#don’t miss out on a good person

[tariah23]

This is such a harmful sentiment to push considering that you don’t necessarily have to be “attractive,” (beauty is subjective, yada yada) in order for men to want to harm you in the slightest… like man, what…

#the lady talks about being followed and harassed and so on as if every woman and girl in the world regardless of their age and #‘good looks’ #hasn’t experienced this and will continue to #I hate when these girls especially ones who are conveniently attractive talk about stuff like this under the guise of speaking for all #women while x-ing out most women #this easily leads into the realm of ‘you’re too ugly/fat to be assaulted ANYWAY-‘ #talk that I see spread by misogynists and bird brained women like it’s such a natural thing to even say it’s actually rly scary #especially when it comes to the assault shit which is usually about power and control anyway #they don’t care what you look like #you could be covered up head to toe and someone would try to hurt you just because #I hate when women like this go online thinking that they said something open their mouths I really do #rambling #tw assault #got dudes in the comments going ‘she’s not even pretty anyway she’s like a 4 out of 10’ #completely missing the message (as if they care) and see #these are the kinds of people that stuff like this attracts #stuff like this coming out of a woman’s mouth especially is so dangerous #I don’t think I’m the most good looking person in the world and I’ve been followed sm times I had to run away from a guy once and luckily #my bus was right fucking there!!! #then the guy who was harassing me years ago at a bus stop and forced me to hug him and touched my butt and no one else was around to help #me… #and he kept on trying to get me to go back to his apartment around the corner like that was so #the man who followed me into the store as I was shopping and I noticed that he kept on staring at me #then tried to holla and he looked way older than me and I think he was a pastor or something too he had a nice car and tried to get me to #come with him #sm more incidents over the years like this is crazy pls don’t say stuff like this and act like it’s normal #someone in the comments said that people like the woman in the video think that being pretty will free them from the patriarchy and like… #YEAH 😭 #it’s so obvious too lmfao #these be the same women calling themselves ‘girls girls’’

[youregonnabeokay-kid]

i really do hope that 911 ventures further into Chris’ abandonment issues and doesn’t just ignore it for the rest of the season

#also i think they should have expanded on the buck and chris scene #buck’s on-going storyline is allll about his abandonment issues #i love that eddie was there for chris but they really missed out on a good heart-to-heart between buck and chris #something about wanting better for your kids and working to make sure they don’t have the same trauma that you do #something about seeing too much of yourself in your kid and wanting better for them #something about doing everything in your power to ensure that your kid never goes through the same things that you did #something about raising your kids in an environment that helps them become a better person than you were #something about not wanting your kids to make the same mistakes that you did and doing everything you can to lead them down the right path #something about buck reassuring chris once again that he will never leave him #that he’s loved and he’ll always have a home #christopher diaz #evan buckley #911 abc #911 on abc #911 spoilers #buckley diaz family

[mariatesstruther]

okay more on jackson’s senior center based off this post:

- it started as just miss shirley and her best friend darla wanting to live together and asking maria if she could maybe find a house for them to settle in together instead of living apart

- before this, mama shirley and darla would have to walk five houses each way to see each other for afternoon tea, which just won’t do. mama shirley is 92 and darla is 90 now, and both of them are too old to be have to walking that much everyday, mama shirley tells maria. she quickly and vehemently agrees

- maria has the idea of fixing a house up for jackson’s senior citizens to live in if they’d like to. it takes a lot of unnecessary convincing to get the council to dedicate one of jackson’s best houses to a maximum of five people, but maria gets it done. they pick one of the few houses that are placed in the farther back part of jackson, near the farm and the daycare center, so that it can be far-reaching from the entrance of jackson

- the first people to movie in are shirley and darla, who share a room on the second floor (thanks to tommy replacing the stairs in the house with a reliable ramp with a wall-attached handlebar)

- gary moves in not long after he breaks his left hip while herding the goats. he likes that the house is designed to be wheel-chair access and far away from most people in town. he also likes it because he can be close to darla, who he has feelings for, but nobody knows about that except for tommy and joel

- mr. wilson moves in on maria’s insistence that he’ll get hurt if he continues to live alone and try to do everything himself. his name is harold, but he insists that anyone younger than him calls him mr. wilson on account of maintaining a respectful distance. he’s a grumpy, gruff old asshole that reminds joel more of bill than bill himself, but he’s also known to do anything and everything maria tells him with only a small amount of grumbling. somehow, she convinces him to move in after he accidentally sets his kitchen on fire trying to make himself a pocketknife (which?????? maria still doesn’t have an answer for????? why harold was trying to do that????)

- last but not least is sandra dee, jackson’s oldest and most enigmatic member. nobody really knows where she came from or what her story is: she’s the only one of jackson’s seniors that managed to get to town on her own, arriving to town at 94 about a year after its founding with nothing but a backpack and three handguns. she clamed to be sandra, but they’re not entirely sure if sandra dee is her real name. she hums songs from musicals all the time and has expressed that grease was always her favorite. at least once a month she requests to go hunting with patrol and gets mad when maria tells her no

- senior center tea: shirley and darla have longstanding beef with sandra dee because she always cheats at cards during game night, shirley knows about gary being sweet on darla but is lowkey jealous about it because SHE is sweet on darla, and everyone thinks mr. wilson has a thing for maria but he actually told her in confidence last month that he is actually sweet on gary. mama shirley and mr. wilson can’t STAND each other

- tommy calls the seniors the jackson five. all of them call him thomas. he and joel bring them all basic living supplies at least once a week, but are known to be around there pretty often

tsym for anyone having interest in this pls feel free to add anything u want!!

tagging :))) @clickergossip @nerdieforpedro @mrsmando @callmekittenandyourmajesty @steeb-stn (ty for the idea of putting it next to the daycare!) @thatoneobsessedlinguist-writes

#maria finding out from gary that hes sweet on darla knowing shirley is sweet on darla and harold is sweet on gary: oh FUCK #idk where this is coming from but theyre all so vivid in my mind like #theyd have the best breakfastes over there at the jackson five home #dinas older sister talia works as their main caretaker #shes the only person is jackson all five of them agree is a good egg #she loves them but they drive her nuts #NO gary you cannot bring the stray cats in to sleep in bed with you. because theyre dirty!!!! im not arguing with you about this again!!!! #no mr. wilson miss maria is not coming by today. i don’t know exactly why the council is busy. no i cannot take a letter over there #darla. shirley. are you guys high????? did you steal my weed tea again???????? #what do you MEAN you made your own???? #its just a whole sitcom #talia and the gang #the tipsy bison #the jackson five #the name makes tagging so convenient #jackson seniors #jackson senior center #maria miller #tommy miller #joel miller

[napping-sapphic]

God i’m thinking about how easily and unknowingly strangers can grant you salvation like i found it in how my old classmate told me once that i was a kind person and it was the first time i’d ever believed it

in how a coworker once said that i always seem so happy and have a nice smile and i cried about it when i got home since i’d always been told i seem too serious or mean

in how someone once told me i was good at comforting them when i’d always thought i was bad at it

Just god they’re out there somewhere and i barely remember what they looked like and we’ll never cross paths again but they changed me so deeply, they’re out there but they’ll never know how often i revisit those memories and think of myself even just a little more kindly they’re out there and i don’t know them but they’re the most important people in the world to me somehow

#me?? having a Night™️?? more likely than you’d think #im missing the people i never really knew #and im stuck echoing their words to myself #it’s honestly so important to hear things from people who don’t have an agenda to hurt you #who didn’t form a perspective of you at 14 and never let it go #i dont know #it’s just insane how badly ive always felt about myself #how inherently true i thought it was that i was mean or cold or unlikeable #only to have so many people tell me differently the past few years #and i still feel so mean and cold and unlikeable so often because of the people close to me!! #and i probably will forever to some extent!! #and it’s such an awful feeling #but just knowing even one person saw me as kind or happy is such a balm to that pain #that even if every person i meet from here on out found me flawed #there was at least one that saw kindness and joy in me?? that’s healing #idk #idk im emotional and tired and just want to believe i can be a good person sometimes #and sometimes i feel like that one ‘you’re so nice’ i received three years ago is the only thing holding me together sometimes #god just ignore me

[river-of-wine]

I don’t think Miss Grimshaw is ever actually discussed with the nuance she requires but as the Molly O'Shea woman I do not want to get into all of that

#she’s such an interesting character and yet I see no one actually going in depth about what makes her interesting #it’s always just. rampant misogyny which yeah she’s a woman in a video game #or it’s discussing her like she’s just this wonderful mother figure #like no. that is not what she is. neither of those are what she is #she is a complicated person and I find her more interesting than most of the gang #I don’t like her but she fascinates me #and it’s really frustrating and confusing to see her discussed in the way that she is #that being said I’m obviously not looking for grimshaw stuff very often so there cool be very good analysis of her out there #but I’m yet to see it widely talked about and when I have seen her discussed it always feels like huge aspects of her are missed #rdr2 #girls against grimshaw

[designernishiki]

y3 has made me feel many things but one of the things that lingers with me the most about it is how majima takes every possible opportunity and makes every possible gesture to say “please don’t leave me alone again, please take me with you when you leave, I WANT to be right next to you when you need me, I’ll literally do anything for you, just don’t leave me alone again” always indirectly but in strong enough ways that i think it’d be obvious to anyone paying attention EXCEPT Kazuma Kiryu, The Densest Man On Earth, who he’s pleading to in the first place. it’s. frustrating to watch. someone needs to grab kiryu by the shoulders and tell him. for the love of god. this man loves you so much and you keep leaving him when all he wants to do is help you and be with you please just take him to okinawa oh my god

#kazumaji #it’s FRUSTRATING #specifically thinking about the scene in the bar after the pink truck debacle #where majima finally says like. if you’re going to Okinawa to deal with this whole assassination thing or whatever comes up I’m coming #with you. you don’t have a ton of support down there and me and you together are basically unstoppable #pretty much completely outright #and kiryu. the dense stubborn motherfucker he is. is like. i don’t have No One down there I have a few friends (missing the point). I’ll be #fine. I don’t need your help there. you should stay here #I’ll give him some credit because then saying ‘someone has to stay here and keep the Tojo clan from total collapse’ is a good point and it #does mean something that he trusts majima to be that person (especially given I don’t think anyone else on earth would trust him with that) #(despite him being totally capable- you know mad dog persona and all that blah blah blah) #like that’s a good point idk who else would be a good choice to do that considering daigo’s out of commission and who’s even left after that #obviously mine is Sketchy. kashiwagi is (supposedly) dead. everyone else kiryu trusts in the yakuza is dead or injured more or less. #not gonna leave fuckin DATE in charge or something #so. fair enough point. but nonetheless it doesn’t erase the fact that kiryu overlooks what majima means in the grander scheme of things #and still believes first and foremost that he doesn’t need/want his help when he does and he should #he’s just. allergic to making life easier for himself #among other issues #sigh #yakuza 3 #y3 #goro majima #kazuma kiryu #kiryu #majima #rambling

[mazzy-rockstar]

Monday blues are hitting me hard today

#you can ignore this if you want cause im gonna talk a lot of shit and sads and feelings #but as i’ve realised i literally have no one to empty my heart out to irl #and it’s fucking heartbreaking cause i love my friends but I don’t think they love me back #which is an insane though but I genuinely think it’s true like #i moved away 4 ish months ago and i know that communication comes from both side but like i wanted to test smt #so i stopped texting first and guess what?? only 2 friends texted me #1 because she’s genuinely a good friend i think and the other because she needed money (which i gave her like a fucking fool) #my heart just hurts cause i realised i’m not as important to them as they are to me and I’m completely misreading our relationship and #it sucks because I thought they were going to be my friends for life but now they’re all posting recaps of 2023 and im in none of their pics #even in pics where i was present at the time #and i dont know if it’s intentional or if im just being an insecure little bitch but it fucking hurts #i just want to be important to someone #i want to be someone’s person #not a last resort like #they keep doing stuff together which i get like life moves on and i’m the one that left #but not a single text or a pic or a ‘we miss you!’ #not even a fucking heart on insta stories #am i being desperate?? or do I actually have shitty friends #like i have impostor syndrome in my own fucking friendgroup??? #I can’t just drop them either cause then I’ll actually have no one #idk i must exude some sort of energy #i dont think ive ever had a genuine good best friend like for some reason they leave after 3 years #(and this is why i have trust issues and attachment disorders) #anyway I’ll probably just suck it up and go about my day #ive lived 24 years like this what’s an entire life #it’s wild cause i have a good time whenever i’m with them (i think) and then i leave and it’s crickets #i feel like hired entertainment sometimes #idk my head hurts so I’m probably overthinking but like these feelings come from somewhere right? #i have to stop

[smallphoenix13]

they just really aren’t doing anything to deter the shippers are they

#i don’t ship real people bc i think it’s kinda weird but like #i think it’s funny as hell that they’re like egging it on #good for them good for them #I missed recording the insta story of bojan being the last person in the human centipede for cha cha cha #so käärijä sat on him for that bit #käärijä #joker out #bojan cvjeticanin #eurovision 2023 #kaarija

[aristoteliancomplacency]

UK folks! Here’s an easy way to contact your local MP and tell them that if they want your vote, they need to call for an immediate ceasefire in Gaza. If you’re worried about how to write emails to MPs then don’t worry - just type in your postcode and fill out the details to send the presented email to your MP.

(And if you’re MP is a Tory and there’s no way you’re ever voting for them anyway: don’t worry. It’s morally acceptable to lie to MPs. After all, they do it to you every damn day)

https://www.foa.org.uk/campaign/noceasefirenovote

#no ceasefire no vote #you do of course unfortunately miss out on the opportunity to tell your mp in personal words that you‘re profoundly disappointed in them #but oh well. don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good and all that.

[starbuck]

was completely mystified for days by my cousins being like “let’s watch a movie!” and then BOTH OF THEM proceeding to stare at their phones throughout the entire film, glancing at the screen only whenever the dialogue or a musical cue implied that something Important was happening, only to realize that the issue is that modern films don’t rely on nearly as many purely visual elements as older films did, so my poor cousins missed over 50% of the jokes because i didn’t think to warn them that, when watching films directed by people who got their start before films had dialogue, you actually need to WATCH them to understand what is happening.

#realized this AS i was reading a review of the film i watched tonight and suddenly it ALL clicked #the visual gags were their favorite parts too - they just didn’t know they missed at least 90% of them 😂😂 #i mean. personally i put everything aside when watching a film regardless of when it came out #which DOES sometimes result in me getting bored #but like. tough cookies. that’s what i signed up for #it’s not a YouTube video. it’s not an audiobook. it’s not a podcast. #you have to WATCH it #if you don’t want to watch a movie then that’s cool #but don’t say you do and then look at your phone the whole time - ya know? #i feel like i’m gonna have to start clarifying this with people beforehand #because i DO have movies i would put on if people’s mileage was ‘vaguely entertaining background noise for my phone scrolling’ #but you’re not getting one of the Good Ones if that’s all you’re looking for #not even because i’m being judgey but because it fails to fulfill that purpose #they’re films that require your full attention #so if you can’t give them that - they won’t give anything back to you #i think that’s fair to say #oh also meant to mention that my cousins have degrees in theater and art respectively #so i just assumed they would inherently Get this #but they DIDN’T #and i was Not Prepared

[itspileofgoodthings]

see i have all these spicy takes in the drafts that i don’t post out of self-restraint but then i see a spicy take that i hate SO MUCH and then i want to post mine out of revenge. it’s a terrible cycle tbh.

#it is actually and fundamentally not good for my weaknesses to be here lol #but I also love it! And love the community and the support and don’t find a ready-made replacement for that in real life #so yeah. I wrestle with it #if I could always use it as an opportunity to practice charity and restraint and shutting up it would be a good thing #but I have to be careful with any known potential irritant because I have such a temper and get so genuinely pissed off so easily #while also having poor impulse control #and like. it isn’t fair of me to be out there baiting people with my opinions and being provoking with takes I know will be upsetting #to the circle in which I move on here #but I also love to say a thing I think is true or feel is true and talking my way into a more nuanced opinion is how I do it! #but also like. the simple truth is that it also isn’t kind or charitable or necessary most of the time #no matter how I try to dress it up with comments on my personality and how I learn/like to analyze things #I really wrestle with it. there was a part of me that so at peace when I was gone from tumblr (essentially) for half a year #but again. I missed it #teaching helps a lot. my personality can take the very age-appropriate obnoxiousness and idiocy that comes with talking about literature #to teenagers #but I’m kind of so over trying to have a nuanced conversation online #it’s just so hard. I need the body language and the one to one you can only have in person for certain conversations #and disagreements. tbh it’s better and kinder and just BETTER if i stay out of it online #but I never do it perfectly #I’m just rambling. But yeah #thanks for listening #this has been #3 text posts in a row with Maria

[francesderwent]

you may not like it but Syd and Richie are literally the Elena and Damon of The Bear

#Richie is. arguably. the villain of season 1 #who has this long complicated history with Carmy but still they’re stuck with each other. eternity of misery. #Syd is the bright-eyed faith-filled catalyst that walks in and changes things for Carmy #but while she’s saving Carmy she’s ASKING Richie about Michael and seeing his soft-heartedness with his daughter! sees this side of him! #sees that he’s SUFFERING. because Richie had one plan for his life! he was gonna get Michael out of the tomb of his addiction #but it was never Richie it was always Carmy!!! Carmy gets the restaurant! Carmy gets the note! #and so Richie lashes out! #BUT #even though Syd can hurt him like no one else. she’s also the only person watching him sometimes?? #that ‘you good?’ in season one? #and then at the end of season two we see the Miss Mystic Falls moment: #Elena walks down the stairs with no one there to receive her and Damon steps up and waltzes with her in the sunlight #Syd is trying to open the restaurant and Richie steps up! #THEY are the team #Stefan and Carmy in the fridge self-destructing #I don’t ship them necessarily but it’s still true #Cate liveblogs!

[wlwgang]

Ohhh I’m not the Alex Turner of this relationship I’m Alexa Chung

#I think we have to break up like #I keep trying to be positive abt it but she’s going to weigh me down on this move I can tell like she hasn’t once said she’s excited for me #or anything just how she’s going to miss me and like I’ve tried communicating how fucking big of a change this is going to be and how a LDR #is going to be hard and how I’m not going to be able to just come see her at the drop of a hat anymore and like #I just don’t think she gets it #like at all #the age difference and emotional maturity gap is really showing herself tonight #just talked myself in circles abt it for an hour w my best friend and her roomie and like I think I will have to #like we were at her place earlier tn and talking abt flights and her spring break is like a week after I move in #and I’m like in my head like I don’t want you coming out there so soon like I won’t even be settled or unpacked yet #like I’ve spent so much energy focusing on my move and how it will be good for myself personally bc I have to and I’m scared to do it #like I do not have the bandwidth to handhold you through this at the same time I need you to grow up or this won’t work #Augh #personal #mine

[0wnw1sn]

hey guys just watched la la land i’m gonna do something really impulsive

#this is kind of personal? but there’s a cabaret night coming up hosted by the choir group that i’m in #and i was thinking of auditioning forever ago but i got sick with the flu and didn’t know what to sing #and i was gonna try to do city of stars but couldn’t find an arrangement that was good for me has sheet music and wasn’t a total headache #and i can’t whistle #but it didn’t work out and i missed the audition today #so i finally watched the damn movie and man #audition (the fools who dream) is like fr speaking to me #it just clicked #but i’m not sure if the head of this event is gonna let me one audition late or two even get it #and i’d have to learn it fast and i’m still sick #but something just Makes Sense #i don’t know what to do #i think i might go for it and send an email tomorrow… maybe #i needed to say something about it to someone but everyone in that program’s an opp so… #i think i should try? i’ve embarrassed myself worse before this can’t be that bad #yapping #for real life #la la land #not daredevil 🤞

[norfkid]

i’ve conditioned myself on student-living food for so long now that while i’m back at my parents’ during the holidays i’ve started craving the dissatisfaction of eating shitty packet instant noodles

#personal #uniposting #ok i lied #i just miss making stuff like shoyu ramen for myself in the late afternoons #like. i love my mum’s cooking at home but at uni it ruins going out for indian while bc it doesn’t live up to her cooking sometimes #(<- ignore the random “while” i fkn hate typos in the tags) #also we have a lot of indian takeaway places in england. it is statistically inevitable you’re going to get the shits after one of them #i’m also rly bad with food in general but i found that ramen and soup related things are foods i can actually enjoy for change #and i just never enjoy food. i never want to eat food (until it’s out of necessity) #so i just miss that a bit. i think #the privacy too! #i’m shite at cooking and i don’t enjoy it (the time spent with prep & cooking & clean to time spent eating ratio is ridiculous) #but i will if i have to #idk. as a result i’ve always been insecure about cooking at home with the family around considering i’m not good at it & wasn’t taught much #i like my lonely little ramen rituals

[mikesbasementbeets]

bought tickets to see live music for first time in about two years life is ok again maybe

#it’s an artist i really love too and it’s right in my town at 3pm on a saturday which if you know my sleep schedule is. ideal #i’m not even that much of a live music/concerts/events type of person but i think it’s going to be very good and i’m looking forward to it #i always miss out when artists come to me town bc i’m out of the loop and/or forget to buy tickets in time #my town* #but i did it and it’s in two weeks. and im happy #i still don’t want to do the work today but we’re getting through it #beets posts