#eldest daughter problems

[ravingxfxbrickxwall]

“What is your greatest selfish wish?”

I wish to breathe. Breathe air freely without having my ears and senses out to detect any distress. Not needs to heal people and shoulder their traumas. Not worry about banging rage or the silent fury because sometimes the angry clang of dishes is worse than the screams.

I want to listen to the quiet and feel the anxiety build up

I wanna laugh and cry when I realise it’s finally over and I’m out

I want to breathe

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[krystalkoldstone]

For all the imperfect elder daughters

As a human, I have so much empathy for my father but as a daughter, I have so much anger. The anger I bottle up as to not betray my dearest, world-deserving mother is concerning. I think it has the capacity to burn me inside, just that I don’t let it. Because that’s who I always was. The eldest daughter. My role is to suppress my feelings to make everyone’s lives easier.

There is also a stereotype that all older daughters are perfectionists. They are good at everything. Academics, sports, and life in general. And, hey, that stereotype doesn’t come from nowhere. I personally have seen older sisters being the perfectionists, whether in my family or in my friends’ family.

But it’s okay if you’re an elder daughter and not all that. It is okay. Let that sink in. You will have some responsibilities and pressure on you, but it’s normal to be confused sometimes, to get only decent grades or to suck at sports. Nobody is 100%.

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[youknowitslove]

me when i’m staring to sound like my mum while talking to my brother

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[cursedcursives]

At times I feel like desi parents either love their eldest child too much to the point where they start micromanaging their child's life causing them to lack decision making abilities when they grow up or they hate sooooo much that the way their child breathe triggers them so much. There's no in between.

#desiblr #desi tag #desi trauma dump #eldest daughter problems

[luvliem00ns]

When you're in a situation where you're alone with your mom, no siblings or dad walking and blabbering around and then suddenly you just wanted to tell her some of the most unhinged confessions and secrets you have atm

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[let-me-cry-in-peace-guys]

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[thesacredreznor]

having watched two sense and sensibility adaptations in three days, I cannot emphasize enough the appeal, as an older sister, of being told “you were Right About Everything, Actually” and “your suffering was so Brave and so Noble and you bore it so Stoically and really I, the younger sibling, could have saved everyone a lot of trouble if I’d behaved as well as you have.” Just sayin.

#eldest daughter problems

[neon-pink-witch]

Did me, my Mum and Dad raise good kids? Yes we did.

Did we raise two little fucking weirdos? Also yes

#eldest daughter problems

[peaceandl0ve]

the eldest daughter urge to become your father

#i used to make fun of my dad for the fact that his well-being literally depended on the success of the new york mets #and now here i am losing my mind because of that ATROCIOUS series against the braves this weekend #can't believe my mood is now subject to the success of an objectively not good baseball team #eldest daughter problems #i hate it here #eldest daughter

[legallyblondie]

my sister vented to me about a fight she had with our 17yr old brother and....fuck it really triggered me into a spiral of self hate and guilt...

#ptsd #eldest daughter problems #just reminded me about this past yr with our 23 yr old brother #and i feel bad leaving my siblings alone in a toxic home

[ravingxfxbrickxwall]

Me: I don’t have daddy issues!

Me:

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[krystalkoldstone]

I wish the world was kinder to my father so he could’ve been kinder to my mother.

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[rubadubdub3nunsinatub]

Damn mum gonna have the least amount of present under the tree because i mistakenly thought dad was gonna pull his weight in the present buying department 🙃🙃

#eldest daughter problems #christmas

[moon7jay]

Saw this on Twitter yesterday and the way his veins turn me on, call me a cardiovascular whore. I just know that he can choke tf out of me like can you imagine those hands groping tf out of your skin, he looks so rugged and rough and manly. I know a provider when I see one.

#physically going through it #eldest daughter problems 😞 #jay needs to breed me till my hips break #thank you for coming to my ted talk

[thoughts-of-a-caterpillar]

Like my mother

Like my mother

Like my mother

I need to be beautiful like my mother.

She's the most beautiful woman to have ever lived. But no one knows that except me because no one else has the same wounds as her like I do which can carry the entire truth of her existence. No one else has cried when she cried, bled when she bled, died when she died.

No one else has inherited her rage.

No one else has inherited her grief.

No one else has inherited her bloodlust.

Except me

So I need to be beautiful like her too.

I'll paint my lips to hide the crimson stains of spitting my own blood.

I'll darken my eyes to hide the bruises from nights spent with mania instead of rest.

I'll pluck out every imperfection in my brow until it no longer furrows for men who do not deserve it.

I'll put kajal on my waterline so whoever makes me cry has to see me in all my horrifying anger.

I'll powder up my cheeks to hide the tears my father never dried and put lotion on the skin that holds the scars from wounds I was too young to heal.

Like my mother did.

Because I need to be beautiful like my mother.

Even if it leaves me lifeless.

She has been lifeless for most of her life too.

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[utilitycaster]

will say whenever people are openly resentful of the time one cast member takes or the cool things their character gets, which, with the current cast, has in my opinion never been a problem when averaged out over the course of a campaign and taking into consideration the nature of the character, I just think of the scene in Tiny Heist where Justin McElroy in a dubious French accent is saying "I listen to them fight about he's got a bigger chicken nugget, no, I've got a bigger chicken nugget, no, it is my turn to play with the Ashinbot...I hate the children."

#critical role spoilers #in that this is happening again #truly whenever people are whining about this i'm like oh yes you are crying in a carseat mad your sibling got 0.1% more french fries #and brother. i'm an eldest daughter. #cr tag #it is especially funny to complain about this in d&d where you control your character. #if your fave character isn't doing enough cool things maybe you should pick someone who does! stan ashton for cool things! #or find a show with a dm who provides those opportunities if you think that's the problem instead of ordering the milkshake at home depot