Anyone remember when tumblr said it was stupid--laughable even--for NT ppl to suggest yoga, meditation, drinking water, working out, etc. to ND ppl that are struggling w their mental illness? Yeahhh, I definitely do, cuz it's still affecting me and my healing progress to this day. And I have to put in extra work because there's a bully in my head constantly telling me that my healing is cringe and now I have to painfully and uncomfortably unlearn all that toxic shit I learned from when I was on tumblr in highschool.
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Going through the sanrio tag on here and I don't like that enjoying sanrio is stereotyped as being an "appearance-obsessed, hyper-feminine, ultra-skinny, flawlessly made-up and pale, 'coquette,' 'fragile', 'traumacore,' childish yet still sexy, mean girl" thing.
Like sanrio characters are cute and sweet!! There is nothing inherently sexy or mean or ultra dark about them and I'm sure the stereotypes about sanrio fans come from somewhere but I've met a sanrio liker in person and she was normal and nice, she just dressed very sweetly with cute pastel colors and stood out a bit for it
And there's no wrong way to be a sanrio fan either imo, you can be fat or have dark skin or not be conventionally cute, pretty, or even feminine and still like sanrio. Sanrio characters are just cute little guys at the end of the day, it shouldn't be scoffed at to be a fan of them for any reason, whether that be for it "being too childish" or for the fan stereotypes I mentioned above
This is also basically me saying I admit I like sanrio, I've ordered some clothes from hot topic and yeah ok is wearing sanrio clothes from hot topic in 2023 as a 23-year-old cringe? Maybe but the clothes are cute and that makes me feel fancy and happy so I am cringe but free
Chococat is probably my favorite character, followed by Keroppi and then Pompompurin :)
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TW for C S A, nothing graphic, just the topic - I am spacing that out and not putting tags because the last time I put C S A tags on a post, I got an anon telling me I deserved to be SA'd, so no thanks. Nothing in here is graphic.
[Before anyone says it, and before you read, no, this is not about shipping discourse. I am not touching that shit with a 10 foot pole. Do not ask me about that shit, I barely know what it fuckin' means, I'm not talking about that, and if you think I am, no I am not.]
It really does baffle me that people seem to only be okay with vent art, so long as it's not extremely graphic. Especially, particularly, if it's extremely sexually graphic in terms of sexual abuse survivors. Like most people are in agreement that things like traumacore (which is a broad category of just overall trauma vent art in my own opinion and perception) and like general art to vent about other abuse and trauma, but suddenly because it's about extreme, graphic abuse and trauma, it's "STOP ROMANTICIZNG IT, IT'S UNHEALTHY!!!", "IT'S A BAD COPING SKILL, YOU'RE JUST AESTHETIZING IT AND ROMANTICIZING IT!!!" when people literally said, and still say, the exact same thing about self-harm vent art, depression vent art, anything like that. Like I have lived through those years of Tumblr era and online in general where people saw any kind of vent art that depicted self-harm, depression, abuse, etc. and people would get dogpiled and harassed and shamed for it and treated like they were romanticizing abuse, self-harm, etc. when they. Literally are just venting about their feelings, their trauma, their struggles??
Oh, and it's not just if it's C S A related, it's not just if it's related to more extreme abuse - it's just if the artwork/writing itself is extremely graphic and doesn't sugar coat anything. Like I'm not saying you have to enjoy looking at someone's extremely graphic vent art, but surely you see the hypocrisy here? Vent art is only okay if it is sanitized.
Once again, it always goes back to trauma survivors having to sanitize ourselves and sugar coat everything so that it doesn't make others violently and viscerally uncomfortable. And like, yeah, it is uncomfortable lmfao. Imagine how we feel.
Not to mention. Once again. Art therapy is a thing? That exists? That literally helps people? There are plenty of studies that talk about this. There are plenty of studies that even show that oftentimes drawings by children are some of the only ways they can tell what happened. Same for adults, especially if you have DID.
And even if that random stranger on the internet is somehow making artwork that is in some way only worsening their trauma or whatever, that's not your business. 🤷 Like maybe don't shame people for having maladaptive coping mechanisms that aren't to your tastes.
I've drawn extremely vile things. I've written extremely vile things. I have no idea what they mean, I have no idea if they are hinting at any kind of actual events I have actually experienced or anything, but you know what didn't help me? The amount of people who say you are a pedophile for even daring to make art that depicts such horrific, graphic, and vile sexually abusive things. I constantly feel terrified that I am secretly a pedophile and don't know it, don't realize it. I am constantly terrified that my artwork is just me being a sick, disgusting, vile freak, instead of. Y'know. The possibility that it really is just a manifestation of extreme fucking abuse.
This is where it gets a bit more graphic, but I am NOT describing specific C S A acts or anything, but it is graphic in a way.
I am going to speak about this as if I know for a fact that I experienced these things, even thought I don't know, just keep that in mind before I say this. I'm being extremely bold sharing all of this and I might edit this out later or delete this post altogether, but I have experienced C S A under the lens of believing it as a healthy, consensual, pleasurable experience. Most of my vent art and things I have written depicts this. They depict C S A as if it was normal, healthy, consensual sex. As a result, a lot of the artwork and things I've written could even be mistaken as literal erotica or "romanticizing sexual abuse." Other stuff I've drawn/written is just straight-up graphic and violent C S A, it's just not sugar-coated or sanitized and is extremely graphic.
Like are you sure that person is "romanticizing" or "aestheticizing" their trauma/abuse? Are you sure that person is exploring their trauma in an "unhealthy" way, or is their artwork/writing the only way they can express deep, personal feelings that you could not possibly understand? And in the case that one out of every whatever number of people IS just making art and writing things that is only making it worse for them, do you only think that about people who make artwork/writing that you find gross/vile/uncomfortable/too graphic/etc., or does that apply to other vent art as well? Because if not, you should rethink that thought process. And again, do you really think it would be okay to shame people for having maladaptive coping mechanisms?
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Saw someone use the phrase "the traumacore community"... I don't think that's a community. I also don't think that "yandere", "fitness", "vaporwave", "dark academia", or "EGL" are communities. I don't think enough meaningful communication is taking place between people who browse/use those Tumblr tags for the word "community" to be appropriate.
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