#dont use That two second eg clip to taint steves entire character or relationships

[lesbiradshaw]

the whole take about “steve being too stuck in the past to allow bucky to properly heal” is so fucking stupid because when you think about it, it makes no sense ? i’m not gonna go on a rant about the last few minutes of endgame or steve’s #character assassination but ASSUMING i’m accepting the face value claim of steve being stuck in the past because he wears ugly shirts, suggesting that that’s somehow enough of sway bucky’s decisions about himself is borderline insulting not to mention just … wrong 😭 like. bucky is on his own for two years after the winter soldier movie ends, a time during which steve does search for him, but only between his other missions with the avengers (see: age of ultron) and the upkeep of his other relationships. he goes to parties! he sees sam! he takes on new work responsibilities with natasha at the avengers’ compound!

anyways. i think i sidetracked myself, but to make it short: steve has his own life and so does bucky.

the civil war mess involving bringing bucky in by force was not in any way steve’s fault! but we see in the apartment scene (and the post credit scene in the winter soldier for that matter) that bucky is very invested in actively trying to figure out his own head. he is trying to heal. steve did not go to bucharest to interrupt that, he went there to save him from outside forces. during civil war, bucky is the one who brings up their shared past first in order to show steve he’s safe and can be trusted, which is the same reason steve brings one of his own memories up later in siberia. he wants to make sure bucky knows they still have each other’s backs before they go into battle, and they do. they’re still incredibly loyal to each other, even when they get to wakanda and bucky tells steve he wants to go back under. i have my own mixed feelings about why writing wise that was a cop out on what to do with bucky’s character between movies and makes no sense, but the important about it is that steve respects that choice. he respects bucky’s choices always, and yes he asked him if he was sure he wanted to do this, but wouldn’t you do the same if your best friend was about to freeze himself in a tube? steve doesn’t argue against bucky’s decision to go back under despite the fact that it leaves him alone. at that point, sam is in prison, nat is god knows where, and steve is a fugitive from almost everyone. he lets bucky go because he understands that this is what bucky feels he has to do in order to keep people safe while he heals.

after that, steve leaves bucky to it. he busts his friends out of prison, he keeps himself busy and on the run taking care of other missions with nat and sam, and yet he still comes to the phone when someone calls him for help. all of this while bucky is in wakanda, at first still frozen, but then eventually awake and back about himself enough to run a damn farm. steve is not in wakanda when bucky is doing this. he is not the one who asks bucky to come back into the fold for the battle against thanos. steve leaves bucky in cryo and as far as we know doesn’t ever try and get him to leave wakanda. so how the hell is steve supposedly disrupting a journey of healing that a majority of the time he isn’t around for ? it’s not like he abandoned bucky completely after civil war, but again: he and bucky have their own lives, and they very often take care of business separately. bucky was in wakanda running old trigger words with ayo while steve was off with sam and nat saving the world. it wasn’t like steve was pressuring bucky to keep his head in the past or convincing him not to heal— how could he when he wasn’t even there to do it ? also, the whole point of bucky’s healing process is for him to make his own choices and decisions again. if steve respects that, why do people still blame him for shit that EVEN IF IT WERE HAPPENING, wouldn’t be his fault?

bucky is responsible for his own actions and emotions. it is not steve holding him back if bucky is the one that comes up with his own thoughts about shit no one even suggested to him. of course bucky feels lost in the new world and has trouble reconciling who he is now to who he was before the war as well as before the fall. of course he carries guilt with him. of course his relationship with steve is still important, past and present. but all of those things are normal (as they can be for someone in his situation) and they are things that steve to some degree felt himself, even without the additional burden of being under hydra’s control. i just don’t understand how a character spends half of his screen time fighting for his sense of self back only for people to act like he isn’t capable of making his own decisions or feeling his own emotions without becoming a victim to everyone he’s surrounded by all over again.

#dont even get me started on people blaming SAM for shit bucky allegedly feels #according to them bc half the shit people say bucky thinks of himself is completely projected #as most things in fanon are #like eg’s ending was ass but other than that i don’t understand how steve would have held bucky back at all #and every time i see this take people arent referring to eg theyre referring to steve in GENERAL #WHICH MAKES NO SENSE #BC EVEN IF STEVE WERE STUCK IN THE PAST HE NEVER TELLS BUCKY THAT #AND EVEN IF HE DID BUCKY IS STILL CAPABLE OF FORMING HIS OWN THOUGHTS #wheres that aou scene where steve says hes Home and doesnt care ab the past anymore #yk the one #gawd #dont use That two second eg clip to taint steves entire character or relationships #i’ll bite you #not MY son! get away from him #when we discuss bucky’s stans and their mission of continuing his victimization to every person he interacts with #and how thats actually way more insulting to his character than anything steve or sam does #anyways #steve im sorry