#don't tell me to smile

[bonkie]

soko, Don't Tell Me To Smile

#soko #don't tell me to smile #feel feelings #lyrics #poem #words #dont tell me to smile #2020

[jhsharman]

sculpture pains

Oh, the best I can suggest is that "don't tell me to smile" became a feminist slogan, emblazoned on merchandise, found at social media. Oddly, I myself heard the phrase quite a bit through my formative years, and never associated my agitation at it with feminism.

Possibility number two is they decided they needed to explicate the punchline, make it crystal clear: she is going to be standing there a long time. Yeah. That's probably it.

For what it is worth, between these points, they stuck with "Now, smile" for a redrawn version.

I never knew Jughead was a Cowboys fan.

#Don't tell me to smile #Archie Comics #Jughead #Betty Cooper #Sculpture #Stone #Chisel #Pose #Long long hold #High heels #Rose #Bikini #Tiger stripes #Zebra stripes #Dallas Cowboys #Dan Decarlo #1963 #1995

[fuocofatu0]

i was never the pretty one

i was always the sad one

#don't tell me to smile #soko

[abwwia]

"Dont tell me to smile" Stop women to smile!

source: #Barbarawarbara

https://www.etsy.com/shop/Barbarawarbara

#Barbara warbara #art by women #art #palianshow #don't tell me to smile

[didimentionthatimawriter]

First time someone seriously told me to smile more.

I work at the circulation desk at the local library, and overall I love my job there, but sometimes people just drive me nuts.

I was having a long day. I work two jobs and had been on the go from 6:30 in the morning for my first work shift at 8:30 AM and was scheduled to work at the library that afternoon until close at 8 PM. So roughly a 12 hour day, with a break in the middle for me to go to a counseling appointment.

We were set to close in about an hour and a half, and this guy comes up with a bunch of material he wants to check out. So I'm doing my thing and he keeps cracking lame jokes. I'm sort of half-smiling and nodding as I'm doing my job. Then he says, "You know, I read your job description. You're allowed to smile on Wednesdays."

Honestly, it's not the worst thing someone has said to me since I've started working here. I've had patrons yell and curse in my face, throw library cards at me, flirt and be inappropriate, and accuse me of being lazy because I sat down for a moment. All of that is just part of working a public facing job, and I am VERY aware that when compared to other public jobs like retail or food service, I've got it easy. But for some reason, this stuck with me and I felt like saying this:

I work two jobs because one isn't enough to make rent and my car payment. I've been diagnosed with ADHD, GAD, and moderate depression. I'm a full-time grad student. I was working a 12-hour day that day. It was also a Down day for me, where I just feel kind of sad and nervous but I can't quite tell why. I've been seeking out escapism through fandom more and more because I just need a break, which ironically makes me feel worse because I feel like I'm being immature. Not to mention I had just been handling a DVD someone returned in the book drop that may or may not have had urine on it.

THAT is why we hate it when you tell us to smile more. If we aren't smiling, there's a reason.

Don't assume that we're just being moody. Don't dismiss why we aren't in the mood to smile. Don't try to tell us to smile because "we'd be prettier" aka more enjoyable/comfortable for you to look at.

I'll smile when I feel like it.

#public work #libraries #sometimes i hate people #don't tell me to smile

[royalarchivist]

[After they talk about Pac's debt to the Pancake Mafia, and Pac warns her about Sir Reaper]

Bagi: I think you're the one that needs to be careful, because soon you might lose your other leg.

Pac: N-no! NO! Please don't! Stop- stop! STOP TALKING LIKE YOUR BROTHER!

Bagi: [Laughs]

Pac: I'll pay you– I'm going to pay you!

I want to give a MASSIVE thank you to @wasabi-ribs, who was kind enough to check my translations and help me with the parts I missed (and also reviewed the final subtitled video)!

[ Transcript continued ↓ ]

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Bagi: Pac, pay the rent!

Pac: I'm going to pay! Hey- I'm going to pay right this second, the money that I owe you, and... and I'm- I'm serious! And look, if you want- if you have more money... If I pay your 4,500, will you lend me 4,500? No, then I'll actually drown in fees. [Laughs]

Bagi: [Laughs] I'll lend you, I'll lend you

Pac: No, not really Bagi. You've got those red eyes– I'm scared, Bagi. I don't know– I don't know what happened, actually it's an eye infection, I know– But something tells me it's not just an eye infection, that it's also some other things, you know? Like, um... y'know, right? [He fumbles again] Oh God wait, your brother– when he had those red eyes he would also turn evil. Nonononono– I'll pay you, ok? Where's the waystone? It's here, it's here, it's here– I'll pay you, ok? I'll pay the 4,500- we're gonna–

Bagi: I'll be waiting.

Pac: No no, oh- just– Just let me walk, my God, I love walking– OH, WALKING IS SO GOOD – [Pac teleports] I'll pay her.

[Bagi follows him moments after]

Pac: [Pac mumbles to himself as he begins transferring money to Bagi] 4,500... I need to pay her 4,500...

Bagi: [Sneaks up on him] Oh, perfect!

Pac: [SCREAMS]

#Pactw #QSMP #oiBagi #Bagi #Pac #March 18 2024 #Translated #Subtitles #THIS CONVERSATION WAS WILDDDDD #Bagi threatening to take his other leg... Pac shouting telling her not to talk like her brother... #Pac trying to do what she wants while On The Brink Of A Panic Attack #and then Pac saying ''Just let me walk- I love walking- WALKING IS SO GOOD--'' #my heart shattered like a glass bottle dropped off a skyscraper #also Bagi smiling as Pac is freaking out LMAO she's such a good roleplayer and Pac is happy to ''yes and'' her #Love the PTSD trauma improv #I say with my head in my hands #Edited #Portfolio #I need to go to SLEEP #I don't usually post things at this time but I said I was going to try and post this earlier

[b4kuch1n]

same teacher, different lessons

transcript

#sonic the hedgehog #dr. ivo eggman robotnik #miles tails prower #sonic frontiers #SPOILERS. THERE ARE SPOILERS IN THIS COMIC BY THE WAY. #SONIC FRONTIERS SPOILERS #smiles gently I can not believe I let sonic the fuckign hedgehog ruin my life #(I can I totally can) #hi <3 if you follow me because I drew this sonic comic. don't! #don't do it! follow me bc I'm funny and hot and devastatingly smart don't follow me bc I draw sonic stuff. bc it won;t happen again #I mean it. not bc I dont like or want to do sonic stuff. but bc I am literally in the middle of a job rn #one that I want to invest 100% of my time and brain in #this comic is actually an effort to win my brain back so I can do my job lol #because I finished miss penny snapcube's streams of this game and it force fed me emotions #I just! I just thought sonic would come tell eggman abt sage!! idk seems like something he'd do!!! #and also the whole thing abt letting the characters move on and have a future and change and develop #vs Killing My Baby Little Guy Daughter For Like Ten Minutes #thematically interesting! also for some reasons I had. a pretty easy time drawing this #I was mouthbreathing galloping like a horse to finishing this. Because I Need To Work #I didnt expect to have a good time with these designs tho idk why. probably bc I most suck shit at drawing animals #but to be fair yet again sonic and tails are little guys. theyre animal but theyre also like dudes. also sonic's design is kinda perfect #as far as character design goes he's really pretty goo- wait I made a continuity error hol on #okay. okay I fixed it. no problem. no matter 's all good now #okay. I go sleep now. today has been very noisy. but this actually got me through it okay #thank you sonic the hedgehog. that was pretty cool of u #have a good night guys! absolute freedom is probably really really sad #long post

[cheekylittlepupp]

Come with me my love, and live your final night.

#astarion #bg3 #astarion ancunin #baldur's gate 3 #baldur's gate iii #mims posts ~ #don't tell me shoulders are too sexy #baldurs gate 3 #astarion screenshots #astarion romance #bg3 astarion #astarion x tav #astarion x durge #oc: alystra #no thrusting no ass nothing pffft #ngl guys i love how he's smiling softly during the whole encounter #astarion gif

[froschli96]

🗣️ Darlin', you give love a bad name

Found this in my old wip folder and it feels now more relevant than ever :)

Also these don't know why I never uploaded these they were just sitting there completely finished:

#good omens #crowley #aziraphale #michael sheen #david tennant #good omens fanart #go fanart #good omens tv #go tv #my art #other relevant lyrics include #an angels smile is what you sell you promise me heaven then put me through hell #and #your very first kiss was your first kiss goodbye #:D #for the record I am on team 'they are both wrong bc crowley can't keep trying to solve problems by spiriting his angel away to the stars' #like maybe your arguments should be more elaborate than 'lets just run away together' #like idk for example don't just say 'heaven is toxic' maybe give some reasons for that #MAYBE tell him what happened during aziraphale's 'trial' #or what actually happened with gabriel #u know #communication.

[inkskinned]

this is sort of pathetic, but when you were younger, you were sort of puzzled by the cartoon representations of fathers: how a kid would be outside with a mitt, waiting to play catch.

it's not that your father never played catch with you, but you also didn't like when he did. something about a hard ball coming quickly towards your face doesn't seem exciting. not that you'd ever say you don't trust him. you trust him, right?

it's not like he never tried to teach you anything. or never tried to parent. on rare days, a strange person would walk in your father's skin. bright, happy, magnificent. this version of your father was so cheerful and charismatic that you would do anything to keep him. and this is the version of your father that would laugh and gently coax you try again. this is the version of your father that would break down the small elements of a problem and point them out so you have an easier time with them.

as a kid, those days happened more often. but somewhere around 11, you started being too much of a person, and he was often cross about it. when he'd try to sit you down to learn something, you spent the whole time with your shoulders around your ears, nervous, uncertain. terrified because you didn't immediately understand how to navigate something. worried you will run out of his goodwill and then you will have the Other Father back, and you will have ruined a good day for your entire family. something about you being visibly afraid - it just made him angry. he would accuse you of not wanting to learn and storm away.

on tv, it's not like there's a lot of versions of men-who-are-mostly-fathers. they can be good dads, but usually their stories are not told in the household. so it's normal that your father is there, but he's never around. you know he was in the house, somewhere, it's just not that you guys ever... "hung out". he just seemed to get kind of bored of you, annoyed you weren't made in his perfect image. frustrated with how much energy it took to raise a kid. over time, you kind of adopt a bittersweet band around your throat - he knows nothing about me. he says at least i never abandoned my family.

and it's technically - technically - true. he was there for you. sometimes he even made an effort and made it to the big moments; the graduations and the dance recitals. he grins and tells everyone that he taught you. it almost erases the days in between, where he complains because you need a ride to school. the weeks that go by where he doesn't actually ever speak to you. the times you say i am struggling and he says figure it out on your own. i can't help you.

and that's fine! that's all fine. you can call him if you are having a problem with your car. or if you need a ride to the hospital. he loves playing hero, he just doesn't like the actual work that comes with being a father. and you've kind of made your peace with that; because you had to, because you don't want to live your life like he does; the whole world at a managed distance, a little rotating and controlled orb he can witness and take credit for but never truly love.

as an adult, you are rewatching some dumb cartoon - and again, the child standing in the rain, with a mitt, waiting for their father to come play catch. as an adult, there's this strange creeping dread - this little thing? this little thing, and their dad can't even show up for that? oh god, holyshit, it's not about the mitt, is it. oh god, holyshit, your father spent most of your life leaving you hanging.

#spilled ink #writeblr #:) lol . anybody notice how i write about dads in second person exclusively #me: haha silly cartoon #also me: ): this child is not getting what they need #also btw this is about a father but it might apply to any parent or caregiver #there's a really weird space of like #''this person was technically around me but either ignored me or was actively harmful to me'' #and like u learn this very strange ritual of like... this person is my parent/caregiver on a technicality #that you almost spend all ur time with them like... tiptoeing and acting as THEIR parent so u don't upset them. #like you're 17 and ur mom is suddenly hit by a wave of wanting to talk to you so she's like :) lets make breakfast together :) and ur like #uhhhhhh okay?? bc you feel like this is absolutely going to go wrong and is why u usually make breakfast alone #and she starts being like: THIS is called a TEASPOON ... & u know all this stuff but you also know to just be very quiet #bc if you say like ''mom ive been making this breakfast every day since i was 13'' she would FREAK OUT and be like #DONT ACT LIKE I NEVER DO ANYTHING FOR YOU DONT ACT LIKE I DONT CARE ABOUT YOU. FUCKING DISRESPECTFUL . #so u have to smile like ur a preschool teacher and be like. OH COOL! i didn't know A CUP existed! tell me MORE! :)

[simplyavatrice]

beatrice + every episode - episode 12 “colossians 3:9-10���

#avatrice #warrior nun #sister beatrice #avatriceedit #warriornunedit #kristina tonteri-young #ktyedit #speaking of range kty is NO slouch #also her physical presence is insane #that gif of her just like...standing up #jesus #she's so powerful in the way she moves and carries herself #then the little crying scenes are just devastating #but her serious face is so...oof #don't even get me started on her smiles #i'm telling you #the first two episodes of season 2 are a fever dream #myedits

[introspectivememories]

god i know i said i was tired of making eveerything sad but just imagine timber those first few months of reconnecting and they're both drunk on tim's boat, laying on the deck staring up at the stars and bear turns over to look at tim, his eyes are sad and wet, and he reaches out to touch tim's face as if to make sure tim is really there and not an illusion and tim whispers, "bear?" and bernard smiles a little brokenly and goes, "so how long do i have you for this time?"

#tim fully sober now: what do you mean? i'm right here bear #bear still drunk: i got you for almost a whole year last time. how long before you leave this time? #bear: 2 years? 6 months? #tim sadly: you can have me forever bear #bear laughing: i don't even get you that long in my dreams #bear smiles reaching out to poke tim's face: don't worry tim! anytime you want to come back‚ i'll be right here. #god tim who's constantly leaving and bear who knows but cant help letting him comeback into his life again and again #you cannot tell me that bear went to that first date in urban legends expecting tim to stay #he went to that date expecting to get his heart broken again but he loves this boy so he goes anyway #tim who always leaves and bear who waits patiently everytime #sorry im like sobbing in the library #bear is so 'right where you left me' coded #bear who loves tim so much he'll let tim break his heart again and again #head in hands head in hands #dc #tim drake #bernard dowd #timbern #timber

[daceyarik]

Who's making your decisions? You or your religion Your government, your countries You patriotic junkies

#mmm tumblr's hiding me i guess #phantom liberty #phantom liberty spoilers #johnny silverhand #cyberpunk 2077 #cyberpunk screenshots #cyberpunk photomode #im so dead inside you wouldn't tell but this hairy dumbass makes me laugh and smile #im not russian okay don't fucking @ me i can't even escape this hellhole

[zxal]

the biggest structural flaw with arc v imo is the absolute failure to engage with yuya's professed "make everyone smile" motivation on anything more than a glancing surface level. Ray tells zarc that yuya is the part of him that wants to make people smile, and yuya has that revelation himself in the finale (that zarc wanted to make people smile just like him) but doesn't manage to extract any takeaway from it other than "I guess we weren't so different" or "I guess zarc wasn't all bad" Which Like, Huh? guys, zarc wanting to make people smile was, like, the whole fucking issue. zarc felt pressured to conform to an audience's expectation of him (wanted to make them happy) and it made him hate humanity because what he wanted no longer mattered. It made him do things that disgusted him and it was never enough. He couldn't fill the hole in himself with other people's smiles. yuya is trying desperately to please everybody right up until the credits roll and he's miserable the entire time, he's still that part of zarc that desperately wants approval from others, without even the aspects of zarc that made dueling enjoyable to him (yuri's sadism, yugo's competitiveness, yuto's vindictiveness). I'd go so far as to wager that it's because Yuya is that aspect of zarc that he struggles so much more with zarc's influence compared to the others, BECAUSE HE'S EXPERIENCING THE EXACT SAME THING. it's not about entertainment or smiling or fun, it's conformity and it's going to break him. and they never address it. EVER.

#yugioh arc v #ygo arc v #arc v #they don't even bring up things like 'you can't make people enjoy something' or 'bottling up emotions is bad' #they really have yuya's dad tell him 'if you feel like crying just smile!' #and yuya goes okay i'll internalize that! and doesn't think about it doesn't question it. doesn't grow beyond that coping mechanism. #it makes me insane. What if you were an atomic bomb and you were shaped like a boy and you were so so empty inside. #yuya sakaki #.txt

[st-el-la-luna]

Thinking about König

Mainly, thinking about his anxiety being like my anxiety. It's social anxiety but more than the "oh no, people, scary!" That people tend to generalize it as.

That's not to say that it isn't like that. Yes, people are intimidating, especially large groups of them. Or if you're being put in a command position. Or if you're in a position to be judged... Which is most situations. (Public speaking, especially for school projects is especially bad).

But it's not just shyness. It's also the aversion.

Walking through the halls, with a dead sort of stare. Not intentionally intimidating, but it's very much a resting bitch face, look at me and I'll kill you sort of expression.

Saying as little as possible to people he's not comfortable with.

"yes."

"no."

"I don't like that."

"I don't want to."

"we are not friends."

Staring so intently at people that it unsettles them.

"-and that's why I think... Why... It's... Is everything okay, Colonel?"

"Ja, why?"

"You're, uh... You're looking very intently."

"This is just how I look. Eye contact is important."

"uhh... Right, it's just... I haven't seen you blink?"

"I blink when you blink."

Like, yes, of course there are situations where he gets mousy voiced or sweaty palms. But not at work, no. At work he's able to conjure up, maybe not confidence, but something.

At a restaurant though? Speaking softly, making himself small, saying please and thank you after every sentence. It doesn't matter what the server does, he's always soft spoken and polite, nervous. If he asks for no pickles and they bring him his dish with pickles, he'll eat it. If he orders a chicken sandwich and they bring him a burger, he'll eat it. If he tells them that he has a deadly peanut allergy and they bring him a tub of peanut butter... He'll send that back, but he'll be polite about it.

"Oh, ja, I'm sorry, I... This isn't what I ordered. Oh, no, no, it's okay, don't apologize. I'm sorry. You're busy. It's fine, I understand."

Sometimes during mission briefs he will randomly growl and smack his fist on the table. People think he's mad at them and straighten up, stop sipping so loud, on their best behaviour. He actually just got mad at himself, remembered something embarrassing from his past.

He almost acts like a narcissist. Passes by a mirror, winks at his reflection: "How's it going, good looking?"

Makes jokes about being the pretty one. People think he's full of himself.

He actually hates himself but has replaced negative self talk with show boating. He doesn't hate himself any less, but he tells himself to kill himself way less often!

Always has some sort of plan. An escape route, a plan of attack. Watching the people around him nervously.

Sits in the back of the room so he can watch everybody. Sits with his chair pushed far back so he can stand quicker.

Glares at people who walk by. Gives their dogs heart eyes. Prays that the owners realize and ask him if he wants to say hello. He's too awkward to ask permission. And he's too angry looking for people to offer.

Represses lots of anger from incidents he feels he can't lash out in, goes batshit in training or on missions. (I used to do kick boxing, the gym people had to keep coming up to me and moving my punching bag back because I was hitting it too hard).

The kind of person to, when going to someone's house, immediately look for signs of a pet. If he finds it. The animal is now his best friend. Goes to a party hangs with the dog type of beat.

Thinks smoking pot would help him. But the idea makes him nervous. Which he thinks, smoking pot would help... But the idea of smoking pot makes him nervous. But he–

Will just lie to get out of shit.

"Hey, we're going to get drinks tonight, do you want to come?"

"ah, I can't... I promised to get dinner with a friend."

Goes home and enjoys a night alone.

Avoidant. Will just not do things that cause him stress. Hasn't been to the dentist in years because talking to the lady at reception makes him nervous. What if the phone signal is bad? What if it just keeps breaking up? What if she can't understand his accent? What if when he gets to the dentist they hate him for the state of his teeth? What if he goes to the dentist and they steal his teeth?! It's happened before! He's seen articles!

Gets adopted by extroverts by being unhinged.

"Hey, what are you thinking about?" Horangi asks.

"I heard that human meat tastes like pork... The best pork, actually." König says absently.

"Huh... And you know this why?"

"I was curious."

"okay... Let's go to dinner."

"Ja, let's."

A sort of dry air about him that comes off as a lack of empathy. But he's just got so much going on in his brain that he can't focus on emoting anything but augghskft.

Will stare off into space with a blend of the hundred yard stare and the most murderous expression known to man. He's not mad. He's just thinking.

Undiagnosed autism

Forgets people's names, gets to nervous to ask again. So he just calls everyone "you".

Acts cold and indifferent. He just really hates small talk, doesn't understand it. Why say something if it's not important? He doesn't care about your grandchildren. Or your wife. Or your morning.

Is the world's best host mainly out of fear. Asking if you need food or a drink or a blanket or if–

König who after confrontations, has to take a step back, hands shaking slightly. But who's also still super pissed and ready to throw punches at the drop of a hat

König who worries so much about physical affection that it just becomes too much. Hugs are suffocating, hands are held too tight, cuddling is like being smothers. But it takes him a long time to initiate anything. God forbid you initiate anything. Hug the man and he bluescreens

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#shout out to the time i was seeing a therapist #she asked me why i was always wearing a mask #i work around sick people and go to university #lots of diseases #she complained that she couldn't tell what i was thinking #forgot my mask one day and she was like #“Still can't tell what you're thinking” #she also kept stopping and getting really nervous #shifting in her seat #asking me if everything is okay #tells me I'm looking “very intense and angry” #meanwhile i was just looking at her #or that time i was told I'm intimidating because i “walk fast and don't smile” #like #ive got places to be #and i dont want to be here #or there #the quicker i get there the quicker I'm over with it #konig #call of duty #cod #cod modern warfare #konig call of duty #konig headcanons #cod headcanons #cod mwii #cod x reader #call of duty x reader #konig x reader

[foolishly-foolish-foolishness]

fellas is it gay to give this boy you basically rescued your own birthname, that you had to abandon when you became a spy?

fellas is it gay to then take his original name as your new name in exchange?

fellas is it gay to wish him a happy birthday omfg just had a realization and give him a hat (with fucking rainbow metal lining i might add) just so he is one step closer to becoming a human with free will?

fellas is it gay to wait a whole year, not even sure he would actually show up, just to use your ability (that can only be used once in a lifetime) to save his life even after he literally shot you in the back and did monstrous things?

fellas is it gay to hate all humans except for that one person that changed your mind? and stop the destruction of at least yokohama for him? even tho he's been dead for a year?

fellas is it gay to, when he didn't really like the hat you give him as a birthday present, instead give him his life back?

fellas is it gay to spend the rest of your life underground, because the outside world doesn't interest you anymore because your one friend is dead so now you just train others like he used to do?

#i just read stormbringer can you tell? #my god i was Not prepared for the emotional truck that would hit me with verlaine and rimbaud #why did you smile huh rimbaud? #about the realization: right before rimbaud faded away (don't rlly know how to say it) he wished verlaine a happy birthday. the first time #he did that was exactly four years after verlaine gained his freedom. and now verlaine is free from guivre and and rimbaud wishes him a hap #happy birthday again aahahfkdfsajflksjaf #bsd stormbringer #bsd verlaine #bsd rimbaud #is there a ship name? verbaud ? rimlaine? idfk #my post #this got a lot longer that i expected oops #bungou stray dogs #bsd