#domestic violence prevention

[megan-taylor]

#transparency #accountability #youtube #human rights #domestic violence prevention

[theecrybaby]

Football season has started again

Which statistically means it also the season of domestic violence cases being on the rise.

Please know it is not your fault, he will not change, you need to get out!

Here are some resources:

National Domestic Violence Hotline -

Call: 800-799-7233

Text: START to 88788

Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and 200+ through interpretation service

National Suicide Prevention Hotline -

Call: 988

Text: HOME to 771771

24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones

Please boost and share because you never know who it could help or if you could be the one to need help

Stay safe ❤️

#boost #suicide prevention #resources #mental health #domestic abuse #domestic violence #abuse survivor #survivor #signal boost #share

[facelesspassport]

The Boiler Theory of Men

When talking about an abusive or dangerous man, do you ever hear things like, "He holds in his feelings too much, and they build up until he bursts... He needs to get in touch with his emotions and learn to express them to prevent those explosive episodes"? "My colleagues and I refer to this belief as "The Boiler Theory of men." The idea that a person can only tolerate so much accumulated pain and frustration. If it doesn't get vented periodically-- kind of like a pressure cooker-- then there's bound to be a serious accident. This... has the ring of truth to it because we are all aware of how many men keep too much emotion pent up inside. Since most abusers are male, it seems to add up. But it doesn't, and here's why: Most [abusive men] are not unusually repressed. In fact, many of them express their feelings more than some nonabusive men. Rather than trapping everything inside, they actually tend to do the opposite: They have an exaggerated idea of how important their own feelings are, and they talk about their feelings-- and act them out-- all the time, until their partners and children are exhausted from hearing about it all. An abuser's emotions are as likely to be too big as too small. They can fill up the whole house." - Day 4 of sharing Lundy Bancroft's excerpts from Why Does he DO That? I would like to add this: I'm sure many of you have seen that people especially love to use this myth to justify atrocities like mass shootings and other "crimes of passion" that result in the deaths of innocent people. The reality is that men who behave in abusive ways are not victims of society. They are not bottling up their emotions, in need of a place to vent, suffering from low self-esteem, etc. It is quite the opposite. These men are suffering from being over-emotional, grandiose, and entitled. Notice how men will always go on shooting sprees shortly after finding communities of like minded individuals, venting their frustrations to them, and spending hours a day exchanging information with peers (all things that are supposed to help people get better)?. They meet people in cyberspace and real life: places such as 4chan, "redpill" forums, on-campus white nationalist club meetings, Fraternities, bars, "mens rights" rallies and it emboldens them to finally unleash their rage onto the public. Perhaps if we stopped having such bleeding hearts and took away their platforms these men would shrivel back up and stay in their parents basements where they belong. Just an idea.

#lundy bancroft #why does he do that #abuse prevention #domestic violene #toxic masculinity #incelcore #incels #male entitlement #4chan moment #male violence #mra #mens rights #mens rights activists #redpill #red pill #4chan #feminist #feminism #womanist #womanism #feminist discourse #womanist discourse #femcel #girlblogging

[furiousgoldfish]

#escaping abuse #domestic violence #child abuse #cycle of abuse #escape sabotage #abuse has good times to keep you drawn in #and isolation and smear campaign to prevent social networking to get you out #without connections the world of escape looks bleak and unatainable

[kneelbeforezod]

We're all in this together.

#international men's day #mental health #suicide prevention #domestic violence #death

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

PRESS RELEASE

Rebecca Hain: [phone]

Email: [email protected]

Istanbul Convention’s Neglect of Female-Perpetrated Abuse is a Historic Betrayal of Women in Same-Sex Relationships

WASHINGTON / January 30, 2023 – Numerous studies show that women in same-sex relationships experience higher rates of domestic violence than women in heterosexual relationships. Inexplicably, the EU Convention on Preventing and Combating Violence against Women, also known as the Istanbul Convention, excludes consideration of female-perpetrated violence.

Surveys reveal that lesbian-perpetrated violence is more frequent than heterosexual partner violence (1). A study conducted in Italy found the following (2):

52.9% of women revealed the presence of quarrels with their female partner was “substantial”

11.8% of women admitted to “always” fearing their partner’s reaction

19.5% of women said their female partner had requested sex against their will

A United Kingdom survey revealed (3):

40.1% of females reported they had ever experienced domestic abuse by a female partner.

Women were more likely to have their sexuality used against them, be blamed for their partner’s self-harm or have their children threatened or used against them in some way, compared to male homosexuals.

Commentators have deplored the long-standing “silence around the violence” arising from domestic violence policies that focus only on heterosexual abuse. As a result, female perpetrators are viewed as less violent, police are unresponsive to pleas for help, shelters are unprepared, and counseling programs fail to recognize the unique challenges faced by women in abusive same-sex relationships (4).

The Charter of Fundamental Rights of the European Union states unequivocally, “Human dignity is inviolable” (Article 1), “Everyone has the right to liberty and security of person” (Article 6), and “Any discrimination based on any ground such as sex….shall be prohibited” (Article 21). (5)

The Istanbul Convention’s open discrimination against women in same-sex relationships is a flagrant violation of the European Charter. The Domestic Abuse and Violence International Alliance urges country-level lawmakers to contact Members of the European Parliament to express their concerns.

The Domestic Abuse and Violence International Alliance – DAVIA — consists of 70 member organizations from 25 countries in Africa, Asia, Australia, Europe, Latin America, and North America. DAVIA seeks to ensure that domestic violence and abuse polices are science-based, family-affirming, and gender-inclusive. https://endtodv.org/coalitions/davia/

Citations:

https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/nisvs_sofindings.pdf Tables 6, 7, 8, and 9

https://old.gaycenter.it/NEWS.asp?id_dettaglio=2123

https://equation.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/Comparing-Domestic-Abuse-in-Same-Sex-and-Heterosexual-relationships.pdf

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/327143194_When_Intimate_Partner_Violence_Meets_Same_Sex_Couples_A_Review_of_Same_Sex_Intimate_Partner_Violence

https://commission.europa.eu/aid-development-cooperation-fundamental-rights/your-rights-eu/eu-charter-fundamental-rights_en

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https://www.preventconnect.org/2013/01/first-federal-study-of-violence-among-lesbian-gay-and-bisexual-communities

#Coalition to End Domestic Violence #lesbian relationships #violent women #Istanbul Convention #gay erasure #abusive relationships #intimate partner violence #domestic violence #Domestic Abuse and Violence International Alliance #EU Convention on Preventing and Combating Violence against Women #same sex relationships #gay relationships #religion is a mental illness

[daughterofdessalines]

A NEIGHBOR OF THE COUPLE SAID THE POLICE HAD BEEN THERE 6 TIMES.

NYPD IS USELESS.. BECAUSE POLICE ARE NOT HERE TO PROTECT OR SERVE US.

#fuck the police #police do not prevent crime #police do not keep us safe #defund nypd #domestic abuse #domestic violence

[silhouettecrow]

365 Days of Writing Prompts: Day 164

Adjective: Small

Noun: Devil

Definitions for those who need/want them:

Small: of a size that is less than normal or usual; not great in amount, number, strength, or power; not fully grown or developed, or young; (of a voice) lacking strength and confidence; used as the first letter of a word that has both a general and a specific use to show that in this case the general use is intended; insignificant, or unimportant; little, or hardly any; (of a business or its owner) operating on a modest scale; (archaic) low or inferior in rank or position, or socially undistinguished

Devil: (in Christian and Jewish belief) the chief evil spirit, or Satan; an evil spirit, or a demon; a very wicked or cruel person; a mischievously clever or self-willed person; fighting spirit, or wildness; a thing that is very difficult or awkward to do or deal with; (informal) a person with specified characteristics; expressing surprise or annoyance in various questions or exclamations; an instrument or machine fitted with sharp teeth or spikes, used for tearing or other destructive work; (dated) (informal) a junior assistant of a lawyer or other professional

#work has been pretty hectic lately (i mean when is it not when you work in the field of domestic violence advocacy?) #but ive been dealing with a lot of interpersonal issues (misgendering of myself and clients being the biggest) with the company i work for #that im trying to work with people higher up than me to find ways to resolve these issues and prevent them from happening in the future #and thats all stressful but these changes need to happen and theres a part of me that feels like im making a difference in a big way #or i hope so at least #anyway i like the possibilities with this prompt #more specifically all the combos ive been coming up with in my head sound fun and exciting to work with in a poem #as per usual my main issue is going to stem from which combo to pursue #thanks for reading #writing #writer #creative writing #writing prompt #writeblr #trying to be a writeblr at least

[rachelbethhines]

Article Headline: Gunman without a history of violence legally buys guns and causes a mass shooting.

The Actual Article: He totally had a history of domestic violence and everyone who knew him admits it.

#gee it's almost like we need better laws that prevent people with domestic violence charges from buying guns #pro-gun nuts don't interact or I will fucking kill you

[starfirebird]

I have many fights with my family but the number one thing I cannot understand is the belief that anything that is illegal is inherently immoral

Things can be morally necessary and also illegal

Things can be morally neutral and also illegal (but we didn’t even get to that)

ALSO “I can’t explain why because it’s classified*” is not a good justification for anything

#*as in by the us government #finally told my dad outright that i consider his career choice unforgivable #my family approaches so-called political differences via discussions that are essentially wide-ranging and vicious arguments #these occur at a ratio of roughly once per every time i see them for more than a week #and are actually a relatively healthy way of dealing with conflict in my opinion #by serving as a reminder of exactly where everyone stands on almost everything #and by everyone mostly me and whichever parent chose to engage #which is my mom on bodily autonomy and religion issues #and my dad now in a loose coalition with my brother on US domestic and foreign policy #but as a reminder it is our duty to serve the interests of humankind animals and the environment first #and that violence should only ever be a last resort and only to serve those ends #and that nonviolent protest in the interest of preventing harm is always morally justifiable

[alienwithawire]

We need these cures, now.

I didn’t know that you were a fan of shish kebab that’s so cool

Well … speak of fat… it’s no joke.

You can you can imagine if 60 years ago these guys were thin

I’m severely anorexic, and my child is dead

I didn’t know that Dennis thought he owned Nancy like property without love

What a sad, pathetic excuse for a human being

But then he decided to try to play with the big boys and they didn’t wanna play with him so things got complicated

Natalie Imbruglia drove me off road I had been to the location before the long long time ago and

It’s been almost impossible for girls to have clean and fresh

Those police officers would kill Natalie Imbruglia. I guess, except for the fact that the mafia might come after them. And of course that’s kind of what happened in the case of the police department. Most of them are not in the know because you know they don’t make very much money lol.

Anyway, the mafia agrees that the police department here, and in many other departments have gone way too far and it is safe to say that the mafia has a war against the cops but that’s not anything new. The only thing Neil is that we will actually get revenge for every child harmed, every woman that little joke that you guys played all of those things will be taken care of by somebody whether legally or illegally.

You guys took it too far when you sexually harassed me

And not even officer friendly is going to get away with that

So anyway officer friendly do you feel like John Wayne now or do you feel like Matt Dillon from that movie?

Or do you just feel like a completely disgusting, pervert, paedophile piece of trash?

Yes sir yes ma’am understand sweet as apple pie over here

Awe. But the cop and my brother?

Nope. Weren’t having it. Racists.

As far as the racist greedy African Americans go, what would you have me do they can’t have what is mine and I don’t steal from African-American people because that is wrong

I don’t think that Kaleb and Mr. Gregg really want to play that way but at the same time they do want to have a piece of ego but you really don’t wanna play with me boys

And I’ll tell you something else the next African-American who sits in my space or vice versa if you run your cock sucker to me about anything Native American or indigenous I’m going to spit in your face and have you leave

We don’t need any of that uncivilized nonsense

You know what it is right black America African lives matter, so goddamn much right now that it’s making me sick and some of you are making me wanna fucking kill you and that’s not who I am because I’m not a murderer at heart

I am upset because I know that African Americans know better but white people most of them are lost

#lobotomies #private autism schools of America #Seriously guys check these schools out #Electro shock torture #Black Lives Matter #Asian Lives Matter #1950s #sexism #racism #lgbtq #trans #bisexual #ugly #annoying #fat #dementia prevention #domestic violence #doctoral domestic violence #ouch #dr Mujahid Nasir #dr Brian Harmych #plastic surgery classism jokes #if she’s poor score! the drs said #elizabethtown Kentucky #Beechwood Ohio #plastic surgery disasters #indigenous America #linux #pets #long hair

[rodspurethoughts]

Adam Rosenberg and Center for Hope: Leading the Fight Against Child Abuse and Advocating for Prevention

With the recent release of the Maryland Attorney General’s report on child abuse in the Catholic Church over decades in Baltimore, the issue of child abuse has once again come to the forefront of public consciousness. Many people are asking what can be done to support victims and what can be done to prevent abuse in the first place. Adam Rosenberg, the executive director for LifeBridge Health’s…

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#Adam Rosenberg #advocacy #awareness #Center for Hope #CHAMP Network #child abuse #community #domestic violence #gun violence #human trafficking #intervention #Maryland #policy #prevention #social justice #victim support

[facelesspassport]

Abusive men tend to blame their treatment of women on past women who have hurt them. This is a lie. It is a distortion meant to absolve them of guilt and excuse their actions.

"The disrespect that abusive men so often direct toward women in general tend to be born of their cultural values and conditioning rather than personal experiences of being victimized by women. Some abusive men use the excuse that their behavior is a response to such victimization because they want to be able to make women responsible for men's abuse. It is important to note that research has shown that men who have abusive mothers do not tend to develop especially negative attitudes toward females, but men who have abusive fathers do; the disrespect that abusive men show their female partners and their daughters is often absorbed by their sons."

Day 5 of sharing excerpts from Why Does he DO That? by Lundy Bancroft

#feminist #feminism #womanist #womanism #lundy bancroft #why does he do that #abuse prevention #domestic violence

[juliefederico]

#anger control domestic violence spousal abuse temper tantrums toddler anger control domestic violence prevention

[museologistanarchist]

a few of my favorite zines from Sprout. Highly recommend giving them a read

Tips on staying sane & calm while being arrested & sitting in a jail cell alone

Anarchist Survival Guide for Understanding Gestapo Swine Interrogation Mind Games

Counter-Info: A "How-To" Guide

Critical Thinking as Anarchist Weapon

Reading for Revolution

The Illegitimacy of Violence, the Violence of Legitimacy

Talking to the Media: A Guide for Anarchists

Consensus: A Brief Introductory Guide

Collectives: Anarchy Against The Mass

Class Struggle & Mental Health

Building: A DIY Guide to Creating Spaces, Hosting Events and Fostering Radical Communities

Anti-Mass: Methods of Organization for Collectives

Anarchism and the English Language

12 Things to do Instead of Calling the Cops

3 Positions Against Prison

Digital Security for Activists

Doxcare: Prevention and Aftercare for Those Targeted by Doxxing and Political Harassment

We Are Being Doxxed

The Invisible Ground, honoring each others security needs as an act of solidarity and liberation

An Activist's Guide to Information Security

Reclaiming Our Ancient Wisdom

Anti-Fascism Against Machismo: Gender, Politics, and the Struggle Against Fascism

Resignation is Death

Uncivilized, A Primer on Civilization, Domestication, and Anarchy 

What Anarchists Have been Saying for Years, and What Liberals Need to Start Hearing

Good Manners and Affinity Groups

Let's Talk: Feminist Communication

Hot Pantz: Do It Yourself Gynecology

#anarchblr #resources #free information

[zvaigzdelasas]

The International Court of Justice has issued a ground-breaking decision in South Africa’s genocide case against Israel, ordering Israel to comply with six provisional measures to safeguard the right of Palestinians in Gaza to be protected from genocidal violence.

The court’s order is binding on Israel and formalizes the international legal obligations of other countries that are parties to the UN Genocide Convention.

Properly understood, the order should dramatically alter both the foreign and domestic policy decisions of Israel’s allies, including Canada and the United States.

Israel and its allies cannot dismiss or minimize the importance of this decision. In granting interim relief, the court concluded that South Africa’s allegations of genocide are, at a minimum, legally and factually plausible.

Crucially, the court expressly concluded, by an overwhelming majority, that Palestinians in Gaza face a “real and imminent risk” of genocide. This puts other countries on notice that they have an international legal duty to take steps to prevent genocide in Gaza in accordance with the court’s order.

As the court stated in a 2007 ruling when Bosnia accused Serbia of genocide, countries that are parties to the Genocide Convention have an obligation to prevent and a corresponding duty to act “the instant that the state learns of, or should normally have learned of, the existence of a serious risk that genocide will be committed.”

Both Canada and the U.S. have construed the court’s decision narrowly, suggesting it merely reiterates Israel’s right of self-defence and obligation to comply with international humanitarian law.

This is a legally indefensible reading of the court’s ruling.[...]

Statements of political support by the U.S. and Canada that Israel is abiding by the laws of war — contrary to the facts — cannot shield Israel or its allies from their legal obligations under the Genocide Convention. Those obligations — including to prevent genocide — are created via treaty and are interpreted by courts, the highest of which is the International Court of Justice.

The obligation to prevent genocide, combined with the court’s finding of a serious risk of genocide, means that all parties to the Genocide Convention must refrain from taking steps that would actively frustrate the effective implementation of the court’s order.[...]

But just hours after the court’s ruling, the U.S. announced it was suspending funding for the United Nations Relief and Works Agency for Palestine Refugees in the Near East.[...]

The U.S. is the biggest financial contributor to UNRWA. Several other key donor countries, including Canada, quickly followed suit.

UNRWA is the largest aid provider in Gaza and a trusted lifeline to civilians in the territory. Even if the allegations are true, defunding the entire organization openly defies the court’s order and amounts to collective punishment of the civilian population in Gaza

Disturbingly, moves to defund UNRWA appear to help implement Israeli government plans to undermine the organization’s capacity to deliver aid to Palestinians in Gaza. Earlier this month, policy experts told the Knesset that UNRWA “must be dismantled and thrown in the dustbin of history” and that “no country that is a friend of Israel should provide them any money.”

The ICJ found that “the catastrophic humanitarian situation in the Gaza Strip is at serious risk of deteriorating further,” plausibly inflicting conditions of life calculated to bring about the physical destruction of Palestinians in Gaza.

Accordingly, any country’s action knowingly contributing to further deterioration would violate the obligation to prevent genocide and could amount to complicity in genocide.[...]

In 2022, Canada sent more than $21 million worth of military exports to Israel. The Export and Import Permits Act forbids arms permits to be issued if there’s a “substantial risk” that the goods could be used to commit or facilitate serious violations of international humanitarian or human rights law.

Because the ICJ found a serious risk of genocide in Gaza, continuing to export arms to Israel would be illegal. It would also be flagrantly inconsistent with Canada’s obligation to prevent genocide, and could expose Canada and Canadian officials to liability for participation in genocide.

We must reject the politics of deliberate indifference to atrocity currently on display in the Canadian government’s reactions to the ICJ ruling.

28 Jan 24