" but it's weird to know that you displayed some type of behaviour that proved your humanity to them, and that if you stop displaying that behaviour for any reason, it's possible they'll just slide back into their hatred because they haven't fundamentally challenged why they hated you and your people.

It's fine to grow out of your bigotry, yes, but I'm completely understanding of people being weary of those who are so brazen about how much they hated people like you.

#politics #ask to tag (genuine) #like i've expressed this before and it was like people were assuming i was ungrateful for their growth??? #but it's like... /have/ they outgrown their bigotry if they're almost jovial about just how hateful they were toward minority groups? #i feel like true growth from bigotry is understanding how harmful bigotry is and how you played into that... #...no that doesn't mean groveling about your past and performatively 'apologizing'... #...it means challenging the beliefs you held and learning how to spot them if they try festering back in your mind... #...because groveling isn't the same as growth and neither is pretending like past bigotry is amusing or funny or quirky... #...in my mind both those thought processes still center the 'reformed' bigot and not the people they hurt and held bigoted beliefs about... #...i think both those things are selfish and show (to me) that they may well do still hold those same bigotries but they're hiding them... #...and it will only be a matter of time before that bigotry festers and takes its mask off... #...like that is PRECISELY why bigotry against ~bad people~ is JUST AS BAD as bigotry toward ~good minorities~... #...like transphobia against a trans person who is a terrible excuse for a human is still transphobia. it doesn't matter how bad they are #(just as an example of what i mean)

[agentark]

R Verner, opening their mouth: 😎😏😉

S Dorran, milliseconds later: 🤨😑🤔

exhibit a

exhibit b sofia, we're all about to die can you roast ruby later

#sibling behavior #i was making a post about how S is quietly the funniest person in all of Fernweh #and then I realized all my best screenshots were of S and R's back and forth #if S wasn't so polite and courteous no one would be safe #it's tough being the smartest and funniest in town but someone's got to do it 😔 #i love both R's obvious sarcasm and S's dry wit - theyre so funny together #and also #i love how they feel like they still interacted after MC leaves fernweh and before the story starts #sometimes you get stories like these where it feels like the main characters stop existing to each other in the between times #like im not under the impression that they had weekly lunch outings or anything but it also doesn't feel like-- #--they conveniently started talking again two days before MC and B show up #the way that you talk to friends you've had since you were a kid/teen is so....like you know me in a way no one else does #and that creates a certain familiarity even if you dont interact as often as adults #it also gives you special privileges to mercilessly tease them #fernweh saga #fernweh saga spoilers #if snippets #i started a folder of these moments bc they crack me up so much

[talisidekick]

Transphobe: "You're a man."

Me: "LMAO! Looking like *this*? You need your eyes checked."

Queer Transphobe: "You're a man."

Me, on my knees like I just had my heart ripped out of my chest: "Et tu, Brutus?"

#i got misgendered by a lesbian who seemed totally okay and supportive of trans women until my experiences invalidated her ... #“AMABs are biologically superior to AFABs” ideology and that I sharex any relation to what she considered “biological womanhood” #it was damn lip service to make her seem trans positive but in truth it was just a show to poorly veil bioessentialism #this is the 5th time a cisgender lesbian has thrown me under the bus for convenience of their own political views when presented the ... #facts of my existence. i don't feel safe outside of exclusively trans supportive spaces. queer positive spaces without deliberate trans ... #representation feel just as unsafe as unspecified spaces now to me. like a pride flag (even the progressive one) doesn't make me feel ... #safe unless there's a trans specific one next to it. i just can't trust the space not to be obligatory but unwanted inclusion of trans ... #people for appearances purposes only. #trans #transgender #2slgbtqia+ #lgbtqia+ #lgbtq+ #lgbt+ #talisidekick things #talisidekick #mtf #queer

[sskk-manifesto]

(´･ᴗ･ ` )

#I really like the “We're the bad guys' enemy” line. For someone I generally despise Dazai has all my favourite lines in this show… #Idk I can't really vibe with the unbalance that there is between s/kk. #Like when push comes to shove‚ Dazai has the power to keep Chuuya alive or let him die. #I understand why they make a compelling dynamic in their complexity‚ but it just doesn't do it for me. #I'm a little sad my opinion on them hasn't really changed since I watched the anime for the first time... #Also; I really can't vibe with Chuuya allowing Dazai to kill Q. Yes I know Chuuya cares about his comrades deeply. #Yes I know it can be interpreted as Chuuya seeing himself in Q as a living weapon and being disgusted by it #(though I honestly don't think that was intentional of the author). #Yes I know Chuuya is a mafioso and kills people. No I don't think your personal issues justify you being a dick to other people I'm sorry. #Back to my main annoyance with the episode: I must have already talked about this but I hate hate hate the narrative #“the mafia works for the city” “the mafia deeply loves the city too” it's so so sickening and insulting please stop I'm begging. #Please visit any actual city with a rooted mafia presence for once in your life (signed: someone whose hometown was destroyed by the mafia. #The writers really don't know what they're talking about and‚ politely‚ it's offensive.) #Also b/sd keeping being extremely nationalist with Mori (who's largely depicted unsimphatetically for the first part of the episode)– #bringing up western thinkers and subtly mocking Fukuzawa for not knowing them– #and Fukuzawa (the righteous man. the noble spirit and just soul in this episode and Mori's antithesis)– #stepping forward to say that he knows strategists from the east (because who else would he need?) #I don't know if it's meant to symbolize the conflict with an hostile and invading foreign power (the Guild). #But it does come across as. A very isolationist way of thinking. #I know it's subtle but it's really evident for me. And I didn't want to talk about this any further… #But by bringing actual examples of this I hope I can better explain why I think that b/sd holds nationalist views– #and that I'm not just making it up out of nowhere. Otherwise I fear I'd only come off as pettily hostile to b/sd in everything #That's it. I feel like I've been losing a lot of mutuals over my main recently due to not shutting up (sorry) #so I suppose it's only fair I lose them on here too pffttt. #Tune in next week for more bad takes #random rambles

[licorishh]

Most people really don't seem to understand that friendship is a two-way street.

They expect you to wait on them hand and foot as they rant about and constantly pour on you either their issues or their passions and when you finally have something you'd like to talk about you get a "Man that sucks :/" or a "Cool" in return.

Find somebody who doesn't do that. Then you'll have your best friend.

#i know i ramble sometimes and i'm extremely grateful that my best friend puts up with it :') #but see then in return i do the same for her because it would be completely unfair for me to expect her to act like a wall for me to talk a #or when i wanna show her something and i can tell she's being polite and it doesn't personally strike her fancy I MOVE ON #and she does the same for me and we have way frickin better communication and we have a frickin rad friendship #it's give and take #and also can we bring back the idea of being able to work through some things on your own? #like i am ALL FOR having a support system that can encourage you when things go wrong but some things can be solved on your own #i shouldn't be bearing the burden of figuring out your life for you you know? #i'm absolutely willing to help but if you're just going to spend all your time complaining to me and never ever take my advice #then there comes a point at which i'm literally just acting as your therapist and that's not how friendships are supposed to work #i've become kind of the designated therapist in a lot of friendships throughout my life #and it is exhausting constantly being complained at (sometimes over very minor things) #only to have that person or people COMPLETELY ignore your advice every single time you try to give it #that's not friendship my dude that's using me because you just want someone to complain to #like i said. support system good. treating your friend like an emotional punching bag to let out your problems 24/7 very very bad. #like when i was feeling completely unlike myself and irritated and frustrated for three dang years straight #i didn't really talk about it much because i knew it wasn't the kind of thing advice was going to fix #so i wasn't in the discord servers every two seconds “MAN I REALLY JUST DON'T FEEL GOOD :///” #because when other people do this to me there comes a point at which i'm like “WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO DO ABOUT IT” #like i've given you all the advice i have and you have taken absolutely none of it nor have you taken any action on your own #so now i'm just here to make you feel better about yourself and that's really not my job #emotional support is necessary. patting you on the head when you refuse to do anything to better your situation is not. #tl;dr people who refuse to do anything to better their situation other than complain to ME about it 24/7 drive me nuts #and it drives other people nuts so please don't do it to anyone #don't bottle up your emotions but also don't let them come crashing down and drown everyone you know #just because you can't be bothered to put ANY effort forth to contain them #emotional regulation is attractive~~~ #society today has built such a culture of “it's not YOUR fault and if you cry about it hard enough someone will fix it for you” like no sir #sometimes it IS your fault and sometimes you DO need to take responsibility #and if it is your fault then absolutely no one but you is obligated to fix it

[motherthroat]

do you judge ppl's ocs

yeah. i judge everything

#n as usual─ what sm ppl don't get is tht just bc i make quick observations n can list it out don't mean i'm bothered by tht shit 24/7 #sorry ur brain doesn't work that way. skill issue. anyway u wanna know my most common complaints re: ocs? when they supposedly hv #lore but only their pronouns n sexuality r prioritized enough to be put in their bio (oh ik what kinda person u r.) also. ppl can gauge shi #like pronouns just by said char's desc. do not state it to me. show it. this also tells the artist's subtlety when it comes to giving u inf #n tht potentially includes their storytelling ability. also when a char is a humanoid creature w two forms n it's true one is. not much dif #from the “normal” one at all. idek this oc but i can alrd feel them being declawed from wtvr potential design they could hv if their creato #isn't allergic to drawing potentially ugly/gross/weird creatures #also. i think sm ppl just make bland chars bland designs n its even more apparent if they hv a duo to compare n contrast #why the hell r the last letters in these tags cut. shit. info. diff. creator #ALSO ALSO. idk what is ppl's obsession w japanese names but for the love of fuck learn its meaning n how to place it #saw an oc w a surname as their first name then sm ?? meaningless shit tht Sounds japanese as their surname like what in the world. change i #its the bare minimum to do research if u wanna use a piece of a foreign culture so so bad. FUCK! #while japanese do put surnames infront of first names i doubt this person knows cos 1) they're not knowledgeable 2) they v much treat tht #“first name” as a first name alr. not bc they're being formal/polite n following japanese traditions... in english

[aeide-thea]

very much an off-the-cuff post so there may well be bugs, i'm still workshopping my thinking here, but—

i seem to see posts fairly regularly in which a member of some marginalized group A is objecting to attempts by less marginalized group B to make connections between discrimination against A and harm experienced by B (the main thing i have in mind here is when people attempt to align themselves with visibly-trans people by pointing out the ways that transphobic legislation also impacts gnc cis people, theatrical crossdressing, &c, but there are definitely also examples along other axes)—

and like. the main objection i've seen from A is 'why do they have to connect my experience to their experience in order to care about it? why can't they just agree that i shouldn't be discriminated against as a matter of, like, compassion for fellow humanity?'

and this reaction does honestly always just seem a little, idk, naive to me?? like, i don't know, it's gotten very popular ime to complain about normies' clumsy attempts to Understand Instead of Just Accepting [this feels potentially linked to like. the way many of us now prefer silently clicking 'like' to producing our own original, maybe clumsy, responses? but don't @ me on that point], probably because a lot of the time they aren't genuinely seeking to Understand but just to point out all the ways our queerness &c doesn't fit their received (unexaminedly conservative) understanding of the world, which feels to us (very reasonably!) like renewed pressure from the establishment to make ourselves fit that established framework, and so we resist… but at the same time, idk, maybe i'm just outing myself as lesser-than-thou here, but for every sort of person i was raised to distrust and have since arrived at genuine loving acceptance/appreciation of, it's involved first coming to understand their frame of reference at least a little? not to say that there isn't a place for shutting up and listening while you're still working to understand, because there definitely is! but i do kind of think this idea that's become popular in certain liberal circles of like, 'you don't have to understand my experience, you just have to respect it,' is fine and true for keeping peace with strangers, but really isn't a recipe for winning friends or influencing people—it's a recipe for keeping people at arm's length where they can't hit you. and then people turn around and want to apply that rule to coalition-building, and get all shocked-pikachu-face when others seek to identify more active points of connection.

...

another ~Radical Objection to Liberal Approaches~ i've seen, though often not specifically in this context (of discussing the way attempts to oppress A have knock-on effects for B), is like—'there's no point in deconstructing their logic because it's fundamentally illogical! insert that sartre quote abt anti-semites!' and like. no, there's absolutely no point in debating their logic with them. but fundamentally when people assert a logical resistance to bigoted positions they are not doing it to Own The Bigots, imo, or at any rate shouldn't be; they're (we're) doing it to reaffirm the basis of their/our own camp's position, namely, we see your knee-jerk fears and reject them; we substitute instead a patient allegiance to logic, that reasons its way into compassion.

that said, obviously there's a conversation to be had here about, like, platforming bad positions, and to what extent deconstructing them is implicitly platforming them! but. i do think that complaining that logic won't win over bigots is missing the very fundamental point that the logic isn't for the bigots: it's for us. we're talking to ourselves; we're affirming ourselves. and yeah, we need to understand that this sort of intra-party discussion doesn't, on its own, constitute sufficient activism! messages need to be communicated beyond the bounds of the party! but i do think i disagree that there's no place for it.

#anyway i'm just sticking this all under a cut bc it got very long and i didn't arrive at a nice tidy overarching conclusion #but i guess i just think like. i'm not convinced that resisting people's attempts to understand a struggle as linked with theirs #is ever going to be a strategy that makes any sense— #i just think it's coming from a place of woundedness that wants its pain to be Seen and Matter In Itself #and not get ignored until someone else is also impacted #and like. that's SO emotionally valid! god! but also like. that's feelings and not a basis for politics??? #and the second point here— #which honestly could've been its own post; i was just thinking abt the two points together bc i saw a post that made them together— #really feels to me like. showing up at an internal org meeting and then complaining that it doesn't constitute effective public messaging #like yeah‚ people pass posts around on here that aren't gonna convince conservatives #but like. (a) how much convincing of conservatives do you really think is gonna happen on tumblr anyway? #and also (b) then make your own posts that *are* angled at convincing conservatives! or‚ you know‚ do something that isn't posting! #(in b4 'some of us have disabilities' yeah‚ me too! i emailed my representatives the other day! there's stuff you can do!) #but like. everybody just wants to critique other people's efforts (and obviously as per this very post i'm not immune!) #when it's like. most of what we're doing *isn't* activism—what it could be is the tentative social basis for a real coalition #on which activism could then be founded #but most of us would rather suspiciously snipingly in-fight than let these tentative social filaments thicken into binding ties! #anyway. a great example of a post by someone with adhd that will probably be prohibitively difficult for other ppl with adhd to read!

[nebulouscoffee]

Kira for the ask game, because I've sewn you mentioned liking her but haven't seen you talk about it much yet and would like to enable you

Yayy thank you!! (and I'm sorry I took so long to respond, it's been a very hectic week😅)

one aspect about them i love

Kira really embodies a lot of what I miss most about Star Trek tbh, which was the real desire to make the audience uncomfortable. Don't get me wrong; there is a lot about TOS, TNG and DS9 that didn't age well- but I still think an important goal they all shared was to take certain ideas and ideologies that might've seemed far-fetched to the audience of the time, and say- "why not?" Also, "Does this character's existence- and presence- make you uncomfortable? Well, maybe that's a YOU problem." And that's a goal which (imo) really faded over the years, because they grew more and more afraid of turning off the conservative audience. But not with Kira! Within minutes of her introduction, she offers a scathing shutdown of the "frontier" that Star Trek was quite literally built upon. She is literally a sympathetic "terrorist" MAIN character (rare enough), and furthermore a woman- and that too a "difficult" woman, who refuses to let herself be ignored or compromise her people's needs for the Starfleet crew's comfort (!!!), who is ANGRY and deeply religious and nationalistic and PROACTIVE and stomps around and shouts and cries and disagrees and wears her passion on her sleeve and is not at all afraid to make a nuisance of herself- and yet, still has numerous flaws and so many moments of self-doubt and raw vulnerability. What a fantastic character! This was 1993; I can think of so few TV women from that era who actively challenged the constructs (and men) around them so much. I love everything she represents

one aspect i wish more people understood about them

That her arc is more about learning to land upon nuance; not toning down her Bajoran-isms. Her patriotism and faith do occasionally steer her the wrong way, yes- but Kira's growth doesn't at all involve her renouncing either of those things! If anything, it's Sisko who ends up having to adjust to her perspectives. In general I'm always craving more nuanced discussions re DS9's postcolonial dynamics, too- Kira has such a range of interactions with Cardassians on the show, and numerous episodes ('Destiny', 'Life Support', 'Ties of Blood and Water', etc) show that she's genuinely invested in peace between their peoples; something I think often goes ignored. Yes, she's justifiably furious about everything they did to her home- but at the end of the day, what she wants is justice and reparations for Bajor and Bajorans; and if a small (understandable) part of her does want to see Cardassia crash and burn, she really doesn't act upon it

Also, she's funny! Remember when she told Dukat the baby was O'Brien's with no further explanation? Lmaoo what a troll

one (or more) headcanon(s) i have about this character

That she only received a very basic education. She does mention finger painting and playing springball as a kid, but also- Kira grew up in a refugee camp and she joined the Shakaar cell at age 12; she probably missed out on the higher education even the average Bajoran of her generation received (which itself was likely Cardassian State-controlled). Idk, this is low key important to me because so many Star Trek characters are almost like- defined by their scientific and educational smarts, if that makes sense? It's refreshing to see a Trek character who doesn't quite make sense of herself or the world around her primarily through (Western) scientific constructs

Also, Kira absolutely has unexamined caste biases; she just never really learnt to recognise them because caste played such a minimal role in the Resistance- but most Bajorans are far more aware of caste dynamics than she typically is (I just do not buy that the D'jarra system completely went away in less than 60 years)

one character i love seeing them interact with

Ben Sisko! They have SUCH a fascinating dynamic, it's so complex and sweet and often quite trying and hurtful but still kept afloat on this deep, deep underlying mutual respect. Ben's position as the Emissary makes everything so wonderfully complicated, and watching Kira's frustrations at the fact that she actually believes in him morph into reassurance as he slowly transforms from being the Starfleet Outsider to truly being Of Bajor... ahhh it's so good. That scene where he invites her to a baseball game lives in my head rent free! (Also they high key make a fascinating ship imo, I am something of a post-canon Sisko/Kira/Kasidy truther)

one character i wish they would interact with/interact with more

I have multiple answers to this (Julian, Worf, Garak, Keiko, Ziyal, Cretak, Jake, Ezri, etc) but I'm gonna go with someone she actually interacts with quite a bit, because I just wanted mOArrr. Jadzia!

Yes, it was the 90s, so I'm glad they were at least allowed to be friends and not like, cattily pitted against each other. But I still craved more layers to their onscreen dynamic! I mean, Jadzia, the Starfleet "Science Officer" who openly dismisses Kira's religious beliefs on more than one occasion? Kira, the child soldier who finds most of Jadzia's pastimes and preoccupations frivolous and silly? It's so interesting that they keep spending time together despite such fundamental differences, and I would've loved a bigger exploration as to why! They deserved their own 'The Wire', basically. Much like the central two characters of that episode, the answer is that they actually have a LOT more in common than is apparent at first glance (fraught senses of identity, complicated relationships with their home worlds, a sense of loss regarding family) where they outwardly seem like polar opposites. And all of this is not even getting into the nonlinearity of Bajoran religion vs the lives of Dax... gosh, there was room for so much! They deserved a whole Big Sequence full of Monologues the actors could really sink their teeth into, they deserved for one of them to fly off on a dangerous quest to save the others' life- and you know what!! They deserved a little homoerotic hand-holding too!! But, I suppose that's what fanfiction is for😂

one (or more) headcanon(s) i have that involve them and one other character

She and Bashir definitely grow much closer after the show's end; whether he stays behind on DS9 or not :)

#just gonna clarify- my second point really wasn't targeted at anybody on here. not an attack I promise!! #I just feel like we erase the nuances with her a bit #like in wider trek fandom I've seen a lot of people talk about her attitude towards cardassians as if she's a bigot #which I feel is extremely reductive of her character (and dismissive of her trauma too) #meanwhile on here people (sometimes) talk about her like she walks around with a CARDASSIANS DNI banner or something #like the very suggestion of her (or any other bajoran) having to interact with a cardassian is unthinkable and offensive? #and imo this really just doesn't reflect canon at all! (or irl postcolonial dynamics. but.. I don't wanna go there lol) #recently was talking to a mutual about her dynamic with cardassians (g@rak in particular) and it made me realise #they're actually far more civil with each other in the show than even I make them out to be! and I'm like- the no1 'k1ra & g@rak' fan lmao #even in TOBAW she's actually invested in ghem0r's politics. she's enthusiastic that he represents ''hope for cardassia'' #and she REALLY doesn't have to be! yet she is. what precisely this says about her is so much more interesting to think about #also... idk. in general writing bajor as if completely and magically stripped of all cardassian influence and interaction is so weird to me #(let's just say if things really worked that way I would not be writing this in English lol) #tysm for the ask btw!! always glad to have an opportunity ramble about k!ra nerys :) #ask game

[gynecologistmsfrizzle]

sick and fucking tired of abled people wanting me to hold their hand and reassure them we can still be friends if they don’t wear masks. fuck you. don’t you dare ask me “is it okay if i keep my mask off?” you KNOW the answer is no. you already know i don’t want your fucking covid because you have EYES and I’M WEARING A GODDAMN N95.

people only ever ask that question because they KNOW your response is going to be “oh, um, i don’t care...” bc responding any other way makes you look unhinged and demanding. nobody is ever gonna tell you to put a mask on. do you understand that? nobody is EVER gonna ask you to put a mask on, no matter how high fucking risk they are. “you can’t tell me what to do with my body” NONE OF US EVER WILL.

when you say “stop trying to force me to wear a mask,” what you are actually saying is “stop reminding me that my choice not to wear a mask is selfish and ableist, because that makes me feel bad about myself.”

the first point would be a fair request-- much as i think you should be masked, i sure don’t think anyone should hold you down and force it on you. but nobody is doing that.

the second point is not a fair request. kill us if you want. fine. i can’t stop you. but you will look us in the fucking eye when you pull the trigger.

#my classmate tried to have a conversation with me about why i seemed frostier than usual towards her #and i was like listen. you already know the answer to that question. #(she did know the answer. she brought it up immediately.) #you don't want me to explain how hurtful it is to see you preach anti-oppressive practice with your unmasked mouth. #you already know. #the reason you're bringing this up is because you want me to reassure you that you're the exception. and you're not. #when i talk about how much it hurts to see abled people throwing us by the wayside bc they don't feel like inconveniencing themselves #even slightly #to save our lives? #that's about you too! in fact that's fucking ESPECIALLY about you! #i watched you go out to parties maskless all through covid! i watched you show up to class in flimsy single layer cloth masks #and take them off at the slightest opportunity #and drop them the second the mandate ended! #and now i'm watching you talk about harm reduction and disability rights ?? do you think i have my eyes closed ?? #i am not forcing you to wear a mask. in fact i have told you EXPLICITLY that i will never pressure you to wear a mask. #but i also refuse to lie and tell you it's fine and that your convenience outweighs people's lives. it doesn't. #no matter how hard you try and bait me into saying it. #this is not just about this one person. i'm thinking of her specifically but this is about every so called leftist who threw out their masks #either your progressive politics are a steaming pile of crap or you just don't think disabled people should be part of your visionary future #it's one or the other. PICK. #rhi talks

[awordwasthebeginning]

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#this wasn't prompted by anything so don't worry #i've just been thinking about it from time to time #i think it might be helpful for me (and maybe for others too) to separate fandom and activism #not in the sense of 'oh but i watch [show] because it has great queer/poc/... rep! i'm doing my part' #but more in the sense of #'this book/film/show has problematic aspects and so does the fandom. but it is a hobby and does not define my political views' #because it doesn't and it shouldn't #being a fan of something means that i enjoy it. and others may not enjoy it for a variety of reasons some of which political. #that does not mean that our separate views of the thing define how we interact with each other outside of fandom #or how we approach (political) issues in real life #(obviously it depends. jkr making a fuckton of money for her transphobic agenda with hp merch should be reason enough not to buy her shit) #but generally...most fandoms do not have that much of an impact on real life. and so it should be ok to sometimes enjoy a thing #without constantly justifying my enjoyment to myself and/or to others. without constantly questioning it. #because i know that my actual political activism with irl impact goes in the right direction #and if you feel like your fandom experience defines your activism/is what your political views are being judged for #maybe you should find a second hobby; engage in actual activism if it makes you feel better. #because that will have a positive impact on society/the world; unlike apologising to like 47 people for uncritically enjoying something #(again. it depends. if a friend was really hurt by how [issue] was represented in a medium - I wouldn't gush about how much I loved it #or try to downplay it. maybe we won't make that medium part of our friendship then. and keep it in mind. #but i cannot keep my life 100% pure and unproblematic. that's impossible. and again. fandom is not how i shape the world. it shouldn't be.) #loquor #tdl #probably

[dutybcrne]

One-sided Kaebedo idea. Not for angst, but for just the sheer absolute PUPPY MODE Kae would be in trying to make himself useful to Albedo and Albedo realizing okay yeah, maybe it IS kind of cool to have someone THAT dedicated to you helping out with shit-

#☆ ┆ ( .ooc. ); #//Kae confessing to him while drunk or smth; Bedo politely (bluntly) declining bc he doesn't feel the same #//Kae; even mortified his drunk self revealed such a thing; asking if he could still SHOW/act on his feelings in the form of Acts of Service #//Bedo letting him after they both carefully negociate boundaries and do's/don'ts #//No angst bc Kae is DEFFO not emotionally ready for any relationship but content he can still show his love and be Useful to him #//Honestly; I think Kae would prefer that arrangement over being genuinely reciprocated anyways #//Even reassuring Bedo he doesn't ever need to give him anything back; just let Kae help him with stuff. That's all he'll ask #//Bc the best part is getting to actively take care of/help sb he admires without getting snarked over it/refused in a way that Hurts #//That's all Kae'd ever want out of the arrangement and gives Bedo no pressure to give more than he can bear/is able #//Bedo getting to see how dedicated and hardworking Kae actually is; realizing how much more work he can get through with his help #//And gets to have someone who will listen to his every word and soundboard for him (Kae DEFFO works to keep up with everything) #//Someone who would willingly write down everything he dictates including little thoughts and tangents #//Someone who keeps an eye on him and makes sure he isn't neglecting himself in his laser focus on his work #//Both getting to be better friends through being around each other more and bonding over their mutual care for Klee #//Kae would straight up make the arduous trips to Dragonspine as much as Bedo would need him to; just to help him #//Bedo keeping booze somewhere in his labs for Kae to thank him for jobs well done (Kae won't even protest the limit; happy to get them) #//The fact that Kae canonically outright says he's into Bedo got me brainrot once I saw it while checking to ref smth kjdfgg #//So have more thinkings #//Oh my god; Kae being Bedo's extrovert/social interaction shield #//That's another perk of this #//Being each other's plus one to events; Kae making sure to keep an eye out for Bedo and stepping in to spare him socializing #whenever he needs an out #//Or being there to give Bedo a line if he needs a bit of help in an interaction; always ready to help give him an opening in a convo #so he can talk about his research or otherwise be able to weigh in on things. Kae would NEVER let him go unheard if he can help it #//Aaaaand back to draft working I go #//I am getting through LOTS today let's goooo

[angeltism]

is it entitled of me to say everyone including the creator of this song needs to calm the fuck down with their cluster b ableism

#➳ valentin vents #might b weird of me to say considering i am not the creator nor do i know how bad the relationship this was based off of was #but seriously holy fuck no matter how shit a person is to you. demonising their symptoms of a literal disorder is never okay #and you have a platform and now everyone is yapping abt how ''ouughhh evil evil evil'' #politely shut up #look for this i'll take my own abuser as an example. are they comparable? how should i know. #but my abuser was very hypersexual and had bpd (was self dxed and showed many symptoms) #and these influenced a lot of the. well. abusive shit he did to me #am i going to say him being hypersexual is evil? am i going to say He is evil? am i going to sayyy #that his symptoms of bpd were evil? am i gonna make a fictional character with the worst of his symptoms and call it evil and #encourage others to demonise him and call him evil? and like. everyone else who's experienced symptoms he did? #FUCK NO!!!!! #you don't deserve to get treated like shit but every person on planet earth who deals with symptoms of a disorder #doesn't deserve to feel like. evil. because someone was an asshole to you #like. your abuser was abusive because they needed fucking. Therapy. and didn't know how to deal w their symptoms and yeah they're in the #wrong but Christ like. soryr fuck im pissed

[medicinemane]

I still argue that bleeping someone like Gorden Ramsey is bullshit so that people who love and find swearing fun can pretend that they didn't just hear him call someone a fucking donkey, because there was a bleep... like they don't know the exact word he used, like they didn't think it, and like they didn't have fun with it

Cause I bet you... any amount of money you want honestly, that if you asked Gorden Ramsey not to swear he just wouldn't... I don't think they ever bleep anything in shows where he's helping kids cook

No, people find swearing fun, it's entertaining... they just don't want to admit they like it because it's naughty

And to be clear I'm directly pointing to this and pointing to 'unalive' and drawing a line between them for how we got here

#you either don't swear or you do; bleeping is only for when no one's supposed to swear but it came out by accident #but 99% of the time; you can tell the producers wanted people to swear because their audience loves it #and at best they didn't bother telling them to keep it polite; and at worst they encouraged it #you know; I once when I was like 12 went with my mom to see Chuck D give a talk about stuff #and at the end when he went up he was like 'oh I'm so sorry; I didn't know there was a kid in the audience or I wouldn't have cussed' #and we assured him it wasn't a problem (didn't explain I'd know all of it since I was little) #(and I think to an extent even then I had a mentality of that I'd rather hear it how he was gonna say it normally) #but... he very clearly could have and would have simply kept a check on himself like everyone is capable of #and he clearly would have been more than happy to #it wasn't an 18+ event; it just was on a college and he expected adults only and talks how he talks #you can have zero naughty words most of the time... all you have to do is ask #and you can avoid serious conversations... it's polite to let people not be forced to engage with topics they don't want most of the time #hell; that's the whole point of trigger warnings #...I don't know; I'm forever fuming about this whole fucking topic #it's like a huge portion of humanity is willingly and gladly throwing shackles on #it's on thing not to say fuck; I respect the hell out of that #it's one thing to mind your words and subject; go for it #and it's also one thing not to want to listen to people swear #you know... I often do tone down how I feel like talking cause... I get some people following me might not like it... and I actually care #...it's just also... in the end this is my spot I dump bullshit out of my skull in a verbal vomit #so you get it how you get it... but like I get not wanting to hear it #but don't you fucking tell me you hate swearing and them sit their laughing at a bleeped bit from a show where someone's cursing up a storm #no you like swearing but you're just being a shifty self righteous prick that's pretending you don't to feel smug #and don't talk about death if you don't want to #but don't say 'unalive'; not unless you're meaning the opposite of undead and coming up with something interesting #if you're saying 'unalive' you're just a spineless fucker who can't even manage saying you'll kill a zombie in minecraft #(or a fool who doesn't get what you're going along with)

[fairie-grl]

https://www.tumblr.com/fairie-grl/742807151930638336/if-you-dont-like-max-thats-fine-no-one-is

I’m the one who wrote this and you really don’t get anything. He’s not a perfect person and I understand why the use of mongol does offend you, but here’s a couple points.

1) Saying a man isn’t usually racist DOES NOT make you racist. Unless he said he agreed or what he said wasn’t racist at all, then he isn’t racist

2) yes, I’m a poc who defended him, but saying I did it because I want him to have gay sex is the dumbest shit I’ve ever heard. I don’t like shipping and it’s so stupid of you to think everyone who defends him does it because of that reason

3) it is about being racist because that’s what your whole post was accusing him of. You literally said that he has been openly racist, admitted to being racist, and has said the N-word many times. You have no proof of him doing any of this. All you rely on is your word, and when people tell you that he isn’t being racist, you just say “no, he is.”

You have no leg to stand on anymore. You can’t just come on the site, lie about a man being racist, make it about something else, refuse to give any more proof on how he was racist, and then say people only wanted to defend him because they want him to have gay sex. at first, I was just assuming that you didn’t know you were in the wrong, but now I think you’re outright mental. You seriously need to think about this. Because some people are giving you genuine logic and facts, and all you say is “no, he is a racist, because I said so” I know that’s not exactly what you said, but that’s basically what everyone is getting.

If he has admitted to being racist, show proof. If he has said the N-word multiple times, as you’ve said in your tags, show proof. If he is as openly racist as you say, show proof. There’s no such thing as people being perfect, and I’m not saying that he hasn’t done some very shitty things, But he has changed from that time and is trying to become a better person. Yes, he has said some ablest slurs, but not once. Has he ever been racist like you accused him of, but you’re not gonna see that. You refuse to see what you wanna see, and read anything but what you wanna read. I sincerely hope that you take time off of this app and get some help because obviously you need it.

There's nothing more you can make of that. I think the wording that was used, even with the different kind of cultures and things they probably said when they were younger, was not correct.

"Let it be a lesson for the future not to use that word because it's very offensive, especially nowadays it gains more traction."

#these are articles i used to make my opinion #i feel like using the 'it just his family' remark dowsn't work with romantic partners #that is a choice he makes #i have broken up with people for less then political opinions #also him not kneeling #i know the kneeling was an american idea lewis did but max chose not too #max picked sponsor over showing an ounce of care for poc #if i was a part of his pr team i would slap him for that tbh #so many celebs made half hearted remarks #i acknowledge max said racism bad but #kneeling is the easiest way to show he cares #also as an american the idea of 'it just what he said back in the day' #doesn't work with me #my grandma grow up in an era with nword being the norm and she never says it #i grow up around black kids saying it all the time as a term for friend and i never said it #america has a this image of being the most rasict #seeing how you have chosen to defend the netherlands i feel like we might have been dethroned #also max is german #saying you aren't defending his ablest statements is not the own you think it is #i know you aren't open to changing you mind #but know you are upholding the same systems that are actively harming you #i personally could never